Get to Know Us: Marriage, Mess, and Memories

Every great conversation makes more sense when you understand the people behind the microphones. In this episode of Life After I Do, Nesha G and Moelethal take it back to the beginning and give new Booskis a deeper look at the love story, friendship, humor, and history that built their marriage.

Nesha and Moe revisit meeting in middle school, dating as teenagers, early impressions, first heartbreaks, high school memories, and the small moments that still get referenced decades later. They also talk about friendship in marriage, what they admire about each other, their favorite routines, dream trips, parenting moments, and the kind of advice they would give couples before they say “I do.”

The episode closes with the kind of Our 2 Cents energy the Booskis love, including updates from past listener stories and new dilemmas about family boundaries, exes, rent responsibilities, and uncomfortable in-law situations. Whether you are brand new to Life After I Do or have been here from the beginning, this episode gives you the heart behind the humor.

Transcript

Cold Open: Are You Acting Like a Man or a Boy?

SPEAKER_01 0:00

She is the she she's the worst.

SPEAKER_02 0:02

She is not the worst.

SPEAKER_01 0:04

She's the worst on me. Dad, is that is that how a man treats his wife?

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No, what did she tell you today?

SPEAKER_01 0:09

Are you acting like a good husband?

SPEAKER_02 0:12

She told him today she was like, are you gonna act like a man or you're gonna act like a boy? I'm just kidding.

Welcome Back to Life After I Do

SPEAKER_02 0:36

Hey everybody, and welcome back to your weekly dose of the life after I do podcast. How y'all doing out there? How y'all doing? How y'all doing? I'm trying, Dr.

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Now.

SPEAKER_02 0:47

Not trying hard enough.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

You've eaten enough for the rest of the year. Bye.

SPEAKER_02 0:52

Good darn.

SPEAKER_01 0:54

Well, I'm thinking since the fourth, as much as I've been eating, Dr. Now be on my ass.

SPEAKER_02 0:59

Ah, no, you know what I just realized. I just realized that he took the Dr. Dow off the refrigerator. Uh because he because my brother-in-law used to have a picture of Dr. Dow in the refrigerator. So every time he went to the refrigerator, Dr. Now's like, you know, you don't need to be in this refrigerator again. You need to get your butt out of the refrigerator. How's it going, Booskies?

SPEAKER_03 1:20

Uh it's going.

SPEAKER_01 1:22

You know.

SPEAKER_03 1:22

No, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 1:23

That's why I asked you. You looking good. So anytime you look good, I'm good. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 1:28

I appreciate that.

SPEAKER_01 1:29

And you know, all that ass you had in the gym today. Oh gosh.

Gym Jokes, Coochie Grabs, and Going Back to Work

SPEAKER_01 1:33

When you when you leaned over to pick them dumbbells up, I said, mmm.

SPEAKER_02 1:36

Or when you uh tried to grab my coochie in the gym, that's crazy. No, it wasn't. That's crazy. We were in public. You can't be out here coochie grabbing. You can't be out here coochie grabbing.

SPEAKER_01 1:49

It was all a uh faux people. Don't look here. I'm not Donald Trump.

SPEAKER_02 1:53

Okay. Stop it. Well, you grabbed me by the bossy today.

SPEAKER_00 1:59

It was consensual.

SPEAKER_02 2:01

No, it wasn't. I was laying down and benching, and your hand disappeared. You know what?

SPEAKER_01 2:07

When you said I do, you signed a waiver. I did not. You did. Actually, did not. That's literally not a thing, sir. You signed a waiver when you said I do. That's absolutely not a thing. I was your weed. We in the final countdown.

SPEAKER_02 2:23

What's that? The final countdown.

SPEAKER_01 2:30

You wrong. Oh my God.

SPEAKER_02 2:31

What?

SPEAKER_01 2:32

Yeah, you know, going back to work and all that other jazz.

SPEAKER_02 2:35

Going back to our regularly scheduled programming.

SPEAKER_01 2:37

And I thought it was funny today because I asked you, I said, baby, you ready? You're like, oh, is that next week? Oh, oh, I thought I had another week. I said, no, man, that's next week.

SPEAKER_02 2:45

I mean, it is what it is, you know? I take the balls that are thrown at me.

SPEAKER_01 2:51

Say less.

SPEAKER_02 2:54

Say less. Oh, I knew that would get you. I'm picking up what you're putting down. Oh, I knew that would get you. Pick it up what you're putting down.

SPEAKER_01 3:04

Bye. Yeah, you know, so I mean, overall, the week was good. What was the highlight of your week? Just recovering. Um.

SPEAKER_03 3:10

Recovering from what? What'd you do, nigga?

SPEAKER_01 3:12

Wow.

Moe Gets the Smoker Working

SPEAKER_01 3:17

I'm just recovering my thought process. Oh, mentally. Mentally, of going back to things as normal.

SPEAKER_02 3:24

Schedule, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:25

And um, the highlight of my week was getting my smoker to work.

unknown 3:29

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 3:31

It was kind of like the highlight of my week, too. And my mom, I was just talking to my mom before we started recording with them. Um, tell my son-in-law, I'm gonna need some more of that chicken.

SPEAKER_01 3:40

Tell her she's gonna have to go buy it.

SPEAKER_02 3:43

I said if he can remember what season is he put on there.

SPEAKER_01 3:45

Oh, I do.

SPEAKER_02 3:46

Uh, that was uh if he can remember what season is he put on there.

SPEAKER_01 3:52

I don't ever remember how that's the thing. Somebody has said that too. It was like, man, how you seasoning ribs? I said, I don't know. I don't I just grabbed some season.

SPEAKER_02 3:59

It was whatever you were feeling at the time.

SPEAKER_01 4:00

I grabbed some shit, put it together.

SPEAKER_02 4:02

Grab some shit and put it together. It's great.

SPEAKER_01 4:06

I let the ancestors do the work.

SPEAKER_02 4:07

And then let them whisper in my ear to be like, that's enough.

SPEAKER_01 4:11

Y'all think it's I'm I I hear my grandfather, boy, that's enough.

SPEAKER_03 4:16

Boy, that's enough.

SPEAKER_01 4:17

Yes, sir. All I say is yes, sir, I'm gonna stop right here.

SPEAKER_03 4:20

Yes, sir. Yes, sir.

SPEAKER_01 4:21

Yes, sir.

SPEAKER_03 4:21

I mean, they were good.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

That's all the numbers. I want some ribs so bad. I know. How was your week? That's the highlight.

SPEAKER_02 4:28

That was the highlight of getting your smoker to work.

SPEAKER_01 4:29

Yeah. Okay, well. My daughter didn't like it though. She was like, oh, this again.

SPEAKER_02 4:35

Yeah, because my mom, my mom asked for chicken today, and then she was like, What y'all eating for dinner? And I was like, Chicken. She was like, Y'all still eating the damn chicken? I said, Mom, we made two big bags of chicken.

SPEAKER_01 4:44

Two family packs of thighs.

SPEAKER_02 4:46

We keep chicken and rice on day.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

On day. What are you talking about? It's like that video. He said, so they were like, it was like a culture day at school, and like you had to bring a dish from your culture. So he showed up with chicken, breasts, and rice. He said, This is my culture. This is what we eat. Okay, we want them games in my house. Chicken breasts and rice is crazy. I brought the chicken, thighs, and rice. Right, right. Some broccoli or some asparagus or some that's all you need. Or my favorite Brussels sprouts.

SPEAKER_03 5:12

Brussels sprouts, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:13

Yeah. I can go for the cabbage right now.

SPEAKER_02 5:15

Although, although I will say I had um five guys the other night. And what time? Bye, Maurice.

Five Guys, Food Cravings, and Butter Pecan Weather

SPEAKER_03 5:24

My gosh.

SPEAKER_02 5:27

The restaurante.

SPEAKER_01 5:28

Uh you balling. Because you gotta take out a HELOC in a taking out a HELOC is wild work.

SPEAKER_02 5:35

A line of credit. That's wild work. And a line of credit. Bye. But it was it was so good. And you know, usually sometimes you'll be like, oh, you in the move for five guys? And I'm like, absolutely not. But for some reason, it had just hit me. Well, I had I hadn't eaten anything, so I guess there was that too.

SPEAKER_05 5:53

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 5:53

Um, but it was really good, and those fries were really delicious. And I was like, oh my gosh, I need to make sure it like was I just hungry or was it really good? So I went back the second day. So that was that the highlight. Yeah, so I had to determine if it was food was the highlight. I mean, you know, my family wait, let me give my politically correct one. My family was the highlight of my week.

SPEAKER_01 6:15

My finger itching. I'm about to get some money.

SPEAKER_02 6:16

Not it's not finger, it's your hand.

SPEAKER_01 6:19

It's on my hand. I'm about to get some money.

SPEAKER_02 6:21

Spending time with my family was the highlight of my week.

SPEAKER_01 6:27

I will say that I really did uh I really did miss my grandma today because it was like overcast and gloomy. And I said, boy, this is that uh butter pecan and golden girl weather.

SPEAKER_02 6:37

It just seems so perfect.

