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Fact or Fiction

• Life After I Do • Season 1 • Episode 107

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This episode starts with 90-year-olds dancing and ends with real talk about love, growth, and the small decisions that build a lasting relationship.

We play a round of Fact or Fiction to bust myths about marriage, then share real lessons about money, chores, sex, and emotional repair. From the difference between fairness and equality to the power of touch and real apologies, this one’s full of game you can actually use.

We also weigh in on two listener-submitted AITA stories—one about step-parenting pressure, the other about showing up during an emergency. Both open the door to deeper convos around grief, partnership, and defining what support really looks like.

Thanks for rocking with us! Don’t forget to follow Life After I Do so you never miss an episode. Got a relationship situation you want us to weigh in on? Hit us at https://linktr.ee/lifeafteridopodcast — we just might talk about it in a future episode.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, what does that mean weakens your position? What you trying to you're trying to say you right. Like what are you trying to say?

SPEAKER_03:

You should be secure yours unless Maya calls.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm still secure even if Maya calls.

SPEAKER_03:

If Maya if Maya call if Coco calls, maybe not Coco, Coco little. She she she interferes. Well, no, I'll be back.

SPEAKER_00:

You're so dumb.

SPEAKER_02:

Hey everyone, and welcome back to your weekly dose of Life After I Do Podcast. Sit back, relax, enjoy the next few minutes with us, I guess.

SPEAKER_01:

Party on down to the escape beat is kicking. Jess kicking. Jess kicking. Jess kicking.

SPEAKER_03:

I'll tell them to escape was like always like they were like top five, but they were always like four or five. They were never top three.

SPEAKER_02:

They were top five, but they were four or five.

SPEAKER_03:

They were never like top three.

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For you. Because for some, that's not true.

SPEAKER_03:

That's crazy work. Well, I mean, if you're talking girl groups, SWV gotta be number one.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. That's your number one. That's your opinion.

SPEAKER_03:

We're talking just 90s. We ain't talking about the Destiny Child Beyond. We knew SWVE is number one.

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Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

Can't nobody sing better than Coco.

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Now we know where he stands. How was your week? It was cool.

SPEAKER_01:

Care to elaborate? It was cool. It was fun.

SPEAKER_03:

I had family. My mom was down. Lord knows that's stressful. Lord Jesus. But it was still a good visit. I love my mama. But she stressed me out. She be stressing me out.

SPEAKER_02:

Whose mom doesn't stress them out? I feel like it's a rite of passage.

SPEAKER_03:

You know, my sister's here. So my mom, my sister was here, and my my Izzy Busy was here.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. His niece.

SPEAKER_03:

Izzy Busy.

SPEAKER_02:

She's so damn cute.

SPEAKER_03:

She's adorable.

SPEAKER_02:

But but it's it's her her mannerisms and her attitude for me. Like she, if she don't mess with you, she don't mess with you like the hard way. And she will give you like the stank eye. Like she be, she'll look at you and you will know that she don't like you, or she's not messing with you. But that's the same. And then when she warms up to you, she'll be like, okay, girl, we can be friends.

SPEAKER_03:

But at the same time, she'll be like.

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She's also one, by the way.

SPEAKER_03:

At the same time, she shares everything with you.

SPEAKER_02:

Right, she does. She will. She'll show everything. But I like when she says, clock it. Clock it. Clock it. Clock it.

SPEAKER_01:

She's too cute.

SPEAKER_02:

She's too cute. Yeah, so this week, this was a good, this was a good past weekend. Like he said, we had family down. I loved having my sister-in-law down, my mother-in-law. It was fun. We went to Uncle Frank's 90th.

SPEAKER_03:

90th birthday.

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90th birthday.

SPEAKER_03:

Mom turned 90.

SPEAKER_02:

His uncle turned 90 years old. And I'm talking like, I'm not talking like 90 and frail. I'm talking 90, full capacity, holding conversations with everybody, walking around, giving hugs. Like he's 90 in the good way. Uncle look good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

He led a stress-free life.

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He does.

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Because he has to deal with LaShawn.

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Bye. That's his mother, by the way. But yeah, he's he's he's 90 in the way that you would strive to be 90. Like legit. And he what did he say? He said, I'll see y'all next year. Like with confidence. He was like, I'll I'll see you next year. Don't worry about it. But it was a really beautiful celebration. Um, I think one of my favorite parts was how uh his daughter Gigi had some of his uh oldest classmates, like that are they're all still in there, yeah. And they were all like Was a class of 50. Class of six four or something like that. I said, I wouldn't even thought of. But to um like to see all of them up there, and they were all like living in the 80s like the 80 and 90s in the good way. Like no, they were all 90. Well, 90, but they were all like I'm talking if you had you not known that these people were 90 years old. You would thought they were in like their 70s, like maybe their late 70s. They all look good, cracking jokes on each other still. Like you can tell it's that real, genuine old high school friendship.

SPEAKER_03:

Although I caught it though. The one lady I was like She was like, he always messing with me. I said, she wanted my uncle back in the day.

SPEAKER_02:

She was like, he was always messing with me and pranking jokes on me. I said, not y'all was teenagers once upon a time. That's crazy words. I said, look here, ma'am. He's his lady is right there. She's sitting in that queen chair that's next to the king chair. So relax. Calm down. Look, not y'all trying to get messy and y'all. Right, you 90. Y'all gotta be over this lady.

SPEAKER_01:

Starting mess at 90 is wild.

SPEAKER_02:

Starting Mess at 90. Shut up. Wait a minute. That just made me think about like, you think, you do you think like older people like that still get jealous and stuff with relationships?

SPEAKER_03:

I don't think older people, I think. Do you think they get like territorial? I think once you hit 70, what's gonna be gonna be? It might hurt him a little bit, but they're gonna keep pushing. Look at my grandma.

SPEAKER_02:

Because I literally don't have that much time to.

SPEAKER_03:

Look at my like my grandma, like yeah, my grandma's not 89, y'all. So last year.

SPEAKER_02:

Her boyfriend died last year.

SPEAKER_03:

Her boyfriend died last year when she was 88. And she was like, Well, I mean, he he won the first one. I said, damn, granny.

