Our 2 Cents Vol. 26

In This Installment of Our 2 Cents.

Money can quietly strain a relationship long before anyone says it out loud. In this episode of Life After I Do Podcast, we explore how financial expectations, family pressure, and unspoken agreements turn into resentment—especially during the holidays. From being treated like the “walking wallet” to paying into homes you don’t own, we break down what’s fair, what’s familiar, and why clarity is essential for healthy partnership.

Through personal stories and listener dilemmas, we discuss cheating tied to financial imbalance, parenting boundaries, 50/50 contribution debates, and the real purpose of prenups. This episode offers practical guidance for setting money boundaries, protecting peace, and making sure your time, trust, and budget receive the same respect you give others.

Chapters

• 0:00 Cold Open: Money Split Debate
• 0:43 Holiday Welcome And Family Chaos
• 4:32 Weekly Highs: Kids, Guac, And Gifts
• 11:35 Reading Streaks And Sports Teasing
• 18:13 House Allergies, Gumbo Drama, And Plans
• 20:53 Our Two Cents: The Trip Sponsor Trap
• 24:30 Walking Away From A One-Sided House
• 31:42 Parenting Boundaries: The Biting Toddler
• 38:06 Hypotheticals: Income, 50-50, And Fairness

Transcript

Cold Open: Money Split Debate

SPEAKER_01 0:01

If we're both bringing in a half a million dollars a year and uh$300,000 of that is what you carrying, you still don't think we should be paying bills 50-50.

SPEAKER_00 0:10

Well, I don't think I don't think it should be a 50-50. I think if y'all bringing in half a million dollars together, it should just be one bank account together.

Holiday Welcome And Family Chaos

SPEAKER_01 0:18

And just well, that's that's that's still kind of. That's not 50-50. It's still kind of splitting everything. Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. Sit with us, join us on this Christmas Eve for the next coming. Okay. For like the next 30, 45 minutes. We won't keep you long.

SPEAKER_00 1:01

For the next 72 hours.

SPEAKER_01 1:03

No, we won't keep you long. Merry Christmas Eve, everybody. Almost a new year. Um, I hope that everyone gets what they wanted, I guess.

SPEAKER_00 1:14

I mean, my list wasn't that long.

SPEAKER_01 1:16

Yeah. I don't honestly, none of our lists were long this year.

SPEAKER_00 1:19

Yeah, my list said that ass.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

Bye. Our kid list wasn't long either. It wasn't long.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

It was expensive.

SPEAKER_01 1:25

It was just, yeah. Very expensive. It was just a little costly.

SPEAKER_00 1:28

She said, I want a makeover, a room makeover.

SPEAKER_01 1:30

But in all fairness, it wouldn't have been as costly if we didn't like wait until, you know, 48 hours to try to pull everything together. So it wouldn't have been that bad.

SPEAKER_00 1:44

Well, I kept telling you to report to the e.l.f. workshop because everyone five, four, and under had to report.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

Listen.

SPEAKER_00 1:53

We're scrambling to get stuff together.

SPEAKER_01 1:57

Uh-huh. When they get done.

SPEAKER_00 1:58

When they get done. All right, y'all.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

The last couple last couple of weeks I kept saying, I got I got two weeks. They get done when they get done. You know? Um, but yeah, I hope every I hope everyone is. What the? Yeah, I know. Anyway, I hope everyone is having um a good Christmas Eve. I hope you have lots of time with your friends and family. Maybe you guys are doing family gift exchange. That's what we'll be doing today. Family gift exchange. No, we're not. Um, with our friends, actually. It's not canceling, it's our annual tradition. Um, but yeah, like I said, we won't keep you guys very long. Um, but yeah, so how's your week, babe?

SPEAKER_00 2:37

Um it's just exhausting.

SPEAKER_01 2:41

Okay. Here you go. You know, he's finna put unnecessary extras on the world's smallest problems.

SPEAKER_00 2:47

It's just, you know, it's just a lot of weight on my shoulder. For what? You know, to carry the the financial load to be the most visually appearing, stop to be the strongest.

SPEAKER_01 3:02

What? Huh? The most what?

SPEAKER_00 3:05

The best looking one. I was trying to be nice.

SPEAKER_01 3:07

I can't. I couldn't even pronounce what you were trying to say. So that's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 3:12

Uh-huh appearing.

SPEAKER_01 3:13

Uh-huh. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 3:15

So, I mean, I have a lot on me at all times. Like, don't get me wrong. I love my family. I love y'all. I love y'all really bad. I love y'all.

SPEAKER_01 3:23

You love us down bad.

SPEAKER_00 3:25

Down bad. I love y'all down bad. And I will go to the end of the world for y'all. And y'all know that. And y'all be sending me out there.

SPEAKER_01 3:32

We'll be taking you through there. Take me through there.

SPEAKER_00 3:35

All the way through there. You be taking me all the way through there. But I love y'all.

SPEAKER_01 3:39

Take me through there. I don't want to go through nothing else. 2026.

SPEAKER_00 3:47

Not for a it wasn't a bad week.

SPEAKER_01 3:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:49

Um, you know, it's just schooled us out.

SPEAKER_01 3:52

And uh, you know, we got home full time.

SPEAKER_00 3:55

She's home full time, and then we got the nieces here, and yeah. It's just a good reminder of why we only have one.

SPEAKER_01 4:03

But it's nice having another child.

SPEAKER_00 4:05

It's nice.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

It is because it's because, well, but the but they play together and they keep each other occupied.

SPEAKER_00 4:10

Do they? Which is for 30 minutes at a time.