SPEAKER_01 6:38

This is get you a ball of butter pecan and laugh and and let uh blaze your rose make you laugh.

SPEAKER_02 6:45

The only thing I don't like, like I love this kind of weather where it has like that overcast and it's kind of gray outside. The only thing I don't like is when it still feels hot. I'm like when I walk out of the store and it's still warm.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

Still how how warm?

SPEAKER_02 6:59

Very warm. I don't like that part. That's the only part I don't like.

SPEAKER_01 7:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 7:03

Um, but yeah, so any any other exciting news about your week? No. Nothing, nothing to report? No. No, so you just had an average week?

SPEAKER_01 7:13

I'm a I'm six feet the right way. It was a great week.

SPEAKER_02 7:15

Right. High five. That's what I always say. That's what I want to hear.

SPEAKER_01 7:19

Six feet the right way.

SPEAKER_02 7:20

The right way. Up right. Right. I am upright. Hello. Boots. Bye. Want to do it? Bye. Shut up. Um yeah, I mean, you didn't ask, but I guess I did ask how your week was.

SPEAKER_01 7:36

I don't remember. And you were you started talking about it, and I asked you what your highlight was, and you said your family and the five guys. Now you're coming for me when you don't pay attention to yourself. What was the low point of your week? This one right here.

SPEAKER_02 7:48

When I finished my five guys, when it was over.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 7:52

That's when it was over.

SPEAKER_01 7:53

You the only person I know that be like, I'ma lock in.

SPEAKER_02 7:56

Well, I do be locked in.

SPEAKER_01 7:58

And then you be like, I need a burger.

SPEAKER_02 8:00

Listen, sometimes you need beef.

SPEAKER_01 8:02

Oh, whoa, wait a minute. I got you.

SPEAKER_02 8:05

We don't buy beef at home. Stop filling my back. I got you. Why do you keep doing that?

SPEAKER_01 8:10

I got you. Look here.

SPEAKER_02 8:11

Why are you filling my back?

SPEAKER_01 8:12

Because you need beef. So just whenever you need me, put the sign up. I'll come running. You hear me?

SPEAKER_02 8:16

You hear me now? You be, you know, you you need beef.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

Yeah, put the sign up.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

I'm gonna come running. So, you know. Put the sign up, I'm gonna come running. And I don't, I don't mess with our bitch. Wait, speaking of which, okay, hold on. Have you seen the um it was uh like an office prank, and it was the it was, I think it was a dentist's office or like a doctor's office. But anyway, I guess sometimes the um pharmaceutical reps will buy the staff lunch, right? So one of the nurses was going around and she was like, Oh, I'm taking everybody's lunch order because one of the uh reps is gonna buy his lunch and everyone gets excited because like we're getting lunch, you know? And so she was like, So what do you want from Arby's? And then everyone's faces was like, What? They have the meats. She went to the doctor and she was like, Oh, what do what do you want for lunch? What do you want from Arby's? And he said, Excuse me? And she was like, Arby's. And he was like, Who's who's buying Arby's? Are they still are he said the wait a minute, that we have the meats? She was like, Yeah. He was like, Oh, it's okay. I don't want anything. Everybody was like, that's okay.

SPEAKER_01 9:21

I'll take a two or four.

SPEAKER_02 9:22

I don't listen, I've eaten at Arby's, I think, twice in my life. Twice. I think, twice in my life. I don't even know what else they carry. In my opinion, it's I mean, not my opinion, from they have pastramies, rolls of beans. See, I didn't know they have pastrami.

SPEAKER_01 9:36

I thought it was regular burgers.

SPEAKER_02 9:39

Arby's low-key is kind of fire. Is there an Arby's near us?

SPEAKER_01 9:42

No.

SPEAKER_02 9:43

Oh, well, I was gonna sorry, Arby's. I was gonna, I was gonna, I was gonna go try to give it a try, but I'm not gonna drive around looking for it.

SPEAKER_01 9:52

I do, I do feel like it's a drug front because it ain't never busy.

SPEAKER_02 9:56

Okay, Maurice. Now you're doing too much. I don't know. I do feel like it's a drug front.

SPEAKER_01 10:01

I don't know how they justify keeping their doors open.

SPEAKER_02 10:04

Well, because and that's what I be thinking too, because when when people talk about going even to get fast food, I have literally never heard anybody be like, you know what I can go for? Arby's. Some Arby's. Arby's. Never. Nerve. That's crazy. Nerver. No. Well we got today, Mooskies. Well, in in light of all of our new followers.

SPEAKER_01 10:23

Shadow, you're showing up.

SPEAKER_02 10:24

These are maze balls. We love you.

SPEAKER_01 10:28

Yeah, uh, y'all showing up.

SPEAKER_02 10:29

Uh, we've got a lot of loot, a lot of a la la lu lit.

SPEAKER_01 10:33

We got a lot of new. Hold on, of course. The reason why we have all of these new followers is because of Phoenix. Phoenix says it's her.

SPEAKER_02 10:40

That's her magic.

SPEAKER_01 10:41

They really coming to see her. That's crazy because you ain't beat her in a minute.

SPEAKER_02 10:45

Said I'm oldest. Right. Okay. I am old.

SPEAKER_01 10:48

No, she said she's David. Oh. God, I swear y'all, my wife is black. She just don't get the references.

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She's black.

Reintroducing Ourselves to New Booskies

SPEAKER_02 10:56

I just get jumbled in the head sometimes. So go ahead and tell them about it. Yeah, so we've got a lot of new listeners and a lot of new um Booskies. Boosky Robbins. Welcome to the family. So I thought that we would do almost like another reintroduction because we haven't really done like an a reintroduction or really talked about us in a while. I mean, you know, some of the questions we'll ask each other are things that we've probably gone through through conversation. But just for the sake of all the new people here, all the new Booskies, we thought we would do. Let's let's just answer all the important ones. Yes, her ass was fat. Okay. That's that literally is not. That's not. We will I can address one thing. What? Okay. Um the first thing I'm gonna address is uh stay the hell out of my husband's DMs.

SPEAKER_00 11:43

There's nobody in my DMs.

SPEAKER_02 11:45

Yeah. Oh, do you want me to open it and read it? No. No, okay. Like I said, like I stay out of his DMs because all you're doing is giving us a good laugh, a good chuckle. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:01

Show him your DMs.

SPEAKER_02 12:02

I delete mine. Um, okay, so she's cheating.

SPEAKER_01 12:06

Y'all see how she's cheating? She said a couple episodes back. That's the bar. That's cheating.

SPEAKER_02 12:10

She cheating. How am I cheating? I show them to you.

SPEAKER_01 12:13

No, you don't. I ain't never seen them. Yeah, yeah. I heard about them. I ain't seen them. You ain't seen to do them. I ain't seen to them. You ain't seen to do them. I ain't seen them. Whatever.

SPEAKER_02 12:21

Um, okay, so yeah, let's kind of just hop on into it.

SPEAKER_01 12:24

She's gonna ask, we're gonna ask some. I guess we're gonna answer some questions about us. I guess she she felt like y'all need to know who we are. Well, people like to know. The only that's important you know is I love her, and I and if you mess with her, I'm gonna kill you.

SPEAKER_02 12:35

Oh, that's that's a crime. Um okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

Let's let's you protect it.

SPEAKER_02 12:41

That's a that's a crime. All right. Um, so first of all, who are

Who Are Moe and Nesha?

SPEAKER_02 12:45

you?

SPEAKER_01 12:47

Oh my gosh. What sir say? Tell me who that nigga if it ain't me.

SPEAKER_02 12:54

You're so special. That's who I am. You're so special. That's who I am to you. Okay. Well, he's Maurice, and I'm Kinesha.

SPEAKER_01 13:04

In case you're gonna tell me how to spell my name so they spell it right.

SPEAKER_02 13:06

Oh yeah. I love it because when every time we get um like listener letters or like am I the assholes um in the email, people when they are either talking about him or to him, they always spell his name M-A-U-R-I-C-E. Which I mean, that's you know, like that's I guess that's the regular way. But his name is Maurice. So I'm M-O-R-I-C-E.

SPEAKER_01 13:30

I don't understand how people don't correlate the I go by Mo and then Oh, and when Maurice is M A U.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

I don't think that's a thing. That's just like I never understood how um when I first found out that Bob is short for Robert. Okay, well we gotta say that like how do you get that? That's what it made me think about.

SPEAKER_01 13:50

We're not going there.

SPEAKER_04 13:51

Why?

SPEAKER_01 13:52

I thought you were gonna go uh um um William and Bill or something like that.

SPEAKER_02 13:56

Okay, that too. How do you get Bill from William?

SPEAKER_01 13:59

It's you know, sometimes traditions are traditions.

SPEAKER_02 14:01

Okay, but can you explain it to me? Do you not know?

SPEAKER_01 14:04

I don't know. Okay, so just saying that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_02 14:07

So more his name is More Reese, like more right.

SPEAKER_01 14:10

Let's just talk about how it all began.

SPEAKER_02 14:12

Okay, so how did it begin? Tell it tell us what we did. It all started in 1986 and when Maurice was born, right? And then it was a hell of a year.

