Our 2 Cents Vol. 37: When Chores Become Resentment

Sometimes the smallest things reveal the biggest relationship issues. A trash bag left by the door, a credit card balance that keeps growing, a family dinner seating arrangement, or a visit that goes two hours too long can expose resentment, embarrassment, entitlement, and communication problems that have been building for years.

In this episode, we discuss a Booski who needs a clean exit strategy from long visits, a family member humiliated by assigned seats based on weight, and a woman concerned about her fiancé refusing to pay off a manageable credit card balance while they are saving for a home. Nesha G and Moelethal also respond to a young man worried about sexual disconnect three months into his relationship and a wife who finally refuses to take out the trash her husband keeps letting pile up.

Through every story, one theme keeps showing up: people cannot expect grace, help, patience, and understanding while refusing accountability. This Our 2 Cents episode is funny, direct, and full of real-life marriage perspective.

Transcript

Cold Open: Mothers and Clean Houses

SPEAKER_03 0:00

True. It's like no matter what and it it don't matter if you feel like you overwhelmed. It don't matter if you feel like like damn mom, you don't even know that I've been in here struggling mentally. But all they see is It ain't clean. It ain't clean. Today standards. Yeah, like and the way they do it. Yeah. It's the way they do it. Like mother-in-laws and mothers, they'd be like, or

Welcome Back to Life After I Do

SPEAKER_03 0:22

they'd be like, you need me to you need me to help you. You don't, you don't see this. You need you need me to help you. And I was like, I know it's coming from a good place, but I know you low-key trying to say that I didn't clean my house good. Hey everyone, and welcome back to your weekly dose of the life after I do podcast.

SPEAKER_05 0:57

Y'all gotta forgive my baby. She she she she acting tired, even though she took a long ass nap.

SPEAKER_03 1:02

I didn't take a long nap. Hey Boo. Hi.

SPEAKER_05 1:05

How you doing?

SPEAKER_03 1:06

Um, okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:07

Why do you sound like that?

SPEAKER_03 1:08

Sound like what?

SPEAKER_05 1:10

Like you're tired.

SPEAKER_03 1:11

I am kind of tired. I'm not even gonna hold you. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 1:14

I understand. You're tearing all that ass, is it's it's it's a choice. Okay, bye.

SPEAKER_03 1:18

No, I actually I'm just like, I'm thinking about um food after here.

SPEAKER_05 1:23

No, no, that taco from last week.

SPEAKER_03 1:27

What taco?

SPEAKER_05 1:28

Like, now I want a taco.

SPEAKER_03 1:29

Oh no. Uh-uh. I'm gonna go get my coffee after we finish this, and then I'm gonna. Oh no, I made we do have creamer. Oh, we gotta make it. I make I made hot coffee this morning. We do have bye. Shut up. We do have coffee. Um today's my today was my day off, my recovery day. So I made hot a hot cup. You know how I like to drink hot coffee. Hot coffee. Hot coffee. But after we finish, if we finish when we finish here, I'm gonna go get my protein coffee. And then I'm gonna dish it.

SPEAKER_05 1:59

What if we don't finish here?

SPEAKER_03 2:01

We are gonna finish here. I because I'm supposed to be gearing up for a buddy read next Saturday.

SPEAKER_02 2:07

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 2:07

Um, the next Saturday's the first, yes. Or Saturday. Saturday's the first. So I'm supposed to be gearing up for a buddy read, and I still have a book that I haven't finished. And I was like, I don't want to start a buddy read. Really? You're gonna fall asleep? Okay, I'm not talking anymore. Ah go ahead. That's fine. Yeah, because you were sleepy in your buddy read. Right. I was just playing. Come on, girl, I'm just playing. So, anyway, I'm gearing up for a buddy read.

SPEAKER_05 2:36

I'm giving you good energy. Now you're speaking mean to me. I can see your shelf from here. I'm about to put a cup right here so they can see it.

SPEAKER_03 2:43

Are you done? Yeah, go ahead. My bad. Like I said, I'm gearing up for a buddy read with my friend uh Jennifer. Jennifer, shout out to Jennifer.

SPEAKER_05 2:51

Oh, y'all don't want to put me in the group, huh?

SPEAKER_03 2:52

We're gonna be, you're not gonna want to read what we're reading. Y'all read some weird shit.

Nesha’s Buddy Read and Protein Coffee

SPEAKER_03 2:56

It's not, well, I don't know what it is. Um, but yeah, so I'm gearing up for my buddy read, but I need to finish the other book that I'm reading. I'm currently reading, okay, so it's it's two, because you know I'm a mood reader. But I am 89% done with one book, which is The Caretaker. And then I just hit 65% on um The First Family by Granger. So I was like, I'm just gonna wrap up.

SPEAKER_05 3:22

Right to the supply company by Burke. Maurice sells tape and star foam and shit like that?

SPEAKER_03 3:27

No, Maurice. Oh. The author.

SPEAKER_05 3:29

Oh, my bad.

SPEAKER_03 3:30

The black author.

SPEAKER_05 3:31

Does she sell tape?

SPEAKER_03 3:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 3:33

And boxes.

SPEAKER_03 3:34

No what? No, she doesn't sell tape in boxes, she sells books.

SPEAKER_05 3:39

And work gloves. No.

SPEAKER_03 3:41

Cloth stands and so I'm gonna go and get my protein coffee, my iced protein coffee. And I'm either going to come home and read.

SPEAKER_05 3:52

You're not coming home. Or stop lying. Stop lying. You finna be gone. I'm either gonna come back home and read. I'm back at work, so anytime I'm home, now you gotta be in the streets. That's what you do. Don't don't think I don't know what you mean.

SPEAKER_03 4:07

My sister was like, who stays at the gym for five hours? I was like, my daughter was with her father.

SPEAKER_05 4:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 4:13

And I was with my friends. I woke up, I said, I was looking, I said six o'clock.

SPEAKER_05 4:18

I said, what the fuck? I said, she really didn't tell. I said, when I leave, I'll be gone at work for a long period of time. I'm working. I'm getting paid.

SPEAKER_03 4:27

Working too, working out.

SPEAKER_05 4:29

Okay. Tell us about your week.

SPEAKER_03 4:32

I was working out.

SPEAKER_05 4:33

I'll uh we don't want to hear about your five-hour workout. Just tell us about your week.

SPEAKER_03 4:36

Okay, well, my week includes my five-hour workout.

SPEAKER_05 4:39

Skip that part. Redact it.

Nesha’s Week and Five-Hour Gym Day

SPEAKER_03 4:43

Whatever. I mean, in including in the workout, that also included my trip to get my coffee, talking to friends, you know. So it included a lot. But anyway, um, yeah, it was a lot of because I have to catch up. Um, but no, my week was, I mean, uneventful. Okay. Not a lot happening this week. Just, you know, trying to stay focused as much as possible. That's good.

SPEAKER_05 5:05

I'm happy with it.

SPEAKER_03 5:06

Trying to manage my stress as best as I can.

SPEAKER_05 5:09

How did that work out for you?