SPEAKER_01 4:12

Well, yeah, and then they then they fall out. Then they fall out, then I have to separate them for a little bit, and then they're ready to come back together because then they get bored and they're like, okay, well, you're here and I'm here, we can play together. Then they love each other, and then they have to go to their separate corners, and they love each other, then they have to go to their separate corner.

SPEAKER_00 4:26

They like they like the 60s and the pyrus. They always they they beefing all the time.

SPEAKER_01 4:30

They are so dramatic.

Weekly Highs: Kids, Guac, And Gifts

SPEAKER_00 4:31

They beefing all the time.

SPEAKER_01 4:32

Anyway, what was the highlight of your week? The highlight of my week? That guacamole you made. I made some bong. I'm not even gonna like lie. Look, I'm not even gonna hold you, though. It was pretty good. I'm not gonna hold you. My guac was a one.

SPEAKER_02 4:47

It was pretty good.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

I'm not even gonna lie, though. Y'all, I made some really good guac. So I normally get my guacamole.

SPEAKER_00 4:54

I thought we were talking, but whatever.

SPEAKER_01 4:56

I normally get my guacamole from um the uh like the Mexican market, and it's always so good and so fresh, but they've up they they've so fresh, so clean. They've gone up on the price, like everything else has gone up, and it's like eight dollars for like a smaller container. And I was like, I know how to make guac and I can make a lot more than what I'm finna buy for a lot less. So I bought like what, six or seven avocados. I cut up and smashed up four, put all my ingredients in there. I could I could have just sat there and ate the whole bowl. It was so good. It was pretty good. Good. And I did it all for six dollars. Honestly.

SPEAKER_00 5:31

The highlight of my week was you know, us being able to actually at the last minute.

SPEAKER_01 5:36

Not get caught up with uh things not being able to be shipped on time.

SPEAKER_00 5:41

Everything got here on time. And uh nothing is wrapped.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Well, that's because it's huge boxes, so but you know, but she knows that um Santa had delivered some of her items early. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 5:57

Some of her items, and apparently she has a black Santa in her.

SPEAKER_01 6:01

She has a brown Santa and her friends have a peach Santa.

SPEAKER_00 6:05

I say, okay.

SPEAKER_01 6:06

She was like, Oh, mom, I get it. Because we're black, we get a brown Santa. And then all my friends, they have peach Santa's. Yeah. And I said, Well, Santa comes in many different colors, many different colors, but mostly black.

SPEAKER_00 6:21

How was your week, baby? Okay.

SPEAKER_01 6:23

How was your week? My reese, but mostly black. How was your week? My week was good. That's good.

SPEAKER_00 6:29

Tell us about it.

SPEAKER_01 6:30

Um, I mean, there's nothing significant to report, but it was a smooth week, just like going back and forth, finishing up stuff, getting ready for Christmas. What?

SPEAKER_00 6:42

Get to what you really want to talk about. What are you talking about? Tell us how you read 27 chapters in four hours.

SPEAKER_01 6:47

Oh my gosh. First of all, it wasn't four hours. Okay. What was it two? I read like 16 chapters in like two hours, two and a half hours. It's a picture book, y'all don't. Okay, it was shut up. It is not a damn picture book. And the only and it probably would have been less time than that, but I also had to like team the children, cook.

SPEAKER_00 7:07

My wife is back in her reading bag, and I've I've purchased her a bunch of books for Christmas. The kind of books she likes. You know, she reads thriller. She reads her porn.

SPEAKER_01 7:17

Okay. First of all, what you're not gonna do is just like flat cover books. First of all, the book that I'm currently reading is not a um is not a um uh like a fantasy or anything. It's a thriller, actually. And that one has really got me like flying through the play pages because it's it's thrilling. It's it's thrilling.

SPEAKER_00 7:40

A lot of sex scenes, huh?

SPEAKER_01 7:41

No, but it's not a no, there's no sex scenes at all, actually. Okay, but that's not what I'm reading. And the other ones are like love stories. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:49

They just have like I don't judge her for what she does.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

They just have um like strong, lustful.

SPEAKER_00 7:57

Lustful, huh? It's not even love. It's lust. Just a bunch of mandingos walking around, huh?

SPEAKER_01 8:03

No, but I I mean I read a bunch of different I read self-help. I read like self-help, but it's not helping. You see all the stuff that I read. Don't sit here and try to make it seem like I read smut. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_00 8:14

I say lately, you've been trying to.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

No, I lately I have not been read. The one that I'm reading right now is a thriller. It is not a smut.

SPEAKER_00 8:22

A thriller with a sex scene, everything's gonna be.

SPEAKER_01 8:24

There is no sex scene. There is a zero Okay. If anybody has ever read The Perfect Marriage, then you know that there is no sex scene in there. And it's the perfect marriage with perfect scratched out. Oh, okay. Because it's anything but there is no like overtly sex scenes in there. Anywho, yes, I'm almost done with that.

SPEAKER_00 8:43

Wait, I forgot. My week was great.

SPEAKER_01 8:46

Oh, wow. Wow.

SPEAKER_00 8:48

Really? I'm so tired, I'm forgetting things. Okay. My Eagles clink. Who cares? Them bum ass cowboys is going home. Who cares?

SPEAKER_01 8:55

Oh, I can't even care now because you talked so long. It is right in the world. All is not right in the world. I don't think we're gonna win the championship, right?

SPEAKER_00 9:05

This has been the last episode. Ah the last episode.

SPEAKER_01 9:09

It doesn't feel good, does it? Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

The Eagles got a better chance than the Sparks.

SPEAKER_01 9:16

Okay. They still probably ain't going to the championship, but okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:20

I don't know how you're a Tennessee. I know why you're a Tennessee Valve. That's fine.

SPEAKER_01 9:25

Anywho.

SPEAKER_00 9:26

Well we got today. Back to my week. No one cares anymore.