SPEAKER_02:

I think it's because, I think it's because, and that's his grandmother on his dad's side. So his dad's grandmother, who is she's 89. She's 89, and her boyfriend died last year. I think it was last year. Last year or the year before last. You know, she was hurt, obviously, but it was like, I feel like when you get to that point in age, it's well, we know that it's coming. You know what I mean? Like if for us to even be here this long is already a blessing. So, you know, when it does happen, it's almost like Yeah, we here. We here, and you know Bless his heart.

SPEAKER_03:

Shut up.

SPEAKER_02:

Shut up.

SPEAKER_03:

Quiet as a mouse pissing on cotton.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh my gosh. Okay, so they had uh Frank Frankisms on the back of his birthday, like his birthday celebration card, and it's like all his little sayings. And he was like, What did he say? She was as quiet as a mouse pissing on cotton. That's the one that took me out.

SPEAKER_03:

No, no, they tried to charge me extra.

SPEAKER_02:

You know, they tried to charge me extra. Well, I couldn't tell because the apron looked like she'd been playing in uh powder. She'd been making noise.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm like the uh I like that. I'm gonna have to go ahead and terminate this call.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah. When he gets tired of talking to you on the phone, I'm gonna have to go ahead and terminate this call. But yeah, it was a beautiful weekend. Uh like I said, you know, on the last episode.

SPEAKER_03:

Wait a minute. What? The party was great, but the the person who had the most fun at the party was Phoenix Rain. Look here.

SPEAKER_02:

My daughter. Our child. My daughter hit that dance floor. And she didn't step off of it.

SPEAKER_03:

She didn't step off of it.

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I mean, and I'm talking dancing, turning tricks. She was doing cartwheels, she did the split.

SPEAKER_03:

She did a gymnastics routine. Hold on, front split, side split, dance band split. Just showing out. Just showing out.

SPEAKER_02:

She was in the middle of the dance floor, just having a good time. She had about six cups of lemonade. Oh. I said, between you getting thirsty and getting the lemonade and the sugar in the lemonade, fueling the energy for the dance. She wouldn't.

SPEAKER_03:

Only time she left the floor was to get a drink.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. And what did she do? She came and gave you her purse.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, she hold my purse, Dad.

SPEAKER_02:

She's to hold my purse, Dad.

SPEAKER_03:

I said, wait a minute.

SPEAKER_02:

I am not your man. I said, yes, you are her. You are her man. Why am I holding your purse? I said, go ahead and hold that purse with confidence. But she inspired the other kids to get out there on the dance floor, did she? When the other kids saw how Phoenix was out there, like cutting the rug. Hold on. They was like, oh no, we can cut a rug too, baby.

SPEAKER_03:

The funniest part was Phoenix was a breakdancing, so then my niece, Izzy Bidzy.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_03:

That was hilarious. She did the whole spin and she laid down on stroke and pose. So Izzy was like, I can do that too. So she laid down on her. She laid down a set.

SPEAKER_02:

She put her, she put her hands under her face and she laid on the floor and she was looking like, see y'all, I can do a trick too. It was the it was the funniest thing ever. Oh my gosh. It was a really good time. Yeah, we had a really good weekend. Um, like I said, even last episode, as we get older, I think the like having family around and being around family is becoming one of those things that's just like, shut up. Is like um that that's what you kind of like live for. Like even at the birthday party when um he was sitting there, Uncle Frank, and looking out to see how many people showed up, right? And he was talking about, and how Gigi was talking about like that's a testament to the type of life that you live and the riches that you want to have in life, right? Because he was saying, Oh, I don't think that many people will show up. And then when he saw how many people showed up for him, and they were talking about like how you know his life and stuff and the bonds that he created and the friendships that he created, and to be 90 and to look out to see a ballroom full of people. I'm not talking a saw a small space, you know, it was a ballroom full of people.

SPEAKER_03:

And I thought about that and I said, ooh, I'll probably have about 10 people in mine.

SPEAKER_02:

You might want to rethink that.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm good.

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Bye. I don't like you.

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Bye. What we got today, Booskies?

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So Oh Lord.

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Here we go.

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Ah, what? It's nothing bad. It's nothing bad. Okay, what we got today? Um, no, we just want to have some fun today. So we're gonna play. Wait, hold on. We got the camera off having some fun? Okay, now why you gotta be so gross all the time? Y'all know I met her in the club. Okay. You did not meet me in the club. Anyway, we're gonna play fact or we're gonna play fact or fiction. Couple of things. She too.

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Married edition. Fact or fiction.

SPEAKER_02:

Fact or fiction. So it's basically like um, you know, true myths about relationships or long-term relationships and marriages that people have, and then we're gonna say I have very strong opinions. You're gonna say it's fact or it's fiction, and you can also elaborate if you like.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay, I could I have very strong opinions about this. Okay, bye. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02:

So let's start in like the love and attraction area. Okay. Okay. Um, fact or fiction. People in healthy relationships gain more weight over time.

SPEAKER_03:

Fact. Fact. Y'all just want to have me over here almost 300 pounds.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, first of all, you were never 300 pounds.

SPEAKER_03:

I said almost.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

It was close.

SPEAKER_02:

You wasn't close.

SPEAKER_03:

I was 298.

SPEAKER_02:

Maurice, you were ne Maurice, stop it. You were not 298.

SPEAKER_03:

I will show you. I will show you.

SPEAKER_02:

Maurice, I will show you. You've you've literally, I don't even think you've ever weighed more than me.

SPEAKER_03:

I was 298. I don't think you've ever weighed more than that. I weighed more than you when we got together.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, maybe that. But since pregnancy, no. Since uh fuck you, because pregnancy was eight years ago.

SPEAKER_03:

I said what I said. I said what I said, but that's a fact. I think I think because when you're happy, you in love, you don't notice stuff like that. You she gotta that's why I told her, I said, she over here tell me I'm looking good. I can barely tie my shoe.

SPEAKER_02:

I told you you were a B cup.

SPEAKER_03:

You didn't. Okay, y'all. This has been another episode.

