Our 2 Cents Vol. 34: Money, Pride, and Dating

Sometimes the biggest relationship red flags are not loud at first. They show up in the small choices, like canceling your girlfriend’s birthday dinner for a female coworker, letting your mother disrespect your wife, or pretending money does not matter when dating starts getting serious.

In Our 2 Cents Vol. 34, Nesha G and Moelethal bring their honest, funny, and seasoned perspective to a new round of relationship dilemmas. They talk through whether a man in his 40s with no money for dates deserves patience or concern, why financial transparency can be both admirable and uncomfortable, and how pride can ruin a good dating opportunity before it even gets started.

The episode also digs into deeper marriage territory, including work-wife boundaries, old-school expectations around men driving, and what happens when a husband refuses to defend his wife from his mother. Through every story, Nesha and Moe bring that real twenty-year chemistry, mixing jokes, truth, and life experience in a way that makes the listener laugh first and think deeper after.

Transcript

“We’re Gonna Run Inglewood”

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And I'll never forget, he told my mama he was like, We're gonna run Inglewood together. I'm gonna take care of her. I'm gonna run Inglewood. Yeah, my mom and my mom looked at him and she was like, Oh, you are? And he was like, Yeah. He was like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna be with her. And my mom was looking at him like, I don't think so, but I don't think he was in Eaglewood. I don't know where Eaglewood came from. I think he was just saying stuff. That was funny. Would you be here from Watts? That's it's wild.

Welcome Back to Life After I Do

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Hey everybody, and welcome back to another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. I hope you're all feeling super sweaty. I'm feeling great. Oh I was tired. I was talking to the people. But I'm great. They feeling good. Shout out to me. Did you say I'm tired, but I'm feeling great. Yeah. Shout out. We want to say thank you to the 30,000 on YouTube. 29 people who follow us on YouTube. It's more than that now. Okay, good. It's going up. We appreciate y'all. All the new booskies. Welcome, welcome, welcome. Welcome, welcome. Welcome all. Okay. Welcome near. Welcome, welcome far. Far out. You didn't even know. I don't know. Well, welcome. Yes. Thank you all for the new followers. So happy you could be here with us. And I hope I hope that the majority of y'all are on the petty committee. Because if that's where you are, that's where we are. That's where you are. And I'm not petty uh 24-7. Where we will be. What? I'm not petty. You know what? I'll make me a shirt that says that. I'm not petty 24-7. I'm not petty. That's crazy. Not 24-7, only 365. You know, you know what? I'm petty from beginning to end. Oh my.

