Life After I Do Podcast
Marriage and relationships can be tough. You may feel like you’re the only one struggling but you’re not. Life After I do is a weekly podcast where Morice and Kynesha, a black married millennial couple, share their experiences and advice on everything from kids and family to intimacy and connection. Noting is off limits.
In their 21 years together and 7 years of marriage, Morice and Kynesha have learned a lot about what it takes to make a relationship work. They know the importance of communication, trust and commitment. They also know it’s okay to not have it all figured out.
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Life After I Do Podcast
Our 2 Cents Vol. 26
In This Installment of Our 2 Cents.
Money can quietly strain a relationship long before anyone says it out loud. In this episode of Life After I Do Podcast, we explore how financial expectations, family pressure, and unspoken agreements turn into resentment—especially during the holidays. From being treated like the “walking wallet” to paying into homes you don’t own, we break down what’s fair, what’s familiar, and why clarity is essential for healthy partnership.
Through personal stories and listener dilemmas, we discuss cheating tied to financial imbalance, parenting boundaries, 50/50 contribution debates, and the real purpose of prenups. This episode offers practical guidance for setting money boundaries, protecting peace, and making sure your time, trust, and budget receive the same respect you give others.
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If we're both bringing in a half a million dollars a year and uh$300,000 of that is what you carrying, you still don't think we should be paying bills 50-50.
SPEAKER_00:Well, I don't think I don't think it should be a 50-50. I think if y'all bringing in half a million dollars together, it should just be one bank account together.
SPEAKER_01:And just well, that's that's that's still kind of. That's not 50-50. It's still kind of splitting everything. Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. Sit with us, join us on this Christmas Eve for the next coming. Okay. For like the next 30, 45 minutes. We won't keep you long.
SPEAKER_00:For the next 72 hours.
SPEAKER_01:No, we won't keep you long. Merry Christmas Eve, everybody. Almost a new year. Um, I hope that everyone gets what they wanted, I guess.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, my list wasn't that long.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I don't honestly, none of our lists were long this year.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, my list said that ass.
SPEAKER_01:Bye. Our kid list wasn't long either. It wasn't long.
SPEAKER_00:It was expensive.
SPEAKER_01:It was just, yeah. Very expensive. It was just a little costly.
SPEAKER_00:She said, I want a makeover, a room makeover.
SPEAKER_01:But in all fairness, it wouldn't have been as costly if we didn't like wait until, you know, 48 hours to try to pull everything together. So it wouldn't have been that bad.
SPEAKER_00:Well, I kept telling you to report to the e.l.f. workshop because everyone five, four, and under had to report.
SPEAKER_01:Listen.
SPEAKER_00:We're scrambling to get stuff together.
SPEAKER_01:Uh-huh. When they get done.
SPEAKER_00:When they get done. All right, y'all.
SPEAKER_01:The last couple last couple of weeks I kept saying, I got I got two weeks. They get done when they get done. You know? Um, but yeah, I hope every I hope everyone is. What the? Yeah, I know. Anyway, I hope everyone is having um a good Christmas Eve. I hope you have lots of time with your friends and family. Maybe you guys are doing family gift exchange. That's what we'll be doing today. Family gift exchange. No, we're not. Um, with our friends, actually. It's not canceling, it's our annual tradition. Um, but yeah, like I said, we won't keep you guys very long. Um, but yeah, so how's your week, babe?
SPEAKER_00:Um it's just exhausting.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Here you go. You know, he's finna put unnecessary extras on the world's smallest problems.
SPEAKER_00:It's just, you know, it's just a lot of weight on my shoulder. For what? You know, to carry the the financial load to be the most visually appearing, stop to be the strongest.
SPEAKER_01:What? Huh? The most what?
SPEAKER_00:The best looking one. I was trying to be nice.
SPEAKER_01:I can't. I couldn't even pronounce what you were trying to say. So that's crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Uh-huh appearing.
SPEAKER_01:Uh-huh. Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_00:So, I mean, I have a lot on me at all times. Like, don't get me wrong. I love my family. I love y'all. I love y'all really bad. I love y'all.
SPEAKER_01:You love us down bad.
SPEAKER_00:Down bad. I love y'all down bad. And I will go to the end of the world for y'all. And y'all know that. And y'all be sending me out there.
SPEAKER_01:We'll be taking you through there. Take me through there.
SPEAKER_00:All the way through there. You be taking me all the way through there. But I love y'all.
SPEAKER_01:Take me through there. I don't want to go through nothing else. 2026.
SPEAKER_00:Not for a it wasn't a bad week.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Um, you know, it's just schooled us out.
SPEAKER_01:And uh, you know, we got home full time.
SPEAKER_00:She's home full time, and then we got the nieces here, and yeah. It's just a good reminder of why we only have one.
SPEAKER_01:But it's nice having another child.
SPEAKER_00:It's nice.
SPEAKER_01:It is because it's because, well, but the but they play together and they keep each other occupied.
SPEAKER_00:Do they? Which is for 30 minutes at a time.