SPEAKER_03 5:10

Um, it it doesn't really. Okay. Um, but you know, what I'm talking to it. Okay. Well, I'm doing my job. I'm doing my part. Everyone's so creative. Um, but yeah, I mean, an uneventful week. Oh, okay. But how was your week? My week was cool. Was it? Yeah. How's it feel getting back to the swing of things?

SPEAKER_05 5:34

It is what it is. A job is

Moe’s Week, Groceries, and Gas Fairies

SPEAKER_05 5:36

a job.

SPEAKER_03 5:36

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 5:37

You want to know the highlight of my week is?

SPEAKER_03 5:39

Sure. Coming home.

SPEAKER_05 5:40

When I came home, my wife said, it was so ghetto. I had to do all this shopping without you. I had to put it in the cart. Then I had to load it in the car. Then bring the grocery in there. I said, Yeah, you you spoiled. You were spoiled.

SPEAKER_03 5:54

Okay, well, first of all, I've I I've been doing it on my like by myself, but when you're home, obviously, you do those things for me. So then I get used to you doing those things.

SPEAKER_05 6:05

You didn't really do it. And so you didn't really do a good job with the grocery shopping either.

SPEAKER_03 6:08

Okay, first of all, I didn't grocery shop. Because I did, I just refilled things that we were out of. I didn't grocery shop.

SPEAKER_05 6:14

You did a bad job because you didn't refill the car. I didn't refill what car? You get car. The car?

SPEAKER_03 6:19

You get gas when you go get oh, I don't get gas when I go get groceries. I don't.

SPEAKER_05 6:26

Well, this pass, however long, when we go resop together, don't I always get gas first? Then we go together. When we what? Together. Say it again. So you gotta keep the same, you gotta keep the same mentality.

SPEAKER_03 6:36

When do we want when we go together? The only time I usually put gas in the car is if it's like a necessity. Like if I'm out and it might be questionable if I can get back home, I'm gonna have to put gas in my car. I'm gonna put gas in my car. Other than that, I drive it home.

SPEAKER_04 6:55

Wait for me.

SPEAKER_03 6:57

And then the gas fairies.

SPEAKER_04 7:00

The gas fairies crazy.

SPEAKER_03 7:02

The gas fairies come together while I'm asleep. That's crazy. And they say, Oh my gosh, she needs gas. And then I wake up in the morning, there's gas. That's crazy. So yeah. So what else?

SPEAKER_05 7:15

What we got today?

SPEAKER_03 7:16

Well, tell me about your reading. That's it. How was the gym? How's the gym been this week?

SPEAKER_05 7:21

Hot. It's been hot. Going in the afternoon is it's been hot.

SPEAKER_03 7:26

It's been hot every afternoon.

SPEAKER_05 7:29

Yeah. You know it's bad when I thought about going to EOS. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 7:35

No, it was hot as heck there yesterday because they had one fan down. So just one area, and it was at the squat rack area. There was no fan. So I had to keep walking over to the towel station because that's where the fans were working.

SPEAKER_01 7:48

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_03 7:49

And I think because it's been so hot, the air conditioners inside, it's I don't know if because they're working overtime because the outside temperature is so hot, but it's like air conditioners inside of like places is not, it ain't hitting.

SPEAKER_05 8:01

I can tell you what the low light of my week was. What? When I woke up yesterday and the air got in our AC wasn't working.

SPEAKER_03 8:06

Oh yeah. And you called me at the gym. I said, It was like, I woke up and I was fucking sweating.

SPEAKER_05 8:12

Dripping in the sweat. I said, What is going on?

SPEAKER_03 8:14

I said, Oh.

SPEAKER_05 8:15

Went downstairs and the look of the thermostat, a big ass uh red triangle. Had three error codes. I said, the devil is a lie. I called them right away, and then I realized it was Saturday. And no one's there. I said, you know what? I'm gonna go hit it with the old-fashioned tech routine. Power everything off, let it sit, and cut it back on.

SPEAKER_03 8:34

When you call the service helpline, did you turn it off?

SPEAKER_05 8:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 8:38

Okay, wait 10 seconds and then turn it back on.

SPEAKER_05 8:40

So I I contacted my assistant. Who's your assistant? Miss uh Miss uh GPT.

SPEAKER_03 8:46

Chat GPT. Okay. Oh, okay. Before you even finish, before you even finish, I feel like I am hearing about chat way too much in my daily conversations with multiple people. Because the the rate in which people use in chat GPT is cheaper than a therapist. I have friends who use it as a therapist.

SPEAKER_05 9:09

It's cheaper than a therapist. Sometimes, you know, you and it understands you. John Connor warned us. John Connor warned us, but you know.

SPEAKER_03 9:18

John Connor warned us.

SPEAKER_05 9:20

But sometimes my therapy we're saying shit. I gotta and I go ask chat.

SPEAKER_03 9:23

And sometimes chat to verify what a human told you.

SPEAKER_05 9:26

Yeah, yeah. Maybe right though. Oh okay.

SPEAKER_03 9:30

You know, I mean, listen, I use chat too. I mean, I'm not using it for advice. Well, I'm taking a therapy.

SPEAKER_05 9:36

I'm trying to write chat gave me step by step. I gave it the model number and what the error code was, and it gave me step by step. Troubleshooting solutions. And by the time you got home, what was working?

SPEAKER_03 9:49

The error.

SPEAKER_05 9:49

So Miss Chat.

SPEAKER_03 9:51

Oh, yours is yours is the lady.

SPEAKER_05 9:53

Everything I have is a lady. You know how that? I have all female doctors. I don't deal with these. I don't deal with these niggas. Okay, really?

SPEAKER_03 10:03

Wow. I don't deal with these niggas. Wow. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 10:10

Anywho, um because I feel like, you know, if I get female, if I if a female doctor, you know, just you know, uh oh, don't pay attention to what I say, it's it's normal. It don't hurt. So I'm used to shit like that, you know.

SPEAKER_03 10:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 10:24

So when I wanna say when I get dismissed, you know, it's normal.

SPEAKER_03 10:28

It's like, oh, like she's she's a woman. So

Sam’s Club Struggles and Grocery Shopping

SPEAKER_03 10:37

that's not funny. That's not funny.

SPEAKER_05 10:41

I said I should have came here with some chocolate before I talked to her.

SPEAKER_03 10:45

That's not funny. You look you look stupid. Get out of my face. What do we got today? Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_05 10:55

Before you tell me what we got today, uh what was your highlight look like in the week? Well, we know your low light was going, but packing that girl up, getting them gross.

SPEAKER_03 11:03

My low light was struggling to get the damn packages at the freezer at Sam's Club because I was like, It was like it's so cold in here. My God. I could reach, but they were stuck in the box. It's like the T-Rex off the movie. Bye. They were stuck in the box. Um like that. And then we know the no, it was the low light because when I got to the car, Phoenix was like, uh, Phoenix pulled to me. She was like, Can you unlock the car so I can get in?

SPEAKER_05 11:28

Right, and cut it on. And cut it on.