Halfway Through 2026 Already

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365 days of the yeah. I hope everyone is doing well on this Wednesday. Um if you're listening on the day this comes out, which is all I wanna do. Um, what are we in? Oh my gosh. We're in June. June. June 26th. That came up so quick, so fast. Oh my gosh. We are halfway through the year, guys, halfway through 2026 already. And let me tell you, I know, okay, so we know it's graduation season, and this is to all my mamas and parents, fathers too, um, because everyone's been sharing their videos and stuff, and I haven't I haven't had a chance to do mine yet because we still have two more weeks left of school. But when I tell you, I have been going through it through it. I was just like, tell me why I was looking at all her kindergarten pictures. You were doing too much. I said, this baby is going to the fourth grade, and I feel like we literally just started kindergarten. She was like, Y'all gonna hear me talk about this until fourth grade starts. So if you don't want to hear about it, you can I don't know, you can move it along. I don't know. She said, She said, Dad, I'm growing up. She's so good. I said, Are you? She said, Yes. I'm about to be a fourth grader. Uh-huh. So you can't treat me like a third grader anymore. Oh, okay. I said, Well, luckily for you, you're still a third grader for two more weeks. And luckily for you, there's not that big of a difference between the treatment of a third grader and a fourth grader. But hey, Booski. Hi. How you doing? Um, like I said, I've been going through. You look good. Thank you, honey. I'm gonna take you through. Okay. While you're bullshitting. No. I mean, you might have to because you at this point. Now you want to restart? I was like, honestly, I was watching the one. I saw this video today, and she was like, she heard and her husband were doing the video, and she was like, okay, we're gonna take this pregnancy test. And the husband was like, uh, there should be like a ban or something. And she was like, What you mean? He was like, I'm 40. And she said, Okay, I'm 35. She was like, It's been 15 years since I had a baby. Although, I want you to know if if if a baby is something you want, I will help you make it. Okay. Get out of here. If a baby is something you want, I'll help you make it. But I will be at work, Russia. Okay, anyways. And then I went to the comments, and one lady said, oh my gosh, she's 55. She has a 32-year-old, and she's nine months pregnant now. Okay, what we got today? That's crazy. That's crazy. I said, 32. He said, How do you like your eggs? And she said, Fertilized. Fertilized for sure. How was your week, babe? My week was good. That's good. Good, good, good, good. What was the high point of your week? Um, you know what? I you know what? It surprised me. I actually had a good time in Sacramento celebrating my granny's birthday and being with my cousin. Shout out to Grandma Virginia turning 19. My cousin Mike is a fool. He's hilarious. He's the kind of fool I hang around with. We we can't hang out together. We can get in some trouble. Are you are you happy you got time to stay with your family? Yeah, you know, it was it was good. You know, one person didn't have to be there. Okay, bye. Um, you and your daughter both had, I mean, I had a great time too. I, you know, I love being around your family. But to say some time with Ashley, and you and Ashley talking about books. Yeah, it was fun. But your daughter, that's the one. She was she was loving it. She was loving it. I said, see, this is exactly why. She was loving it. I have to I have to make sure my baby, she even um, she met some new cousins. They linked up on their iPads, they was texting each other during breakfast yesterday. I said, okay, look at you. And then she was like, I have so many cousins, Mom. And I was like, girl, you do. You ain't even met that whole. You know, you have it. Because you got cousins, you got cousins on DAME. Right. And that's why, that's why I always say it's like, it's really, it's really important, you know. Like we all try to do what we can to make the effort when we can, you know. Um, but like how we were talking last week when we were thinking about like not going, and I was like, at this point, it's not whether we want to go or not, it's really just to ensure that she also knows her family. Like it's it's she's an only child. So I mean, we didn't already not by choice. Look, we didn't already did it wrong. Look, not by choice. Bye. I was like, we know we didn't already did the baby kind of wrong. You know what I'm saying? Did her wrong. Uh look here. She the one, she d she soaked up the budget. Okay, bye. Anywho, but yeah, it was a good week. My week was good. Uh-huh. My list's been good. Oh, yeah. Let me tell you what I did the other day. Oh, goodness, tell me. Your husband hit the butt stop. The butt stop? Yeah, a little stopper on the pigeon squat. Oh, uh-huh. I hit that. Nice. I said. I said, wait a minute. I said new goal unlocked. I said, wait a minute. I know I ain't got knees like Megan, but they're