SPEAKER_01:Well, yeah, and then they then they fall out. Then they fall out, then I have to separate them for a little bit, and then they're ready to come back together because then they get bored and they're like, okay, well, you're here and I'm here, we can play together. Then they love each other, and then they have to go to their separate corners, and they love each other, then they have to go to their separate corner.
SPEAKER_00:They like they like the 60s and the pyrus. They always they they beefing all the time.
SPEAKER_01:They are so dramatic.
SPEAKER_00:They beefing all the time.
SPEAKER_01:Anyway, what was the highlight of your week? The highlight of my week? That guacamole you made. I made some bong. I'm not even gonna like lie. Look, I'm not even gonna hold you, though. It was pretty good. I'm not gonna hold you. My guac was a one.
SPEAKER_02:It was pretty good.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not even gonna lie, though. Y'all, I made some really good guac. So I normally get my guacamole.
SPEAKER_00:I thought we were talking, but whatever.
SPEAKER_01:I normally get my guacamole from um the uh like the Mexican market, and it's always so good and so fresh, but they've up they they've so fresh, so clean. They've gone up on the price, like everything else has gone up, and it's like eight dollars for like a smaller container. And I was like, I know how to make guac and I can make a lot more than what I'm finna buy for a lot less. So I bought like what, six or seven avocados. I cut up and smashed up four, put all my ingredients in there. I could I could have just sat there and ate the whole bowl. It was so good. It was pretty good. Good. And I did it all for six dollars. Honestly.
SPEAKER_00:The highlight of my week was you know, us being able to actually at the last minute.
SPEAKER_01:Not get caught up with uh things not being able to be shipped on time.
SPEAKER_00:Everything got here on time. And uh nothing is wrapped.
SPEAKER_01:Well, that's because it's huge boxes, so but you know, but she knows that um Santa had delivered some of her items early. Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00:Some of her items, and apparently she has a black Santa in her.
SPEAKER_01:She has a brown Santa and her friends have a peach Santa.
SPEAKER_00:I say, okay.
SPEAKER_01:She was like, Oh, mom, I get it. Because we're black, we get a brown Santa. And then all my friends, they have peach Santa's. Yeah. And I said, Well, Santa comes in many different colors, many different colors, but mostly black.
SPEAKER_00:How was your week, baby? Okay.
SPEAKER_01:How was your week? My reese, but mostly black. How was your week? My week was good. That's good.
SPEAKER_00:Tell us about it.
SPEAKER_01:Um, I mean, there's nothing significant to report, but it was a smooth week, just like going back and forth, finishing up stuff, getting ready for Christmas. What?
SPEAKER_00:Get to what you really want to talk about. What are you talking about? Tell us how you read 27 chapters in four hours.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my gosh. First of all, it wasn't four hours. Okay. What was it two? I read like 16 chapters in like two hours, two and a half hours. It's a picture book, y'all don't. Okay, it was shut up. It is not a damn picture book. And the only and it probably would have been less time than that, but I also had to like team the children, cook.
SPEAKER_00:My wife is back in her reading bag, and I've I've purchased her a bunch of books for Christmas. The kind of books she likes. You know, she reads thriller. She reads her porn.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. First of all, what you're not gonna do is just like flat cover books. First of all, the book that I'm currently reading is not a um is not a um uh like a fantasy or anything. It's a thriller, actually. And that one has really got me like flying through the play pages because it's it's thrilling. It's it's thrilling.
SPEAKER_00:A lot of sex scenes, huh?
SPEAKER_01:No, but it's not a no, there's no sex scenes at all, actually. Okay, but that's not what I'm reading. And the other ones are like love stories. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:They just have like I don't judge her for what she does.
SPEAKER_01:They just have um like strong, lustful.
SPEAKER_00:Lustful, huh? It's not even love. It's lust. Just a bunch of mandingos walking around, huh?
SPEAKER_01:No, but I I mean I read a bunch of different I read self-help. I read like self-help, but it's not helping. You see all the stuff that I read. Don't sit here and try to make it seem like I read smut. Don't do that.
SPEAKER_00:I say lately, you've been trying to.
SPEAKER_01:No, I lately I have not been read. The one that I'm reading right now is a thriller. It is not a smut.
SPEAKER_00:A thriller with a sex scene, everything's gonna be.
SPEAKER_01:There is no sex scene. There is a zero Okay. If anybody has ever read The Perfect Marriage, then you know that there is no sex scene in there. And it's the perfect marriage with perfect scratched out. Oh, okay. Because it's anything but there is no like overtly sex scenes in there. Anywho, yes, I'm almost done with that.
SPEAKER_00:Wait, I forgot. My week was great.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, wow. Wow.
SPEAKER_00:Really? I'm so tired, I'm forgetting things. Okay. My Eagles clink. Who cares? Them bum ass cowboys is going home. Who cares?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, I can't even care now because you talked so long. It is right in the world. All is not right in the world. I don't think we're gonna win the championship, right?
SPEAKER_00:This has been the last episode. Ah the last episode.
SPEAKER_01:It doesn't feel good, does it? Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:The Eagles got a better chance than the Sparks.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. They still probably ain't going to the championship, but okay.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know how you're a Tennessee. I know why you're a Tennessee Valve. That's fine.
SPEAKER_01:Anywho.