SPEAKER_01 14:21

It it was two years before uh uh Michael's performance.

SPEAKER_02 14:27

Bye.

SPEAKER_01 14:27

I'm the one that ushered it all that in.

SPEAKER_03 14:29

Okay, what is wrong with you?

How We Met in Middle School

SPEAKER_01 14:34

We met, we she my wife had a post that we met in 99. We met in 98.

SPEAKER_02 14:38

Okay, that's what he had told me. If you follow me on Instagram at Kai underscore Nisha G, um, I had posted plugging yourself. I had posted um they had did, you know, the little repost thing where like what what year did you guys meet? What year did you get engaged and all that? And I had put 1999 and he was like, it was 1998. And I was like, I I don't know, I was like nine or ten. How am I supposed to remember that?

SPEAKER_01 15:01

I remember because I loved you.

SPEAKER_02 15:03

That's great. I love that for you.

SPEAKER_01 15:05

I loved you. You just you were just there.

SPEAKER_02 15:07

Oh I mean, you know what I'm saying? I I I guess so. I'm gonna have to agree with you.

SPEAKER_01 15:12

So we met in 99.

SPEAKER_02 15:14

Now look, is it 98 or 99?

SPEAKER_01 15:16

It was 98. I was testing you. You did good. So we met 98 in middle school.

SPEAKER_02 15:22

Uh we were in middle school. Okay, yes.

SPEAKER_01 15:25

And uh she had I mean, she she was in middle school, but she had a body of it.

SPEAKER_03 15:31

Okay, Demel, I need you to be serious for a second.

SPEAKER_01 15:35

I'm dead ass.

SPEAKER_03 15:37

What I always tell you.

SPEAKER_01 15:39

I saw you in them blue jeans, all that ass and that white top.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

That's crazy. You were literally like 11.

SPEAKER_01 15:47

I was a grown ass, man.

SPEAKER_02 15:48

I can't. You shouldn't be thinking about things like that at that age.

SPEAKER_01 15:51

I was a boy who had gone through puberty. I was thinking about all the things. Oh gosh. I don't like it. Most of the things I still think about today.

SPEAKER_02 15:59

Actually, the thoughts never went away. Never went away.

SPEAKER_01 16:02

They just intensified, they just became more focused.

SPEAKER_02 16:04

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

You know? So yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:08

So yeah, we met in middle school. I was in the sixth grade. You were in the seventh grade. Yeah, yes. Yeah, I will say fresh. I will say yes. And by Maurice, fresh out of fifth grade. Look at these fresh on the scene fifth graders. That's crazy work. Um, and I remember like, okay, so you don't like how you have your junior high school relationships. So, long story short, it was a friend that kind of brought us together. Yeah. We dated for like dated air quotes, because we're like 11-year-olds.

SPEAKER_01 16:46

Eight days.

SPEAKER_02 16:48

It was a little longer than that, no. Okay, sorry. I know, because I was he was kind of heartbroken about it. See how she played with y'all?

SPEAKER_01 16:53

Um she can't wait to tell these stories. No, I she loved telling y'all. Anytime she breaks my heart, she loved telling y'all about that. She don't never tell you about when I break hers.

SPEAKER_02 17:01

No, I you never broke my heart. Um, but he was he was he was shy. He was also the only seventh grader that had like a like a full dad like mustache. Like full. I was a man. Yeah, he was. And maybe maybe that intimidated me a little bit. Oh no, it is what

The Sweetest Breakup Note Ever

SPEAKER_02 17:23

it is. But I also remember like you used to always try to come up to me and hug me when you were sweaty after playing basketball. And I really didn't appreciate that. I thought that was a little rude.

SPEAKER_01 17:33

And now we get sweaty together. Now what? See, I was I was forecasting, foreshadowing.

SPEAKER_02 17:41

Anywho, after about, I guess 11 days, but it was I I I mean, I thought it was like two weeks. But after 11 days, I had written him the sweetest note.

SPEAKER_03 17:52

Okay. I wrote him the sweetest note. You ain't got a shirt coder. She left me off.

SPEAKER_02 17:55

And I told him, you know what, Maurice, you are a stupendous character of a dude. And you're your bra.

SPEAKER_01 18:04

This character of a dude is crazy.

SPEAKER_02 18:06

You are a stupendous character of a dude, and you're like nobody I've ever met before. Um, however, unfortunately, at this time in my life, um, you know, this just isn't gonna work for me. That's fine. Um, I need to focus on my studies, you know, because I'll be going into seventh grade, you know, soon, and I hear it gets really tough.

SPEAKER_00 18:28

All right.

SPEAKER_02 18:29

And so essentially I had to let him down gently. And that actually worked out because we became best friends. Like really close. Not immediately. You're right. You're right. Not immediately. It wasn't immediately, but we became great friends, which helped to build a great foundation. And then we kind of like met up again in high school when I was 15.

SPEAKER_01 18:54

And you know, we kind of you were young meat on the block again. Look at look at this fresh meat.

SPEAKER_04 19:00

Look at this fresh meat. Look at this young meat. All these fresh eighth graders coming on to the scene now.

SPEAKER_02 19:10

Um, and so then we we got back together.

SPEAKER_01 19:13

This is a long story. Like uh And we've been together ever since.

SPEAKER_02 19:15

Yeah, when I was 15. Yeah, when I was 15.

SPEAKER_01 19:18

Yes, yes, you were 15.

SPEAKER_02 19:19

And we've pretty much been together like ever since. So that's like that's like the permissive beginning for all of our new booskies. That's kind of like yeah, the beginning. So we've been together since high school. Yeah, so since October 20. Uh oh, you talk you talking about me. You couldn't even get out.

SPEAKER_01 19:38

Oh, I was gonna say

Together Since 2002

SPEAKER_01 19:39

2002. Good God, I'm getting old.

SPEAKER_02 19:43

2002.

SPEAKER_01 19:44

2002.

SPEAKER_02 19:45

Yeah, 2002. And now here we are now.

SPEAKER_01 19:47

Like so, as we know, I made the first move and she turned me down.

SPEAKER_02 19:51

So okay. She you know, she we dated for 11 days.

SPEAKER_01 19:57

My wife loves that's because you were nice. My wife loves the turn niggas down.

SPEAKER_04 20:04

What does that mean?

SPEAKER_01 20:07

Exactly what I said.

First Impressions of Each Other

SPEAKER_02 20:09

There's no act like it's a sport. There's no like so okay. What was your first impression of me aside from the physical? What was your first impression? It was all physical.

SPEAKER_01 20:22

I hadn't heard your voice. Everything was physical.

SPEAKER_02 20:26

Okay, what was your first impression of me when we started talking?

SPEAKER_01 20:29

When?

SPEAKER_02 20:30

When we actually before right before I was here in high school.

SPEAKER_01 20:33

It was physical.

unknown 20:35

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 20:37

You was fine as shit.

SPEAKER_02 20:39

Okay, aside from that though. You were cool. You smart. You were smart. You were cool, you were smart. I said, mm. What'd you say?

SPEAKER_04 20:49

What'd you say?

SPEAKER_01 20:50

I said, mm, okay. She not dumb. Okay. And you know, you was you had your head, you had a good head on your shoulders. Okay, you know. I said, okay, I can see, I can see a little something of her.

SPEAKER_02 21:00

Okay. My first impressions of you was I was like, okay, he does his homework.

SPEAKER_05 21:07

He makes the ball was low.

SPEAKER_02 21:08

He makes good grades. The ball was so low. Um, I knew you came from a a good a good family. That was that was he didn't drop out of high school. He didn't drop out, he dropped out of college, but he didn't drop. You guys make people think you're a high school dropout. We're fine now. It doesn't matter. Um yeah, I was like, I was like, okay, uh, you know, he like I said, he does his homework. He comes from a good background, he made good grades, he had a little stutter that was kind of cute, still shows up today, never got that corrected. I still find it cute. Um why are you looking at me like that? Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 21:45

I'm not gonna be here all night with you.

SPEAKER_04 21:46

You do have a little bit of a stutter, and I do like it.

SPEAKER_01 21:50

Okay, it's cute. I know I have a little speech problem, but I worked through it.

SPEAKER_02 21:54

You do, and I love that.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Whatever.

SPEAKER_02 21:56

I love it. Um, but yeah, that was my first impression of you. I thought you were. I thought you were cool. Like, you know, I was like, yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

All right.

SPEAKER_02 22:04

Um,

When Moe Knew Nesha Was Different

SPEAKER_02 22:05

what made you realize that this relationship was different from your previous ones? Since he did technically have a previous relationship.

SPEAKER_01 22:12

I put effort into it.

SPEAKER_02 22:17

Is that the difference?

SPEAKER_01 22:18

That's the difference. I put more effort. I put more effort.

SPEAKER_02 22:21

You put more effort.

SPEAKER_01 22:22

You know, like I said, it was just something different. Like I knew I saw you, I knew. It's weird.

SPEAKER_03 22:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

I know you think it's weird. People they don't fly, but I don't know. When I was in seventh grade and I saw you, I knew. I said, she don't know.

SPEAKER_02 22:33

She don't know. Well, you know what they say.