SPEAKER_01 9:30

So Fly Eagles. Um, yeah, but it was a productive week. Um, my baby girl is out of school, so we've been spending time together. Too much now. I've been uh, you know, cleaning out her room to prepare for all of her, like, you know, big girl stuff as she calls it. All her big girl stuff. Hold on.

SPEAKER_00 9:50

Not your daughter telling me, oh dad, Santa's delivering my bed today. It's coming early, so I'm gonna be sleeping in my new bed tonight. I'm gonna need you to get on that. Ma'am, you are not my wife.

SPEAKER_01 10:03

You are gonna have to wait till Christmas.

SPEAKER_00 10:05

You are not my wife. Right. You're gonna be sleeping on that same kid-sized bed you've been sleeping on for the last night.

SPEAKER_01 10:11

And you're gonna kidding. And you're gonna enjoy it. As a matter of fact, you're gonna enjoy that it's the last night that you're on it.

SPEAKER_00 10:16

Right.

SPEAKER_01 10:17

So enjoy it. Um, but yeah, I can't wait to see her face when she like sees her do bed and her new little vanity setup.

SPEAKER_00 10:24

Oh, I have- I do have another message.

SPEAKER_01 10:25

This message is-If it's sport-related, I don't want to hear it.

SPEAKER_00 10:28

It's not this message is to my mother-in-law.

SPEAKER_01 10:30

What? Because she's allergic to shellfish, so now we can't have gumbo tomorrow for Christmas. He's upset because everybody wants to eat gumbo, but my mom is allergic to uh shellfish. Like she can eat it.

SPEAKER_00 10:40

And like my and like my father-in-law, so eloquently put it.

SPEAKER_01 10:44

He said, that's a bit selfish, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00 10:46

It's nine versus one. He said, it's nine versus one. How the hell does one win?

SPEAKER_01 10:51

I said exactly. He said, that's a bit selfish, it is. Nine versus nine. I'm not gonna run the risk of my mother's throat closing up so y'all can eat some things.

SPEAKER_00 11:03

We'll see her on uh tonight on Christmas Eve.

SPEAKER_01 11:05

Okay, I'm not gonna run the risk of my mother's throat. Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_00 11:11

What we got today, Booski?

SPEAKER_01 11:12

Um, we have an R2 Cent episode for back. We're gonna do back to back. We're gonna end the year out.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

Like the Eagles, baby.

SPEAKER_01 11:22

Okay, like the Dodgers, baby. We're gonna end the year with back-to-back episodes of our two cents.

SPEAKER_00 11:30

Yeah.

Reading Streaks And Sports Teasing

SPEAKER_01 11:31

So we'll just hop right on into it because we know y'all got family to get to, so we don't want to hold you, you know, because it's the holidays. But we also didn't want to leave y'all hanging. Yeah, y'all listen to y'all weekly. Listen to it when you got time. Um, okay, so here we go. So he's asking if he's a jerk for canceling a family trip after he realized that he was gonna be expected to pay for everything.

SPEAKER_00 11:51

No. Okay. I cancel our shows. All right.

SPEAKER_01 11:53

So he said, My family planned a weekend trip and asked if I wanted to join. Okay. I agree because it sounded nice, and I assumed that everyone would be contributing. As planning continued, it became clear they expected me to handle the hotel booking and the rental car and most meals because I quote unquote earn more than they do. No one asked directly. They just kept saying things like, Well, can you just put it on your card and we'll figure it out later? In the past, later never comes. I finally asked what the cost split would be, and the conversation got awkward. And someone joked that I should just treat everyone since I'm doing so well in life. That moment made me realize I was being invited more as a sponsor than a participant. I told them that I was no longer going. Now they say that I have ruined their trip and made money an issue when that should not be a matter when it comes to family.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

Fudge all them. We starting off with the fudge strong. Fudge all of them.

SPEAKER_01 12:58

That's crazy work. But I love, I love the comp. Can you put it on your card and then we'll just think we'll figure it out later? It was like later never comes. Later never comes. They was like, look, we know you got them Amexes. Just put them on the Amex and we can just figure out the details later.

SPEAKER_00 13:18

Look here, the only thing. That's hilarious, actually. Bye. Bye. That's who I'm sponsoring. That that's where my sponsor list stops.

SPEAKER_01 13:28

That's crazy work, though. That's really wild. You're gonna you you already know that your intention of inviting me is so that like you can try to get me to pay. Not because you want to spend time with me, not because like we're a family, we haven't seen each other. Oh, like my brother got it, so we'll just act like we want him to come, and then we'll just see if he can put it on his credit card. I got it for the cards.

SPEAKER_00 13:49

I got it for my family. That's wild. I got it from my family. Look for it, look here. I got it from my family. He's not a jerk. But this is when, this is when you get petty. Oh gosh. Okay, you take the trip, don't tell him. You book the trip for you and whoever you want to pay for, and then y'all post pictures of the trip.

SPEAKER_01 14:08

Bye.

SPEAKER_00 14:09

And show how you had a good time because you could cover your your trip.

SPEAKER_01 14:13

Bye. So still go on the trip anyway, just with not everybody who else. Just don't make it a blue trip.

SPEAKER_00 14:17

If they show up, they show up. We can we can get together when we get there. But you know, I'm gonna get there how I get there. You get there how you get there.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

Yeah, that's crazy. Okay, so this one is are they being an asshole for walking away from a house that I have no equity in or say in and stiffing my soon-to-be ex.