getting better. The more you do it, I say, my wife gotta watch out. I'm gonna come for that squat. Yeah. By all means. No, I don't want it. I don't want that on my back at all. Please, by all means. I like I told you, I was like, I'm so tempted just to just I just want to load it. I'm gonna just, I'm just gonna, for the hell of it, I'm gonna just load up 360 and just go for it and see what it feels like. Don't let don't let my cousin get get in your head. I didn't let your cousin get in your head. I'm gonna show you his videos. He bought that life, though. Okay, I love it. We should work out together one day. His brother talked about him. He was like dead lifting over 500 pounds. I ain't never gonna pick up and off the ground heavy than every than a couple pounds. Then a couple of pounds, that's not the boy. So, what about your family? He's just shit. They able bodied, they better move, they gotta keep walking. That's scandalous. I said, me and I said, me and Mike couldn't be close together. We'd be uh we into some tomfoolery. Oh well, I'm happy you enjoyed yourself. It it made it brought me joy to see you and your daughter have a great time and have joy. It really did. It really did. Anything else? I was trying to get some of that money my granny got. Bye. Your granny racked up. She wrapped boy! I was reading her the cards, and so what we started to do is we would get the cards, right? And I would tell her, I said, Granny, hold your hand out. I said, What we're gonna do is we're gonna open the cards first and then see if something falls out, then we'll read them. And she was like, Okay, so we were, oh, I have her hold her hands out like this, and then I'll open the card a little bit, and some money will fall out, and we look at each other, and she'd be like, Oh, I say, you is gonna be rich today. She broke a band. I know she's cash. I know she did. She broke a band and she had a couple checks and gift cards. Wait a minute, and then your cousin goes, Well, she was counting the money. She was like, Who bought her a gift card? And then uh your auntie and auntie Lisa, they both looked at me, and then she looked, I said, That was Maurice. That was not me. I said, That was your cousin. That was not me. She put my dad in the words. She was like, Who bought her a gift card? No, here's the thing. Here's the thing. I'm not putting cash on him, though. Here's the thing. The real problem is that I kept seeing my cousin sneaking her drinks. My granny was over there drinking peach chiroc and sprites. Oh, because you know why? She got it in her gift basket. But she got more than one. Yeah, they were showing it. And that's why she was over there. And that's why your cousin wouldn't, um, that's why your cousin, I asked him, because I was getting her peach cobbler. And then I asked your cousin, I said, can you do me a favor and cut her a slice of that real red velvet so she can have some for later? And he was like, no. And I was like, why not? I was like, before it's all gone. He was like, she ain't even supposed to be eating all that. And I what's funny is I thought about that when I just haphazardly went over there and I started getting her peach cobbler. And I was like, damn, I don't even think she's supposed to be eating this. Look here. I'm gonna tell y'all right now. My granny said she ain't she wasn't for the. But it was her day, she was gonna do it anyway. She's gonna live how she wanna live. Okay? I remember when my granny was alive. My granny messed that peach cobbler up. When she when my granny was alive, um, it was bacon. She wanted bacon. And I was like, granny, you are not supposed to have bacon. I'm not finna give you bacon. And you know what she said? I've been living all these years eating bacon. She said, if it ain't took me out now. It ain't gonna take me out. This piece today ain't gonna be the one. The few pieces that you fry up right now is not gonna be the one still. This ain't gonna be the one. She was like, girl, you know how long I've been eating bacon? I like that red ones. We're enough for the dude. I like that red on you. Thank you. My grandny was she basically said, You and my business. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. How was your week, Boosie? Uh, my week was good. Um, I had a good lifting session. That's good. I had a really good lifting session. Really? Get a get away from me. I like I like I like when you have good lifting sessions. Can you come home and I was listening to my gospel, I created a new gospel playlist. What's on it? No. Forever. Uh, I was listening to my my gospel playlist and you know, just trying to get my head right and talking to the Lord. Did you talk about it? He he did, got me through them lifts. Got me through. I had a really good session. I was like, I was feeling good. I was feeling energized. I was like, I feel strong. I said, I'm not gonna let nothing get to me during this session. This session, right? Her is me and the Lord. And it was great. Sometimes, like Pastor Mike said, sometimes you gotta realize that you Peter. Listen, Simon Peter. Well, we got today, booster. I can't. Um,