SPEAKER_00:Well we got today. Back to my week. No one cares anymore.
SPEAKER_01:So Fly Eagles. Um, yeah, but it was a productive week. Um, my baby girl is out of school, so we've been spending time together. Too much now. I've been uh, you know, cleaning out her room to prepare for all of her, like, you know, big girl stuff as she calls it. All her big girl stuff. Hold on.
SPEAKER_00:Not your daughter telling me, oh dad, Santa's delivering my bed today. It's coming early, so I'm gonna be sleeping in my new bed tonight. I'm gonna need you to get on that. Ma'am, you are not my wife.
SPEAKER_01:You are gonna have to wait till Christmas.
SPEAKER_00:You are not my wife. Right. You're gonna be sleeping on that same kid-sized bed you've been sleeping on for the last night.
SPEAKER_01:And you're gonna kidding. And you're gonna enjoy it. As a matter of fact, you're gonna enjoy that it's the last night that you're on it.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_01:So enjoy it. Um, but yeah, I can't wait to see her face when she like sees her do bed and her new little vanity setup.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, I have- I do have another message.
SPEAKER_01:This message is-If it's sport-related, I don't want to hear it.
SPEAKER_00:It's not this message is to my mother-in-law.
SPEAKER_01:What? Because she's allergic to shellfish, so now we can't have gumbo tomorrow for Christmas. He's upset because everybody wants to eat gumbo, but my mom is allergic to uh shellfish. Like she can eat it.
SPEAKER_00:And like my and like my father-in-law, so eloquently put it.
SPEAKER_01:He said, that's a bit selfish, isn't it?
SPEAKER_00:It's nine versus one. He said, it's nine versus one. How the hell does one win?
SPEAKER_01:I said exactly. He said, that's a bit selfish, it is. Nine versus nine. I'm not gonna run the risk of my mother's throat closing up so y'all can eat some things.
SPEAKER_00:We'll see her on uh tonight on Christmas Eve.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, I'm not gonna run the risk of my mother's throat. Mm-mm.
SPEAKER_00:What we got today, Booski?
SPEAKER_01:Um, we have an R2 Cent episode for back. We're gonna do back to back. We're gonna end the year out.
SPEAKER_00:Like the Eagles, baby.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, like the Dodgers, baby. We're gonna end the year with back-to-back episodes of our two cents.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So we'll just hop right on into it because we know y'all got family to get to, so we don't want to hold you, you know, because it's the holidays. But we also didn't want to leave y'all hanging. Yeah, y'all listen to y'all weekly. Listen to it when you got time. Um, okay, so here we go. So he's asking if he's a jerk for canceling a family trip after he realized that he was gonna be expected to pay for everything.
SPEAKER_00:No. Okay. I cancel our shows. All right.
SPEAKER_01:So he said, My family planned a weekend trip and asked if I wanted to join. Okay. I agree because it sounded nice, and I assumed that everyone would be contributing. As planning continued, it became clear they expected me to handle the hotel booking and the rental car and most meals because I quote unquote earn more than they do. No one asked directly. They just kept saying things like, Well, can you just put it on your card and we'll figure it out later? In the past, later never comes. I finally asked what the cost split would be, and the conversation got awkward. And someone joked that I should just treat everyone since I'm doing so well in life. That moment made me realize I was being invited more as a sponsor than a participant. I told them that I was no longer going. Now they say that I have ruined their trip and made money an issue when that should not be a matter when it comes to family.
SPEAKER_00:Fudge all them. We starting off with the fudge strong. Fudge all of them.
SPEAKER_01:That's crazy work. But I love, I love the comp. Can you put it on your card and then we'll just think we'll figure it out later? It was like later never comes. Later never comes. They was like, look, we know you got them Amexes. Just put them on the Amex and we can just figure out the details later.
SPEAKER_00:Look here, the only thing. That's hilarious, actually. Bye. Bye. That's who I'm sponsoring. That that's where my sponsor list stops.
SPEAKER_01:That's crazy work, though. That's really wild. You're gonna you you already know that your intention of inviting me is so that like you can try to get me to pay. Not because you want to spend time with me, not because like we're a family, we haven't seen each other. Oh, like my brother got it, so we'll just act like we want him to come, and then we'll just see if he can put it on his credit card. I got it for the cards.
SPEAKER_00:I got it for my family. That's wild. I got it from my family. Look for it, look here. I got it from my family. He's not a jerk. But this is when, this is when you get petty. Oh gosh. Okay, you take the trip, don't tell him. You book the trip for you and whoever you want to pay for, and then y'all post pictures of the trip.
SPEAKER_01:Bye.
SPEAKER_00:And show how you had a good time because you could cover your your trip.
SPEAKER_01:Bye. So still go on the trip anyway, just with not everybody who else. Just don't make it a blue trip.
SPEAKER_00:If they show up, they show up. We can we can get together when we get there. But you know, I'm gonna get there how I get there. You get there how you get there.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, that's crazy. Okay, so this one is are they being an asshole for walking away from a house that I have no equity in or say in and stiffing my soon-to-be ex.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, probably not. Let's go.