SPEAKER_01 22:36

Well, you know you don't know.

SPEAKER_02 22:36

Just because everybody else don't see the vision, don't make it not real.

SPEAKER_01 22:40

Because maybe God gave that to you, but he didn't give that to you. See, what I realized at that time I was on the train. I just wasn't at your station.

SPEAKER_03 22:46

Okay. Now you're trying to get philosophical.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

So when I pulled up at your station, you hopped on the board. You never got off because you knew you were where you're supposed to be. See what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 22:54

You see, you see what God did there?

SPEAKER_01 22:56

We do? We do?

SPEAKER_02 22:57

You put that key in there. Lock it. Bye. What

First Dates and Minimum Wage

SPEAKER_02 23:00

was the first date like for you?

SPEAKER_01 23:02

Expensive.

SPEAKER_02 23:03

No, I mean you were 16, so you did you didn't have a lot coming in. I didn't, and you didn't care. I really didn't because you don't care now. You asked me to come. Because again, like I always say, you asked me to be here. You thought minimum wage was $7.15? Oh, yeah. You know what it was? Because it was $7.25 when I was working at Starbucks. That's crazy. Isn't minimum wage like $16.50? I don't know what.

SPEAKER_01 23:29

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 23:30

That's crazy, but to think that we live through a time where minimum wage was seven bucks is crazy. Right.

SPEAKER_01 23:34

And I and I had a girlfriend, was the crazy part.

SPEAKER_02 23:36

That's the yeah, that was crazy. You should have no business dating.

SPEAKER_01 23:39

At what moment did you know you wanted to spend your life with me? I know it was when you saw me at first, but go ahead. Damn.

SPEAKER_03 23:47

That's not when. Damn. That's not that's not when. Never mind.

SPEAKER_02 23:51

Um, the moment I knew that I wanted to spend my life with you. Mmm. It'd probably have to be, I want to say, like, right beat.

SPEAKER_03 24:04

Shut up.

SPEAKER_02 24:05

Go ahead. Um, right before you like left for college.

SPEAKER_00 24:09

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 24:10

And it was what's now I just had a whole flashback. Because remember the uh Aaliyah song? It's been too long

When Nesha Knew She Missed Moe

SPEAKER_02 24:17

in. Okay. So I was I was in the car with my mom one day, and this was like right after you had left for college. And that song came on the radio, and I was like looking out the window, and I was like, I guess I was like feeling sad or whatever because she knew and she looked over at me. She and laughing while she she was like, You miss Maurice, huh? Just like that. And I was like, Well, damn, just make a spectacle. But I was like, I looked at her and I was like, I'm not even thinking about Maurice. And she was like, Yes, you are. She was like, You miss Maurice, don't you? And I was like, No. I did, but I did miss you. All right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:59

Um, who's funnier and who laughs at their own jokes? First,

Funniest, Most Competitive, and Better Cook

SPEAKER_01 25:03

I'm I'm funnier and you laugh at your own jokes.

SPEAKER_02 25:05

Because my jokes are they're corny. They're hilarious. My wife likes corny ass jokes. Hilarious.

SPEAKER_01 25:11

Shit, like, what's the pig's favorite karate move? Pork chop. That's just hilarious.

SPEAKER_04 25:17

No. Wait a minute. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 25:19

No.

SPEAKER_04 25:19

No, I gotta tell it to you now.

SPEAKER_00 25:21

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 25:22

Okay, I just heard this one on Instagram. And she was telling her husband. She said, she said, why didn't why didn't the toilet paper cross the road?

SPEAKER_01 25:34

Because it rolled.

SPEAKER_04 25:37

Because it got stuck in a crack.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

And this is what I mean, people. She likes corny ass shit. Okay.

SPEAKER_04 25:46

Out for an hour.

SPEAKER_01 25:49

Who is who's the most competitive? Probably me. You. Yeah. I'm not competitive at all.

SPEAKER_02 25:54

Yeah, I'm probably the most competitive at all.

SPEAKER_01 25:55

Yeah, I'm really not competitive at all. And it really irritates people because they think I just I just laugh because it ain't that serious.

SPEAKER_02 26:00

It's not that serious to me, but you knew it is. It's not. I think I blame my mom. Why are you competitive? Yeah, because I played sports my whole life.

SPEAKER_01 26:08

I played sports too. I'm still not competitive.

SPEAKER_02 26:09

Yeah, I don't know. I played aggressive sports. I don't know. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 26:14

Okay, who's the better cook?

SPEAKER_02 26:16

Uh it's a tie.

SPEAKER_01 26:18

It's not.

SPEAKER_02 26:23

It's not.

SPEAKER_01 26:24

It's not.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

Really? It's not?

SPEAKER_01 26:26

No, it's not.

SPEAKER_02 26:27

Okay, then who do you think is the better cook? I'm curious.

SPEAKER_01 26:30

I'm the better cook.

SPEAKER_02 26:31

Oh. Um, with some things, like with man meals, yes.

SPEAKER_00 26:36

With all things.

SPEAKER_02 26:37

With man meals.

SPEAKER_01 26:38

Okay. Yeah, you are. Who's uh more likely to start a random dance party at home? This is me. Of course, yeah. That's me. That not just at home. Anywhere we go.

SPEAKER_02 26:48

Anywhere we go. I did it today. Yeah, it doesn't matter if we're home or not.

SPEAKER_01 26:51

I was in I was in Walmart and I said, Hey, hey. It's weird. It's funny, but it's weird. What uh what is one habit your partner has that makes you laugh? What's one habit I have that makes you laugh all the time?

SPEAKER_03 27:04

Um, probably your dancing. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_02 27:08

I'm just a joke to you, huh?

SPEAKER_01 27:10

I was an extra on you got served.

SPEAKER_02 27:12

Maurice, you absolutely was not. I need you to get your shit together. Bye. Um

Marriage Lessons and Friendship

SPEAKER_02 27:22

what's one lesson in marriage that has taught you about yourself? Listen. Um something about marriage that's taught you something about yourself. What's the lesson in marriage that's taught you something about yourself?

SPEAKER_01 27:33

I didn't I didn't realize how far I was willing to go for those I love.

SPEAKER_03 27:37

Seems like a very generic response, but I'll take it.

SPEAKER_01 27:40

But it's true.

SPEAKER_03 27:40

Yeah, I understand.

SPEAKER_01 27:41

Okay, you know what? Whatever. You ain't gotta believe it. Go ahead. What keeps what keeps our friendship strong after all this time?

SPEAKER_03 27:48

Laughing, joking, I don't laugh. Honesty.

SPEAKER_01 27:51

Your jokes are corny. Your mom's corny, but still she will hear this and she will let you know.

SPEAKER_02 27:56

I love you, mom. Um what's something uh what's something you admire about me that people other people may not see?

SPEAKER_00 28:04

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 28:04

Don't say my ass.

SPEAKER_00 28:06

That's where I went.

SPEAKER_02 28:07

Don't say my ass. What's something else about me that you admire that others probably don't see?

SPEAKER_01 28:14

I think everything that I admire, but people see. I think um, I think people see your character, how loving you are, how sociable you are, you know, you're about to fight. I you know, I am I admire I'm not I'm not those things, so I admire. You know, always so people like you always say, Maurice, you're sociable. No, I'm not. I'm I just I've learned to be sociable through my wife. My default setting is leave me the fuck alone, let me stay home.

SPEAKER_02 28:41

But then you realize you can't be that way when there's play dates.

SPEAKER_01 28:45

Yeah, actually, I can't. Actually, I can't. I'm like, is the fathers gonna be there? They're not? Oh, have fun. Have fun. Bye bye. Seems like a daughter mommy outing.

SPEAKER_02 28:55

Yeah, had me out till 10 o'clock at night.

SPEAKER_01 28:57

No, she had you out till 10 o'clock at night.

SPEAKER_02 28:59

What keeps our friendship strong all the time? I just asked you that question.

SPEAKER_01 29:03

I just asked you that question. Did you? Yep.

SPEAKER_02 29:05

Uh-oh. I'm not following Digital.

SPEAKER_01 29:07

Did you not?

SPEAKER_02 29:08

Um, who's more organized? Um I feel like that depends.

SPEAKER_01 29:11

Um, digitally me.

SPEAKER_02 29:13

I was gonna say, I feel like that depends. And now if we're talking about like real world you. Yeah, I feel like if we're talking about like like you said, digital. Yeah, because you know me, I put everything on the desktop.

SPEAKER_01 29:24

I have a very, very, very, very my computer has to be organized.

SPEAKER_02 29:28

I don't have mine is organized.

SPEAKER_01 29:30

It's not. Yeah, it is. It drives me crazy. I can find everything I need on the desktop, and I can find everything I need in my room that's not put away. So we we are just we are just different in that way.

SPEAKER_02 29:41

Our organizational skills are different.

SPEAKER_01 29:43

Who is uh who's more affectionate?

SPEAKER_02 29:45

Who's more what?

SPEAKER_01 29:46

Affectionate. Probably you for sure it's me.

SPEAKER_02 29:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:50

Because I was loved as a child.

SPEAKER_02 29:51

Oh wow. I hope you hear that, mom.