SPEAKER_03 11:31

I said, Oh no. I said, I'm oh, I gotta put the groceries. She was like, Can you unlock the door, please? And she only volunteered to help because she asked if she could open uh the snack, a snack on the ride home. So she was like, Mom, uh, can I open this? And then she was like, Um, do you need like, do you need help?

SPEAKER_05 11:50

And I was like, But y'all learned this from a little young age.

SPEAKER_03 11:53

I was like, You good. I said, I'm gonna go ahead and put these groceries in here, I guess.

SPEAKER_05 11:57

Ghetto.

SPEAKER_03 11:57

So ghetto.

SPEAKER_05 11:58

I mean, I walked in the house, you were struggling.

SPEAKER_03 12:00

But you know what I thought about? I was like, wait a minute, I don't have to do this. Why you don't? Because the times that you get home from work are perfect times for us to do the shopping together. So that's because you still have like four hours before you have to be at sleep. Listen, I didn't say meet me at Sam's Club, you come home and I'll drive us to Sam's Club.

SPEAKER_00 12:25

I get off work and go to the gym.

SPEAKER_03 12:26

And that's fine. And when you come home, you still have about three or four hours before you have to go to sleep. So when you come home, we're gonna, that's our time together. I would tell you. We're gonna go shopping.

SPEAKER_05 12:36

I would tell you, before you go get your um coffee after this, make sure you start my laundry. Because I need my laundry for.

SPEAKER_03 12:43

Yeah, it's too late.

SPEAKER_05 12:44

You should have said that earlier this morning.

SPEAKER_03 12:46

I told you yes. No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_05 12:48

The same thing, how I told you to leave that post note with that. I asked you for that post note three days ago. So you've been fucked out for three days?

SPEAKER_03 12:55

No, I've been going through a lot.

SPEAKER_05 12:57

Okay. You're always going through the lot when you don't deliver. Let me not deliver some shit. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 13:03

I give you too much grace. And I just expect the same. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 13:08

I get zero grace.

SPEAKER_03 13:09

You you get zero grace? If you get zero grace, I wouldn't be sitting here next to you. So I would I would really reconsider what you just said.

SPEAKER_05 13:17

There's a door.

SPEAKER_03 13:18

Oh, really?

SPEAKER_05 13:19

Really?

SPEAKER_03 13:20

You want to you want to try to be uh big cheese in in front of your internet friends? First of all, well, you want to try to be big cheese in front of your internet friends?

SPEAKER_05 13:29

You initiated the separation this uh before we started recording.

SPEAKER_03 13:32

I did not initiate because I why? Because I I took my shirt off in the closet. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 13:37

Why are you in there?

SPEAKER_03 13:38

Why are you in there putting the bra on where I can't see? What's going on? I put my bra on in front of you. I just took my shirt off in the closet.

SPEAKER_05 13:43

I need the whole scene. Oh my gosh. So if you want to act like a single woman.

SPEAKER_03 13:48

Okay, Damelle. Don't try to don't try to change the subject. Don't try to flip it around. You can walk out the door, I'm gonna follow you. Exactly. To the door to close it. Okay, okay. Well we got today. Yeah. You go go ahead and try to be big cheese in front of your internet friends. I'm gonna tell you, like my mom used to tell me, don't let your little friends get you in trouble.

SPEAKER_05 14:07

Ain't nobody scared of Letitia.

SPEAKER_03 14:08

Don't let your don't you let don't let you ain't gotta be afraid of her.

SPEAKER_05 14:11

I ain't scared of you either. You should be you can only hurt me emotionally and financially. Only only, but God has my heart.

SPEAKER_03 14:21

He has mine too. And lucky for you, karma's a good thing. Lucky for you, he doesn't put like things like that on my heart. I would never do you dirty. I would never do you dirty. You have intentionally, you have with malice in my heart.

SPEAKER_05 14:36

It wasn't malice, but you didn't care. You would just say it's for me. You gotta understand. You know, hold on. Let me tell y'all something. This is what my wife did.

SPEAKER_03 14:44

I thought we were supposed to be starting.

SPEAKER_05 14:46

We are whenever whenever she won't, uh she uh, whenever it's something that she like, she's like, man, if I do this, I'm gonna really mess them over. She justifies it by saying, but he will want me to have it anyway, so I'm gonna just go. What are you talking about? So anytime she eats my leftovers, or my gosh. Or she if she knew I was gonna do something, but she wanted like he would want me to do this anyway, so he'll be he'll get over it.

SPEAKER_03 15:10

You have to stop fibbing about about what uh life, okay. You gotta stop fibbing, it's not becoming of you. Okay, go ahead. I'm not gonna be able to do it. It's not becoming of you. Anywho, anywho, they don't know. They do. Okay, I guess they know what you tell them. R2 cents.

SPEAKER_05 15:27

R2 cents.

SPEAKER_03 15:30

You got four cents?

SPEAKER_05 15:31

Yeah, okay. Because I had I took my money on my Trump account. Okay, bye Maurice.

SPEAKER_03 15:39

Bye Maurice. Okay, anywho, we got R2 cents

Our 2 Cents Begins

SPEAKER_03 15:46

this week on this Wednesday. Your boy is he's sleepy, that's what it is. I'm not sleepy, he is sleepy. I am he is sleepy because I've been up since five, he's been up since six, and yeah, he's tired.

SPEAKER_05 16:04

And I went to the gym.

SPEAKER_03 16:04

And he went and so I know you're tired because you haven't napped.

SPEAKER_05 16:08

Because it was leg day.

SPEAKER_03 16:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 16:09

Well, I mean, that's sorry. Here we go. We said it was gonna be nice to each other. Here we go.

SPEAKER_03 16:19

You've been mean to me.

SPEAKER_05 16:20

I've been nothing but nice.

SPEAKER_03 16:21

You've been mean to me.

SPEAKER_05 16:22

I offered to rub your your back.

SPEAKER_03 16:24

Okay, you did not offer to rub my back. I asked you to rub my back, and you touched my back for all the five seconds and then walked away.

SPEAKER_05 16:31

Because you said that's a spot, so it was over.

SPEAKER_02 16:35

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 16:39

I love you. Yeah. Um okay,

How to Leave a Visit Early

SPEAKER_03 16:45

here we go. Let's go. Um, she says, uh, this is from Abuski. Okay. She said, I would love uh advice on how to leave a visit early.

SPEAKER_04 16:55

Oh, this is easy. I got it.

SPEAKER_03 16:56

Okay, let's see. I just don't have the mental capacity to hear everyone's stories for hours on end. I'm never comfortable with the temperature in anyone else's house. I like my house cold. It has to be between 68 and 72 for me. Okay, I'm coming over. I can sit anywhere comfortably. I'm short, so I've always got my feet up in the chair or on the couch. I'm diabetic, so I get tired of being talked into just a bite or someone's special dessert. I'm not a coffee drinker, so I'm not hanging out in the kitchen when everyone else is having their post-dinner cup of Java. I have other medical conditions and medicines that cause internal distress or the need for an emergency nap. I'm in remission from stage, uh, is that stage three? Yeah, stage three A-N-S-C-L-C and also have orthopedic um oh ortho orthostatic hypertension?

unknown 17:56

Hmm.