SPEAKER_02:

I did. Okay. Wait a minute, because uh I haven't we told the story before. I was sitting on the bed and I was looking at myself and I was like, damn, babe. I was like, you didn't tell me that um I'm as big as a damn house. And he was like, um a tent, maybe, but not a house. Yeah. He was like, you're maybe a tent, but not a house. And I was like, okay, thanks for that B cup. And then he got mad and got and walked off and got an attitude. You just told me I was the size of a tent.

SPEAKER_03:

I didn't say what size tent? A tent is a lot smaller than a house.

SPEAKER_02:

It is a lot smaller than a house.

SPEAKER_03:

That's like that's like a walnut and like a peanut.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

It's different. I think you I called you the peanut, not the walnut.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, well, I guess what matters is that we we've tried we've gotten it under control sometimes. Some of us have. Yes. Really? Yeah, babe. Don't come for me because you know, you know how sensitive you are. You know how sensitive you are. Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

True. Uh uh uh factor fishing the hunt, the honeymoon phases only uh last about two years.

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Fiction.

SPEAKER_03:

Oh, you think okay, you think it lasts?

SPEAKER_02:

I was saying it could last. I feel like I was still in a little bit of a haze.

SPEAKER_03:

I've been in a honeymoon phase for 23 years.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. What it's not a competition. And you have not been in a honeymoon phase. Because I definitely wasn't in a honeymoon phase last week.

SPEAKER_03:

That's fine. I don't care about I said you wasn't. I said I was. I always loved you. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed. Okay. Go ahead, read another one.

SPEAKER_02:

Uh read another one. Fact or fiction, sharing the same sense of humor is one of the biggest pre uh predictors of relationship success.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say fiction.

SPEAKER_02:

Really?

SPEAKER_03:

Yes. Okay, because we have very different uh uh sense of humors. We do, and we've been together a long time. Yeah, we do. Now you we do every now and again, our sense of humor. We line up a little bit.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, but I feel like in our in in the area of us um like cracking jokes on each other sometimes, I feel like we've lined up a little bit better. Okay. Go ahead. You choose one.

SPEAKER_03:

Oh uh factor fission couples who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate. I wouldn't know.

SPEAKER_02:

I was gonna say, I think there was this, I think that was like a statistical thing though. Because there was also something I had read years ago that said that couples who wait too long to get married, like who date for a longer, a long period of time and then get married also.

SPEAKER_03:

But that's saying couples who live together before marriage, they can live together like a month, two months, three years.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna say fiction. Okay, yeah, I would have to say fiction on that one.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna just say, like we said at the top, my uncle and his girlfriend, they not married. They've been together a long time.

SPEAKER_02:

They've been together a long time.

SPEAKER_03:

He's 90.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, like, but where are they gonna go now? They're 90. Right, to bed. They're gonna watch some TV and go to bed. Um, fact or fiction. I think this goes without saying. Happy couples never fight.

SPEAKER_03:

Shh fiction.

SPEAKER_02:

Fiction, agreed.

SPEAKER_03:

Because I want to hit you right now.

SPEAKER_02:

You do? That's abusive. Are you? Oh my gosh, you're so EFL for I can't.

SPEAKER_03:

Fact or fiction. Never uh it's better to uh it's better to go to bed angry than to argue all night.

SPEAKER_02:

No fiction. It is not best for that. You want to argue all night? If we have to, but we're not gonna go to bed angry. And like I I think with us, we don't necessarily argue all night.

SPEAKER_00:

I feel like I'm not gonna argue.

SPEAKER_02:

Because even when we don't resolve the issue, there is still a good night. We get understanding and there's a yeah, there's still a good night, there's still an I love you because I mean we go to bed understanding that you believe A, I believe B.

SPEAKER_03:

And I still love you. And we love each other.

SPEAKER_02:

And we still love each other, yeah. Because we I don't think we ever, I mean, I'm sure we probably have before, I just can't remember, but it's very rare that we go to bed without saying goodnight, I love you.

SPEAKER_03:

That happens every night.

SPEAKER_02:

It does not because I come home and you sleep, babe, but you still always give me a kiss, and you still always say.

SPEAKER_03:

Because I do because I do, you don't.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, it's it happened. It happened. That's the point I'm trying to make.

SPEAKER_03:

She can't oh she called her.

SPEAKER_02:

Um my nose, I feel like my nose is starting to run. Um, let's see.

SPEAKER_03:

I can afford to get it.

SPEAKER_02:

You and me both. Fact or fiction. Saying I'm sorry too much weakens your position in a relationship. I'm sorry. I'm gonna say fiction. Fiction, absolutely fiction. Because first of all, what does that mean? Weakens your position. What are you trying to say you're spot? Right, like what are you trying to say?

SPEAKER_03:

You should be secure of yours unless Maya calls.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, I'm still secure even if Maya calls.

SPEAKER_03:

If Maya, if Maya calls, if Coco calls, maybe not Coco, Coco a little. She she interferes. Oh, no, I'll be back.

SPEAKER_00:

You're so dumb.

SPEAKER_02:

I'll be back, but bye. Bye. Go ahead, boy.

SPEAKER_03:

Fact or fiction, emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating.

SPEAKER_02:

Uh, because I would say it differs because I feel like for women the physical is what's worse, and for men, the emotional is what's worse. So I guess, like, but I mean, either I wouldn't be down with either.

SPEAKER_03:

I would care more if you uh cheated physically. I don't really yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah, that's right, because you didn't you didn't care. Um, wait, no, you didn't no, you didn't care if I kissed my coworker. It just couldn't be, it just couldn't be with tug.

SPEAKER_03:

You just can't kiss back.

SPEAKER_02:

It just couldn't be with tug. Because you said once the tongue was introduced, that was considered. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_02:

Do you remember? Yeah, I remember. That's what you told me. Next. That's what you told me.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm tired today. I don't have time for my wife and her shenanigans.

SPEAKER_02:

Fact or fiction. Men shut down emotionally during conflict more often than women. Fact. Fact. I don't know what experience he's speaking from, but okay.

SPEAKER_03:

I shut down a lot.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. Not more than I do. Okay. I'm teasing. All right. I'm teasing. Um, let's see. Oh, you go ahead. Oh, no, I was gonna just let I was let you cook. I can't. I don't like you.