SPEAKER_00 14:36

Oh, probably not. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 14:38

Um, before we got married, my in-law sat me down and explained that I will never uh be on any paperwork for the house that they had helped my fiance purchase as a wedding gift. They insisted on an ironclawed prenup. I got a lawyer and made sure that I was protected as well. After we got married, I contributed to the expenses of our household 50-50, mortgage, and everything. It was a little more than I paid in written utilities, but I figured we'd be building a future together. I make a decent living as a welder and I don't own a lot of stuff. I have a truck, a welding lid, a laptop, and some clothes. Before I met my wife, I lived in Airbnb's and all-inclusive resorts. I work four weeks on and two weeks off, so it didn't make sense to rent a house that would sit empty for months at a time. I've helped my wife upgrade, renovate, and furnish the house. I give a simple example. We bought a very nice sectional. I paid half up front by giving her the money. Then she bought it on her credit card to get the points. After that, it was no longer my problem. I recently found out that she has been seeing her ex when I am out of town.

SPEAKER_02 15:45

Oh, wow. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 15:46

I don't play them type of games. I will never compete for a woman and I do not forgive cheating. So last time I came home from work, I stayed at an Airbnb. I took the time to see a lawyer and I initiated a divorce. When my time off was done, I went back to work. My next break is after the new year, and I will be going to an all-inclusive. Neither the last time or from now on, did I or will I be giving her any money? The problem is that she didn't use the money I gave her to pay down the mortgage or her credit card bills. She blew it on other stuff. So now she's in a bind. The money, my money made her lifestyle possible. By just leaving and not engaging, she's kind of screwed. But there's nothing more that I will do. We don't even have a dog like I wanted to because she didn't want to care for the dog when I was away. So all I have left behind was a suit that I bought for our wedding. Maybe some gym clothes, my dress shoes, um, once again, which were also for the wedding. She and her family and her friends are all over me about helping her during our divorce. I have no obligation to do so, though. And after our divorce, I have no obligation, even less. I can literally live out of my suitcase and my backpack. My only living expense beyond housing is a long-term parking for my truck. Even my mom seems to think that I'm screwing her over and punishing her too harshly. I personally can't believe my mom will take her side, but my parents' divorce was really antagonistic, and their inability to communicate led to both of them being much worse off than if they had cooperated and ended things amicably. But am I being an asshole to my ex?

SPEAKER_00 17:30

Hell no. F her, F her mama, her daddy, herball, headache, great. And if she haven't time, if she hear if she's struggling to keep up with the bills, she better suck more penis.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

Okay. You're going too far.

SPEAKER_00 17:43

The ex better step up. Stop it.

SPEAKER_01 17:45

Yo, that's what she wanted, right?

SPEAKER_00 17:48

Stop it. She they her parents made sure everything was separate because they didn't want now let her lose it because she's about to lose the house anyway.

SPEAKER_01 17:54

She's not gonna lose the house. I don't I don't think her parents will let her lose the house.

SPEAKER_00 17:58

She she he just said she drowning in debt.

SPEAKER_01 18:00

No, she's not she's not drowning. He didn't say she was drowning in debt. He said that she basically wasn't responsible with the money that he was giving her by like paying down the mortgage or paying off her credit card bill.

SPEAKER_00 18:10

And that's because that means she has nothing in reserve.

SPEAKER_01 18:13

But that's but every month. And like he said, his money created her lifestyle.

SPEAKER_00 18:17

And every month he don't give her something, she further, further in the hole. It's just a matter of time for she gotta sell that house or before mama and daddy move in to help her live there. She chose, she chose the the the cheat. Yeah. It's crazy. You out here cheating and you can't sustain your own lifestyle by yourself. That's crazy. Well, that's like if you out here cheating. What are you gonna do when I leave?

SPEAKER_01 18:40

Stay in my house. How you cheating? But you just said when I leave. You see her what you you said when when you leave.

SPEAKER_00 18:48

Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_01 18:49

I wasn't going anywhere. I'm gonna stay in my house. You're gonna stay here. I'm gonna stay in my house.

SPEAKER_00 18:53

Yeah, for 90 days.

SPEAKER_01 18:55

You gotta you gotta prove it first.

SPEAKER_00 18:56

You're gonna stay here for 90 days.

SPEAKER_01 19:00

You gotta prove it first.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

Prove what?

SPEAKER_01 19:01

You gonna put your daughter out on the street because she ain't going with you. She could be with me. She's not going with you. Damn.

SPEAKER_00 19:07

Come on now.

SPEAKER_01 19:08

Don't hurt your own feelings.

SPEAKER_00 19:09

You know damn well.

SPEAKER_01 19:10

Damn. Don't hurt your own feelings.

SPEAKER_00 19:12

She loves you, but she don't like you like that.

SPEAKER_01 19:13

Maurice. I'm fun dad. No, you know. Don't do that to yourself.

SPEAKER_00 19:18

You think he's wrong for that? For not giving her no money? I don't Okay. See, here you go.

SPEAKER_01 19:24

Let me think about this.

SPEAKER_00 19:24

Now you gotta think about it.

SPEAKER_01 19:27

I understand where he's coming from.

SPEAKER_00 19:29

Oh, but at one point he loved her?

SPEAKER_01 19:31

No.

SPEAKER_00 19:31

Okay. Because you're about to shoot her some bell. You're about to have to find a new way to piss me off.

SPEAKER_01 19:37

I wasn't finna shoot her no bell. Come on. I can understand where he's coming from.

SPEAKER_00 19:41

God damn it, you did it. I done told you many times about that damn popping sound you make with your mouth.

SPEAKER_01 19:47

I can understand where he's coming from. I think, you know what? No, because I was gonna say, instead of it being so abrupt, like you could just like shoot her something and be like, and that's it. But she should also know the type of man that she married. She should know that he he's not with the bullshit. Like, obviously, he's like he said, My money supported her lifestyle, which he was totally okay with. He was totally okay with. He was he even still married you, knowing damn well that he wouldn't even have any rights to the home that he lives in.

