Life After I Do Podcast
Marriage and relationships can be tough. You may feel like you’re the only one struggling but you’re not. Life After I do is a weekly podcast where Morice and Kynesha, a black married millennial couple, share their experiences and advice on everything from kids and family to intimacy and connection. Noting is off limits.
In their 21 years together and 7 years of marriage, Morice and Kynesha have learned a lot about what it takes to make a relationship work. They know the importance of communication, trust and commitment. They also know it’s okay to not have it all figured out.
Join them every Wednesday as they talk about their own journey of “Life After I do”.
Life After I Do Podcast
Healthy Me, Stronger We
We’re talking about the balance between “we” and “me”—how to stay connected in your relationship while still honoring who you are as an individual.
From feeling guilty about personal time to wondering if you’re allowed to grow in ways your partner isn’t ready for, we get real about the silent struggles of identity in long-term love.
We’ve been there, and we’ve learned that prioritizing yourself doesn’t mean you’re selfish—it means you’re showing up whole.
If you’ve been feeling lost in the day-to-day, this episode might help you find your way back to you.
Thanks for rocking with us! Don’t forget to follow Life After I Do so you never miss an episode. Got a relationship situation you want us to weigh in on? Hit us at https://linktr.ee/lifeafteridopodcast — we just might talk about it in a future episode.
I will say you also had times where you're like, hey, don't forget, I'm here, I'm here, your kid is here. When you come home, there's people here. Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of life after I do podcast 45, 47. I knew you was going to do it.
Speaker 2:I came to see Dwight.
Speaker 1:Dwight around your mouth, lips, lips. Oh my God Sorry.
Speaker 2:No, it is mouth, my bad Dwight around your mouth. Wow, hey, booskies, my bad, the white around your mouth. Wow, hey, booskies, hi. Welcome to episode 99.
Speaker 1:Woo-hoo, 99. 99. That's kind of crazy. Part of it is 99.
Speaker 2:99. 99. Huh, you know what the song say. Know what it says, lord, I'm running Trying to make a hundred 99 and a half. Won't do, bet you didn't know I was a church boy.
Speaker 1:I quite literally did. It's quite literally one of the reasons I agreed to date you. Had I known it wouldn't have stuck, I would have reconsidered. What do you mean? It didn't stick.
Speaker 2:I'm just teasing why it's kind of warm in here.
Speaker 1:Now it is, because it wasn't before. I'm fine, but you look like you're going to start sweating. I see you getting shiny up here on your forehead. You all right, I paid the bill, didn't?
Speaker 2:I.
Speaker 1:Goodbye. The light's on, so I must have paid it. How you doing, Booskies?
Speaker 2:I'm doing gravy baby. Okay, how you doing?
Speaker 1:I'm doing good, you look good, thank you. You look good yourself.
Speaker 2:You know, when you look good, you feel good when you play good and when you play, good them checks come well I ain't got no checks yet, but how's your week um? My week was good we're not gonna do that 45 minute week because you know we had a comment that said we take too long what to get to the get to the meat.
Speaker 1:I mean, you do realize that you could just put your finger on the little scroll thing and you can just move forward. Now I see what, like the people on, uh, take up, you do realize you could. Just you could have just scrolled past this video. It's the same thing like I literally listen to podcasts every day and because I know, like the setup of the certain podcasts, that I listen to the segments I don't want to listen to, I just let me just fast forward through here. You're going to be taking a little bit too long. So, yes, I get it, but how was your week? My week was okay, it was okay, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's just okay Life is life.
Speaker 1:I'm just trying to get ready for um our regularly scheduled programming.
Speaker 2:Oh, I can't wait.
Speaker 1:By the time you guys hear this it'll be the first day of school.
Speaker 2:Lord, I have waited for this. Bye, goodbye.
Speaker 1:I am so happy to have my wife back. It's literally only been like eight weeks.
Speaker 2:Too long.
Speaker 1:No, it's been too long. She got up this morning and she was like I have two days left, huh. And I was like yeah, baby, you have two days.
Speaker 2:I was like why do?
Speaker 1:you sound so sad. I said you used to love school and she was like no, I do, I like school, but I think she just liked the freedom of a summer schedule and I was like girlfriend, but she's excited.