SPEAKER_03:

Fact or fiction. Most relationship problems come from poor communication, not compatibility.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna have to say fact.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say fact on that.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna say fact on that.

SPEAKER_03:

Now elaborate, D May.

SPEAKER_02:

That's not even how you say it.

SPEAKER_03:

D-me.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, I think communication is the basis for all relationships.

SPEAKER_03:

I say that. I said it last week.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, all relationships, whether it's about the break. Whether it's a working relationship, whether it's an uh intimate relationship, whether it's a friendship, communication is the foundation for all of it. Communication is gonna be a good uh predictor of success. Um, fact or fiction. It's okay to keep small secrets from your spouse if it avoids conflict. I think he's gonna read this one.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say fact.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. I'm not, I don't disagree.

SPEAKER_03:

I mean, I'm when I say I mean small, small, small secrets.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, what do you mean by small, small? Because you're because your idea of small, and my idea of small, maybe didn't.

SPEAKER_03:

Like the fact that I'm the one that'd been eating your candy, not your daughter.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_03:

That's crazy work. I just don't. You'd be like, Finished eat my candy. She's like, no, but you never asked me, so I didn't say nothing.

SPEAKER_02:

Do you consider small like if I lied and said I didn't win at the casino when I did? That's small, right?

SPEAKER_03:

I know you won.

SPEAKER_02:

That's that would be I know you won because you kept spending cash.

SPEAKER_03:

I said she lied to me. She lied to me. I said, I'm gonna let I'm gonna let you have your lie. I'm gonna let you have your lie.

SPEAKER_02:

That would be considered. That would be considered a small secret, right?

SPEAKER_03:

You think it's I don't think it's I don't necessarily think secrets are bad. I think it's the nature of the secret. Now, now if the secret is something that could potentially be detrimental to your relationship, that would uh and you know it like hurt them or have make them feel yeah, then that's bad.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

But like if it's a surprise or something, that's not right, or yeah, or like money, or yeah, or but if if like if I've been if I've been sneaking Oreos on the side, that ain't none of your business. Right, right. That's between me and God. Me and God.

SPEAKER_02:

So I think it all depends on what you're you're on you're in a diet, you're on a diet in the house, not in my car, but not in your car, not at work. That's how it was when I ate that Klondike yesterday. I ate it in my car.

SPEAKER_03:

I came home, I said, what if there are Klondike bars in my freezer? I said, I told her not to get them things. I know not I know.

SPEAKER_02:

Not I know, I know. And wait, and then he lit this this is how I try to justify the the calories I wasn't supposed to eat. I was like, Phoenix, I called her down. She was like, Yeah, and I was like, You want some ice cream?

SPEAKER_03:

Just diabolical. You know she's gonna say yes.

SPEAKER_02:

She was like, yes, and I was like, okay, but you gotta eat this ice cream because I want one, but I can't eat a whole one, so I'm gonna cut it in half. And so then I ate the one half and I was like, try it, it's good. And she tasted it and she was like, it's okay, but I would rather have my ice cream. And I was like looking at the other half, and I was like, Well, I can't let it go to waste. See, so ate the whole damn thing.

SPEAKER_03:

Is uh criticism and sarcasm are signs of deep seated resentment in marriage.

SPEAKER_02:

What is it again?

SPEAKER_03:

Criticism, criticism, criticism, right? Criticism and sarcasm are signs of deep seated resentment in marriage.

SPEAKER_02:

I'ma say 50-50, but if I had to lean towards one, I would say more fact than fiction.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say in this marriage, fiction. Yeah, yeah, but because we we rag on each other all the time. How old are you?

SPEAKER_01:

We rag on each other? What are you, 90?

SPEAKER_02:

What is going on here? What people still say rag on each other? Okay, really? Listen here, sucker. Bye. Let me tell you something, Jack. Listen, listen. Um you finna put your finger waves back in? No. Listen, the sarcasm.

SPEAKER_03:

We say everything sarcastically. Yeah, sarcastically. Your daughter would I told your wife.

SPEAKER_02:

No, she told me this Monday she was like, girl. I said, Who are you talking to? Nobody.

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You?

SPEAKER_02:

You nobody because that's what I tell her. Girl. Like, what are you doing? She likes critical. Um, but yeah, so criticism and sarcasm, I do think that it could be uh deep-seated resentment um in some relationships because that's how it shows up when you're like resenting your partner. I think it depends, especially when you're trying to be low-key, like low-key about it.

SPEAKER_03:

It depends on the motive.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, it depends. That's what I'm saying. Depends on the motive about it. It depends on the motive, the intention and stuff behind it. Because there has been times where I have been sarcastic and I wanted you to feel like I'm giving you this attitude and you need to catch it.

SPEAKER_03:

I don't care about that at all.

SPEAKER_02:

Uh I don't care about that at all.

SPEAKER_03:

I mean, we do criticize each other, especially in the gym.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, and I mean we it's your easy target. Um This has been who are you saying?

SPEAKER_03:

I'm done. Good. Go ahead, go ahead and reach you one. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00:

Do you see? He does it all the time.

SPEAKER_03:

My girl likes to party all the time.

SPEAKER_01:

Um let's see.

SPEAKER_02:

Um fact or fiction. Okay. A couple should always compromise, even if one person disagrees strongly. We're gonna we're gonna answer at the same time. One, two, three, facts. Because you have to compromise. How are you gonna get through the relationship?

SPEAKER_03:

That's the thing. Like I always say, we we we compromise, we make a decision, and we roll with it.

SPEAKER_02:

You got an eyelash.

SPEAKER_03:

Let it be. Okay. We we make a decision and roll with it. And I always tell her, hey, look, if we go, if whether we go with what you say or we go with what I say, I'm still responsible for the outcome. Yeah. Because I'm the one that approved the eventually, I you know, I have veto power, but so I have to take the blame.