SPEAKER_01:Um, before we got married, my in-law sat me down and explained that I will never uh be on any paperwork for the house that they had helped my fiance purchase as a wedding gift. They insisted on an ironclawed prenup. I got a lawyer and made sure that I was protected as well. After we got married, I contributed to the expenses of our household 50-50, mortgage, and everything. It was a little more than I paid in written utilities, but I figured we'd be building a future together. I make a decent living as a welder and I don't own a lot of stuff. I have a truck, a welding lid, a laptop, and some clothes. Before I met my wife, I lived in Airbnb's and all-inclusive resorts. I work four weeks on and two weeks off, so it didn't make sense to rent a house that would sit empty for months at a time. I've helped my wife upgrade, renovate, and furnish the house. I give a simple example. We bought a very nice sectional. I paid half up front by giving her the money. Then she bought it on her credit card to get the points. After that, it was no longer my problem. I recently found out that she has been seeing her ex when I am out of town.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, wow. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:I don't play them type of games. I will never compete for a woman and I do not forgive cheating. So last time I came home from work, I stayed at an Airbnb. I took the time to see a lawyer and I initiated a divorce. When my time off was done, I went back to work. My next break is after the new year, and I will be going to an all-inclusive. Neither the last time or from now on, did I or will I be giving her any money? The problem is that she didn't use the money I gave her to pay down the mortgage or her credit card bills. She blew it on other stuff. So now she's in a bind. The money, my money made her lifestyle possible. By just leaving and not engaging, she's kind of screwed. But there's nothing more that I will do. We don't even have a dog like I wanted to because she didn't want to care for the dog when I was away. So all I have left behind was a suit that I bought for our wedding. Maybe some gym clothes, my dress shoes, um, once again, which were also for the wedding. She and her family and her friends are all over me about helping her during our divorce. I have no obligation to do so, though. And after our divorce, I have no obligation, even less. I can literally live out of my suitcase and my backpack. My only living expense beyond housing is a long-term parking for my truck. Even my mom seems to think that I'm screwing her over and punishing her too harshly. I personally can't believe my mom will take her side, but my parents' divorce was really antagonistic, and their inability to communicate led to both of them being much worse off than if they had cooperated and ended things amicably. But am I being an asshole to my ex?
SPEAKER_00:Hell no. F her, F her mama, her daddy, herball, headache, great. And if she haven't time, if she hear if she's struggling to keep up with the bills, she better suck more penis.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. You're going too far.
SPEAKER_00:The ex better step up. Stop it.
SPEAKER_01:Yo, that's what she wanted, right?
SPEAKER_00:Stop it. She they her parents made sure everything was separate because they didn't want now let her lose it because she's about to lose the house anyway.
SPEAKER_01:She's not gonna lose the house. I don't I don't think her parents will let her lose the house.
SPEAKER_00:She she he just said she drowning in debt.
SPEAKER_01:No, she's not she's not drowning. He didn't say she was drowning in debt. He said that she basically wasn't responsible with the money that he was giving her by like paying down the mortgage or paying off her credit card bill.
SPEAKER_00:And that's because that means she has nothing in reserve.
SPEAKER_01:But that's but every month. And like he said, his money created her lifestyle.
SPEAKER_00:And every month he don't give her something, she further, further in the hole. It's just a matter of time for she gotta sell that house or before mama and daddy move in to help her live there. She chose, she chose the the the cheat. Yeah. It's crazy. You out here cheating and you can't sustain your own lifestyle by yourself. That's crazy. Well, that's like if you out here cheating. What are you gonna do when I leave?
SPEAKER_01:Stay in my house. How you cheating? But you just said when I leave. You see her what you you said when when you leave.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, wow.
SPEAKER_01:I wasn't going anywhere. I'm gonna stay in my house. You're gonna stay here. I'm gonna stay in my house.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, for 90 days.
SPEAKER_01:You gotta you gotta prove it first.
SPEAKER_00:You're gonna stay here for 90 days.
SPEAKER_01:You gotta prove it first.
SPEAKER_00:Prove what?
SPEAKER_01:You gonna put your daughter out on the street because she ain't going with you. She could be with me. She's not going with you. Damn.
SPEAKER_00:Come on now.
SPEAKER_01:Don't hurt your own feelings.
SPEAKER_00:You know damn well.
SPEAKER_01:Damn. Don't hurt your own feelings.
SPEAKER_00:She loves you, but she don't like you like that.
SPEAKER_01:Maurice. I'm fun dad. No, you know. Don't do that to yourself.
SPEAKER_00:You think he's wrong for that? For not giving her no money? I don't Okay. See, here you go.
SPEAKER_01:Let me think about this.
SPEAKER_00:Now you gotta think about it.
SPEAKER_01:I understand where he's coming from.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, but at one point he loved her?
SPEAKER_01:No.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. Because you're about to shoot her some bell. You're about to have to find a new way to piss me off.
SPEAKER_01:I wasn't finna shoot her no bell. Come on. I can understand where he's coming from.
SPEAKER_00:God damn it, you did it. I done told you many times about that damn popping sound you make with your mouth.