Our 2 Cents Begins

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you guys really loved last week's RT. No, no, no, no, no, no. Look here for guys. We're gonna do uh back to back because I told her I ain't thinking today. And you guys really liked it last week. So we said why. I uh sat down here with every intention of being as petty as possible. Otherwise, I'm gonna be asleep. So for the next 30 to 45 minutes, maybe an hour. You finna get a petty MF. What else is new? That's like not even new news. That's just you being you. Well, I do it well. Doing it and doing it and doing it. And doing it well. Hey, doing it and doing it. I never really care for uh J. What is it? What does it say? I represent Queen. She was raised out in Brooklyn. Hey, lover, he's stalking the girl the whole time. He was admiring her. Stalking. There's a difference okay. In the comments. Admiring. In the comments. Was LL being an admirer? Or was he on stalking tendencies? Which stalking. Which do you think it is? I don't think it was he said it's more than a crush. Yeah, it was a felony, is what it was. Okay, Damel. It was a felony. That's what it was. This is more it's a crush, it's a crush and a felony. Okay. I'm done. Why are you following around? Why not? Okay. Why not? This is more than a crush. Okay. Anywho, we're just gonna hop right on into it, guys. Let's get down to business. Now, some of these, I'm gonna be with you. Roy where it's it's blind. Well, you know, I love I love me a good raw session. Blind reactions. I love me. Okay. I love me a good raw session. Uh you're doing a lot right now. You're doing a lot. You're doing a lot. You're doing a lot. You started it. My red sweater. Okay. I was like, I'm not wearing red lipstick. Because I normally wear red lipstick. Excuse me. Okay. Excuse me. Let's go. Let's get it. Um, some of these are a little bit longer, too. So if it sounds like I'm trying to read them fast, that's why. Go ahead.

Would You Date a 47-Year-Old With No Date Money?

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Um, would you date a man in his 40s who doesn't have money to go on dates? Okay. It depends on why. Needing some advice. Let's go. I mean, I wouldn't date him, but you know. I'm a 35-year-old female matched with a man online who's 47. We went on one date that went really well. It was a casual restaurant. He returned to school about eight years ago and is currently finishing a graduate degree. Uh 47, and he went back to school. Okay. Uh, so it isn't like he's a less a lazy deadbeat. However, he has mentioned not having money and needing date ideas that cost little to nothing. Okay. That's a hell of a way to start, but I appreciate the honesty. Up front. For example, I mentioned going kayaking and he needed to either borrow a kayak or rent one, which would be about 40 bucks. He wasn't keen on spending that kind of money and mentioned not having money to spend. He asked if we could do something more relaxing, like watching a movie, but insisted he was not looking for a hookup. I believed him, and I believed it was genuine, but I'm struggling with the idea that he will not be able to do things like go to museums, bowling, movies, local events, etc. I'm not looking to go expensive restaurants or expecting someone to spend excessive amounts on dates. However, it is difficult to get to know someone who can pretty much only go on walks or hang out at home. I admired that he's returned to school and he stated that he expects a promotion upon him graduating. However, he is almost 50 and has had several careers over the years and apparently nothing to show for it. I understand times are tough, and I'm not well off by any means. I'd be willing to foot the bill sometimes and of course pay for myself. But am I being wrong for being concerned? No. Okay, here I got I got a lot of things here. So I can't wrong be petty and not okay here. Okay. This is not a situation where you want to be petty because now you're trying to be sympathetic. Yeah, I'm trying to. Okay, look here. Let's keep in mind that he's 47. Okay. The fact that he's 47, you should be concerned. Because he went back to school eight years ago. Right. And he's had multiple careers. Yes. So I mean, he could just be a dreamer. Either that or hear me out. He probably has a he probably has a very good savings and he's extremely frugal. Right. And that's because he knows like there's gonna be this time span where I'm not gonna be generating the amount of income that I once did. And so I'm going back to school in hopes to get that big promotion, and then I can just start researching. You don't know what he got saved. You don't. Two, uh, I will also say that you can get to know someone through conversation. You ain't gotta go somewhere to have conversations. I was gonna say, and taking a walk, I think, is really good. Like coffee dates are very intimate. I think I I feel like doing stuff like that, you get to know more about a person because you are you gotta have to figure out what they'll talk about. You ain't got no, you ain't got no distractions. That's who, but in all fairness, and you also get random situations that you will now know how he will react. Yeah. Because random occurrences. Well, what random situation? If the only thing we do is watch TVs and calls. Okay, but I'm saying if we go on our walks, is he walking on the inside or outside? Okay, baby. You learned that. That's like the first uh the first time we take a walk, though. Something coming towards you could be a hazard, could be a threat. How's he reacting? So you yeah, but if we go kayaking and then my my kayak flip over, how he gonna react to? He's gonna try to save me? He's gonna give up this kayak to get it. I would. You see what I mean? I would. See what I mean? Then I wouldn't go back out on a date with you either. I wouldn't. Because then you would show me to hell with my life. Because I wouldn't kayak, period. But I don't do things to threaten my life. That's not threatening your life. You can swim. The only thing I've done to threaten my life. And you wear a life jacket. The only thing I've done to threaten my life is get married. Okay, bye. Anyways, um I don't I don't think that it's like, I don't think you should feel bad for being concerned. No, no, no. That's the thing. First of all, you shouldn't feel bad. Second of all, you are still getting to know him. So there's no like hard commitments happening. How old was she? Um 35. Girl, uh third of all third of all, she's 35. Third of all, she also does have a point because even though, like, she said, I've said the same thing before. I don't need big extravagant dates, but it is nice to like be able to go out somewhere, do like a local activity or go to uh what you looking at me for? I know you're not giving me no look like I asked for extravagant dates because I'm gonna need you to count how many times you've taken me on an extravagant date. You don't, you don't many times. You don't, you don't, you don't have to. We have two different definitions of extravagant. Okay. All right, you we do. Two different definitions of extravagant. Okay, you're saying things. We're talking about dates. Yeah, I know. I am I am the date. That's a date. That's the problem right there. That's the fucking edge, right? Yeah, like I don't take you nowhere. That's the fucking edge. Bye. That's your favorite place. That's the fucking edge right there. Okay. Um, am I the asshole for getting mad at my boyfriend for backing out of my birthday dinner because of his female co-worker? Yep.