SPEAKER_00 20:16

So he wasn't with you for what you could give him. Right, right.

SPEAKER_01 20:18

But clearly, he clearly he has money because he lives a very simple life prior to his wife and with his wife.

SPEAKER_00 20:24

He said, All I need is my truck.

SPEAKER_01 20:26

That's it. He was like, I can live out of my backpack. So it's not, it's not a bad. So he ain't got no debts or nothing like that. He's like, boo, listen.

SPEAKER_00 20:33

It's crazy to me.

SPEAKER_01 20:34

So I think that's why it's so easy for him to cut ties as well. And like he said, he was like, I will never compete for a week.

Our Two Cents: The Trip Sponsor Trap

SPEAKER_00 20:40

I'm pretty sure there's plenty of women that would take this or take this arrangement. So you tell me you go on for four weeks and you're gonna help me pay all these bills, and I only gotta entertain you for two. And I can live my life, do what I want. Crazy work.

SPEAKER_01 20:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:56

So crazy work.

SPEAKER_01 20:58

All right, let's see. Um here we go. And I being a jerk for telling my friend her child won't be coming near mine.

SPEAKER_00 21:09

No, you're not. Come on now.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

I'm a 30-year-old female and I'm pregnant right now. My friend who's 29 has a two-year-old daughter, and she is spoiled rotten. She's very aggressive when someone slash other children touches things or toys that she wants. Sometimes it won't even be hers. She's also prone to aggressive tantrums, hitting, biting, mostly her parents, never someone else. I already felt uncomfortable bringing my baby once he was here close to her, but I figured she won't go close to him for a while because, you know, she's so pregnant. Today we went out together to eat, and her toddler was playing in a designated area, supervised, of course. All of a sudden, she pushed another toddler off the playmat, rolled him off of it, hit him, then bit him until he let go of the toy that was in his hand because she wanted it.

SPEAKER_00 21:57

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 21:58

The boy was crying so badly, and the other parents were livid. My friend kept saying her daughter did nothing wrong, and we were asked to leave by management because my friend and the mom started screaming at each other. My friend laughed at the whole situation and told me that she hopes that my boy will be more tough and handle her girl better. Okay. I should also raise him to be a man and not a crybaby like the other kids. Oh, okay. Through all of this, I was still very speechless, but the moment she said what she said, I said, nope. I told her that in no way in the future will I let my child near hers until she can get her children her girl under control. She's spoiled, aggressive, a little bitch, and scary in all honesty.

SPEAKER_02 22:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:42

My friend is now claiming that I'm an asshole for saying mean things about her child, and her child did nothing wrong, and she expects a full apology, or she will not come over to help me with anything once the baby is born. Because we only live five houses away. I don't feel that I was wrong, but was I being mean to a child? No.

SPEAKER_00 23:02

Because it was okay for her to be mean to the little boy that her.

SPEAKER_01 23:05

You basically caught the little boy a bitch for him crying, but your daughter bit him until he let he let loose of a damn toy that probably wasn't even hers.

SPEAKER_00 23:12

This ain't got shit to do with the story. There was a time where I made it shit, it's still public known. If you fuck with mine, I don't care how old your kid is. Yeah. I'm fucking you up. Yeah. I'm ca it because at some point, the child's behavior is a direct reflection of your parenting. At that age it is.

SPEAKER_01 23:35

I don't know. I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

You don't?

SPEAKER_01 23:39

Not a direct, not necessarily a direct reflection. I think some of the beh I think I do think that some of the behaviors that children start to showcase are behaviors that they know that they can be allowed to get away with. Yes. And that is that could be a direct reflection of your parenting because it's almost like, you know, how kids behave differently when they're with grandparents than when they're with parents, than they're with a babysitter. Okay. Right? Kids are very smart. Okay. They are very smart. I don't disagree. So they know the type of shit they can get away with with each person whose care they are in.

Walking Away From A One-Sided House

SPEAKER_00 24:14

Okay, let me let me reframe what I said. You are a shitty parent if you allow your kid to go into a public space with public kids and then push, kick, and bite another kid. And you don't reprimand it. Because if had that been reverse, yeah, and that little boy push, kick, and bit your daughter, you would have taught you she would have burned the motherfucking house down. Yeah. So you should be able, at the very least, be able to take and receive the same energy you put out. Yeah. Keep the same energy.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

But that's difficult because it's your child.

SPEAKER_00 24:47

Oh, is it? Yeah. That's why I don't play about mine. And I don't mess with nobody else's. Because I know I don't play about mine.

SPEAKER_01 24:56

That's true. Yeah, no, people need to get a rein on their children. Listen, if you have a kid who kicks, bites, yells, screams, cusses, all of the above, steals, and you don't even make an attempt to try to reprimand that child. Uh-huh. Of course, in their mind, they did nothing wrong. Of course. If you keep telling them they did nothing wrong and you do it in front of them, and then you sit there and laugh. That's the part that got me. You sat there and laughed. So now in her daughter's mind, she's like, I can keep doing this shit all day. But see, it's funny. Because it's effective. It gets me what I want. And mama's on board. It's funny until you run to the right one today. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:41

Now when you run to the right one today, I guarantee look here. Yeah. I know we don't say this, people. Yeah. But I guarantee you, those this kid is from the Caucus Mountains. Stop it. Because had she been kicked, pushed, uh, a black child.

SPEAKER_01 25:57

How do you know they weren't black? You don't know they weren't black.

SPEAKER_00 26:03

Dr. Umar can tell this shit that these kids ain't black in this story.

SPEAKER_01 26:06

Goodbye. Goodbye. Goodbye.