SPEAKER_01:I can understand where he's coming from. I think, you know what? No, because I was gonna say, instead of it being so abrupt, like you could just like shoot her something and be like, and that's it. But she should also know the type of man that she married. She should know that he he's not with the bullshit. Like, obviously, he's like he said, My money supported her lifestyle, which he was totally okay with. He was totally okay with. He was he even still married you, knowing damn well that he wouldn't even have any rights to the home that he lives in.
SPEAKER_00:So he wasn't with you for what you could give him. Right, right.
SPEAKER_01:But clearly, he clearly he has money because he lives a very simple life prior to his wife and with his wife.
SPEAKER_00:He said, All I need is my truck.
SPEAKER_01:That's it. He was like, I can live out of my backpack. So it's not, it's not a bad. So he ain't got no debts or nothing like that. He's like, boo, listen.
SPEAKER_00:It's crazy to me.
SPEAKER_01:So I think that's why it's so easy for him to cut ties as well. And like he said, he was like, I will never compete for a week.
SPEAKER_00:I'm pretty sure there's plenty of women that would take this or take this arrangement. So you tell me you go on for four weeks and you're gonna help me pay all these bills, and I only gotta entertain you for two. And I can live my life, do what I want. Crazy work.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:So crazy work.
SPEAKER_01:All right, let's see. Um here we go. And I being a jerk for telling my friend her child won't be coming near mine.
SPEAKER_00:No, you're not. Come on now.
SPEAKER_01:I'm a 30-year-old female and I'm pregnant right now. My friend who's 29 has a two-year-old daughter, and she is spoiled rotten. She's very aggressive when someone slash other children touches things or toys that she wants. Sometimes it won't even be hers. She's also prone to aggressive tantrums, hitting, biting, mostly her parents, never someone else. I already felt uncomfortable bringing my baby once he was here close to her, but I figured she won't go close to him for a while because, you know, she's so pregnant. Today we went out together to eat, and her toddler was playing in a designated area, supervised, of course. All of a sudden, she pushed another toddler off the playmat, rolled him off of it, hit him, then bit him until he let go of the toy that was in his hand because she wanted it.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:The boy was crying so badly, and the other parents were livid. My friend kept saying her daughter did nothing wrong, and we were asked to leave by management because my friend and the mom started screaming at each other. My friend laughed at the whole situation and told me that she hopes that my boy will be more tough and handle her girl better. Okay. I should also raise him to be a man and not a crybaby like the other kids. Oh, okay. Through all of this, I was still very speechless, but the moment she said what she said, I said, nope. I told her that in no way in the future will I let my child near hers until she can get her children her girl under control. She's spoiled, aggressive, a little bitch, and scary in all honesty.
SPEAKER_02:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:My friend is now claiming that I'm an asshole for saying mean things about her child, and her child did nothing wrong, and she expects a full apology, or she will not come over to help me with anything once the baby is born. Because we only live five houses away. I don't feel that I was wrong, but was I being mean to a child? No.
SPEAKER_00:Because it was okay for her to be mean to the little boy that her.
SPEAKER_01:You basically caught the little boy a bitch for him crying, but your daughter bit him until he let he let loose of a damn toy that probably wasn't even hers.
SPEAKER_00:This ain't got shit to do with the story. There was a time where I made it shit, it's still public known. If you fuck with mine, I don't care how old your kid is. Yeah. I'm fucking you up. Yeah. I'm ca it because at some point, the child's behavior is a direct reflection of your parenting. At that age it is.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that.
SPEAKER_00:You don't?
SPEAKER_01:Not a direct, not necessarily a direct reflection. I think some of the beh I think I do think that some of the behaviors that children start to showcase are behaviors that they know that they can be allowed to get away with. Yes. And that is that could be a direct reflection of your parenting because it's almost like, you know, how kids behave differently when they're with grandparents than when they're with parents, than they're with a babysitter. Okay. Right? Kids are very smart. Okay. They are very smart. I don't disagree. So they know the type of shit they can get away with with each person whose care they are in.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, let me let me reframe what I said. You are a shitty parent if you allow your kid to go into a public space with public kids and then push, kick, and bite another kid. And you don't reprimand it. Because if had that been reverse, yeah, and that little boy push, kick, and bit your daughter, you would have taught you she would have burned the motherfucking house down. Yeah. So you should be able, at the very least, be able to take and receive the same energy you put out. Yeah. Keep the same energy.
SPEAKER_01:But that's difficult because it's your child.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, is it? Yeah. That's why I don't play about mine. And I don't mess with nobody else's. Because I know I don't play about mine.
SPEAKER_01:That's true. Yeah, no, people need to get a rein on their children. Listen, if you have a kid who kicks, bites, yells, screams, cusses, all of the above, steals, and you don't even make an attempt to try to reprimand that child. Uh-huh. Of course, in their mind, they did nothing wrong. Of course. If you keep telling them they did nothing wrong and you do it in front of them, and then you sit there and laugh. That's the part that got me. You sat there and laughed. So now in her daughter's mind, she's like, I can keep doing this shit all day. But see, it's funny. Because it's effective. It gets me what I want. And mama's on board. It's funny until you run to the right one today. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Now when you run to the right one today, I guarantee look here. Yeah. I know we don't say this, people. Yeah. But I guarantee you, those this kid is from the Caucus Mountains. Stop it. Because had she been kicked, pushed, uh, a black child.