Boyfriend Cancels Birthday Dinner for Female Coworker

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Okay. I don't know. Let's see. Let's see what his reasoning is. All right. Am I the asshole for getting mad at my boyfriend for backing out of my birthday dinner because of his female coworker? Okay, so I'm a 20-year-old female and genuinely need outside opinions because my friends are split and my boyfriend thinks that I'm being dramatic. For context, my boyfriend who is 26 and I have been together for almost two years. Overall, things are good. We fight sometimes, obviously, but nothing huge. He's not super romantic naturally, but when he tries, he really tries, which is why this whole thing feels weird. My birthday was last weekend. Not a huge milestone or anything, but birthdays matter to me because growing up, mine were always kind of disappointing. My boyfriend knows this. We've had uh reservations for like three weeks at this restaurant that I've wanted to go to forever. The morning of my birthday, he texts me saying, Hey, I need to cancel dinner. I immediately was confused because what do you mean? Turns out one of his female co-workers was having a quote unquote really tough day because apparently her boyfriend dumped her and she asked if he could grab drinks after work because she quote unquote didn't want to be alone. I thought he meant maybe for like an hour or something. Nope. He wanted to completely cancel my birthday dinner. I called him because I genuinely thought he was joking and asked why she couldn't talk to literally anyone else. He says she doesn't really have people. I said, okay, but I'm your girlfriend. And then he hits me with, you're making this harder than it needs to be. That made me even more upset. Now, here's where maybe I might be the asshole. I asked him why she specifically needed him because this isn't the first time she's needed him for stuff. She texts him late. She calls him during work sometimes. He says she's just emotional and that I'm reading into things. I asked if he'd cancel her birthday dinner if I was having a rough day, and he went quiet. Then he said that I was making him choose between being a good person and being a good boyfriend. I told him if being a good person means canceling your girlfriend's birthday dinner to comfort another woman, maybe your priorities suck. Okay. We argued and he still went. So on my birthday, I ended up eating takeout on my couch with my roommates while my boyfriend was apparently at a bar listening to his coworker cry for hours. The part making me feel crazy is he says that I'm being controlling because I'm upset about who it was instead of being understanding that someone needed support. Okay. He eventually came over around midnight with flowers, which honestly somehow made me even more annoyed. Now he says that I owe him an apology for accusing him of anything inappropriate. Am I being an asshole? She don't know her colors. She, you know, it takes a little bit longer sometimes for some young women to learn their colors. I was a young woman who didn't know colors. You know, it's okay. It's clear to me that uh he got a work wife that's more than a work wife. Right. And because ain't ain't no way on God's green earth you're gonna call me the day of my birthday, the one that we've planned for three. Weeks and we've been together in a relationship for two years. And tell me that you're not gonna show up to my birthday dinner. Hold on, go ahead. You're not gonna show up to my birthday dinner because some female at work who you probably haven't even known longer than me needs you because her man dumped her. And then you proceed to follow through with your word and not show up. And I would have proceeded not to answer the door when you showed up at my door at midnight and left a note on the front door and says, I hope you two had a great time. Maybe now that she is single and that you are single, you two can come together and be one. Enjoy your evening. Here's the thing you messed up the first time by allowing him to go out with her previously when she needed to be. No, he didn't go out. She would text and call. Yeah. Right. You how you have uh allowed unnecessary behavior for so long. And you opened the door, and you you basically didn't set boundaries when you should have. And I honestly, I mean, he's showing you that he's she's showing you what's important. Because he's the one that's supposed to set the boundary. That's the thing. He's the one that's supposed to say, hey, you know what? I'm I'm all for being a friend to you. Like, I'm here, like if you need me, what I can be. But calling me at midnight, that's inappropriate. Texting me outside of like uh forming out work, that's inappropriate. And texting me honestly about anything other than work, what we should have in common, which is work, inappropriate. He's the one in the wrong. If I have, if I have expressed to you that I have a woman, I shouldn't know nothing about your personal life. I'm telling you though, but that makes that makes you an even bigger target. I keep trying to, I keep trying to explain it to you. If you tell, like I told you, when Home Dew was trying to talk to me, the the minute I said I was married, it was like a little twinkle went off in his eye. And he was like, oh, challenge, accept it. That's how women are. You throw it in a press circle for him? Bye, Maurice. Bye. Ah but women are women can be the same way. It's like, oh, you know, I do have a girl or I'm married, and all she heard was, let me show you how skilled I am at moving the bitch out the way. You may not worry about me. You ain't gotta worry about me. Because I don't like these hoes anyway. Because they ain't loyal. Okay, correct. Christopher Maurice Brown, as Diaz would say. These hoes ain't loyal. They wouldn't even keep a secret anyway. Because you know me, I I I will my wife somebody to death. My wife left that cup. Listen, my wife was that. Did you see you see what you see what I posted on my story today? Not yet. It was uh, what was it? She was it was like, you can't be that obsessed with your husband as she was dancing and it was lining up with uh Dahmer, Jerry Dahmer. And I said, like, you can try it if you want to. I don't recommend it, but you can try it if you want to. That's fine. That's crazy. You can try it if you want to. Yeah, but um, ma'am. Saying a lady, I mean, I mean, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ladies. Um, he's showing you everything you need to under no. I don't understand why this is a problem. And um, anybody in your friend group that's siding with him? That's crazy work. They ain't your friend either. Look, who split? They ain't your friend. Well, I guess it I guess because they're trying to understand it from the perspective of he's trying to be a good friend and a good human being. Okay, sure. And he's he's trying to tell her that you're trying to make me choose between a being a good friend human being and being a good boyfriend. Sure, buddy. If it was reversed, just say you're screwing her. Just how, just how like when he when she flipped it and he got quiet. That's everything you need to know. And guess, guess what he would have done? Left her ass a note uh post it on the front door when she walked up there trying to apologize to him. Because that's how men are. Whoa, whoa, calm down. Some men. Some men. The the male gender. That's how don't have me talk about the female gender. Go ahead. Talk about him. Anywho, am I the asshole for ordering too much food on a date? Okay. I guess. I know some people that do this. Uh who? You