SPEAKER_01 29:54

I was loved as a child.

SPEAKER_02 29:55

He's trying to say you didn't love me enough.

SPEAKER_01 29:57

No, she she was struggling. She didn't have she couldn't love you.

SPEAKER_02 30:05

She had to work. She had time to love me. My mother loved me very much. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 30:11

You know what I heard when I said that? Whatever, whatever, Maurice.

unknown 30:15

Whatever.

Our Perfect Day Together

SPEAKER_01 30:19

What does a perfect day look like to you?

SPEAKER_02 30:21

What does a what?

SPEAKER_01 30:22

A perfect day.

SPEAKER_02 30:23

Date or day?

SPEAKER_01 30:24

Day of us being together like.

SPEAKER_02 30:26

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 30:26

Yeah, go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 30:27

Go ahead. So we get ready for the morning, we go have breakfast, we have our coffee, our decaf together, we have a great morning conversation, we go over our goals, we talk about business, um, and then, you know, us, and then we go and we grab another drink because the day just goes by better when you have a drink. So then we go and grab another drink and then these are non-alcoholic drinks, by the way. Yeah, I don't mean, I mean like a like a smoothie or like an iced coffee or something like that. A cold drink. Thank you. A cold drink. Now, this could be one of two things. So we could either go to some of our favorite spots, we can go thrifting, like that's really exciting.

SPEAKER_01 31:07

We could go like I do love a good thrift store.

SPEAKER_02 31:09

Oh my gosh. Yes. Thrift stores and museums. That's how you know I'm over. That's that's the per that's like a perfect day. Like we can hit up some thrift stores, then hit up a couple of museums, then stop and have some lunch, you know.

SPEAKER_01 31:21

Sounds boring, but it's fine.

SPEAKER_02 31:22

Really? Boring but you wouldn't get excited for that.

SPEAKER_01 31:25

But boring is fun to me.

SPEAKER_02 31:27

Exactly. Exactly. I like that. Because we like stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 31:30

Do you? Yes, we do.

SPEAKER_02 31:32

Um, okay, mine isn't up anymore, so go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 31:35

Wow. You need to get better at this. This is crazy.

SPEAKER_02 31:38

Okay, who spends money without thinking about it?

SPEAKER_01 31:40

You do, because I make it. Okay. Um no, I think about it after it's spent. I think about it as I'm swiping. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 31:50

Swiper, no swiping.

SPEAKER_01 31:52

But like, mmm, we did that. She brought this much left over. Yeah, okay. Yeah, well, what else we need for the week? Yeah, I got this.

SPEAKER_02 31:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 31:59

That's what I do.

SPEAKER_02 31:59

What's your favorite tradition or routine that we have as a couple?

SPEAKER_03 32:03

Okay, never mind. You want to know the truth?

SPEAKER_02 32:05

No, I don't.

SPEAKER_03 32:06

You want to know the truth? No. Huh? No.

SPEAKER_02 32:09

It involved clapping. Okay. Some macaroni and cheese. Okay. Bye, Maurice. What dream? What dream are we currently working on uh together? Well, you can skip that because we don't have to discuss our dreams and what we're currently working on together.

SPEAKER_01 32:24

I think we're working on growing this uh platform here.

SPEAKER_02 32:27

Oh, yeah, that's one of them. Damn.

SPEAKER_01 32:28

Okay, that's gonna tell them about your other dreams. Okay, whatever. I'm not in those.

SPEAKER_02 32:31

Because I'm I'm a firm believer, like some things you keep close to the chest.

SPEAKER_01 32:35

All right.

SPEAKER_02 32:35

Um, what adventure or trip is at the top of your bucket list?

SPEAKER_01 32:39

I want to go to Japan.

SPEAKER_02 32:40

Yeah. Same.

SPEAKER_01 32:42

I do too. I just want to go to the Naruto Museum. Oh, I just oh, I want to go to eat. Okay. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 32:51

I mean, we I want to check out the convenience stores that I see on Instagram. Okay. I mean, they they their convenience stores are like and so served. Um,

Advice for Couples Getting Married

SPEAKER_02 33:01

what advice would you give a couple that's about to get married?

SPEAKER_01 33:04

Don't do it. This shit is ghetto.

SPEAKER_02 33:08

You're such an ass wife.

SPEAKER_01 33:10

I say that to everybody. I say don't get married.

SPEAKER_02 33:14

The shit is ghetto.

SPEAKER_01 33:15

It's ghetto over here. It's ghetto.

SPEAKER_02 33:18

No, it's not.

SPEAKER_01 33:18

You know, you really have to be with someone that you can have fun with uh daily because you can joke with. Because there's gonna be a lot of days where you're gonna look across the room be like, I can really choke this motherfucker right now.

SPEAKER_02 33:32

I've never looked at you like I could choke you.

SPEAKER_01 33:34

I looked at you that way today.

SPEAKER_02 33:35

Stab you, maybe.

SPEAKER_01 33:37

Often choke you never. Stab is crazy.

SPEAKER_02 33:39

Yeah, I feel like it'll take a lot of energy, and plus you would fight back.

SPEAKER_01 33:42

I would just say make sure this is what you want.

SPEAKER_02 33:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:44

Because I do I feel like in today's age, people a lot of people get married for the title and just to say my husband, my wife. And so I mean, just make sure that that that you're gonna be able to honor the commitment you're making and don't take it lightly. That's what I would say.

SPEAKER_02 33:58

I would say, um, have you seen them um like in a crisis? Or have you seen them at their worst? And if you have, if you have I never saw you at your worst, did you were you able to handle their reactions? Okay, I see what you're going. Right?

SPEAKER_01 34:16

So do you know, do you really know all that?

SPEAKER_02 34:18

Yeah, exactly. Right. When when when anger is on 10, is it still manageable?

Reliving Our Favorite Relationship Moments

SPEAKER_02 34:25

Do you still feel like you can handle that? Is that something that you can help your partner through? You know what I mean? Like stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 34:32

If you could relive one day in our relationship, what would it be? And why?

SPEAKER_02 34:36

If I could what?

SPEAKER_01 34:37

Relive one day in our relationship? In our marriage.

SPEAKER_02 34:40

The birth of our child.

SPEAKER_01 34:41

Really? That's what you're thinking?

SPEAKER_02 34:42

Yeah. That was a wedding, our wedding day or the birth of our child. But that's the first one that comes to mind is the birth of our child. Because I feel like I feel, I feel like that day was like I was just, I was on the day she was born. We were just like on a different, a different level. Like I saw you in a new light, I was holding my baby, I was, I was feeling like a new person. And then having all three of us there. Right. And then all three of us, like when we were together, like when she when we got back to the room and I was holding her, and you were there and you had your arm around me and we were holding her. I was just like, this, if I could bottle this feeling up, like pour it into a little container and just take a hit of that every once in a while, like that's that was that was life perfection. That was life perfection for me. It's like I didn't think there could be perfect moments in life, but that was a perfect moment in life. Oh, okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

You want to know my answer?

SPEAKER_02 35:43

Oh, yeah, I do. You don't care? Okay, Demel. See? You finna have something, you finna have an eyelash that's about to attack you. No, come here. It's gonna easy. It's gonna attack you. Okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 35:52

You just want to hit me. Okay. Uh I have a couple of days I would relive. Okay. My favorite day, we wasn't even married yet.

SPEAKER_02 35:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 35:58

We were still in high school.

SPEAKER_02 36:00

Is it bling bling? Yes. You look so adorable when you say we were on our way to school. No, we were in school.

SPEAKER_01 36:10

Who's in the hallway?

SPEAKER_02 36:12

I think I thought we were in the car. We have this debate all the time.

SPEAKER_01 36:15

We were in the hallway, and you was like, Oh, I gotta put some more lip gloss on before I go in class because I guess your lips were getting dry or whatever. And you're and I said, Oh, I said, Oh, your lip gloss is popping. You was like, Yeah, it's like bling bling bling bling. It was so corny, and it was the first corny thing you had ever said that made me laugh because you put your whole body into it.

SPEAKER_02 36:32

And it just, I was like, He still remembers that to this day. And he always says, he was like, remember bling bling bling bling. And I'm like, I remember it, but I remember it in a completely different way than he does.

SPEAKER_01 36:43

That was hilarious. What was the other one? Uh, I would relive our old person date.

SPEAKER_02 36:47

Oh, yeah. How we would go on a date at like eight in the morning.

SPEAKER_01 36:50

We hit we hit that hit that ihopper Denny special. Yeah. Hit a matinee movie, do a little shopping, be home by home by three. Yeah. As soon as the young people hit the streets, be home. As soon as the young people sit the streets. I wouldn't um I wouldn't relive the day she was born. Why? I would relive her second birthday.

SPEAKER_03 37:10

Oh, that was a good day, too. That was a good day.

SPEAKER_01 37:13

Her second war in San Diego. We went out to yeah. And that that that that's what I would relive.

SPEAKER_02 37:17

Yeah, because she was still really little. Yeah. Oh, don't make me cry because my baby is. I mean, she's still a baby, but she's not like a baby baby. No, she did not tell you off. Don't lie. What you're not gonna do.