SPEAKER_00 26:11

Had they messed with the right one that day, be a whole different goddamn story.

SPEAKER_01 26:16

The thing is, is all the kid needs is another kid who's just like that.

SPEAKER_00 26:20

To whoop his ass.

SPEAKER_01 26:21

It's a her. It's a shit.

SPEAKER_00 26:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 26:24

All she needs to do is all she needs to do is come into all she needs to do is come into contact with a kid with the same type of mentality and not prompt. I just thought about it.

SPEAKER_00 26:35

She said that she wants her friend to raise her son to be more a man. How about you raise your daughter to be soft enough where a man wants to marry her?

SPEAKER_01 26:42

Maurice, we are talking about children. No, no, but that's what she said. I know, but we're talking about, but these are babies. But I'm keeping her energy. I know, but these are babies. That's ridiculous. These are babies. I know, but these are babies. They don't know nothing about that. See, and this this is exactly how people start screwing up children. This is exactly it.

SPEAKER_00 27:00

Who messed you up? I got a list.

SPEAKER_01 27:02

Okay. Goodbye. All right, here we go. Um I'm uh I'm 43. Got mad at my wife who's 39 after she answered my hypothetical question and I did not like her answer.

SPEAKER_00 27:14

Oh Lord, okay.

SPEAKER_01 27:16

Okay. Background. I work, she does not. I make more than 200,000 K a year, so she doesn't really have to work. However, she came into the marriage with over 40,000 in credit card debt. So I simply asked her to get a job just to pay off her credit cards, and then she could she could quit. As she was browsing job posts yesterday, she came across one where the upper end of the salary range was over$300,000 a year. And she joked that she might just be making more than me, maybe thinking that I would be insecure about it. On the contrary, I told her that I would love that because we could split the bills. She immediately said, uh no. I thought she was joking, but she was not. I was caught off guard and pressed her on it and asked if she would really not contribute if she was making more than me. She said she would contribute, but took issue with it being 50-50, saying she would never do that, even if she made more money than me. Keep in mind, this is all hypothetical, and it's very unlikely that she would make more than me, but it still bothered me and it turned into a little mini fight. I decided to drop it, but I woke up this morning and it's still kind of bothering me. Is it stupid for me to be this upset about a hypothetical situation that is unlikely to ever happen?

SPEAKER_00 28:38

No. Let me tell you why. Let me tell you why. She is now showing you who she is. Because she meant what she said.

SPEAKER_01 28:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 28:48

Basically, what she said is it don't matter how much she makes, she don't mind helping you out when you need a little something, but she she expects to be taken care of.

SPEAKER_01 28:56

Well, because she wants to keep you motivated.

SPEAKER_00 28:58

Okay, woman. If that's now, if that's what you've signed up for, cool, but I don't think he realized that's who we had.

SPEAKER_01 29:05

But like he said, it doesn't matter. But he said that he's just a little, he's just a little taken back as to if you you mean to tell me if we're both bringing in a half a million dollars a year and uh$300,000 of that is what you carrying, you still don't think we should be paying bills 50-50.

SPEAKER_00 29:25

Well, I don't think I don't think it should be a 50-50. I think if y'all bringing in half a million dollars together, it should just be one bank account together.

SPEAKER_01 29:32

And just well, that's that's that's still kind of that's not 50-50. It's still kind of splitting everything. You mean you're just paying everything out of the out of the pot. Out of the pot.

SPEAKER_00 29:41

Yeah, but I mean I guarantee you she's gonna spend more than he's been.

SPEAKER_01 29:45

And that's probably what she's thinking. That's why she was like, I would never do 50-50. It wouldn't keep you motivated. That's probably what she I bet you that's what she's thinking.

SPEAKER_00 29:53

Ma'am, I'm not motivated to keep you happy.

SPEAKER_01 29:55

No, I'm motivated for you to for you to continue to better yourself.

SPEAKER_00 30:00

My only motivation is to keep a roof over your head and keep the one upstairs happy.

SPEAKER_01 30:03

Okay, and then but that helps you, that helps motivate. I am your happiness. First of all, no, you're not. That that motivates you to continuously do better for yourself. That's what she's trying to say. Okay, man. I get what she's saying, you know? Okay, I get what she's saying. You know, you want to keep you want to keep them motivated. And that's that's typically how you stay motivated.

SPEAKER_00 30:24

I doubt it, but okay.

Parenting Boundaries: The Biting Toddler

SPEAKER_01 30:26

Bye, male. Okay, last one. Here we go. Um, am I overreacting for breaking off my engagement? Nope. All right, I'm a 24-year-old female. Recently broke off an engagement with my fiance, who's also 24, because he refused to sign my prenup. Oh, let's see why. We've been together for over two years, two years dating, four months engaged. From the beginning, I've always been very open about the fact that I will not get married without a prenup. And if that's a deal breaker, then the relationship will not work. He was completely fine with this and he understood. Okay. Somehow he found out how much money I was worth, which was wrong. But in any case, he got mad at me for hiding this from him and re- and I reminded him that this was all for my parents' hard work, and I would want this to be protected even for my parents. Because my parents would save it for me and my sister and eventually their grandchildren. This blew up into an argument, and he said it's unfair, and he's entitled to the many if we get married. The fuck? I told him this money isn't even liquid. And regardless, I've always told him that I will not get married without a prenup and that he's making me feel like he's just wanting to marry me now because of what the money my parents have saved for me. He said the classic, why get a prenup if you love me? You won't get a divorce.

SPEAKER_00 31:49

Here we go.