SPEAKER_01:How do you know they weren't black? You don't know they weren't black.
SPEAKER_00:Dr. Umar can tell this shit that these kids ain't black in this story.
SPEAKER_01:Goodbye. Goodbye. Goodbye.
SPEAKER_00:Had they messed with the right one that day, be a whole different goddamn story.
SPEAKER_01:The thing is, is all the kid needs is another kid who's just like that.
SPEAKER_00:To whoop his ass.
SPEAKER_01:It's a her. It's a shit.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:All she needs to do is all she needs to do is come into all she needs to do is come into contact with a kid with the same type of mentality and not prompt. I just thought about it.
SPEAKER_00:She said that she wants her friend to raise her son to be more a man. How about you raise your daughter to be soft enough where a man wants to marry her?
SPEAKER_01:Maurice, we are talking about children. No, no, but that's what she said. I know, but we're talking about, but these are babies. But I'm keeping her energy. I know, but these are babies. That's ridiculous. These are babies. I know, but these are babies. They don't know nothing about that. See, and this this is exactly how people start screwing up children. This is exactly it.
SPEAKER_00:Who messed you up? I got a list.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Goodbye. All right, here we go. Um I'm uh I'm 43. Got mad at my wife who's 39 after she answered my hypothetical question and I did not like her answer.
SPEAKER_00:Oh Lord, okay.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Background. I work, she does not. I make more than 200,000 K a year, so she doesn't really have to work. However, she came into the marriage with over 40,000 in credit card debt. So I simply asked her to get a job just to pay off her credit cards, and then she could she could quit. As she was browsing job posts yesterday, she came across one where the upper end of the salary range was over$300,000 a year. And she joked that she might just be making more than me, maybe thinking that I would be insecure about it. On the contrary, I told her that I would love that because we could split the bills. She immediately said, uh no. I thought she was joking, but she was not. I was caught off guard and pressed her on it and asked if she would really not contribute if she was making more than me. She said she would contribute, but took issue with it being 50-50, saying she would never do that, even if she made more money than me. Keep in mind, this is all hypothetical, and it's very unlikely that she would make more than me, but it still bothered me and it turned into a little mini fight. I decided to drop it, but I woke up this morning and it's still kind of bothering me. Is it stupid for me to be this upset about a hypothetical situation that is unlikely to ever happen?
SPEAKER_00:No. Let me tell you why. Let me tell you why. She is now showing you who she is. Because she meant what she said.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Basically, what she said is it don't matter how much she makes, she don't mind helping you out when you need a little something, but she she expects to be taken care of.
SPEAKER_01:Well, because she wants to keep you motivated.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, woman. If that's now, if that's what you've signed up for, cool, but I don't think he realized that's who we had.
SPEAKER_01:But like he said, it doesn't matter. But he said that he's just a little, he's just a little taken back as to if you you mean to tell me if we're both bringing in a half a million dollars a year and uh$300,000 of that is what you carrying, you still don't think we should be paying bills 50-50.
SPEAKER_00:Well, I don't think I don't think it should be a 50-50. I think if y'all bringing in half a million dollars together, it should just be one bank account together.
SPEAKER_01:And just well, that's that's that's still kind of that's not 50-50. It's still kind of splitting everything. You mean you're just paying everything out of the out of the pot. Out of the pot.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, but I mean I guarantee you she's gonna spend more than he's been.
SPEAKER_01:And that's probably what she's thinking. That's why she was like, I would never do 50-50. It wouldn't keep you motivated. That's probably what she I bet you that's what she's thinking.
SPEAKER_00:Ma'am, I'm not motivated to keep you happy.
SPEAKER_01:No, I'm motivated for you to for you to continue to better yourself.
SPEAKER_00:My only motivation is to keep a roof over your head and keep the one upstairs happy.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, and then but that helps you, that helps motivate. I am your happiness. First of all, no, you're not. That that motivates you to continuously do better for yourself. That's what she's trying to say. Okay, man. I get what she's saying, you know? Okay, I get what she's saying. You know, you want to keep you want to keep them motivated. And that's that's typically how you stay motivated.
SPEAKER_00:I doubt it, but okay.
SPEAKER_01:Bye, male. Okay, last one. Here we go. Um, am I overreacting for breaking off my engagement? Nope. All right, I'm a 24-year-old female. Recently broke off an engagement with my fiance, who's also 24, because he refused to sign my prenup. Oh, let's see why. We've been together for over two years, two years dating, four months engaged. From the beginning, I've always been very open about the fact that I will not get married without a prenup. And if that's a deal breaker, then the relationship will not work. He was completely fine with this and he understood. Okay. Somehow he found out how much money I was worth, which was wrong. But in any case, he got mad at me for hiding this from him and re- and I reminded him that this was all for my parents' hard work, and I would want this to be protected even for my parents. Because my parents would save it for me and my sister and eventually their grandchildren. This blew up into an argument, and he said it's unfair, and he's entitled to the many if we get married. The fuck? I told him this money isn't even liquid. And regardless, I've always told him that I will not get married without a prenup and that he's making me feel like he's just wanting to marry me now because of what the money my parents have saved for me. He said the classic, why get a prenup if you love me? You won't get a divorce.