SPEAKER_02:

Eventually I have veto power, but that's why I have to take the blame. Okay. Um fact or fiction. Okay. Couples who share a bank account are more likely to stay together. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03:

I had to see a date about that. I think that depends.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean Okay, so speak from your own experience. Do you when we when we didn't share a bank account in the beginning of our relationship? It was fine to me. Do you think that was fine? It was fine. It bothered me. Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

And then when we transitioned- I actually think it was better when we didn't share a bank account because I didn't I didn't I didn't see your spending habits.

SPEAKER_02:

Correct. And I felt the same way because I was like, what you're not gonna do is judge the shit that I buy when I have the money to buy it. I don't want it, I don't want to hear it.

SPEAKER_03:

It was better. Yeah, um, now I I don't honestly, I don't, I feel like if you can't agree on finances, you're gonna have a rough road ahead anyway. Yeah, but I should, but I mean, I actually I think I I think it was Steve Harvey that said that. I actually agree with what Steve Harvey said. I think every couple should have three accounts.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, and they should sorry, four accounts.

SPEAKER_03:

They should have their own. Each person should have their own checking account, then you should have a joint check and a joint savings.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

And as long as you're you you're paying, you're following the money in there cover that your uh day-to-day expenses, yeah, and you and your monthly expenses, yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

That's fine. I do agree with that. And like I had I had a coworker who um her and I had a conversation like this uh years ago, but she was telling me how her and her husband have separate bank accounts and their money is like it's separate but together. So they just made they just made a decision on we can do that. We can do that.

SPEAKER_03:

You you just take your name of an account.

SPEAKER_02:

We can do that. That's fine. That's fine if you like to do that. I don't think much will change for you, but uh um, but she said that like they just decided how they would split things according to what each person like makes or bring home. So he would take care of obviously like mortgage cars and stuff like that, and then she would take care of food and everything, but she also takes care of their vacations and they vacation like three to four times a year.

SPEAKER_03:

I mean, well, she ain't paying no rent, so she should she should have the money.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. So she takes care of like stuff like that. So I mean that makes sense, but I just say to each his own. I I believe, me personally, um, as someone who has experience having joint accounts and separate accounts, um, and I do believe that it is financially like financial advice from financial advisors is for couples to still have some type of separation when it comes to their finances. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03:

And I think it just That's crazy because I don't which is you can tap into everything I got.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, you you don't have access to my bank account.

SPEAKER_03:

See, go ahead. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02:

You don't have access to my bank account. I know. But I mean if you wanted it.

SPEAKER_03:

Your secret whole stash.

SPEAKER_02:

It's not a stash, you know about the account.

SPEAKER_03:

Your whole stash.

SPEAKER_02:

Anyways, like I said, I do think that it is uh financially sound for couples to at least have an account like to themselves. Okay. You know, like I don't see any problems with that.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay, factor fiction, dividing chores evenly, 50-50 guarantees a happier relationship.

SPEAKER_02:

Fat uh fiction, it doesn't guarantee exactly, it doesn't guarantee a happier relationship.

SPEAKER_03:

Because you can divide them on 50-50, but if you if one if if I'm not doing the doing the cleaning up to your standard, you're gonna just go behind me and clean again anyway.

SPEAKER_02:

So that means having a it's like having a housekeeper. You still gonna clean before the housekeeper. Which is crazy.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm not.

SPEAKER_02:

I know you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm not.

SPEAKER_02:

I know you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm getting all my money's worth.

SPEAKER_02:

All limits.

SPEAKER_03:

I can't. Every dime.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, fact or fiction. Men who earn less than their wives are more likely to feel unhappy in marriage.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say fact, but not fiction for me. Because I don't give a damn.

SPEAKER_02:

I feel like it's fiction now the older you've gotten.

SPEAKER_03:

It bothered me a little bit when I was younger.

SPEAKER_02:

I was gonna say when you were younger, you didn't bring that up. You missed those days when I made more than you.

SPEAKER_01:

I said, my girl, my wife got it. Bye.

SPEAKER_02:

That's because you didn't have any children. But now that you're now that you're a mature man.

SPEAKER_03:

Right. I'm like, hey, we're gonna get that over time so I can buy another video game. Bye. You're doing a good job. You're doing a good job.

SPEAKER_02:

Um go ahead. Let's see. Uh fact or fiction, sexual satisfaction naturally declines with marriage length.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm gonna say fiction.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna say fiction, too.

SPEAKER_03:

That depends on again, it depends on the couple.

SPEAKER_02:

It does.

SPEAKER_03:

In the situation, because you have sometimes, you know, uh, I always say, like, you maybe have you might have a partner with health issues, so that may decline sexual effect. Yeah, you um, you know, women, your homeowners change, you go through you go through the your your third or fourth chain to your body. Y'all women gonna go through so much. Lord Jesus. I'm happy you recognize that. Puberty. Premenopausal, menopausal, post-menopausal, post-menopausal. Said, good God. Y'all just said, y'all just y'all, I would.

SPEAKER_02:

We spend our lives in fluctuation.

SPEAKER_03:

They women love cycles. Really?

SPEAKER_02:

Really? You're such an asshole. Women love cycles. Okay, because they stayed in one, whatever. They stay in one stay in one.

SPEAKER_03:

They love cycles. Because my mom is uh uh menopausal. She's post-menopausal. Post menopausal, and it's still it's been look here. I've experienced all stages of my mom going through this part of her life, and she's been terrible at all stages. All stages her mom is the same. One minute she's hot, then two seconds later, it's cold. I said, the temperature ain't changed.

SPEAKER_00:

It's your internal service back.

SPEAKER_03:

What are you talking about? It's freezing here. You were just saying it was too hot. That was freezing. That's why. I said, Y'all gonna do a lot. Yeah. So, I mean, again, it could be a lot of things. Yeah. So I mean, I think that again, that's something you need to communicate as it happens. I think But you also got to have empathy about what your partner is going through.

SPEAKER_02:

Right, right. And I think there needs to be like a level of understanding.

SPEAKER_03:

I think a lot of people don't have empathy. They're like, oh, I'm gonna just go get this home right.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, because I think some people, when you're in a relationship, some people when it comes to sex, some people think like your partner should just get you. Like you should just like it should just feel right. Like it should just be right. But that's not that's not how that works.

SPEAKER_03:

Because you gotta learn each other.