SPEAKER_01 37:29

What is uh what's one thing you hope people learn from watching your marriage?

SPEAKER_02 37:33

Um,

What People Can Learn From Our Marriage

SPEAKER_02 37:34

that when you go through tough things, that you can get to the other side of it.

SPEAKER_01 37:40

I just say don't copy me.

SPEAKER_03 37:43

Be better. Be better.

SPEAKER_01 37:45

Because I messed up a lot.

SPEAKER_03 37:47

Be better.

SPEAKER_01 37:48

I I keep I keep my bad in the tuck. She she she just look at me. I'm like, my bad. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 37:59

I keep my bad in the tuck.

SPEAKER_01 38:00

I'll do better.

SPEAKER_02 38:01

Yeah, I just I I mean, and that's what I would. I mean, even for our child, if I think about it in terms of her, I would hope that she looks at us and grows up to know.

SPEAKER_01 38:11

She's the worst.

SPEAKER_02 38:12

She is not the worst.

SPEAKER_01 38:13

Um, she's the worst on me. Dad, is that is that how a man treats his wife?

SPEAKER_02 38:18

No, what did she tell you today? She told me.

SPEAKER_01 38:19

Are you acting like a good husband?

SPEAKER_02 38:22

She told him today. She was like, Are you gonna act like a man or you're gonna act like a boy? I'm just kidding. What's it? I said, Oh, you cleaned that up real good because you was gonna get popped in the mouth. I said, Why are you coming for me? She was like, Are you gonna act like a man or you're gonna act like a boy? Just kidding. I said, Oh, she was coming for you. My bad.

SPEAKER_05 38:41

She's coming for me.

SPEAKER_02 38:42

All right, my turn. All right. Um, okay, we're gonna do some rapid fire. Okay. I can be clear. Um, am I a morning person or night owl? Me or you? Me. Night owl. Morning person, you are. Uh beach vacation or mountain getaway for me. Both.

SPEAKER_01 38:57

Yeah. For you. You just want to be away. It don't matter where.

SPEAKER_02 39:01

Right. Um

Rapid Fire Couple Questions

SPEAKER_02 39:03

What about for me? For for you, I say beach.

SPEAKER_00 39:06

Mountain.

SPEAKER_02 39:07

No. Yes. No.

SPEAKER_00 39:08

I prefer the mountain.

SPEAKER_02 39:09

Okay. Uh, cook together or order takeout for me.

SPEAKER_00 39:12

Cook together.

SPEAKER_02 39:12

For you, take out. For me, take out. For you to cook together. Um, stay in.

SPEAKER_01 39:17

Stay in. I don't never want to go nowhere. Stay in.

SPEAKER_02 39:21

Okay, for me, coffee or tea. Oh, coffee. Coffee or tea.

SPEAKER_01 39:25

Depending on the time of day, but mostly I would say tea.

SPEAKER_02 39:28

Yes, I was gonna say tea.

SPEAKER_01 39:29

For you, coffee. Road trip or fly?

SPEAKER_02 39:32

Oh fly. Fly, yeah. Now I'm just not a good partner on road trips.

SPEAKER_01 39:36

Here's the thing four three to four years ago, I would have said road trip. But after we went off to my green party, I said I'm too old for this shit. Give me a I'm on the plane.

SPEAKER_02 39:46

Uh for me, sweet or savory.

SPEAKER_01 39:48

Savory. I'm sweet. You are sweet.

SPEAKER_02 39:53

For me, text all day or talk um at night. Neither. Exactly. And for you, text and talk at night. Uh for me, am I a planner or am I spontaneous?

SPEAKER_01 40:04

Spontaneous.

SPEAKER_02 40:05

You think so?

SPEAKER_01 40:06

Yeah. You're a planner. Um yeah. If it ain't on the schedule, it ain't happening.

SPEAKER_02 40:09

Me. Who uh who apologizes first? Me. You. Yeah. Who takes longer to get ready? Me. Mm-hmm. Who's more romantic? Me. Who's more stubborn? You. And who's more likely to cry during a movie? You.

SPEAKER_01 40:25

Me.

SPEAKER_02 40:26

Oh. Like how you were just crying over.

SPEAKER_04 40:30

I was watching Coco crying. Mama Coco. I was like, you were sitting there crying. I was like, you've seen the movie already. Don't forget him, Coco. Love it. Don't forget him, Delhi.

SPEAKER_03 40:46

That's crazy work, Debelle. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 40:49

We give you our blessing. No conditions. To go home. No, she said no conditions.

SPEAKER_02 40:54

I said I like when she goes, to go home.

SPEAKER_01 40:57

That's the first time. To put up our photo. Okay, we're gonna hop into if we knew then.

SPEAKER_02 41:04

If we knew then, okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 41:06

If we knew then. Now I now she asked me to give her these early. I don't think it's gonna make a difference, y'all.

SPEAKER_03 41:11

It doesn't.

SPEAKER_01 41:12

But here we go. If we knew then how quickly resentment grows, what issue will we have addressed

If We Knew Then: Resentment and Finances

SPEAKER_01 41:19

immediately?

SPEAKER_02 41:20

Finances. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 41:23

That's a good answer. I was gonna say the same thing.

SPEAKER_02 41:25

Yes, finances.

SPEAKER_01 41:26

I was gonna say the same thing. Yeah. I felt like we both went through our financial journey a little differently. I felt like we I felt like now we're on the same page, but earlier, we were different.

SPEAKER_03 41:37

Yeah.

unknown 41:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 41:39

It was a lot.

SPEAKER_01 41:40

It was it was it was a lot. It was what?

SPEAKER_02 41:42

It was it was a long it was what?

SPEAKER_01 41:44

It was a long. It was a long.

SPEAKER_02 41:45

I was like, I was like, because you know, when the money was separate, oh it was easy to ball out. I could I could go to old navy, but now you're telling me the money is together, and I can't get a couple of times. Oh no, that don't work for me.

SPEAKER_01 41:59

When the money was separate, and I'd be like, Can you just cover my half until next week? You was fine with that.

SPEAKER_02 42:04

And then when the money combined, I was like, Oh, you get to see everything. I don't understand how I feel like I'm broker now that the money is together. That don't make sense to me.

SPEAKER_01 42:13

Because you started because the money was together, so everything was coming out the same pot. So you know. So you started seeing you started, you started to see how much exactly I was paying.

SPEAKER_02 42:20

Yeah, I was like, I didn't like that. You can just, you know.

SPEAKER_01 42:23

You remember how you used to hide your uh retail bags in your car?

SPEAKER_02 42:26

First of all, I never hid my retail bags in the trunk. I just never brought them in the house. Okay, it is not the same thing. I wasn't hiding them, I just forgot them. I just forgot them.

SPEAKER_01 42:38

Oh your car because you knew I wouldn't get in, because you know, the only time I got in your car was a good gas, you know, I wasn't looking back there. And then you would slowly bring in a little bring shit in a little at a time.

SPEAKER_02 42:46

I would just forget them because I'd be so tired after working. Okay, and I didn't want to carry all those bags upstairs.

SPEAKER_01 42:52

And now all you do now is you um go pick shit up while I'm not while I'm at work, so I don't see it.

SPEAKER_02 42:57

No, I don't.

SPEAKER_01 42:57

Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_02 42:58

I don't have to hide anything.

SPEAKER_01 43:00

All right, I don't have to hide anything.

SPEAKER_02 43:01

Okay, all right. Um, let's hop into the comments.

SPEAKER_01 43:04

The comment of the week, people. Okay, we have two comments this week. You know, last week's post was kind of they're all kind of serious. So I didn't, we didn't joke. So this will be serious comment. The first post is uh I believe this is from Instagram. Um what is it referring to then? No, I'm sorry. This is from YouTube. This is this is from the grandma that was doing so much for her grandson. Um,

Comment of the Week

SPEAKER_01 43:27

we do have an upgrade for that. And this is an upgrade. Update. Oh, you see. Sorry, I didn't say upgrade. Uh, we have an update for that, but this is about the grandmother who was um, you know, basically supporting uh uh her grandson as much as she could and when she needed a favor.

SPEAKER_02 43:42

Um it was a whole it was a falling out with the son, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 43:46

Um so uh Michelle on YouTube says it's time to detach with love. And I couldn't agree more. Yeah, I think I said the same thing. Um, that, you know, just pull back a little bit.

SPEAKER_02 43:57

Just pull back, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 43:58

You know, you don't want to hurt. Nobody else was feeling.

SPEAKER_03 44:01

There's givers and there's takers.

SPEAKER_01 44:05

So this next one, uh, this and this the final one. This comes from about the post about where her mother asked, uh volunteered to raise her son because she was too young and she had that whole situation with the 43-year-old man.

SPEAKER_03 44:19

Oh, she got pregnant for a 43-year-old man when she was 16.

SPEAKER_01 44:22

And this is from Instagram, and it comes from uh Crystal's Rubies. And she said, Where is a father? I like to have a little talk with him. Now look here. We it ain't gonna be much talking. I have no words. I have only action. I even comment under this, I said I have no words, nothing but actions. And then somebody was like, Well, now you ain't gonna come outside and say, You right, I'm gonna I'll sit around the corner. And when he steps outside, I I hit the corner.