Speaker 2:I think what's not possible is that her birthday is always the first week of school. I know that's the part.
Speaker 1:But at least it's always, for the most part, towards the weekend, and we got to tell the teacher on Wednesday yeah, ringing cupcakes. Oh yeah, ringing cupcakes, yeah, I guess. I mean it's typically about like between 20 and 24 kids in the class, including the teacher. I'm not okay about the teacher getting a cupcake. Bye, I don't want some kids getting a cupcake. Bye, I don't want some kids getting a cupcake, goodbye.
Speaker 2:Goodbye. I'm sorry that your week wasn't great.
Speaker 1:No, my week was. It wasn't terrible. I mean it's fine. I was able to get like last minute shopping done. I still got to get a few things for the birthday party.
Speaker 2:Last minute shopping with everybody else.
Speaker 1:Yeah right, I was like. That's why I said I was happy I didn't have to do all like everything at once. We just needed to get her um, I hadn't replaced her leggings this year and she needed like two more pairs of jeans and walked into freaking old navy and everyone, and their mother, father and grandmother I thought there was a dj too I was like, as soon as I walked in and saw that there were no cards, I already knew.
Speaker 1:And then I looked at the line and it was basically throughout the whole entire store and the little, the employee was right there and I was like tell me, everybody waited to the last minute. Without telling me, everybody waited to the last minute.
Speaker 2:She was like right, I think if these stores were smart, I would stop all sales the week before school.
Speaker 1:Oh no, well, because it actually worked out, because you know I only like to get her leggings when they on sale, and because I shop the app and you know you collect, like certain points and stuff, the prices that are in the store are sometimes higher than the one. Listen, all I'm saying is. All I'm saying is is that she got the jeans that I wanted her to have. They were $27 jeans and we were able to get them for $14. See, that's how I help you. See, all these, all these, you always be like how do you, how do you help me? That's how I helped you. I saved you money.
Speaker 2:I was able to get her four pairs of pants in total. Okay, because then you apply girl math and you say, well, I saved the money here, so now I can go buy me something but that is still savings, because I was still able to get more for my money.
Speaker 1:My week was cool um nothing to report nothing to report oh except that you, your, uh, you're in your cutoff shirt era. Now you're going into your gym cutoff shirt era.
Speaker 2:I'm about to be in my fishnet, uh, my fishnet tonight.
Speaker 1:So he, he's had me, he's had me cut off his sleeves for his gym shirts. And then what did you ask me last night? Cut this one a little deeper, cause I don't mind them seeing a little side, a little side titty. A little side titty never hurt nobody. Side titty is diabolical. Stick a little bit A little side titty. So now you want them to see a little side titty. Hey look here.
Speaker 2:Nipples has encouraged me.
Speaker 1:Okay, she shouldn't have. She made me order something she shouldn't have. That's why I said you should just get the ones. I could cut it all the way down to the side so your whole side can be out I don't know about that you don't want to do that, because once you start cutting inward and showing side boob, you may as well just do a tank top.
Speaker 2:But tank tops aren't open on the side.
Speaker 1:No, but you can do a tank top and then we can cut it all the way down so it looks like it's just draped over you, so they can really see everything that you got going on. It's cool.
Speaker 2:My week was cool Testosterone levels are solid. Energy has been the same across the board.
Speaker 1:Anybody need to know your testosterone levels.
Speaker 2:No, no, no major influxation of the hormones. I've been steady.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, for the most part, that's usually how you live your life, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's great on this side. Yeah, I don't know what you women be going through. Why are you?
Speaker 1:trying to take a stab at me.
Speaker 2:I don't know what you women be going through.
Speaker 1:Life. Give me life, life. Wait, did you see Cam on stage in the video and he was like Never had my wife ever said no, he was like we just gonna act like women, don't be going through life doing everyday activities, bleeding profusely. He was like he said everything she's doing. I saw it.
Speaker 2:But I didn't like it because I was like I don't care about these women, I'm just playing really really. I mean he was thinking about you know.
Speaker 1:I love Kevin. He be hitting 9 out of 10. I love him. I love him. Shout out to Kevin on stage and Melissa is hilarious. I love him. I love Melissa. They work great together. I love those two. They work great. I love those two so what we got? Today. I don't know what we have today you're taking the lead today.