Did She Order Too Much Food on the Date?

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and my daughter. We like to sample. How will you know what it tastes like for next time? Um, I'm a 29-year-old female. Spent most of my 20s focused on my career. I've done well academically and professionally and financially, and now I'm ready to take dating a bit more serious. Just finished residency a year ago, um, hosp hospital now, getting ready to settle down, next stage of life with kids and all. All right. I typically date people similar to my age, between 25 and 35, and similar incomes. I guess I'm a bit picky. I don't have issues getting dates, but obviously not met, not met a man I want to marry and have kids with. A lot of men who make higher incomes prefer more supportive wives and that they can take care of the finances. I would rather have someone who does it with me. So I thought I'd be more open-minded and date outside my tax bracket. There was this attractive male who was a substitute teacher who asked me out. Um, a patient cousin, actually, a patient's cousin and asked where I wanted to go. I happened to want to check out a new restaurant that was across town. At dinner, he only ordered a pasta dish. I ordered two drinks, appetizer for the table, entree for myself, and then got a dessert to go because the date was going downhill by then. Edit FYI, I ordered the dessert at the beginning because he said he liked buttercake. So I got it to share, but later I changed it to go for him to take home. He asked if I really needed to order that much food at such an expensive restaurant. I told him he's welcome to the appetizer and dessert can be shared. If money is an issue, I'm happy to cover what I ordered or even cover his pasta too. There is no limit, uh, there's no reason to limit ourselves. And I encouraged him to order whatever he wants so that we can have a good time. Apparently, that was the wrong thing to say. He then says to me, There's no reason to rub it in. So I asked for my dessert to go, paid my part, and left shortly after. So I just want to know one, was I an asshole? And two, how can I befriend and or date people who are in a different socioeconomic class than myself? Not you making him feel You fumbled her. Your doctor, your your ego, your ego just couldn't let it slide. Your ego, your ego and your pride were just like no I am. Wait a minute. At the beginning, I thought she was gonna like say she ordered like two or three hundred tracks. She had a normal dinner. But they were at an expensive restaurant, and remember, she usually only dates men in similar tax bracket brackets. He is in a lower tax bracket, he's on a budget. Granted, he's a sub two teacher. I get it. But sir, when you go out with a doctor, they have I have friends that are doctors. I see how they order, they don't look at prices. I do. I do. I'm like, oh, they got it like that. And they do. But and we look at that for them. Sir, you fumbled her. Miss, um, you just picked the we picked the wrong one. We picked the wrong one, yeah. Um, uh I now I would I will agree that most men tend to want to be the breadwinner. Um and most of the men who don't want to be the breadwinner, you gotta avoid them too. You gotta avoid them too. You gotta avoid them too. But but there are a group of men that are comfortable with their lady making more. Um, I've always said I'm uh, you know, I'm not a house husband, but if she made enough and I could be comfortable and have my toys, I would be. Have no problem. No problem falling into a new role. I'm I'm a feminist. Okay. Live your life. Live your life, boo. You want if you want to tag me out, I'll tag you in. What would you like for dinner, babe? Um, but yeah, this is um honestly, this is just I think this is a situation where you just had the wrong guy. It was him. Yeah, it was him because she was not even thinking it like that. Like she said, I can cover mine if that's not a if that's a problem. And and I don't think when she said I can cover your pasta too, she was like trying to flex on it. Oh, he was. I don't think I think she was genuinely like trying to have a good time. That's and that's how she was saying, she said, Why should we? Money was an issue for him. Why should we have to limit ourselves? That's all she said. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. I know she said 25 or 35. I'm 40. Now, would you be okay? She a doctor. You got a house? That don't really mean much. Right. They also have a lot of student loan debt. What kind of doctor she is? I don't know. Well, she's working at a hospital, so yeah, as long as she ain't no dentist. Dentists make really good money. Not at first. And they keep their hand in people's mouth. They what? They keep their hand in people's mouth. Okay. They wear gloves. You're so dope. You're not wrong, uh ma'am. Honestly, um, you know what, you know what you look here. You okay? You gotta get you a good laborer worker. Oh, what? Go go find you a nice construction worker. Oh, yeah, because he you ain't even gonna feel the difference. He's gonna be like, I got it. Yeah. And then you're gonna make it happen. But you know what? I also feel like um situations like that where women make significantly more than uh men, the man, if his pride and everything doesn't allow, you know, allows for it, he is not, he's he's okay with covering the house. And then the her money is like the play money. We can vacation, we can put a little back extra in savings, but he's gonna pay them bills because that's part of like that's part of his default, you know. Let me stop it. I left my pride in my 30s. If you want to cover all of it, okay. Cover all of it. I don't think you left all your pride in your 30s, okay? Okay. You you might be working on leaving more in there, but you still got you still got a basketball. Threw my back out. Is that why you asked me? Because when I this morning I was like, Dave, my back hurt. He was like, Did you cough? Because it's a much oh I said, when did our conversation? This 40 was different. When did our conversation when I tell my husband my back hurt? His response is, Did you cough? No, fool, I didn't cough. 40 different. You gonna see? Maurice, I'm only eight months apart. Relax. In six more months. When you hit that 40, you're gonna be like, ooh, I see what you're talking about. Relax. You're gonna see. You're doing a lot. Everybody 40, put it in the comments. She's gonna see. You're doing a lot. You got you got that car party going out now. Okay. Anywho, um, my uh okay, opinion. Okay. My husband sits in the passenger seat and my father-in-law disapproves.

Husband Lets His Wife Drive and Father-in-Law Hates It

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Okay, okay. I drive a tanker from my job out of town and make the five-hour drive one way to work and back home in my personal car. Okay. When I'm home three days, my wife drives everywhere. And I mean, I get in the passenger seat of her car and we go off. Date night, doesn't care, she drives. Shopping, don't care, she drives. Visiting family, she drives. When we first started dating years ago, she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to uh the guest status quo that men drove, as was I, but I was trying to break away and break through the glass ceiling or any, this is weird how he wrote it, glass ceiling or anything. I just don't see why it mattered. And damn it, I drive 2,000 miles a week or so and don't want to do it when I'm home. My father-in-law makes such great comments, like, do you hold her purse? Um, and then the one that's so original that he always says, Are your balls in her purse every so often when we see them? So I inevitably get out of our passenger seat followed by the jokes and giggles. My wife, nor myself, give him any response. It's just so silly and mind-infuriating. Is he in the wrong? Is who in the wrong? The father-in-law. I mean, no, he can take jokes while he wants. I think it's rude. Now, sir, I understand your plight. The way it was written, though, my apologies, guys. Uh, I look here, as someone who uh drives for a living, I don't want to drive no other time. But did you hear what he said? Yeah, he drives five hours one way to work, and then he comes back. That is crazy work. He's probably driving a week at a time, and then yeah. But I get it. Um, your father-in-law, he's a little bit of an asshole, but he can make his jokes. Now, here, here, see, look here. Petty me, I must just start taking shots. I was gonna say, I would respond. And then his wife needs to say something to her dad. What the line says, we can go bar for bar? I got something for you. Huh? I think you should have a conversation with your wife about having a conversation with her father. Because I would have said, when he when he said to me, are your balls in her purse? I would say they was in her mouth earlier. Are you a princess? Yeah, she was garkling them. No, they're not anymore because they were in her mouth. She don't want to come for me. So no matter what you said to me, sir. I married your daughter. I'm in your daughter, knuckle deep. Okay. That's a bit much to the prison. That's that is a bit much. I'm in there. That I'm in it. That's a bit much. So so when you when you see her, that's a bit much. Imagine her being vulnerable. Okay. Click roasted. Okay. That was up. That was unnecessary. Yeah, say what you want to say. That was unnecessary. Um, yeah, that was a lot. No, it's not. Yeah, I think it was. We can go bar for bar. Okay. We're gonna see who's gonna be uncomfortable first. Guarantee it ain't gonna be me. Okay.