SPEAKER_03 44:46

Bye. Goodbye.

SPEAKER_01 44:48

So those are the comments. Uh yeah, everything was serious, man. I I just I really we do have updates on both of those stories, but I just really hope that um you know, it just you know, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 45:01

What do you what do you really hope?

SPEAKER_01 45:03

What is your what is your hope? I just hope that people do better.

SPEAKER_03 45:07

I hope that people do better.

SPEAKER_01 45:08

I feel bad for grandma because I feel like she she really was just leading with love and then wasn't precipitated, so you know.

SPEAKER_02 45:15

Okay, so let's see. I'm gonna go in with the uh update.

SPEAKER_01 45:22

Oh, okay. Let me see. All right, y'all. Now we're gonna go on. We're gonna hop into these updates

Update: Grandma Pulls Back Her Support

SPEAKER_01 45:26

then, I guess.

SPEAKER_02 45:26

Okay, so the first update is gonna be in reference to the uh grandma that we just talked about, who was doing a lot for her grandchild her grandchild. She basically was raising the grandchild, and she ended up asking, you know, a favor of the grandchild to watch his his cousin, and the father of her grandchild didn't appreciate it and kind of went off on her and like kind of went left field with it. So um the follow-up, okay, so some of the things she made clear. She says, My grandson lives with his dad, but he is my daughter's child. So it's not, it's not, that's not her son's child, it's her daughter's um, the her daughter's child. My daughter's unable to care for him as she suffers from an illness. So his dad is not my biological son. So that makes sense. Although I have treated him such because he is my ex-son-in-law and genuinely he is a good dad, in the sense that he's always been present for my grandson. I appreciate that because as a black man, he is not just present, but he's active. Yes, I pay for karate, but he takes him to practice every day, shows up to every competition, etc. But now that he has his first black belt, I'm done paying for that.

SPEAKER_01 46:36

Amen.

SPEAKER_02 46:38

Um, as a follow-up to the night in question, I found out that my grandson's father woke up and put hands on my grandson out of frustration because my grandson didn't understand why his dad had had an issue with my uh bringing over my younger grandson, which is his first uh cousin, his uh first cousin to the oldest grandson, right? So, yes, I sat dad down and shared with my ex-son-in-law how I felt about the reaction to my grandson and his response to my bringing him over there, because he didn't seem to understand why I would think bringing him over without his permission was okay. I expressed how I felt about reciprocity and had to unfortunately remind him of some of the things that I have done out of kindness and what it means to be reciprocal in healthy relationships. While he admitted he was asleep until he heard my grandson was there, he said his peace means more to him than anything, and added that because he felt that I was a woman who, in his opinion, wasn't raised by a man, that I had no right to tell him how to be one. Okay. So he felt it was perfectly okay to refuse access to my younger grandson and said that I shouldn't do anything for them if I'm going to expect anything in return. He also said I had no right to feel like I had the right to expect my grandson to do anything because he is not my child. He said enough to help me understand we weren't the kind of family I thought we were. I thought we were bonded in love, but I've come to understand we're bonded by my grandson and nothing more. Both grandchildren were upset about that night, hurt by the circumstances that occurred, and by now, um, and by how it has drastically changed the dynamic and how we all interact in the future going forward. I explained as best as I could to both independently, apologize to my oldest for putting him in a compromising position with his dad. I explained reciprocity to him and vowed to never take my younger grandson back over there. They will hang out together at my house when they come over once a month. And yes, I'm done doing anything for that household. I also required he pay for the Wi-Fi at the start of this month, which he has. And going forward, school clothes this coming year and beyond are completely on him. So, yes, Maurice, I've taken the titty out of his mouth. LOL.

SPEAKER_01 49:06

Congratulations. I'm happy.

SPEAKER_02 49:09

So happy for me.

SPEAKER_01 49:11

You know what? Oh my God. I'm so sick of men talking about trying to use peace as an excuse for everything. Shut your bitch ass up.

SPEAKER_02 49:21

Because I don't even think that I was I'm trying to think about how that how that plays a part.

SPEAKER_01 49:27

Yeah, I mean, wouldn't he cause it a ruckus? Like this this motherfucker done heard somebody say some shit on a clip or a podcast, and now I mean nothing against podcasts. But nothing against podcasts. First of all, you create your own piece, yeah. Yeah. And honestly, a little a little boy be in your house for a couple minutes, a couple hours, so wouldn't it would it wouldn't disturb you, nigga? You was already asleep. Well, that's what I'm thinking was all them boys a quiet dance.

SPEAKER_02 49:52

Right. I was like, was he was he loud? Was he rambunctious? Like, I'm trying to figure that out. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 49:57

I'm gonna say I know I know a lot of women that uh had no fathers is doing quite well from themselves.

SPEAKER_02 50:03

Right. Well, he was just saying that he feels as though she can't understand where he's coming from.

SPEAKER_01 50:07

My question is, what did your father teach you? Because apparently your father didn't teach you respect for your elders or for yourself or yourself. Yeah, uh because your father wouldn't have would have told you don't bite the hand that feed because what you just did was limit the experience of your son's life. Yeah. So you selfish. I don't think you're ready to be a father.

SPEAKER_02 50:28

And you, but here's the thing, too. Even if that's how he felt, I do think maybe he could have handled it a different way. Like, okay, maybe the situation happened, whatever, and then you could call her over and be hate be like, hey, just going forward, um, because I wasn't aware I was sleep going forward. If you could reach out to me and just like ask me or let me know if such and such needs to come over here for a few hours and then that we can have that conversation, but maybe just dropping him off, you know what I mean? Without my knowledge, like I just wasn't cool with that. That's it. Right. It doesn't have to be this long drawn-out thing or making things awkward. Anywho.

SPEAKER_01 51:02

So we have another update.

SPEAKER_02 51:04

Oh, you have that one.

SPEAKER_01 51:05

We have more updates, yeah. So this update is about the I put my glasses on so I can see this shit. So you don't make fun of me. This update is about uh the higher expectations about the husband who came home twice a day, but he wanted his wife to have the house clean and she he wanted her to work out and all this other bullshit. He was tripping. So um, this is her update.

SPEAKER_03 51:25

You want me to read it?

SPEAKER_01 51:26

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 51:27

Okay. Go ahead. So you yeah, you already told him what okay. So the update is she says he stayed with the kids when he came home. He stayed with the kids for exactly 12 hours, and by the sixth hour, he was calling to tell me to come home, which I didn't.

Update: Husband Learns Stay-at-Home Parenting Is Work

SPEAKER_02 51:44

Um, she said, My husband is against chicken nuggets and always states that I should just make them homemade. But he called upset that there were no nuggets for our toddlers. He cooked one homemade meal for the both of our kids, and none of them wanted to eat it. He tried to take a nap in the middle of the day and having our toddler watch a movie, which he's strictly against screen time, but whatever. Um, and our baby woke up. He didn't shower, he didn't brush his teeth, he didn't eat, he didn't shit in the bathroom for a half hour because he was watching kids. Uh, he didn't work out, the kids didn't eat, and the house was a mess. After a lot of trying to make excuses of why it was harder for him, he admitted that we received the same amount of stress, which was the most I got from him. LOL. On this day, I had a massage, went shopping for two hours, sat down at a buffet and ate and stayed at my mom's house until bedtime. The best thing I could have done was to let him see for himself. And now my three-year-old uh stayed uh started a part-time 3k program. Life is starting to look a little better. So he he understood.

SPEAKER_01 52:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 52:55

He understood.

SPEAKER_01 52:56

It ain't no fun when a rabbit got the gun.

SPEAKER_02 52:58

He understood. You didn't get in there and make uh homemade chicken nuggets and homemade batter. Nope. You didn't, you know, you put as soon as you had a chance and as soon as you got tired, you put him right in front of a screen. But when he would but you know, because I'm home all day, you don't want him on the screen because what else am I doing? Right. My presence is there, so he doesn't have to be on the screen all day. I wonder why he didn't get nothing done. That's crazy. Having a toddler and not being able to take a nap in the middle of the day? That's crazy. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 53:25

So then the update, another update to the uh the bad day. Um,

Update: Food Stamp Cashier Complaint

SPEAKER_01 53:30

she just said that she did eventually end up calling corporate. But she but she was hesitant.

SPEAKER_02 53:36

This is about the what the cashier the cashier made the unsavory comment about the girl using her transaction. Yeah, using her EBT because she had a pedicure and a manicure, which she got bought for her as a birthday game.

SPEAKER_01 53:47

So she just said she did call corporate. She didn't say what store it was, um, but she said at the same time she didn't she didn't feel like the girl should be fired over.

SPEAKER_03 53:53

Because she didn't want somebody to lose their job.

SPEAKER_01 53:55

She was nice, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 53:56

She was nice.

SPEAKER_01 53:57

So, and then the final update is about um her uh

Update: Teen Mom and Her Mother’s Help

SPEAKER_01 54:03

the 43-year-old in the in the in the world.