Speaker 1:Wait a minute before we start, okay, because I don't know. I just want to If anybody, did anybody see that high-speed chase that was happening? Okay, first of all, no, that was happening. They were out there in the same area. Listen, it was in the Los Angeles area, it was on the 5 Freeway. Okay, okay, they hijacked a big rig.
Speaker 1:I have never seen anyone hijack a big rig in the middle of the freeway. They hijacked a pickup truck first at gunpoint. Then they were on the freeway going the opposite way, pulled over, tried to hijack another truck. The driver didn't get out. Then they found a big rig. The truck driver said, oh hell, no. As soon as he saw that gun. As soon as he saw that gun, he said you can have it. He. All you see is him just like, hop out. And he like, literally like, books it across the freeway. They take the big rig, they take the police officers on on the chase or whatever, and then they somehow get under like a freeway bridge, like the past or whatever, and then they get out, take another car and the police lost them. And then I wake up the next morning because I'm like, of course it's going to be on the news in the morning. Let me see if they got. They still looking for them. I said they didn't got away. How did you get away from a high speed chase? That's crazy work. That's crazy work.
Speaker 2:I just want to know if y'all do that Now that she's done interjecting our conversation. People, Goodness.
Speaker 1:Because it's on my mind, because it's baffling that they got away.
Speaker 2:I'm supposed to be on your mind. You're always on my mind.
Speaker 1:Shout out SWV DeMille. What do we we're?
Speaker 2:going to talk about balancing the we and the me.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's easy. I just you just avoid. I just I just take the we and I put us to the side, like that, and then I get the me and then I put it in yeah, all the time, no, I don't, you're such a jerk. All the time.
Speaker 2:You're such a jerk. We're going to talk about staying connected without losing yourself. Now which?
Speaker 1:is it's a really tough juggling act. It is, it really is it's a tough juggling act.
Speaker 2:It really is Because I think we've had times in our relationship and marriage where we were so in one another that we started to Neglect ourselves individually Exactly. And I think this is something that um a lot of people go through. I think this is a worthy topic. What do you think?
Speaker 1:a worthy topic. I think it's something that especially people who've been in extremely long-term relationships can really identify with Struggling. Are you done? Are you done?
Speaker 2:We've been through the thick and the thin.
Speaker 1:Are you done?
Speaker 2:The thick and the thin. I can't with you.
Speaker 1:No, but in all seriousness, yes, it is. It can be like a balancing act, trying to juggle between your own personal aspirations and goals and missions and still being a part of a team and being a part of a partnership and having to consider another person. Um, because you can't just be, you can't just be selfish in all of your decision making. I mean you can, you, you can, but I wouldn't advise it, right? You mean you can, you can, but I mean I wouldn't advise it. Right, you can, but you can't. But yeah, but I think that I also think it's situational when it comes to achieving, like, personal goals, when it comes to chasing certain careers. You know what I mean. But I also think that when choosing a partner that's why choosing a good balance and a partner comes in handy right, because what if you have somebody who's extremely goal-oriented, somebody who's extremely career-oriented, and then you have someone who is, like, really clingy and doesn't want you spending so much time?
Speaker 1:with somebody else Well, not just somebody else, but you know. You know what it takes to chase a goal or to try to chase a career. You know what I'm saying. It can take a lot of time, energy and effort, and then other people can start feeling neglected. If you have somebody who is extremely, let's just say clingy, If you have somebody who is extremely, let's just say clingy, and they just like, all you do is study or all you do is work.
Speaker 2:Let me tell y'all something when this one right here worked, all she did was work. She didn't have no husband, oh my gosh. She barely had a family, really. She was married to that job, oh my gosh. That's why I was really really, really shocked when she was like I'm gonna stay home. I said, I said you are, I was. I was saying, I said this is left field. I didn't. I didn't wasn't expecting this good you were.
Speaker 2:You've always been so like driven and like goal oriented to a point where, like you had like it's tunnel vision you had like these, these milestones, set for yourself that you were just determined here and I was like I'm gonna stand beside her because why she got? She has a direct path and I'm out here. What's?