SPEAKER_02:

You you have to learn each other. You gotta get you gotta give feedback. Right. Okay? Put your leg. That's my that's my biggest thing. You got to give feedback. Put your leg over there. But you got to give feedback. I feel like for me, especially for me, because like you're the only person I've ever been with in my entire life.

SPEAKER_03:

One person you will be. So even when even once Maya come calling.

SPEAKER_02:

So for me, I know like in the beginning of our relationship, I was a little hesitant to like say things. But then as like I gotten older, I was like, oh no, babe, we're not gonna do this for the rest of our life. Let me tell you what mama needs. Let me tell you, let me tell you what needs to look what order. Go ahead and tell me. Look, what order does it need to do? I've already told you, and you've done a good job of responding.

SPEAKER_03:

So um, I'm married. Factor fishing, couple who schedule intimacy are less passionate.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna say fiction.

SPEAKER_03:

Look here. I say fiction. Whoever wrote this question don't have kids. They don't have a schedule. Sometimes you gotta look here. The kid is going from this time to this time. This is the only one that we got. We gotta take advantage. Whether we in the mood that look here.

SPEAKER_02:

Wait, how many times have we said, babe, I got you tomorrow?

SPEAKER_03:

I got right.

SPEAKER_02:

I got I got you tomorrow.

SPEAKER_03:

I said that last night. I said, look, I gotta get I gotta get up early. I'm I look here.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what I was telling you. I was like, no, she was in her room and she was sleeping. You're like, absolutely not happening tonight, but I got you tomorrow.

SPEAKER_03:

If this happens tonight, I'm sleeping until noon. And I'm gonna miss everything. Everything I'm supposed to do tomorrow ain't gonna get done.

SPEAKER_02:

He was like, I got I got you tomorrow, though. Okay. But that's but that's life. That's life. And I don't, and I don't think I I think when people talk about like scheduling it, they think it has to be some big grand thing where you're just literally penciling it in for Thursday at three o'clock. Or I mean, if you have to do it that way, then yes.

SPEAKER_03:

But it doesn't have to be at 327.

SPEAKER_02:

At 327. But it doesn't, it doesn't have to be stale, it doesn't have to be non-romantic. I feel like when I know it's coming, it gives me something to look forward to. You know what I mean? Like, like I'm like, okay, on Saturday morning, I got something to look forward to. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03:

Saturday morning, Saturday nine, bye.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, fact or fiction, physical touch reduces stress and boosts relationship longevity. Longevity. Fact.

SPEAKER_03:

I don't know about longevity, but it do reduce stress. Yeah, I'm gonna say facts.

SPEAKER_02:

That's why I say facts because the the way you be acting like a boob can just helps.

SPEAKER_03:

Sometimes you need a little boob action to get you to, you know what?

SPEAKER_02:

I ain't never seen just see a little boob action.

SPEAKER_03:

I ain't never seen a man be mad staring at a pair of boobs.

SPEAKER_02:

Or or touching them or holding them.

SPEAKER_03:

You you just you just enjoy them.

SPEAKER_02:

Like when I was taking a picture of my brother-in-law and his family, and he was just like grabbing on his wife's boobs. I was like, You and your brother are one and the same. And she was like, he just doesn't keep his hands off of them. I was like, his brother doesn't either. It just helps them.

SPEAKER_03:

And if we didn't touch y'all, y'all be mad.

SPEAKER_02:

I guess.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, so shut up. Fact or fiction. Most people cheat because they're unhappy with their partner.

SPEAKER_02:

I'ma say they think that. So yes, fact.

SPEAKER_03:

So you say fact?

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, because they they they think that, but I think people just cheat because they want to. I mean, that two things can be true once.

SPEAKER_03:

Because I I know people that say they were happy and still cheated.

SPEAKER_02:

Yep. Two things.

SPEAKER_03:

Some people just lack self-control.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, I don't disagree with you. Um, fact or fiction. Saying I love you daily keeps emotional connections strong.

SPEAKER_03:

Fiction. Fiction, very much fiction. Because you can say whatever.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, like just being like, all right, I love you.

SPEAKER_03:

I can't trust what you say because I've seen what you've done.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Look at you.

SPEAKER_03:

Facts.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

So you can say whatever you want.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you can.

SPEAKER_03:

But I've seen what you've done. Yeah. So you can say it. You can you can tell me you love me until you blew in the face.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

What it works at.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

The Bible says faith without works.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. Bye.

SPEAKER_03:

Bye.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm just saying, that's what it's saying. Um, okay, one more. Fact or fiction. How a couple fights is more important than how often they fight. Facts. Facts. Fact.

SPEAKER_04:

Facts.

SPEAKER_02:

Because there are still rules of engagement, there's still rules to fighting. And having a disagreement or having an argument, it can be perfectly healthy in a relationship. And especially if you guys know how to do it in a somewhat healthy way to try to get your points across. Now, when we get into the name calling or physical touch and all that stuff, that's not healthy, y'all. And I think that goes without saying. But there should not be any like uh you bitch, ho, fuck you, any of that. There should not be any of that when you're arguing. Why not? You can try it. Well, she likes it. You can try it. She might like it. See how that works out for you.

SPEAKER_03:

She might like it.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, you talking about Maya?

SPEAKER_03:

She might not even think of it as four-play.

SPEAKER_02:

Bye boy. Um, but yeah, so I I I think that one. Um you do? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

Do you think do you believe that money is the number one reason for divorce?

SPEAKER_02:

I don't think I don't think it is now. I think there was some statistical data to that, but it is up there. I know. I think it was like in the top three or five or something like that.

SPEAKER_03:

I know the number one reason why we stayed together. It's the yams.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

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All right.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm trying to get to the yams.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna go ahead and we're gonna go into the comment of the week.

SPEAKER_01:

Don't stop trying to cut me off. Oh, sorry. Okay. Yeah, go ahead.

SPEAKER_03:

I got two comments for y'all today, okay? And both of these are from the break. The what? I call it the break. Oh gosh. The wife wanted the break, they have four kids, and he went out there and found them something exciting. Whatever. So this person says, only cars come with brakes. If you need three months to decide if you still want to be married, why get married? For better or worse. I guess you forgot that part of the vowels. And the part that took me out was only cars come with brakes. Because that's not true.