SPEAKER_00:Here we go.
SPEAKER_01:To which I retaliated with, if we're not getting a divorce and you love me, why would this even matter to you? This argument became too much, and he put his foot down on not signing the prenup. And I told him that I will not be marrying him. And his family said that I was overreacting and called me selfish. Okay. Am I overreacting? Broke boys don't deserve no pussy. Bye. No, I don't ask right. No. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Hold on now.
SPEAKER_01:Bye.
SPEAKER_00:Hold on. Bye. That's a pause of tape. Look here. Yeah, that's I'm on her side 100%. Yes, yes. I'm on her side when I'm gonna do it. I'm on her side too. Because you was all, he was all for it when you thought she wasn't working.
SPEAKER_01:Well, we when she originally said that I will not be getting married without a prenup. And before he knew in her background, he was just like, okay, that's cool. Like he looked at her like you ain't got shit anyway. But then apparently he decided to get curious, find out that she would have a little room song.
SPEAKER_00:I got a workaround.
SPEAKER_01:But like she said, she said it's not even liquid.
SPEAKER_00:It's not liquid. And it's not even all hers because she got sisters.
SPEAKER_01:She has siblings, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:So he don't know what that's gonna be.
SPEAKER_01:And he don't know what it is because she also said whatever he found out, she was like, it's wrong.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Right.
SPEAKER_01:It's wrong.
SPEAKER_00:And you don't know how, because she didn't say her parents was uh had passed. So I'm assuming they're still living. You don't know how that money is set up, right? They had they may set up where you never see a piece of it.
SPEAKER_01:You don't know how much money there is. People automatically assume that because there's like a trust or something set up, that there must be millions in there.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I'm gonna tell you right now, in the Gill Trust?
SPEAKER_01:It's there's it's not millions. There's not millions in our trust.
SPEAKER_00:You'd be a little comfortable.
SPEAKER_01:Look, yes.
SPEAKER_00:Look, look, you be comfortable.
SPEAKER_01:You be yeah, you you'll be able to get some shit done.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, you know, you ain't gonna be out, but you ain't gonna be able to retire.
SPEAKER_01:You still might have to have a little part-time, you know.
SPEAKER_00:But I think this is I think this is this is for me, this is crazy. Yeah, yeah. And now I'm questioning his motives, as is she.
SPEAKER_01:So the fact that you would say the whole cliche is you love me and we ain't gonna get no divorce. Right. Says everyone And she should look at him and say, You weren't with me when I was shooting in the gym. Bye. By the male. You weren't with me when I was shooting in the gym. She wasn't in the gym.
SPEAKER_00:Her dad took the shots.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, exactly. I was like, her parents were in the gym. And as a father? Her parents were in the gym.
SPEAKER_00:See, now this maybe now I I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.
SPEAKER_01:You didn't even think about that, huh? Yeah, I didn't. I gotta call the lawyer. I think you still have one more year before you can make changes.
SPEAKER_00:Look here, I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.
SPEAKER_01:You gotta have a.
SPEAKER_00:I'm calling the lawyer in the morning.
SPEAKER_01:As a father, if you marry a piece of shit, I would never put anything in there like that. I don't want that to touch nothing. I mean, I mean, not like a piece, like not literally saying if you, because that's you know, that's objective. If you marry a piece of shit, you don't get nothing.
SPEAKER_00:You know what? Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:But that's why I'm I'm hoping that's why the way we set it up, the way we did, where it's like, you know, the the 18, the 25, and she gets the rest.
SPEAKER_00:You know, like hopefully she had learned some lessons in life by then. Hold on. It is now officially a requirement that Phoenix has a prenup when she gets married. Oh my gosh. Because he is getting nothing. I am not nothing. I am not letting some other two-legged bastard really walk away with my my daughter, my my money I left for my daughter.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my gosh, cut it out.
SPEAKER_00:And she better be she better hope that she gets the money. Because if she gives me some grandsons, they getting all the money.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:It's gonna go right over her.
SPEAKER_01:She better make sure her shit is together.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_01:Because I'll I'll be petty and leave it to a pet.
SPEAKER_00:Not a pet. It's gonna go to Leia. We better go to Leia before we go with anybody else.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, when she a teenager, keep fucking with me.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know. The way I don't know.
SPEAKER_01:I'll leave it to our dog.
SPEAKER_00:Now I'm thinking the way Zara smiled at me today. She uh she she she cramped in there.
SPEAKER_01:She smiled at me.
SPEAKER_00:That's my kneeshaw.
SPEAKER_01:I said, she's like, I'll tell Phoenix when she's a teenager. Go ahead, keep looking with me.
SPEAKER_00:You fucking with your future.
SPEAKER_01:You're gonna mess around here and really have to get it out the mud. Like everyone else. Right.
SPEAKER_00:That's wild though. That's a red flag, run. Say your money.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, definitely. That's a red flag. And yeah. But she's she's standing ten toes down. She said, I've had I've told him more than one occasion, it is not going to happen without a pre-well.