SPEAKER_03 17:56

I never heard of that one. Uh goodbyes take too long, and I can't stand up uh for 20 minutes at the doorway for one last story. Please give me some advice on how to have a two-hour visit with a clean getaway. Zoom. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 18:15

FaceTime.

SPEAKER_03 18:17

Really? Zoom FaceTime.

SPEAKER_05 18:20

What's at?

SPEAKER_03 18:21

Just don't meet him in person. You leave them. And in that way you can pretend like you're having a faulty connection.

SPEAKER_05 18:27

What I do is this I just leave.

SPEAKER_03 18:31

But you you you only do that because you have me to pick up the slack. I just leave it. So he'll just disappear and then he's like, okay, she's got it. She got it. She got it. But what if what if she it's just her? Especially when we take two cars.

SPEAKER_05 18:46

Y'all have a good time. I'm out. My phone.

SPEAKER_03 18:48

I'm gonna see y'all later.

SPEAKER_05 18:49

I tell everybody I am a uh uh um introverted extrovert. I'm forced to be extroverted because of my family. Oh my god, and when my battery is low, I'm out.

SPEAKER_03 19:01

No, I think it's I think it could just be something as simple as like, oh my gosh, this evening was great, guys, but I am gonna have to turn in. Yeah. Like just literally cut it short.

SPEAKER_05 19:11

People will get the hint. And if they're your friends, they should have an understanding.

SPEAKER_03 19:14

Yeah, and that's another thing. If they're your friends and they know what you've been through or what you're going through, when you say she might not be telling about her business. It ain't her job that the board business. If they do know, when you if they do know your history and what you've been through or what you're going through, you making a statement of this evening was really great. So happy we got to visit, but I I need to turn in. Gotta go. Everybody would be like, oh, okay. She like she needs, she needs her time, she needs to relax. And even if they don't know, the same rules can still apply. It was a great evening. I loved hanging out with all of you. Like, oh my gosh, you guys, I can't, we gotta do it again. Um, I'm gonna go ahead and turn in though.

SPEAKER_05 19:52

Just tell me you gotta go and take your medication, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 19:54

Or I or I just gotta turn in. Yeah, I gotta turn in. I'm sorry. Like, sorry, not sorry, but use my favorite one.

SPEAKER_05 20:00

I gotta go see a man by the dog and a lady by the horse.

SPEAKER_03 20:05

Maurice, this is not uh 1990. Uh this ain't 1990.

SPEAKER_05 20:09

Yes, that's your problem.

SPEAKER_03 20:11

Okay, it could be anywho. Um, am I the jerk for bringing my own chair to a family dinner after my uncle kept assigning seats by weight?

Uncle Assigns Seats by Weight

SPEAKER_03 20:26

My uncle recently bought a new dining table with these light wooden chairs that he is extremely protective of. The first time we ate there, he quietly moved two of the bigger relatives onto folding chairs because he said the dining chairs had a lower weight limit. It was awkward, but nobody argued. At the next dinner, he had already put name cards on every seat. Everyone he considered smaller was at the table, while three of us were placed on folding chairs along the wall. Mine wasn't even facing the table properly. He said he was only protecting furniture he saved money from a steak for and that people were being too sensitive about a practical issue. So this weekend I brought my own sturdy dining chair from home and placed it at the table before dinner even started. My uncle got annoyed and said that I was making a spectacle in front of everyone. I told him the name cards and separate rows of chairs were already doing that. He asked me to either use the folding chair he provided or leave. So I left and took the food I brought with me.

SPEAKER_05 21:35

Love it.

SPEAKER_03 21:35

Now some relatives think I embarrassed him in his own home, while others say his seating system was humiliating to begin with. Am I the jerk? No. No.

SPEAKER_05 21:45

No, wait a minute. No. First of all, you may have embarrassed him in his own home. But I was raised where you embarrass me, I embarrass you. I'm gonna embarrass you. Yeah. So, like I was told many times, you show out in the store, I'm gonna show out in the store.

unknown 22:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 22:01

I mean, but what's the big deal? You were already you were already um segregating people by weight because you you saved up for this beautiful dining set and you didn't want people breaking your chairs.

SPEAKER_05 22:11

I thought I felt like your uncle just hating because he said the problem was you was too heavy for his chair. So I bought my own chair. But you bought a chair that you could that that wasn't here.

SPEAKER_03 22:22

But the problem is now I have a question. Is it because I'm sitting at the table and the chairs that go to the table don't match? My chair don't match the table.

SPEAKER_04 22:29

I don't give a fuck about that.

SPEAKER_03 22:30

I'm gonna but remember the uncle, he just spent all this money on this table. So he wants to look at the beautiful table with the food and the beautiful chairs. I have more. And you sitting up there with a chair that don't match the table, you need to go. Sit your fat ass on the folding chair. That's what he's saying.

SPEAKER_05 22:44

I have more questions. Okay, because what quality table did you Okay, what quality table did you buy that can't hold their size? And then the second- I mean chairs.

SPEAKER_03 22:53

Chairs. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_05 22:54

They can't hold their size, they wait. And then then my next question is how much they weigh.

SPEAKER_03 22:57

Okay, I was gonna say, but you don't you don't know how much they weigh, Maurice. I mean, because then you got it, it's a nice table. Okay, so let me ask you this. We invite people over, uh-huh, and you have you have a family member who's like my 600-pound life. Okay, and you spent five, hold on, you spent about five G's on this dining room table with these beautiful chairs. And the first time one of our family members goes to sit down, who could look like they could be on like my 600-pound life, and you hear a creak when they sit down in that $5,000 chair. That's what them and Jackie. What you gonna say? You gonna say something?

SPEAKER_05 23:36

I'm not gonna say nothing.

SPEAKER_03 23:37

You're not gonna say anything.

SPEAKER_05 23:38

But if the chair breaks, I'm sending them the invoice. But I don't think she's that heavy because he was giving them folding chairs. Right.

SPEAKER_03 23:45

I thought about that. So tell me about that. They can't be that heavy. So who was not heavy enough for a sturdy wood chair that they're head, that thing can fit in a folding chair, which is also lower to the ground. He just being petty.

SPEAKER_05 23:59

Fuck him. I'm happy you took the food.

SPEAKER_03 24:03

Oh, yeah, definitely. I'm taking my food back. Yeah. Um, and you know what I'm gonna do? Good. I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna sit down on my sturdy chair, and I'm gonna eat it. Enjoy it. And enjoy it. Yeah, yeah, I agree. No, you're not a jerk, dog. It says, yeah, you're not a jerk. Okay. Is it wrong of me to be upset with my fiancee?

Fiancé Refuses to Pay Credit Card Debt

SPEAKER_03 24:22

My fiance carries $1,000 on credit card debt, which he is more than able to pay off at the moment. He has the extra cash, but refuses to pay it. It's getting higher and higher. He's a 23-year-old male, and we're saving to move into a home because we currently live with my parents. I make good money, but I don't want to be the one to have to pay his debt off when I've already given him money towards it. Like I said prior, he has extra funds to just pay it off, but instead, he keeps letting the interest hit it.