SPEAKER_02:

Bikes and brakes too.

SPEAKER_03:

Bikes have brakes, trains have brakes, planes, planes have brakes.

SPEAKER_02:

Bolts have brakes.

SPEAKER_03:

No, technically. Bolts do have brakes. You kind of reverse the okay. Whatever. It's a brake to make. God damn, what is it called? What is that thing called? Throttle. Not throttle. Well, you reverse throttle, but the propellers. Yeah, but it's not called that. But that's the first one, y'all.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

The second one is uh let me find it. This uh this is from the same clip. Uh and uh he uh this he said uh first of all, his name is the whole face expert.

SPEAKER_02:

I can't. I can't, not the whole phase expert.

SPEAKER_03:

I love it. He said you never leave your house for a hotel, and I'm not talking about property. And I say that's a fact.

SPEAKER_02:

That's a fact. That's a fact, that is not fiction, that is a fact.

SPEAKER_03:

You never leave what you build to go spend time and play in something you can rent.

SPEAKER_02:

I agree. I can't with you in these comments, you know. It's his it's his favorite, really. He literally goes through the comments and he's like, people just make me laugh.

SPEAKER_03:

And also, a lot of comments people be talking shit about me. And I laugh at them. I'm like, thank you.

SPEAKER_02:

Bye. We're gonna hop right on into our two seats. Okay, so let's get your feedback from this one. Okay. Okay. Am I the asshole for refusing to be a stepfather to my fiance's children? Okay. I'm a 47-year-old man with two children, a son, Jack, who's 20, and a daughter, Ella, who's 13, from my late wife. My wife died while giving birth to our daughter due to some complications during the process. Jack was seven when my daughter was born, and I immediately had him in therapy to help with the grief of losing his mother because I didn't want him blaming his sister. And it worked out very well because my son loves his baby sister to bits and would never, uh, and has never even had an argument with her over my wife's death. And I love that. Before I started dating, I asked my children if they were okay with it. I gave them as much time as possible and as much time as they needed and wanted to talk things about, talk things over with no pressure. They said they were okay with after having secret meetings in their rooms and making plans and stuff, which I thought was very cute. Now on to the current issue. I've been with my fiance for three years total, engaged for six months. She moved into my house after I proposed with her two children: a boy who's 17 and a girl who's 14, because it was much bigger and I had more rooms. As the relationship got serious, I suggested that we sit down with all the kids and asked if they wanted a stepparent or just a parents-spouse type relationship going forward. Both set of children emphasized on the parents-spouse relationship, which me and my fiance respected. Me and my fiance also decided that we were going to be taking care of our respective children financially, socially, and everything else. This did not mean helping each other out occasionally, but we were each responsible for our own children. We both didn't want more children, and I got a vasectomy to prevent any accidental pregnancies. This worked okay for the first few months of us living together. My fiance was responsible for the food, laundry, school, etc., of her children, while I was responsible for the same for my children. My fiance has a nine-to-five job while I run my own business. So I do often have more free time as compared to her. The main issue started on Jack's 20th birthday, which was a month ago. I got him a brand new car of his choice with modifications that he wanted. He was stuck having to drive his sister to ballet practice, but he said that he was sucking up to have his dream car. Everything was okay at the birthday dinner, but after, when it was just me and my fiance in our bedroom, she said that we needed to talk. Apparently, her children now want me to be their stepfather because they've seen how much I love my own children. They want to join me and my children on our trips that we take around the world, and they want to get cool gifts too. Now, I wouldn't be okay with this, but the way she worked, the way she worked it just rubbed me the wrong way. She was only talking about the trips and the gifts and nothing more. She didn't say anything about getting to know each other better or anything, just trips and gifts. Now, the trips that I take with my kids are to visit their maternal family around the world. They live in three different countries, and I've always made sure that my children had a close relationship with all of them. As for the gifts that my children get, they mostly get gifts on their birthdays, Christmas, or if they had a special goal that they achieved. Um, like when my daughter won a ballet competition last year, I got her a brand new phone, stuff like that. I told my fiance flat out that it looked like her children only wanted me as a stepfather to get gifts and to be invited on trips. I said while I understood that they were children, it was her job to correct them and to tell them that forming relationships just to use people isn't a nice thing to do. I would have been happy to form a relationship with them, but the fact that their motives was only expensive gifts and trips is absolutely disgusting, especially since she is also encouraging it. She tried backtracking by saying that they're just children and that they're young and how they didn't know any better. She also tried using how she doesn't make as much as me, and she can't spoil them like I can spoil my kids and try to guilt me. But I wouldn't budge because, in my opinion, she's the one that's supposed to tell them better. She's supposed to teach them how wrong this mindset is. Besides, we had a prior agreement that everyone agreed to. My fiance has tried bringing this up again, but I refuse to change my mind. I've also talked to my children who have said that they would not be happy if her children called me dad. So that's only made me a little more firm in my decision. My children have always come first to me and they always will. However, with how pushy my fiance is being, I've started to doubt if maybe I'm the one that's in the wrong and being stubborn for no reason. So, random people on the internet, am I the asshole for refusing to be a stepfather to my fiance's children?

SPEAKER_03:

Absolutely not. First of all, that motherfucker is 20.

SPEAKER_02:

No, his son is 20. Her son is 17.

SPEAKER_03:

No, no, he said her.

SPEAKER_02:

His son Jack. That was his son's he bought his son Jack a brand new car. Okay. He bought him the car of his dreams with everything he wanted on there. So now her son, who's 17, saw that, like, oh damn, like he treats them good. It's good over there. It's good over there.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay, I had that backwards. So here anyway, anyway, I'm gonna still say no, you're not. And I wouldn't, I wouldn't, the the agreement was made. But at the same time, it's wild to me that you guys blend families and decide that.

SPEAKER_02:

They're separate. You're we're not gonna be we're not gonna be all the way together.