Speaker 1:on the menu today. Bye, but. But I will say you also had times where you're like, hey don't forget, like I'm here, I'm here, your kid is here. Like when you come home, there's people here, we here. In my mind I'm like, but did y'all eat? Okay? You good, y'all not like sick or nothing. You good, okay.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm going to go.
Speaker 1:I'm going to go to the office and just get into these emails because that'll give me a jumpstart. She gave us no emotional support whatsoever. Really, I'm just saying what I said Goodbye, but yeah. So I mean, like I said, going back to the balancing act, that is a balancing act and for me personally, trying to figure out how I could have my own self autonomy when it came to like chasing promotions or working or you know, career things whatever and trying to have a family life and be a supportive wife and be a present mom it is a, it's a juggling act. However, I do think that it's extremely important that you know I maintain my own type of independence and autonomy and maintain I never stopped you from doing that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know, but what I'm saying is is I feel like, especially especially as we've gotten older, I'm now starting to see through life experience how important it is, because I think I think a lot of it happens to like. There's a lot that happens as you get older. Your perspective changes and your needs change, as we've talked about so many times. But I think as I'm getting older, I'm able to really see why and how it's important for me to like have kinesia. It's important for me to have things are just for me. It's important for me Stop it. It's important for me to have things are just for me. It's important for me Stop it. It's important for me to like have my own identity amongst our relationship, and I think it's beneficial to you too. Yeah, cause sometimes you overwhelming.
Speaker 2:Okay, sometimes you, sometimes you stop it.
Speaker 1:And then sometimes stop it, let me get, let me get it off.
Speaker 2:And then sometimes you, you be so independent, I'll be like I am here, like you need some help. I do, but not right now that's what you say.
Speaker 1:I'm good right now, but just if you, if you're right there, like as long as I know you're there you'd be like, babe, I got it.
Speaker 2:But then when you're like you know something, you know, like like yesterday, right Yesterday, prime example.
Speaker 1:Now I get up and I make breakfast like probably what?
Speaker 2:Six days out of seven for the family.
Speaker 1:Ok, and yesterday I just I did not have it in me.
Speaker 2:And I chose.
Speaker 1:I chose how I was feeling over making breakfast and you were like hey, so like.
Speaker 2:Are you cooking breakfast?
Speaker 1:And I was like I'm not. I literally I told him I was like I'm not cooking breakfast. You can either cook breakfast or bring something home, but I'm not going to cook breakfast today because I'm going to lay right here in this bed because that's what my body feels like doing and I just don't Like for no other reason other than I just don't feel like doing it. So I'm not going to do it and I'm not going to feel guilty for not feeling like doing it, because I know it's something that I do every single day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not going to comment on this because of what I have to do every day, without you know, listen, that is fine, that's fine.
Speaker 1:Okay, it's fine.
Speaker 2:But you know like they still ate yeah, I mean so point made yeah, point made I said oh she, oh she, rebelling today really she's rebelling.
Speaker 1:Today we gonna say I'm gonna rebel too. Okay, goodbye, you better, you better re-up your bells.
Speaker 2:So let me ask you this what's your take on? If you don't know who you are, if you don't know yourself, you can disappear in a relationship.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. You can also take on the identity and traits of your partner.
Speaker 2:Don't you think?
Speaker 1:you naturally start to take on some traits you naturally do, because I've noticed that in myself. You talk like me. Now, that is not, that's not no, you talk like me. You be saying my lingo Any who? Yeah, buddy, yes, you can, because if you don't try to figure out your hobbies, the things you like, the things you want to do, things that make up your personality, you will. It's natural. This is a person that you spend a lot of time with, a lot Right, so their ideas, their views start to impede on you their goals, their aspirations.
Speaker 1:Everything, everything starts to bleed together, views start to impede on you goals or aspirations, every, everything, everything, everything together, and that's. But that here's the thing. That's not necessarily a bad thing. It depends on what they are. It could depend on what they are, but if you feel like you can't identify things that are of you or for you outside of your partner, then that's where, I think, comes the issue. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Like, if you can't imagine things that you enjoy doing that doesn't include your partner. I mean, I don't think it's like a terrible problem, but I think it's worth looking into. Like, what are the hobbies that you like? What are some of the goals that you would have if you weren't in the relationship?