SPEAKER_05 24:56

No, you shouldn't be mad at it. First of all, you have giving him money. So he either wasted that money on somewhere else or he put it on the card and then bought something else. Either way, he wasted the money. I don't think, no. This is a red flag.

SPEAKER_03 25:09

I was just about to say, I was waiting for you to say it. I was gonna say, okay, is he justifying this or like a girl looking like you're living with your parents? I mean, considering how much more debt the average American is in, $1,000 is not that much debt. $1,000 is even less so of much debt if you're telling me that you've given him money towards paying the thousand dollars, and then he also has more than enough money to pay off the thousand dollars, but would rather continuously hold on to his cash and allow the interest to hit the credit card. It's sounding like he's trying to use girl math.

SPEAKER_05 25:51

Oh.

SPEAKER_03 25:53

He's trying, but he's not he's not playing his cards right.

SPEAKER_05 25:55

Oh, it ain't fun when the rabbit got the girl.

SPEAKER_03 25:57

No, he's not playing his cards right. Because if he's letting interest hit on $1,000, he's he's not playing his cards right. He's not playing his cards right. But if your girl done already giving you money and you also have money and you still ain't paid it off, and y'all living with y'all parents, and you said that y'all working toward a goal, y'all not working toward a goal. You are working toward a goal. He ain't working toward a goal. He's he's living good. Him, his credit cards, and his free cash. Because that's that's what that becomes. That's girl bath. That means it's if you're paying in cash, that's free. That's how he's thinking. But he ain't playing his cards right because he's accumulating debt on the side. That's not right.

SPEAKER_05 26:39

I didn't want to be serious today.

SPEAKER_03 26:42

You didn't want to be serious today? No.

SPEAKER_05 26:44

Okay. No, you gotta have a conversation with our boy.

SPEAKER_03 26:46

Yeah. And the conversation needs to be this isn't working out for me.

SPEAKER_05 26:50

It's a it's it's a thousand dollars now.

SPEAKER_03 26:52

Oh, yeah. When it's ten thousand, when it's twenty.

SPEAKER_05 26:55

When it's the house or the car.

SPEAKER_03 26:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 26:59

Or the baby's tuition. Oh. Yeah, you gotta think ahead. That flag is red. The baby's tuition. Yeah, you gotta think ahead. I know, but that's a you would that's how I look at things. I know. I don't look, I look.

SPEAKER_03 27:12

You made it sound like he smoked up the baby's tuition. Like, well, he might.

SPEAKER_05 27:16

We you know, one lady she uh uh uh snorted the house of her nose.

SPEAKER_03 27:24

I guess anything is possible. That's possible. Anything is possible, it is possible. Um let's see, my girlfriend and I are new in our relationship, and there's already sexual disconnect. Oh advice needed. All right. So we both 21 have been dating for three months, and I'm crazy about her. At the start, the sex was great. We kind of just did it whenever. Now it's completely gone downhill. It's been three months. Keep in mind we're medium distance. She lives an hour away this summer, this summer, then two hours away once she goes back for her senior year of college. We see each other once a week, and sometimes we don't even have

New Relationship and Sexual Disconnect

SPEAKER_03 28:06

sex. This weekend has been especially bad because she spent the night Friday and Saturday, and not a lick of sex was had.

SPEAKER_02 28:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 28:14

Not even any making out. She was tired both nights and wanted to go straight to bed, which is fair. We had long days. But then when I go to try this morning, she says that she's not in the mood. This is especially disappointing when you account for the fact that now I know it'll be at least a week before I have another shot at it. I feel gross for it. I can't help that I'm pretty, I'm a pretty healthy young man that craves my woman's body. I'm not upset every time she's not in the mood. I get it. It's just going a whole weekend, spending the night with each other, and not having any sex at all at this age and this early in the relationship just isn't normal to me. I worry about our future because I don't want to live the life where my wife is always quote unquote too tired to have sex. That sounds miserable. Am I wrong for feeling this way? What do I do about it? I don't want her to feel like all I want is sex because that's not the case at all. Like I said, I'm crazy about her. I just want more intimacy with her. No, you don't. You want more ass. Yeah. You just said it, and that's okay. That's not the same thing. That's you just want some more ass.

SPEAKER_05 29:26

Two different things, player. That don't go in there. That's plasma stripes.

SPEAKER_03 29:30

Okay. Bye, Marie. That's plasma stripes.

SPEAKER_05 29:33

You're necessary.

SPEAKER_03 29:37

Okay, so the first part is is you wrong?

SPEAKER_05 29:40

No, you're not, you're not wrong for feeling the way you feel because you're is they're they're your feelings. Right. So that's 21. So you're not, you're not wrong. And now you're you're you got a high sex drive. Okay, now my my non-serious answer is maybe you just you're 21, you ain't good at it yet. This shit just trays.

SPEAKER_03 29:56

So it's not as entertaining for her.

SPEAKER_05 29:58

She may maybe you coming and she not. You coming and she going. That might be the problem.

SPEAKER_03 30:04

Like you ain't doing you ain't doing nothing so spectacular that when you try, in her mind, she's like, oh yes, I want to do this. It's more like let me give you the game.

SPEAKER_05 30:13

Let me give you the game. Let me give you the game. You gotta, you gotta you're gonna hear it. You gotta prepare a days in the vans. See, the thing is, you in there, you just you're trying to go in too strong. You trying to go in too strong. You gotta you gotta you gotta get you gotta warm her up. You know, when you get an older woman, it's like a car break.

SPEAKER_03 30:34

Okay, she's not shut up, stupid. Don't be shut up.

SPEAKER_05 30:38

They're 21. So what I mean is you do a little things that she likes, non-sexual things. Become present and meet her needs, meet her non-sexual needs if she injured this word. And then, you know, have her, you know, you you you meet her non-sexual needs and you kind of plant that seed. So then when you get to that moment, you know, you kind of already did because foreplay starts before the bedroom. That's what I'm trying to tell you. You gotta do the foreplay before the bedroom, then the foreplay in the bedroom, then you gotta finish. So you might not be finishing it. And that's why the other one don't matter, because you're not finishing.

SPEAKER_03 31:15

Well, they're 21 also. So it's, you know, in his mind, like rabbits. Yeah, it's just, you know, you just want to get it in. Like I didn't need to get it. But if she's not getting that out of it, and y'all three months in, either that she tied a land there, either that it's either that, or, or she dealing with something health-wise that she waiting to pass.

SPEAKER_05 31:38

Oh, no. Like what?

SPEAKER_03 31:40

I don't know. Or like affection, or you ain't her only one.

SPEAKER_05 31:45

Oh, that might be it. Come on now, and he do it better.

SPEAKER_03 31:49

And she just don't want to get caught up in between, like, I can't sleep on both of them. Like, I was just with my other dude, and I know I'm gonna see you on a weekend. I mean, listen, I'm just trying to put out all the possibilities there, you know what I'm saying? Um, but I would say for me, it's always a conversation. You can just simply ask her, Y'all only been dating for three months. Oh, it ain't been a long time. It hasn't even been that long. And if you're already feeling like this, like, my word, you know, just but just ask her, like, is there something wrong? You know, like do also you said she she going to call.