SPEAKER_03:

Oh my god, they separate but equal. Oh my god, they separate but equal. Oh lord, this is what they were talking about. Because my thing is that they probably had, I'm gonna I'm talking about her children. They probably had some apprehensions or they didn't they didn't really care for him. Right. And then now that they've they've seen got to know him and seen how he treats his children, yep, they want that. Because my because my next question is where's your daddy at? We know that we know that his children's mother is no longer there, and that's right. And that's the only reason why your mama is there, right? Because his wife has given birth to his daughter. Right. So where your daddy at? Right. Right? Yeah. So don't, don't, don't, look here. You have to teach children that some decisions are forever.

SPEAKER_02:

And choose them wisely.

SPEAKER_03:

Choose wisely.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Like, and here's the thing. In the beginning, I kept saying I think it was really great that they really involved the kids in, you know, like giving the kids some some say in how this is gonna happen. Like he gave his kids some say. Let me know when you're ready and feel comfortable for me to date again. And let me know when you're ready. You know what I'm saying? Like, I understand that part. But if we're coming together as a family, I kind of do feel like that's where the parents need to take a little bit more control and be like, okay, you don't have to call me mom, you don't have to call me dad, because I completely understand that. However, when your father and I marry, we are we are one. And our family comes together.

SPEAKER_03:

I think a lot of that, I think a lot of their decision was based off of like, I don't want this other person who's not my biological parent telling me what to do.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah, of course. That's what that's and they're teenagers, so yes, of course, you're not finna come in here.

SPEAKER_03:

And then they said, they said, hold on. Hold on.

SPEAKER_02:

He buying, he he buying dream cars. This might be my stepdaddy. This might be my stepdaddy.

SPEAKER_03:

Trips trips and new selfies.

SPEAKER_02:

Wait a minute. He got my bad. And my daddy not even showing for my birthday. Right. Crazy way. Stepdaddy got mugged.

SPEAKER_03:

Look like your mom found a good one. Yeah, but you screwed it up. Yeah. I don't know, sir. I don't think you're asshole. I wouldn't get them niggas nothing.

SPEAKER_02:

All right, here we go. Um, am I the asshole for not visiting my girlfriend in the hospital?

SPEAKER_03:

Nope.

SPEAKER_02:

Bye. I'm 32 and my girlfriend is 32, and we'll call her Hannah. Hannah works afternoon and evenings at a convenience store. By the time she gets off, I'm already asleep. I have to go to bed early because I have to get up at 3 a.m. uh to have breakfast, shower, make my lunch all before I start work at 5. The other night I was sleeping and I got a text from Hannah around 10:30. I thought I'll lock the Deadbolt to the front door again, a common mistake around here. Instead, she tells me that she's going to the emergency room. Immediately, I start to worry. She tells me that she's been feeling torso pain at work for the past hour and needs to see a doctor right away. Hannah has always been stubborn and never sees a doctor unless it is an actual emergency. She tells me that she's going to keep me posted. Instead of getting up and going to the emergency room, I went back to bed. I got up a few hours later for the bathroom and Hannah is still not home. She didn't come home till around 2 a.m. The diagnosis was kidney stones. I hugged her tight and cuddled with her as soon as she got into bed with me. But the relief was gone when she uh called up her parents to tell them that she was home and what was going on. Her dad was extremely upset with me. He was asking why I didn't get up and go to the emergency room to comfort her. Why didn't I offer to drive her home? She tried to defend me by saying that I was sleeping and had to get up early for work. Her dad said none of that was an excuse. It was a if I was a good boyfriend, I would have been up there to comfort her and take care of her. I did pick her up her uh prescriptions after I came home from work, but he's still really mad. So am I the asshole? No.

SPEAKER_03:

He said girlfriend. He didn't say wife. I knew you were gonna say that. Girlfriend, right? And she said that she would keep him in the loop. So she was being accommodating to him because she's she knows he has to get up early, yeah. So and she didn't know what was wrong yet. Yeah, you're not an asshole because apparently if she wanted you there, she would have said that. Yeah, right? So since she didn't say that, you that you were keeping the loop, I don't think you're an asshole at all. Now, if she would have said, hey, babe, I would like for you to come up here and be with me, that's different. But she said, you know, I and I I don't know what y'all live in situation to find because you I don't I don't know if you cover most of the deals or whatever it could be, but it may be a situation where you couldn't leave work.

SPEAKER_02:

You couldn't miss work. Um, so you said, girlfriend, if they were married, would it go without saying that you get up and get out the bed? Okay, but usually you usually usually you become a girlfriend before you become a wife. So the the love, affection, and attention don't just turn on when you become a wife.

SPEAKER_03:

It ain't that serious though. You know, you know me. I leave work at the top of the head. You you call me.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, but you did that when we were dating.

SPEAKER_03:

So you're different? Look here, I'm different.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

Look here.

SPEAKER_02:

Ah, I'm different. That's not the advice that I would give to the young'ins these days. Don't be like me. I was dating. Don't be like me. You were dating with the intention to marry? Because I wanted to. So you so how who's to say that he's not dating with the intention to marry? Okay. So why would you say that he's not an asshole for not getting up to go childhood?

SPEAKER_03:

Because she didn't ask him to. Okay. That's why.

SPEAKER_02:

I can I guess I can partly agree with that. I don't care if you partly agree with it or not. I can partly agree with it. But I do think, I think for me, I would have told her that I would have been a little bit, I would have been a little bit more inquisitive as to the severity of the emergency. Like I would have still checked in.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay, she's not. I know it was painful. I know they're painful.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03:

But I'm not gonna miss work for kidney stones. Okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_02:

Anywho, this has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. If you're not doing so already, uh don't forget to like, follow, do all of the things. Follow us on social media at Life After I Do Podcast. You can follow us on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, uh, YouTube, um, all OnlyPans, like you like to say, but no, because that's actually a real site, and you cannot follow us there. Um, you can also write into the podcast at lifeafterdupodcast at gmail.com. You get a new episode every Wednesday, guys. And thank you for um we hit 1.2 million views for overall for the podcast. So that was really great. So thanks for the support, guys. We love all the support you're showing us on TikTok and Instagram. Um, new episodes every Wednesday, and we will see you next Wednesday.

SPEAKER_01:

Peace booskies. Peace booskies.

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