Speaker 1:Like, if you had to be out here, because I think about it that way, if I had to be out here in life, doing life by myself, like if I wasn't, if I was at this age, at this stage of the game, and I didn't have you, I wasn't in a relationship, how would I be living my life? Obviously, it would be completely different because I would be a single woman. But as far as the goals that I would have for myself, as far as the type of hobbies that I would enjoy doing, like what would that look like, you know, and how would I be going about pursuing those things? Basically, like what does my identity, what do I look like outside of being a wife and a mother that are enjoyable for that, are enjoyable for me, that make up who I am Right.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, I think I agree with everything you said. Let me start there. But I also, like, I think like one thing I had to learn, um, because I do think that I went through a period where I lost myself and I was just so focused on being the provider, right, so I had to learn that you know that role it's not just my identity, it's a part of what I do, but it's not and that was something for me personally that was really hard for me to do because, like I always tell you, like, even like to this day, it's hard when I like I know that I occasionally like I'll buy myself something or I'll treat myself to something, but I always have that thought, like what am I taking from the family? And I try to like condition myself not to think that way, because I also feel like I feel like I'm not going to learn.
Speaker 2:I feel like you deserve it, like I deserve it, like, okay, like, okay. Like there's a controller I want, I feel like I deserve it. There's fuck, I deserve it. There's a, there's a pair of shoes on. Like I can't always, I can't always put myself um on the back burner for the needs of the family. Now, granted, I'm not going to jeopardize the needs of the family, but when I, when I am able to do a little extra for myself, I'm working on not feeling bad for doing it.
Speaker 1:And you shouldn't. But like when I hear you say that for me what I hear is that you're, I hear like there's a limiting thought process, because when I, when I hear like you say like, oh yeah, I want a new controller and I should be able to get my controller and I deserve it, it shouldn't even be a thought Like if you, I know, I know. But what I'm saying is is like we've had this discussion right before where I've always said, um, where I would ask you, I've never outspent your paycheck, right, I've never outspent like the you want to try by. I've never outspent like your paycheck. I've never outspent like your paycheck. I've never outspent like your budget. And my way of thinking of things is is, if I know that, like, if I know what's there, if I know that like everything is taken care of and it's not going to jeopardize anything, I don't think twice about it, I just get it. Oh, okay, right, and I know for our perspectives about that is different bands.
Speaker 1:I know our perspectives about me. Different man, I know our perspectives about it's completely different man, I know because you're the one who sits there and crunches numbers and you're the one who's out there getting the money to pay for these things, and I'm on the opposite end of that.
Speaker 2:but I think you think about what we have like. So this is just. I could be wrong. Tell me if I'm wrong. I think you look at it as like, since I get paid weekly like, is there enough to cover everything this week?
Speaker 1:Oh no, I don't think about it that way, you don't. I don't, because I've been thinking about it, because we're in August. I know you're thinking about far out.
Speaker 2:I'm thinking about Christmas already, I know.
Speaker 1:But when we sit down and you show me the Excel spreadsheet, you already have it there on the Excel spreadsheet and I can see the things that are coming up. I can see the things that you've already have planned for, so I can see that far out, right. And then I also know that if you haven't communicated to me where you're saying, hey, I need you to slow down, like this month, on your spending, or I need, or like next month, I need you to like really be cautious of what you're like spending, then of course I'm just like nah, because I see the same Excel spreadsheet and I see the numbers and I see what's coming up, you know. So you're looking at the same numbers, you're looking at the same numbers. So I don't I just I for me, personally, I just feel like when it comes to things like that, there, there, there shouldn't be this whole dialogue that's happening in your head Whether or not you deserve to buy yourself something as small as a controller, even if it is an expensive controller. You know what.
Speaker 1:I mean I just feel like, ok, if you want to buy it, just buy it. Like I'm not going to. I'm not going to go sit at the desk in the office and look through the Excel spreadsheet and be like, why was the budget over two hundred dollars that week Because he bought a damn controller. Like I'm not, I'm just not going to do that. So I lock my computer down. Bye, I'm just, I'm just not going to do that. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So, but I do think it also goes back to, yes, making yourself a priority sometimes. Right, so you are, you are a financial provider of the household. You do see things through a different lens. Ok, I get that. But I think you, like you've taken, like you were talking about, it's not just all of your personality. You, like you've taken, like you were talking about, it's not just all of your personality. And I think that's where that inner dialogue comes from when it comes to even just making simple purchases for yourself, because you have made it like your identity and you've made it such a priority in your life that it has, yes, that it that you now have to call into question simple things for yourself, which is, you said, you give me the okay to drop the bag of myself.