Mother-in-Law Disrespects Wife and Husband Says Nothing

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Um, am I the asshole if I say something to my mother-in-law about how she talks about me to my husband? Okay, nope, let's go. I'm a 25-year-old female, have been married to my husband who's 23 for two years, and my mother-in-law has made our marriage difficult from the start. She fits the stereotypical boy mom you hear horror stories about. This year alone, I've caught her talking badly about me to my husband multiple times. For some background, I work one or two days a week and stay home with my daughter the rest of the time. After some health concerns last November, we pulled her from daycare. Since then, my mother, grandmother, and mother-in-law all have volunteered to help with child care. To keep things fair, my mom chooses her child care days first on even months, mother-in-law chooses first on odd months, and my grandmother fills in any remaining days. Back in April, there was confusion over two child care days. According to my text and calendar, my mom was scheduled to keep my daughter. The night before, mother-in-law texted my husband asking what time she should arrive. He doesn't handle child care scheduling, so he checked with me. We reviewed everything, and since it was my mom's turn to choose first, and my mother-in-law had already watched our daughter four times that month, we left the schedule as it was. The next day, my mother-in-law texted me about her hurt feelings and the lack of communication. I apologized, explained the scheduling system again, and she eventually agreed the calendar was probably wrong. However, shortly afterwards, she texted my husband, blaming me for the mix-up, saying I was quote unquote using her and only called her when I was desperate. That couldn't be further from the truth. My mom and grandmother would gladly help whenever needed. I included my mother-in-law because I want her to have a relationship with her granddaughter. What furiates me, uh what infuriates me or frustrates me most is that my husband never defends me. He doesn't respond to the messages, but he doesn't shut them down either. Then last week, my husband had an argument about household, um, my husband and I had an argument about household responsibilities. While I was at work, my mother-in-law was watching our daughter. My husband got home early and apparently forgot that we had a ring camera on the back porch. He sat outside with his mother and best friend complaining about me while my daughter was sitting right there. And I listened to the entire conversation. Not only did he discuss our private marital issues, but my mother-in-law seemed to encourage it. She talked about what a terrible wife I am because I expect my husband to clean up after himself, things like throwing away his trash, putting away his clothes, and occasionally helping with dishes and bottles. Once again, my husband never defended me. A few days later, my mother-in-law texted him saying, I doubt you'll get anything done because of the hell you live in and the devil you live with. Again, he said nothing. He claims he didn't know what to say, even though he agrees it's wrong for her to talk about me in that way. What makes this even more confusing is that the last December, I asked for a divorce and he begged me to stay and work on our marriage. We're both in counseling and actively trying to fix things. If our marriage is truly hell, why fight so bad to keep it? At this point, I don't know how to keep his mother out of our relationship. I'm honestly reaching the point where I don't even want her babysitting anymore. She seems uh convinced I'm desperate for her help when in reality I don't need it. Included her, I included her because I wanted her to have time with her granddaughter. Would I be the asshole if I texted her about what I've seen and heard, or should I continue pretending I don't know what she's saying while she acts nice to my face? I genuinely don't know what to do. I genuinely don't know what I did to make this woman hate me. I sent her pictures of my daughter every day, um, handmade things for Mother's Day gifts, and have always tried to include her. Meanwhile, my husband didn't even get her anything for Mother's Day. Am I an asshole? No. No. He can go ahead and sign them papers. No. Your husband is a bitch. What a capital. He a bitch. Ain't no way to say it. And your mother-in-law is jealous of because you got a level of intimacy with her son that she'll never have. Yeah. That's that's I I see it all the time with mama boys. And the thing is, is that wild. He may he's in a situation to where he don't want to, he he probably he probably really loves his mama. He don't want to disappoint her. He don't want to say nothing to her that he feels is out of pocket. Or get on her bad side. But or hurt her feelings. I am a component of my wife comes first. I don't care how much you cry. Because when you leave here, I gotta be with this woman. So I gotta make sure she's happy. Cause when she's not happy, that means I'm not gonna be happy. And Lord knows I'm not gonna not be happy. Bye. I'm not gonna not be happy. So yeah. Um I'll go ahead with you. You know what? She was already filing for divorce anyway. The counsel ain't working. Right. But that's what she said. She was like, if if I'm the devil and you live in such a hellhole, I've already I've already said I wanted a divorce. Why why fight me on the divorce? And then here's the thing this is the time. This is the this is the time you caught him talking about you. Oh, and if that's what he said when you caught him, imagine the shit him and his mama have been saying. Imagine what he's been saying the whole time. Yeah. Yeah. You know what? Yeah, that's gonna be a hard note for me. I would, I would, I would leave. That's gonna be a hard no for me. I would leave. I would leave. And get him to send them papers. You know, papers. In the word of the great street poet problem, aka Jason Martin. I need me a new bitch. Okay, bye, Demel. Because I'm tired of old one. Bye. He said, I need me a new bitch. Okay. The street poet. The street poet. You're so tired of old. He said, I need me a new bitch, and I give a fuck who knows it. Okay. All right. We're gonna hop on into the comment of the coming. Okay, people. The common week this week comes. I have four. They come from two different posts. Watch your mouth. It's a lot. Watch your mouth. Time is up. Because I got something to do, I got something for later. I got stuff to do. Okay. The first three come from the post about the people arguing outside. Oh, the uh they wanted their neighbors to go inside so they could argue outside. So they can uh yeah, they can argue privately outside. Arguing privately outside. Um and the first this first post come from babe, say her