SPEAKER_05 32:23

She might be stressed. She might be stressed and busy. That's the last thing on her mind.

SPEAKER_03 32:26

So is that like that for for girls half the time? You're not thinking about you know what's gonna make me feel good and feel better.

SPEAKER_05 32:33

Let me let me up yet. Let me help you out, young buck. As a married man. Young buck, you have to stop. Well, as a married man, what I I know what I have to do is that the more I take off her plate, the less tired she is. But they're 21. This one, okay. It applies. The less tired she is, the more energy she she got to do what I want to do. They're 21. She's tired.

SPEAKER_03 32:54

She's moving up.

SPEAKER_05 32:55

She's been she been she's been dealing with the hormones.

SPEAKER_03 32:57

Oh my gosh, I'm thinking about okay, we were living together at 21.

SPEAKER_05 33:00

But we were going to school, we didn't have time.

SPEAKER_03 33:02

Well, they're both in, well, he didn't say he was in school. Yeah, we didn't have to. But she's in school.

SPEAKER_05 33:05

We were working and going to school.

SPEAKER_03 33:06

I was gonna say, but our schedule was literally opposite.

SPEAKER_05 33:09

Like, we would see each other, like we had uh we had four hours together on a Saturday. That's it.

SPEAKER_03 33:13

Yeah, and that was, you know.

SPEAKER_05 33:15

But made it work.

SPEAKER_03 33:16

I was like, that four hours.

SPEAKER_05 33:18

Bye to bell. We made it work. Get that water in that tub.

unknown 33:25

Woo!

SPEAKER_05 33:27

I don't know what's wrong with it. Go out to that balcony real quick. I don't know what's wrong with it.

SPEAKER_03 33:32

Okay. Am I the asshole for refusing to take out the trash my husband was letting accumulate? Probably not. Probably not. Uh, the trash has been the one chore my husband picked when we moved in six years ago. What it actually means is the bag gets tied and carried as far as the mat by the door, then it lives there.

Husband Lets the Trash Pile Up

SPEAKER_03 33:52

Saturday morning, his mom was coming for lunch, and there were four bags by the door. One of them was leaking. He asked me if I could do something about the smell before she got there. I asked why he couldn't just walk them to the trash can. It's 20 feet, and he told me he lets it sit by the door so the smell doesn't hit him all at once when he opens it. He calls right, he calls this letting it accumulate. I don't even understand that. I said, no, that's your chore, and you took, and I took our daughter out to the pool and stayed out there for two hours. His mom got there before we got back. She saw the bags, he texted me nine times. Now my mother-in-law thinks that I've let the house go. My own mom says that I embarrassed him in front of his family, and I should have just handled it. I've handled it for six years. Am I being the asshole? No.

SPEAKER_05 34:49

She did handle it. She left that shit where it was.

SPEAKER_03 34:51

Right. Because what what happens with the trash when you when you uh when you let it accumulate?

SPEAKER_05 34:56

You start playing Jenga. And you're terrible at it.

SPEAKER_03 34:59

And what well, and what is it when my mama came to the house that one time and the bag was at the front door? What's she telling me? She was like, Why you got all this damn trash here at your front door? Because my husband has been taking it out.

SPEAKER_05 35:10

Wait, wait. Clarify that for the people, okay? The bag was at the door because I was at work and I hadn't got home yet.

SPEAKER_03 35:16

Oh, sure. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 35:17

It wasn't that I was just walking by the goddamn trash. Don't no, no, you're not gonna play me.

SPEAKER_03 35:23

He didn't walk by the trash. Because I would come back. But the trash is there because he told me not to take it out. And because I was following directions, I left it there. Oh, now you listen. But here's the thing like how she said. Listen, how she said, same scenario. My mom came to my house and she was like, Why do you have trash at your front door? And I told her, Because my husband hasn't taken it out yet. And when he gets here, he's gonna take it out. And when he gets off work, he'll take it up. And she was like, Why don't you just walk it over to I could do that? And I have done that. But I was in the front of it. But yeah, usually when it's something that's leaking, or like if it just can't wait, or if I'm like, you know, when I get knee deep in my cleaning and I don't like to, you know, I like to keep, you know, going. And um, and she was just like, that's lazy. And I said, it listen, it's lazy to her. It could be. It's lazy, it's lazy to her. But I literally am in the house cleaning an entire 2,000 square foot home by myself. So I lazy, I wouldn't go that far.

SPEAKER_05 36:23

And you doing a good job. Bitch, you doing a good job. Um I will say that that that that is rules. Yeah, it is.

SPEAKER_03 36:38

I don't check the mail. Like when did I find out which mailbox was ours?

SPEAKER_05 36:42

Like two months ago.

SPEAKER_03 36:43

And that was probably, it wasn't two months ago. Don't lie about me. Um, but I mean that was a little bit date. No, I know it by sight. Um I have to look at it. I don't remember things by like numbers and stuff. It's like how I drive, you know, when people are like, oh, is it on the east side of town? Or I'd be like, girl, don't hurt yourself. So don't do me like that.

SPEAKER_05 37:09

I I don't think she's wrong. I I think she handled it correctly personally. I mean, just take the damn trash out.

SPEAKER_03 37:16

Yeah, you could, but I think the point is But I also understand that people don't look like us.

SPEAKER_05 37:21

Because I I I know some wives that take trash out.

SPEAKER_03 37:23

No, I don't, and here's the thing. I've when you were out of commission, I had to. Like, it's not like I'm just indifferent. It's not like I'm just like, oh, I'm not gonna take the trash out. But like, he takes the trash out. I clean toilets. I don't know. He don't get on his hands and knees and clean behind the toilet and clean around the toilet. I don't clean a bathroom. He don't do things like that, right? No, so it's like when I say, okay, I'm not gonna take out the trash, I'm not gonna take out the trash. Because for one, I don't feel like taking out the trash. And for two, he has already said, don't worry about the trash, babe. I'm gonna take out the trash.

SPEAKER_05 37:55

And that's why I tell people I'm a cat man.

SPEAKER_03 37:57

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 37:57

Not financially.

SPEAKER_03 37:59

But I'm working on that.

SPEAKER_05 38:01

But please do. Look, I know you're not shut up. I said, I'm a cat man, not financially, but I shit.

SPEAKER_03 38:10

So I like, but here's the thing. This is what I gather from her. It's like, it's it what it sounds like just from how she said I was at the pool with the kid until like two or whatever. I I do like a lot of things, right? The one thing you said that you were gonna do is take out the trash.

SPEAKER_05 38:29

But I w I wonder if it's a situation where she's not working. Because you know, a lot of times when dudes ain't work and they feel like you can do it because I'm already gonna work.

SPEAKER_03 38:35

And he and he's already at work. And then not only that, it's like now you're thinking it's a it's an urgent situation because your mom's coming over and you don't want your mom to have an opinion about.

SPEAKER_05 38:45

Oh, hold on, I will say this. I've done the research.