SPEAKER_00:You know what? He should go get with um old girl that um was cheating on her husband that was a welder. Because apparently, money ain't the issue for them. Basically.
SPEAKER_01:Let's hop into uh the comment of the comment of the week.
SPEAKER_00:All right, the comment of the week um comes from the reaction about the allowance when the wife had a thousand. She said she uh she felt broke, even though he gave her a thousand dollars worth of free play money, everyone. Oh, yeah. And this comment is from Mike and Ike Studio. Shout out to Mike. This is I I know Mike Perk. He's good, dude. Y'all look out, y'all look him up. He does great work. He says, Oh, I thought it was my wife uh uh in the story had me dead. Now look here, Mike. I did. I thought I thought my wife was taking shots at me. Okay, saying that I don't give her enough.
SPEAKER_01:Goodbye.
SPEAKER_00:I give her all I got. Which is not enough. I'm joking. That's crazy. Yeah, you see that? Y'all see how she does me? Y'all see how she does me?
SPEAKER_01:You left me open there.
SPEAKER_00:Lord Jesus. The second comment comes from uh Selena Cardi. And it's from one of the um, it's from one of the tells about apologizing because last week talked, we talked about apologizing.
SPEAKER_01:Apologizing, apologizing, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:So she says, I do not apologize, as I meant what I have done, and I make no apologies about it. And now, look here. Stand on business, queen.
SPEAKER_01:Ten tones down.
SPEAKER_00:Stand on like like old girl from the last one you just read. Stand on business.
SPEAKER_01:In the words of my uh in the words of my niece, yes, queen. Yes.
SPEAKER_00:Shout out to my niece, uh Michaela Thomas.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, Queen.
SPEAKER_00:She's an honor steward student at Howard University.
SPEAKER_01:She said, yes, Queen.
SPEAKER_00:And uh the last comment comes from me.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my goodness.
SPEAKER_00:I'm just doubling that back down on what Mike has said earlier. I said, oh Lord, I thought this was my testimony.
SPEAKER_01:You so fully.
SPEAKER_00:Because look here, I give this woman everything I got.
SPEAKER_01:We have already determined.
SPEAKER_00:It's not enough. I go without. Y'all, that's crazy. I'm so happy that Christmas is tomorrow, I'll finally get new socks and drawers.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. No, I switched it up for you. Oh, I get it. You haven't checked your stock and stuff for yet.
SPEAKER_00:See?
SPEAKER_01:I switched it up this year.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know what it is, but I finally I switched it up this year.
SPEAKER_01:I finally can't wait to throw them off every now and then, you know?
SPEAKER_00:Christmas is when I stop filling the breeze in between my legs. When you stop filling the breeze. Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Because you don't buy yourself draws. Because I that's crazy work. My money on y'all. Okay, you be you're being so dramatic. I'm not a big dry. You're being so dramatic. You can afford to buy yourself draws. I cannot. You are expensive. You can because I end up buying them for you.
SPEAKER_00:So babe, babe, babe, babe. Don't let your skin care. Please don't let this man. Your skincare is like$3,000.
SPEAKER_01:Please don't let this man try to convince y'all that he just he just has to just put himself beyond the back burner and he just can't do nothing for himself. Just Poe Mo. I'm just Paul Maurice. I'm just Paul More. You are making me crave ice cream. Um, I mean she's stressing me out.
SPEAKER_00:So this has been another episode. I know y'all can't hear this pop that she be doing her mouth because because the audio uh takes the sound out. This has been another episode of Live Podcast. We hope that you guys have a great Merry Christmas. Great. We don't say happy holidays here. Merry Christmas.
SPEAKER_01:Merry Christmas. Christmas. If you're not doing so already, you already know the shill.
SPEAKER_00:Like, subscribe, comment, comment, share. Tell a friend to tell a friend to tell a friend to tell grandma.
SPEAKER_01:Because my New Year's resolution this year.
SPEAKER_00:What is it?
SPEAKER_01:I don't believe in New Year's resolutions, first of all. Maybe for next week. Okay, but I don't. I'm just saying I don't believe in New Year's resolutions because I also believe that whatever it is you can wait to the New Year to do, you can do at any moment. Um but tell a friend to tell a friend, y'all. That's my New Year's resolution. That y'all get consistent with telling a friend to tell a friend.
SPEAKER_00:No, you tell a friend to tell a friend to tell grandma, because if grandma knows.
SPEAKER_01:If grandma knows and she put it on the book.
SPEAKER_00:Everybody know.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, that made me miss my granny. My granny used to say, uh, Pookie. It's on the book. I seen it on the book. You saw it on the book, Granny. It was on the book, Pookie. It was on the book. That's what my baby. She's saying it was. I miss my granny so much. It was on the book. Okay, Granny.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, she's probably the best thing about your family.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. I hope you guys have a very Merry Christmas. We'll be back next week, okay? For the last episode of 2023.
SPEAKER_00:There may be a special guest next week.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, maybe a special guest next week.
SPEAKER_00:There may be. All right. She's on my nerves about it.
SPEAKER_01:But until then, guys. Peace, booskies.