Comment of the Week: Arguing Outside Privately

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name. Um Tisha underscore real. That's Tisha? Yeah. Okay, she said it. She said Tisha Real me uh 7422. She said, baby, I would have had a meal plan to cook outside daily. Cook here. If you're gonna be outside arguing, arguing, as Jamie say arguing, I'm I'm gonna be out there with it. And then Real Girl 2009 said, Can you scream louder? I didn't get that. I'm telling you, because now you got the emotion in your voice, and you ain't talking clear. And y'all do this every week, and I'm gonna need to I'm gonna need y'all to be clear, you know, and I'm trying to make sure that uh I get the whole story. I'll be like, uh, give me a second, let me go get my popcorn. And this last one about from this post comes from Judy. And this is the one I resonate with the most. I would have cussed they ass out. Right. Because who the I know? I want my private property. I want my property I would have did my, I would have pulled out of Madea, peace be still. I would have just went across the face. I just wouldn't want across. Not Mr. Feeney. Yep, Mr. Feeney, just like this. You want Mr. Feeney? And I'll be like, you alright? All right. Yeah, I would have cussed them out because what you're not gonna do is something gonna do a Maya. Take your I would have looked at them I would have looked at him. You can go inside. Now the last post, the last comment rather, comes from the post about when my wife told y'all how I wouldn't bought that Xbox.

Comment of the Week: Moe’s Xbox Red Flag Story

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And I was going through a rough time. And I and I wouldn't got it, but I got the money back. I ain't gonna tell you how I got the money back. And I didn't I didn't know my colors. then remember I say I didn't know my colors NJ J says girl the flag was red but I'm glad you didn't know your colors because we wouldn't have y'all today no you wouldn't yes we would because I would I wouldn't let it go I'm like I'm like maze I'm not letting go okay yeah I didn't know my colors back then you don't know them now I yeah I do you a red flag yourself okay no I'm not you have too many hobbies not I'm a brown flag you got too many hobby hobbies to be a brown flag I'm a brown okay flag thank you very much why are those socks really cute on her stop why they can't see that oh sorry you you did you guys do that you know the trend uh chat gpt where you asked chat to make you uh what is this I don't know like a character caricature of you and he did one of us like me uh me him and uh Phoenix and the tennis shoes and socks that they got on my baby that chat JP J uh JPT chat GPT came up with inspire oh damn I don't know intrusive thought I forgot to thaw to meet out for dinner I guess we hungry tonight um I hope you like taquitos I don't uh yeah so I was i was not a I was not a red flag I was just going through something okay but you okay never mind I'm a green flag yeah he's a green flag who had red flag tins I told this woman's uh mother when I was in the 10th grade that I was gonna take care of her and I've lived up to that problem he was the second guy to tell my mama that I'm the first one to actually do it yeah do you remember who the first one was who you remember who was it governor and I'll never forget he told my mama he was like we're gonna run Inglewood together I'm gonna take care of her run Inglewood yeah my mom and my mom looked at him she was like oh you are and he was like yeah he was like I'm gonna I'm gonna be with her and my mom was looking at him like I don't think so but I don't think he went to Inglewood I don't know where Inglewood came from I think he was just saying stuff that was funny that's crazy would you be from Watts that's it's wild it's wild I know you ain't supposed to be with an Eaglewood okay the male we were children we were children relax I say what I said relax you stayed on 15th I just you got I I may never catch I didn't stay on 105th i that's where my grandmother lived and I visited every weekend I stayed on 81st yeah but you went over by 120 you went over there just because I mean what you were today it's like you was over there by what you got on today but you went over there this has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast if you have not done so already we would appreciate it would you if you would take the time out of your busy schedule how bad you just and just follow us and and like and share and subscribe and subscribe on all the the platforms you know you can find us on Instagram you can find us on TikTok Facebook YouTube shout out to all the new followers on YouTube shout out to the Booski family extending on Instagram we are on the road to 100k we can just get a little love on Facebook we appreciate y'all in all fairness though we we started we

Closing: Tell a Friend to Tell Grandma

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just started showing love on Facebook so in all fairness but yes to the new mama and daddy of TikTok count your mother by fucking days no uh but yes we truly appreciate you guys this is really fun for us to do we love engaging with you guys we appreciate all the love and support wait wait uh wait wait phoenix wants us to tell the booskies that she loves y'all oh she did she did say that she said tell the booskies I love them she think that like we know each and every one right and she think that y'all really her followers y'all just be on our page yeah that's but she did she my baby said tell the booskies I love them so we want to tell y'all Phoenix loves y'all too um but yeah so if you haven't done so already go ahead and like comment share subscribe all of the fun things and don't forget to tell a friend to tell a friend to tell grandma because if granny knows everybody else will until then peace booskies