SPEAKER_03 38:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 38:48

I've done the research. Every man I've talked to has told me they take out the trash that when their wife's mother's on the way, she gets the cleaning.

SPEAKER_03 39:02

Because like how you, like how you've always said, like how you've always judged you? No, it's not that. It's like how you always say, like you what you say about if the relationships go sour or if we were to get a divorce or something, it doesn't matter what happened between us. They're gonna assume that it was, they're gonna assume that it was you, right? They're gonna, like you said, it doesn't matter what happened. Well, he gets divorced, what he does. Well, what he does, right? The same thing applies for when our mothers or mother-in-laws come. It doesn't matter because they've already been raised and then they raise us. You're the woman of the house, so why isn't your house kept? Right. Why isn't your house clean? Right. You're how it doesn't matter what you can you could be like, oh, but you know, he's he's making a mess and he's doing this, and they'll still look at you and be like, Why isn't it?

SPEAKER_05 39:46

But you're but you're the He's keeping these lights on, why isn't it clean?

SPEAKER_03 39:49

Bye. But that's that's what it is.

SPEAKER_05 39:51

He got you that $5,000 CLR you wanted. Why is CLR so goddamn expensive?

SPEAKER_03 39:56

I don't know. And I don't know what that is. What are that shit you use to clean the toilets? Oh, CL CLR. It's really good stuff. Don't plug them though, but it is really good stuff. What if you don't? Uh I don't know. Um bleaching ammonia like art, man. But no, it don't it don't get in the grout like that. You put that CLR on there. It's like it's don't pull it. Well, whatever. It's a great product. You put that CLR on there and it it's new again. Okay. I'm gonna do it. Brand new. Go ahead. Brand new. That that's it, it might be really toxic now that I think about it, but it it gets the job done.

SPEAKER_05 40:29

You do get light-headed sometimes.

SPEAKER_03 40:31

Well, no, I start opening windows now. I used to that's a blockage you. I yeah, I used to clean with the window closed. I opened the window now because you know nobody has time to be dead in the bathroom trying to clean the toilet.

SPEAKER_05 40:45

Or I'll find a bar and put 315 on it and pick it up.

SPEAKER_03 40:48

Thank you. Thank you. Or put a dumbbell next to me, be like, she was trying to clean the tub and dumbbell press at the same time. Um, but yeah, it's true. It's like no matter what, and it don't matter if you feel like you're overwhelmed. It don't matter if you feel like, like, damn, mom, you don't even know that I've been in here struggling mentally. But all they see is It ain't clean. It ain't clean today's standards. Yeah, like and the way they do it. Yeah, it's the way they do it. Like mother-in-laws and mothers, they'd be like, or they'd be like, You need me to you need me to help you. You don't, you don't see this, you need you need me to help you. And I was like, I know it's coming from a good place, but I know you low-key trying to say that I didn't clean my house good.

SPEAKER_05 41:32

I still think the funniest moment we ever had is when um back in our poor days when we were eating tuna helper.

SPEAKER_03 41:38

I love tuna helper. Oh, and your cousin.

SPEAKER_05 41:41

My cousin was like, I know damn well you ain't feed me.

SPEAKER_03 41:44

Tuna helper. I was like, he likes it. Better get dressed and make him a hot meal. It is hot when it comes when it comes off, when it comes off the stove.

SPEAKER_05 41:54

You was feeding me raccoon ankles all those years.

SPEAKER_03 42:14

I said, I know. Raccoon ankles, I have never heard of such a thing. That was hilarious. That was hilarious. Raccoon ankles is crazy. Uh, but yeah, like I don't, I mean, I don't think she was wrong. Okay. Because I just wouldn't be like, no, this is this is what your son wow. This is what your son told me to leave it here. Yeah, and when he gets home, he's gonna take care of it. Oh I've been taking care of our child all day. So I didn't have time.

SPEAKER_05 42:40

That's a lot of work take care of a kid. Especially a young one. Oh, Lord.

SPEAKER_03 42:43

I'm I'm happy you said that. Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_05 42:45

I'm gonna go ahead and ask you this week's question.

SPEAKER_03 42:47

What?

SPEAKER_05 42:48

Um what it do, baby. This week's question is what's one thing couples should stop comparing themselves to?

If We Knew Then: Stop Comparing Couples

SPEAKER_03 42:55

Other couples.

SPEAKER_05 42:56

Yeah, Instagram couples.

SPEAKER_03 42:58

Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_05 42:59

The Life I Start Do podcast. Oh, anybody.

SPEAKER_03 43:02

Don't you please don't compare yourself. You know what?

SPEAKER_05 43:05

But just to say we only fun on camera. We fire as soon as the camera cut off. Bye. She she beat me. Pistol whip you. She Ike and I'm Tina. I'm in the in the bathroom. And I'm no.

SPEAKER_03 43:17

You don't even know how it go. You don't even know how it goes you don't even know how it go.

SPEAKER_05 43:24

Um she Joseph and I'm Michael.

SPEAKER_03 43:27

Couples really shouldn't compare their relationship. Oh. Because I say, like most of the time, the grass will look greener on the other side. But you know what they say is greener where you water it. Okay. Sometimes, sometimes you do end up with weeds. You can either pluck them, turn the lawn over, and start again, or you can just get a new lawn. Okay. Was that too much? No, maybe it's what it does. But yeah, I think the biggest thing is just comparing yourself to other couples because there is no, there's no one perfect couple. There's no, I don't care how put together you look like you from the outside. That's the one thing that I think I think about a lot is when, especially couples that I can see that try to portray this look of like we have it all. Perfection. Yeah, like not perfection, but we've got it all together. Like I'm, you know, like we're able to do that.

SPEAKER_05 44:32

Let me stop you there. We don't have it together.

SPEAKER_03 44:34

Bye. They want people to think that they're living this, like, this just clean picture, perfect life.

SPEAKER_05 44:43

We fight all the time.

SPEAKER_03 44:44

And it's like the more, the more you try to portray that for me anyway, the more you try to portray that, the more I feel like I can see the cracks. Not to say that you have a bad relationship. I'm not saying that I think everybody who portray, like, you know, tries to do that has a bad relationship. But I also know that we're all human and we're imperfect humans. And to be and to be in relationship with somebody. It's it can it can be hard sometimes, right? And even if you are obsessed with your spouse, and even if 90% of the time, like you guys have a great relationship, whatever, it's not a hundred percent.

SPEAKER_05 45:17

Never.

SPEAKER_03 45:18

And if it is, good for you, somebody doing something. Somebody's lying somewhere or doing something to maintain. I don't know. Um, but yeah, just don't compare yourself. Don't compare yourself.

SPEAKER_05 45:30

All right.

SPEAKER_03 45:31

What you got? Comments of the week?

SPEAKER_05 45:33

I got the comments of the week, people.

SPEAKER_03 45:34

Okay,

Comments of the Week

SPEAKER_03 45:35

look here.

SPEAKER_05 45:36

I got a lot. Okay. Bear with me. All the comments come from the same post.

SPEAKER_03 45:43

What was the post?

SPEAKER_05 45:45

About uh how to uh about the house gas stand for the month and how the things to do.