SPEAKER_02 54:06

And the 16 in the 16-year-old, and how she wanted her mom to raise her son while she went to school to get her life together.

SPEAKER_01 54:11

So, here are the here are some of the clarifications. The co-worker was arrested as soon as the relationship became alive, so he is in jail, so therefore, she's not gonna get no uh financial support from the biological father because he's in jail. Yeah, um, and the grandmother is not trying to take uh the child permanently, she just wants to help her out. And so, and she said that she's right at this moment, she's leaning towards um allowing her mother to help her raise her son.

SPEAKER_02 54:41

I mean, you gotta do what's but what you think is best for you in your situation. Okay, so let's hop on into my favorite section, our two sets. Our two sets. Okay, this one says, um, am I the asshole for refusing to let my brother move back into my house after he ignored our agreement the first time? No. Um, about two years ago, my younger brother lost his job and asked if he could stay with me for a couple of months while he got back on his feet. I have a spare bedroom, so I said yes. We agreed he would contribute what he could towards groceries, keep the room clean, and actively look for work. Okay.

Our 2 Cents Begins

SPEAKER_02 55:19

The first month was fine, but after that, things started slipping. He stopped applying

Brother Wants to Move Back In

SPEAKER_02 55:25

for jobs as often, stayed up all night gaming, slept through the day, and rarely cleaned up after himself. He wasn't paying rent, which I'd already expected, but he also stopped helping the groceries or chores. Every time I brought it up, he'd apologize and promise things would improve. They usually did for a week before going right back to how things were before. What was supposed to be two months turned into almost nine months. Eventually, I told him he needed to make other arrangements because I felt more like his parent than his sibling. He moved in with a friend shortly afterward. And while he was upset, we eventually got past it. Recently, his landlord decided to sell the house that he's renting, and he asked if he could come stay with me again for just a few weeks until he found another place. I told him no. I said I wasn't willing to repeat what happened before. He insisted that he had changed, has a steady job now, and that I'm holding his worst year against him forever. Our parents think that I'm being too harsh because this time it's an emergency. And they've pointed out that he did eventually get his life together. My brother says that I'm punishing him for mistakes he's already apologized for. I don't want him to end up without a place to stay, but I also don't want to put myself back into a situation that caused months of stress. Am I being an asshole?

SPEAKER_01 56:52

No, no, no, no, no, or the parents had.

unknown 56:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 56:56

Yeah, go stay with your parents.

SPEAKER_01 56:57

Since they're so goddamn concerned.

SPEAKER_02 56:58

Yeah, go stay with your parents. But here's the problem that I have. The problem that I have is that when you when you finally have to tell someone no, that you've told yes many times before. This whole idea that they they they get this this sense like you've never told them yes before. I said no, you asked me to come. You've asked me before if you can come live with me. You've come to live with me. That didn't pan out the way it needed to. And now you're asking to come live with me again. Listen, this time, bro, I love you. And you do have a job. So it's not like you have a job, you have a car, like it's not like you don't have means. You have means, and I do love you. And of course, I don't want to see you stranded, but I mean, I could help you look for another place, I can help you look for a temporary shelter. But unfortunately, at this moment, I just can't deal with the stress of what could potentially happen again that happened the first time. And at this point, I also have to look out for myself because myself and I are important as well. Just like you're important, I'm important. Okay, you know?

SPEAKER_01 58:02

Okay, you done?

SPEAKER_02 58:03

Really?

SPEAKER_01 58:04

I'm just asking. That's rude. I don't want to cut you off. You're rude. As I've said before, I've said it again, the rules are different from men. No. And I'm pretty sure this selling of the house wasn't abruptly. Oh no, yeah, you've known that. So he already had a window where he had to stop paying rent to find somewhere else to go. So you should have been looking for another place.

SPEAKER_02 58:24

Yeah, you're right. No, you're right.

SPEAKER_01 58:25

No, let us ask sleep in the car. I said last week, struggle builds character.

SPEAKER_03 58:30

Okay. I can't.

SPEAKER_02 58:32

Um,

Ex-Girlfriend Can’t Afford the Rent

SPEAKER_02 58:33

am I the asshole for leaving my ex-girlfriend to pay rent she can't afford?

SPEAKER_00 58:38

Okay.

unknown 58:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 58:40

My ex, uh, who's a 22-year-old female and I'm a 25-year-old male, broke up at the end of April. I let her take over the lease of my old place and I left July 1st to get my own place again. The moment we broke up and mentioned separate uh separate living arrangements, she was very adamant on taking over the lease. So she wanted to take over the lease. She didn't want to pay a new deposit on a place and she has all her stuff here and whatnot and would have been able to move it. I made it clear it's not smart for her to stay as the rent price is about 65% of her income. And after doing the math, it would be very tight on her end. She'd have like $200 a month left over at best, versus for me, it's about 35% of mine. And I was well over $1,000 a month, you know, left over after paying his rent. Um, I told her I'd gladly help her find a cheaper place, like a basement or a studio, which would be around 35 to 45% of her income, but she refused. She claims the studio was too small to fit all of her stuff and her cat, and she refuses to live under a household and to be controlled. She also said she didn't want to do any roommate situations because she's had bad experiences in the past and she can't go back home because her family lives about three hours from the city in the middle of nowhere. So this is all her decision. Okay. Well, she's had the place, and after making the first rent payment, she's already complaining that she'll be most likely living paycheck to paycheck because of this. And she's basically mad because apparently we should have just stayed living together and tried to reconcile the relationship. Obviously, this is fully her fault for not choosing a more uh for choosing a more expensive option, right? I tried to help her and warn her and she didn't listen.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:34

No, you're right. No, no, no, no, no, y'all broke up.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:41

Yeah. And like he said, I tried to help her.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:45

No, no, no, no, tell her to move in with her sister. Tell her the what? Move in with her sister.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:53

Move in with a sister, yeah. Or or hear me out.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:56

Her parents.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:57

Maybe you're just gonna have to try the whole uh basement studio or get a roommate. Oh, or or hear me out or second job. Oh there's solutions. There are solutions, but you and I didn't work. And I told you you ain't gonna be able to afford this place on your own without me. And I could have just been a dick and just like been like, okay, you told me that. Okay, I'm out July 1st, so it don't matter. But you didn't think fat meat was greasy.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:26

Oh my fat meat's a how old are you?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:31

Oh sporty.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:33

That was some black.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:34

Yeah. I know. You think my mom used to say that's meat. I know. Oh, you think fat meat ain't greasy. It is though. It is, it's very yeah. Bye, Maurice. All right, let's see. This one is it's asking, how do I handle my in-laws?

How Should She Handle Her In-Laws?

SPEAKER_01 1:01:47

You don't.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:49

It says, My husband and I both grew up poor, but that's where the similarities end.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:53

Damn, okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:55

My family is far from perfect, but we do have social skills and morals. Come on. She said, Q to the 4th of July. Okay. We decided to cook out and invite a few people, mostly his family, because it makes me crazy uncomfortable to have both of our families together. So she don't even like the families being together. First, his family has the combined emotional intelligence of a doorknob. His sister always has drama and complains a lot. She has two grown children. The daughter is a homeless drug addict in her 40s, and her son is 33 and dumb as a box of rocks. The daughter didn't come, and I was relieved because she's sketchy as fuck. But the son did. He's one of those that is constantly looking for approval and respect, but yet lives with and mooches off of his grandmother. Now, my husband can't find his watch. The nice one that I bought him for Christmas and that he loved, and he wore it daily. My husband is pretty confident that his nephew took the watch. I think this should be addressed. My husband says that the truth will eventually come out. It's his family, so okay. But eventually he will want his family over again, and that would have to be a discussion. My thought is hell no. Any thoughts on how this should be handled?

SPEAKER_01 1:03:16

Well, you know. I say cut your losses because if you go front of me, he's gonna deny it. Yeah. So it don't really matter. You know, the the general rule in our house is I deal with my family and she deal with her family.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:28

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:29

And um there's only been a couple times, well, there's only been a couple times I have I've had to deal with her family. She ain't never had to deal with mine because I don't play by my wife. I don't play with my wife. You know, you know he didn't.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:40

Um I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:40

I honestly don't know what to tell you. But I agree with you, babe. Like he's gonna deny it anyway.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:44

He's gonna deny it anyway. So that what I would say is cut your losses. Okay. And when your husband makes the uh comes up with the grand idea about his family coming back over, unfortunately, honey, we can meet your family somewhere, but your family can't come to this house. Because what I'm not finna do either is lock doors, put shit away. Like I'm at home. I'm at home. And if you're gonna come over here and be disrespectful, then you just can't come no more.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:10

I'm not finna watch my back in my belonging as in my house.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:13

In my house. That's what I'm saying. I'm not finna do all that. And then for your husband to even say, Well, that's my family. So he already knows how his family is. So now you're he's gonna completely understand. Your family can't, your family can't do that.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:25

That's my family. That's ooh, that's my in-laws.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:27

So bye, Maurice.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:28

All right, all right, y'all. That's it.

unknown 1:04:30

That's it. Go.

Closing: New Episodes Every Wednesday

SPEAKER_02 1:04:33

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