SPEAKER_01 31:50

To which I retaliated with, if we're not getting a divorce and you love me, why would this even matter to you? This argument became too much, and he put his foot down on not signing the prenup. And I told him that I will not be marrying him. And his family said that I was overreacting and called me selfish. Okay. Am I overreacting? Broke boys don't deserve no pussy. Bye. No, I don't ask right. No. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:23

Hold on now.

SPEAKER_01 32:25

Bye.

SPEAKER_00 32:25

Hold on. Bye. That's a pause of tape. Look here. Yeah, that's I'm on her side 100%. Yes, yes. I'm on her side when I'm gonna do it. I'm on her side too. Because you was all, he was all for it when you thought she wasn't working.

SPEAKER_01 32:37

Well, we when she originally said that I will not be getting married without a prenup. And before he knew in her background, he was just like, okay, that's cool. Like he looked at her like you ain't got shit anyway. But then apparently he decided to get curious, find out that she would have a little room song.

SPEAKER_00 32:50

I got a workaround.

SPEAKER_01 32:51

But like she said, she said it's not even liquid.

SPEAKER_00 32:54

It's not liquid. And it's not even all hers because she got sisters.

SPEAKER_01 32:57

She has siblings, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:58

So he don't know what that's gonna be.

SPEAKER_01 32:59

And he don't know what it is because she also said whatever he found out, she was like, it's wrong.

SPEAKER_00 33:03

Yeah. Right.

SPEAKER_01 33:04

It's wrong.

SPEAKER_00 33:05

And you don't know how, because she didn't say her parents was uh had passed. So I'm assuming they're still living. You don't know how that money is set up, right? They had they may set up where you never see a piece of it.

SPEAKER_01 33:16

You don't know how much money there is. People automatically assume that because there's like a trust or something set up, that there must be millions in there.

SPEAKER_00 33:24

Yeah, I'm gonna tell you right now, in the Gill Trust?

SPEAKER_01 33:26

It's there's it's not millions. There's not millions in our trust.

SPEAKER_00 33:31

You'd be a little comfortable.

SPEAKER_01 33:33

Look, yes.

SPEAKER_00 33:34

Look, look, you be comfortable.

SPEAKER_01 33:35

You be yeah, you you'll be able to get some shit done.

SPEAKER_00 33:37

Yeah, you know, you ain't gonna be out, but you ain't gonna be able to retire.

SPEAKER_01 33:41

You still might have to have a little part-time, you know.

SPEAKER_00 33:45

But I think this is I think this is this is for me, this is crazy. Yeah, yeah. And now I'm questioning his motives, as is she.

SPEAKER_01 33:55

So the fact that you would say the whole cliche is you love me and we ain't gonna get no divorce. Right. Says everyone And she should look at him and say, You weren't with me when I was shooting in the gym. Bye. By the male. You weren't with me when I was shooting in the gym. She wasn't in the gym.

SPEAKER_00 34:11

Her dad took the shots.

SPEAKER_01 34:13

Yeah, exactly. I was like, her parents were in the gym. And as a father? Her parents were in the gym.

SPEAKER_00 34:18

See, now this maybe now I I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.

SPEAKER_01 34:20

You didn't even think about that, huh? Yeah, I didn't. I gotta call the lawyer. I think you still have one more year before you can make changes.

SPEAKER_00 34:25

Look here, I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.

SPEAKER_01 34:27

You gotta have a.

SPEAKER_00 34:28

I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.

SPEAKER_01 34:30

As a father, if you marry a piece of shit, I would never put anything in there like that. I don't want that to touch nothing. I mean, I mean, not like a piece, like not literally saying if you, because that's you know, that's objective. If you marry a piece of shit, you don't get nothing.

SPEAKER_00 34:47

You know what? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 34:49

But that's why I'm I'm hoping that's why the way we set it up, the way we did, where it's like, you know, the the 18, the 25, and she gets the rest.

SPEAKER_00 34:57

You know, like hopefully she had learned some lessons in life by then. Hold on. It is now officially a requirement that Phoenix has a prenup when she gets married. Oh my gosh. Because he is getting nothing. I am not nothing. I am not letting some other two-legged bastard really walk away with my my daughter, my my money I left for my daughter.

SPEAKER_01 35:21

Oh my gosh, cut it out.

SPEAKER_00 35:23

And she better be she better hope that she gets the money. Because if she gives me some grandsons, they getting all the money.

SPEAKER_01 35:29

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 35:30

It's gonna go right over her.

SPEAKER_01 35:32

She better make sure her shit is together.

SPEAKER_00 35:35

Right.

SPEAKER_01 35:35

Because I'll I'll be petty and leave it to a pet.

SPEAKER_00 35:38

Not a pet. It's gonna go to Leia. We better go to Leia before we go with anybody else.

SPEAKER_01 35:43

I mean, when she a teenager, keep fucking with me.

SPEAKER_00 35:46

I don't know. The way I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 35:48

I'll leave it to our dog.

SPEAKER_00 35:50

Now I'm thinking the way Zara smiled at me today. She uh she she she cramped in there.

SPEAKER_01 35:54

She smiled at me.

SPEAKER_00 35:55

That's my kneeshaw.

SPEAKER_01 35:56

I said, she's like, I'll tell Phoenix when she's a teenager. Go ahead, keep looking with me.

SPEAKER_00 36:00

You fucking with your future.

SPEAKER_01 36:02

You're gonna mess around here and really have to get it out the mud. Like everyone else. Right.

SPEAKER_00 36:08

That's wild though. That's a red flag, run. Say your money.

SPEAKER_01 36:12

Yeah, definitely. That's a red flag. And yeah. But she's she's standing ten toes down. She said, I've had I've told him more than one occasion, it is not going to happen without a pre-well.

SPEAKER_00 36:22

You know what? He should go get with um old girl that um was cheating on her husband that was a welder. Because apparently, money ain't the issue for them. Basically.