SPEAKER_03 45:52

Oh, to discourage them from staying.

SPEAKER_05 45:54

Yes, yes, yes. So um we had a good time with that one last week. I enjoyed myself.

SPEAKER_03 46:00

Everybody pitched it in.

SPEAKER_05 46:01

I will say, uh, I'll say it's it later. Okay. Um, so this first comment comes from YouTube.

SPEAKER_03 46:07

It comes from Shambray Parks.

SPEAKER_05 46:09

And she says, literally, as soon as he said, Oh, I got it, I was like, Nope, he's about to be outlandish. Because I got I got I got it for days. I got I and I keep I I keep ideas on deck, okay? This also comes from YouTube.

SPEAKER_03 46:25

This is uh uh looks like Chef Frey 55.

SPEAKER_05 46:30

This person said, I hope his mother-in-law doesn't watch these episodes. She does. And she called email.

SPEAKER_03 46:35

Oh, you know, my mom. She does. It's okay, wait. It's so funny. So she called me the other day and she was like, I was just listening to the podcast. And I was like, Oh, you were? And she was like, Okay, I see you. She said, I see you, son-in-law. I see you. I said, mom. He wasn't being serious. Yes, he was. Because you know, that makes sense. Last time I was there, one of them bringers. She was like, last time I was there, I wanted to, what'd she say? I wanted to like watch Law and Order or something. And you was like, Oh, we don't have that app anymore. But I see. I see. She said, Oh huh, y'all be turning the internet off. I said, no, we don't, Maha.

SPEAKER_05 47:15

I like how you drive color for me, but she's gonna hear this too. The next comment also comes from uh YouTube. It comes from the unknown Spider-Man. I love it.

SPEAKER_03 47:24

I love it. And his picture is Spider-Man.

SPEAKER_05 47:26

I love it. He said Mauritius went and turned into Usher on this one. These are my confessions. These are my confessions. Stop playing with me. Let me call you back.

SPEAKER_01 47:36

Bye.

SPEAKER_05 47:38

Okay, um this is from uh Instagram. This is from uh one petty intellect. Love the name.

SPEAKER_03 47:45

One pretty intellect.

SPEAKER_05 47:46

I'm sorry, one pretty intellect. I'm sorry, my bad. I still love the name. She says, your husband is the the petty pettiest of petty. He needs to his pick uh besides, I don't give a fuck.

SPEAKER_03 47:56

We can do that. We can do that. Somebody else wants to say you smiling like this, right?

SPEAKER_05 48:02

Okay, this is from also from Instagram. She said, uh, this is from uh I Am Beautifully Flawed, also loaded name.

SPEAKER_03 48:09

I am Beautifully Flawed 8.

SPEAKER_05 48:12

Okay, the eight made it that much different.

SPEAKER_03 48:13

It did.

SPEAKER_05 48:14

Okay, anyway, she said if you have kids, when they come over, just leave the kids and take off.

SPEAKER_03 48:21

Use that time to take a kid for you.

SPEAKER_05 48:24

We do it all the time. My mom law pull up, we're like, okay, we're going to the gym.

SPEAKER_03 48:28

We out. She came, what was that, the week before last, and we were literally opening the front door and she was there, and Phoenix was going with us. And she was like, Where y'all going? I said, Well, we are going to the gym now, and she is gonna be here with you.

SPEAKER_05 48:41

Um, uh, this comes from, I believe this is Instagram. It comes from One Way and Purpose. I like that too. She says, use 50 threat count sheets and cheap tissue in the guest bathroom. And I said, That'll do it.

SPEAKER_03 48:55

That'll do it. That'll do it. That'll do it. Right here. Had that toilet paper fall apart, uh, wiping your ass.

SPEAKER_05 49:03

If I come to your house and you got a single ply, you ain't never got to write me coming back. Never. Never. I said that's diabolical.

SPEAKER_03 49:13

But 50 50 thread count sheets, 50? I don't do they sell 50 thread count sheets, right? Okay, that was funny.

SPEAKER_05 49:23

This one comes from uh Deedra DD. I believe this is YouTube. I'm no, I'm I'm losing track. She said, now your mother-in law is gonna come over with her own coffee and creamer. She's ready now, and she is.

SPEAKER_03 49:33

She just will stop by the spoke. Because if y'all know my mother-in-law, she has coffee creamer right now, mom.

SPEAKER_05 49:38

If y'all know my mother-in-law, she comes, she keeps a snack bag with her.

SPEAKER_03 49:41

She does. She does. That's my mom.

SPEAKER_05 49:43

She keeps a snack. If you win a snack, she got a snack. She got a snack. She that granny that got, she got a snack somewhere.

SPEAKER_03 49:48

She got some candy somewhere or she got a snack somewhere.

SPEAKER_05 49:51

And the last one, this is gonna be the last one, comes from cook, uh, comes from 50 aka Kanan. This is Instagram. He says, Cook seafood if she's allergic. Your husband is Petty LaBelle. I mean, I don't say cook it when she's in the house.

SPEAKER_03 50:05

I think I'm gonna let my husband cook something that my mother is severely allergic to to put her life in danger.

SPEAKER_05 50:15

Bye. You know, that's all I say. Goodbye.

SPEAKER_03 50:18

You you think he really is gonna put my mother's life in danger? He would not.

SPEAKER_05 50:22

I would. Not, I would not.

SPEAKER_03 50:25

He would not. I know he wouldn't.

SPEAKER_05 50:27

I would not. But that those are the comments.

SPEAKER_03 50:28

Oh my gosh. I can't.

SPEAKER_05 50:30

And all first of all, there was a lot of good like ones. It was a lot of good ones.

SPEAKER_03 50:34

Yeah, there were there was. There was really they're funny. You guys are hilarious.

SPEAKER_05 50:38

Somebody said, uh disconnect your washer and dryer altogether.

SPEAKER_03 50:45

And be like, damn, it's not working. They not turning on, they not turning on. I don't know why.

SPEAKER_05 50:51

I was like, damn, so no, can't nobody wash?

SPEAKER_03 50:53

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 50:55

One lady said that she would they would get there and be just lettuce in the refrigerator.

SPEAKER_03 51:00

Y'all getting some groceries. Eat like rabbits. We ain't got it.

SPEAKER_05 51:03

Eating like rabbits.

SPEAKER_03 51:04

We ain't got it this week. Just lettuce sandwiches.

SPEAKER_00 51:06

Oh, y'all are great. I love you.

SPEAKER_03 51:08

All right, guys. This has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. If you are not doing so already, you can follow us at the after goodness, you can follow us at Life After I Do Podcast.

SPEAKER_00 51:22

You must be hungry today. Um something.

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SPEAKER_00 51:25

Something.

SPEAKER_03 51:26

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SPEAKER_05 51:42

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SPEAKER_03 51:44

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SPEAKER_05 51:52

Peace mooskies. Wait, wait. Tell a friend. To tell a friend. To tell granny.

SPEAKER_03 51:56

And granny will tell it. Because if granny know, then everyone else will. Peace Moosekies. Peace Booskies.