SPEAKER_01 36:34

Let's hop into uh the comment of the comment of the week.

SPEAKER_00 36:38

All right, the comment of the week um comes from the reaction about the allowance when the wife had a thousand. She said she uh she felt broke, even though he gave her a thousand dollars worth of free play money, everyone. Oh, yeah. And this comment is from Mike and Ike Studio. Shout out to Mike. This is I I know Mike Perk. He's good, dude. Y'all look out, y'all look him up. He does great work. He says, Oh, I thought it was my wife uh uh in the story had me dead. Now look here, Mike. I did. I thought I thought my wife was taking shots at me. Okay, saying that I don't give her enough.

SPEAKER_01 37:11

Goodbye.

SPEAKER_00 37:12

I give her all I got. Which is not enough. I'm joking. That's crazy. Yeah, you see that? Y'all see how she does me? Y'all see how she does me?

SPEAKER_01 37:26

You left me open there.

SPEAKER_00 37:29

Lord Jesus. The second comment comes from uh Selena Cardi. And it's from one of the um, it's from one of the tells about apologizing because last week talked, we talked about apologizing.

SPEAKER_01 37:41

Apologizing, apologizing, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:42

So she says, I do not apologize, as I meant what I have done, and I make no apologies about it. And now, look here. Stand on business, queen.

SPEAKER_01 37:50

Ten tones down.

SPEAKER_00 37:51

Stand on like like old girl from the last one you just read. Stand on business.

SPEAKER_01 37:57

In the words of my uh in the words of my niece, yes, queen. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 38:02

Shout out to my niece, uh Michaela Thomas.

SPEAKER_01 38:04

Yes, Queen.

Hypotheticals: Income, 50-50, And Fairness

SPEAKER_00 38:05

She's an honor steward student at Howard University.

SPEAKER_01 38:08

She said, yes, Queen.

SPEAKER_00 38:10

And uh the last comment comes from me.

SPEAKER_01 38:11

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_00 38:12

I'm just doubling that back down on what Mike has said earlier. I said, oh Lord, I thought this was my testimony.

SPEAKER_01 38:18

You so fully.

SPEAKER_00 38:19

Because look here, I give this woman everything I got.

SPEAKER_01 38:24

We have already determined.

SPEAKER_00 38:26

It's not enough. I go without. Y'all, that's crazy. I'm so happy that Christmas is tomorrow, I'll finally get new socks and drawers.

SPEAKER_01 38:34

Okay. No, I switched it up for you. Oh, I get it. You haven't checked your stock and stuff for yet.

SPEAKER_00 38:39

See?

SPEAKER_01 38:40

I switched it up this year.

SPEAKER_00 38:41

I don't know what it is, but I finally I switched it up this year.

SPEAKER_01 38:44

I finally can't wait to throw them off every now and then, you know?

SPEAKER_00 38:47

Christmas is when I stop filling the breeze in between my legs. When you stop filling the breeze. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 38:54

Because you don't buy yourself draws. Because I that's crazy work. My money on y'all. Okay, you be you're being so dramatic. I'm not a big dry. You're being so dramatic. You can afford to buy yourself draws. I cannot. You are expensive. You can because I end up buying them for you.

SPEAKER_00 39:10

So babe, babe, babe, babe. Don't let your skin care. Please don't let this man. Your skincare is like$3,000.

SPEAKER_01 39:18

Please don't let this man try to convince y'all that he just he just has to just put himself beyond the back burner and he just can't do nothing for himself. Just Poe Mo. I'm just Paul Maurice. I'm just Paul More. You are making me crave ice cream. Um, I mean she's stressing me out.

SPEAKER_00 39:38

So this has been another episode. I know y'all can't hear this pop that she be doing her mouth because because the audio uh takes the sound out. This has been another episode of Live Podcast. We hope that you guys have a great Merry Christmas. Great. We don't say happy holidays here. Merry Christmas.

SPEAKER_01 39:59

Merry Christmas. Christmas. If you're not doing so already, you already know the shill.

SPEAKER_00 40:04

Like, subscribe, comment, comment, share. Tell a friend to tell a friend to tell a friend to tell grandma.

SPEAKER_01 40:11

Because my New Year's resolution this year.

SPEAKER_00 40:14

What is it?

SPEAKER_01 40:16

I don't believe in New Year's resolutions, first of all. Maybe for next week. Okay, but I don't. I'm just saying I don't believe in New Year's resolutions because I also believe that whatever it is you can wait to the New Year to do, you can do at any moment. Um but tell a friend to tell a friend, y'all. That's my New Year's resolution. That y'all get consistent with telling a friend to tell a friend.

SPEAKER_00 40:33

No, you tell a friend to tell a friend to tell grandma, because if grandma knows.

SPEAKER_01 40:36

If grandma knows and she put it on the book.

SPEAKER_00 40:38

Everybody know.

SPEAKER_01 40:39

Oh, that made me miss my granny. My granny used to say, uh, Pookie. It's on the book. I seen it on the book. You saw it on the book, Granny. It was on the book, Pookie. It was on the book. That's what my baby. She's saying it was. I miss my granny so much. It was on the book. Okay, Granny.

SPEAKER_00 40:55

I mean, she's probably the best thing about your family.

SPEAKER_01 40:59

Okay. I hope you guys have a very Merry Christmas. We'll be back next week, okay? For the last episode of 2023.

SPEAKER_00 41:08

There may be a special guest next week.

SPEAKER_01 41:10

Oh, maybe a special guest next week.

SPEAKER_00 41:12

There may be. All right. She's on my nerves about it.

SPEAKER_01 41:16

But until then, guys. Peace, booskies.