Speaker 1:Look here listen, let me load up my amazon cart. Okay, goodbye, but but you've taken so much of it on as your personality that now it's created like this inner dialogue of guilt when you do try to do even something so simple as buying yourself a controller you know what I mean that it brings up, like the support it's. I can kind of relate to that in the sense of, like the mom guilt you know what I'm saying Like when it's something that I want to prioritize me doing, but she like wants to play, or she wants to go outside and ride bikes, or she wants, because at any given moment she'll come up to me and be like, oh, oh, I would love somebody to play with mom and I'll drop what I'm doing and I'm like, let's do it. You know, like let's do it.
Speaker 1:But the other day, like you know, in recent times I have really been trying to prioritize like my, my workout times and things that I need to get done for me physically, right. So I needed to get on the treadmill and I couldn't go to the gym. But I was like I have a treadmill at home, I need to at least get on my treadmill for an hour. But she wanted to play. She wanted to go outside, she wanted to ride bikes, and usually I'm just like OK, let me stop, because she's needing my attention, she wants to play. That's my daughter and I would feel you know, feel bad, but it's like now, I'm not trying to be, I don't want to shortchange myself, which in in, in the end, shortchanges you guys, because then if I would have told her like, hey, no, um, you know, let let me go ahead and play with you instead of getting on my treadmill, that would have not put me in a good mood, because now I couldn't get done what I wanted to get done, cause if I go out there and do all the things that you want to do, I'm going to feel too tired to do the things that I needed to do.
Speaker 1:So I had to prioritize myself and say, hey, we can play, but we can do it in an hour, because this is what I have to do for myself right now. You know what I'm saying and not feeling guilty for saying no, and not feeling guilty for prioritizing me, because that's exactly what I was doing. I was prioritizing me. You know what I'm saying, so I can understand that. But, like I said, as time has gone on and through experience as we're getting into, especially going into these 40s it's really important to not only set boundaries with people, but it's important to set boundaries for yourself. Okay and making sure that you have time, space and energy for yourself only helps those around you, because the more I try to prioritize myself and taking care of myself and making sure I'm okay, making sure like I have a joyous heart.
Speaker 1:The more pleasant the interaction the more exactly you know what I mean, and it and it doesn't have to be you being selfish, but you being self full Shouts out to you Nyala Cause, that like that. That was, that was a game changer for me, but it's true. Goodbye. Game changer for me, but it's true. Fully yourself, goodbye, but it's true and it but it's not. I see, the thing is it's not like in a way where you're constantly a me, me, me, me, me, me, me. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:It's not like that no, it's, it's like I've I've poured into the family.
Speaker 1:Now let me right like, let me pour into myself, but that doesn't mean that every single, every single interaction or every time something that comes up and it's something that you want to do or something you need to take care of like you really have to. It's situational and you have to know when to be selfful and when to have set a boundary.
Speaker 2:You have to know exactly how much you can get before it's required for you to start taking.
Speaker 1:Right, because, like you know, I think about even just with my weight gain over the past few years, or even become like a stay at home mom. I had started to pour so much of my time and energy into making sure that you had everything that you need, that she has everything you need and being of service to you guys and being of service to our home, that everything else was put on the back burner. You know what I'm saying? Like yeah, I would like that first year. It's like, oh, 20 pounds, ok, like whatever, like I'm at home, and then it's like I would go work out, and then I would stop working out.
Speaker 2:I would go work out, I would stop working out, I would eat right, then I stop eating right, and then it's like point where you're just like, oh damn, that's one thing that I think that's the biggest shift in us in the last year is like I think both of us might know if we we can't go because we gotta go to the gym yeah, right, right, or if it impedes, or if it impedes on our, um, you know, like the gym time.
Speaker 1:So like last year when I mean the, I guess was that the year prior yeah, the the year prior I had a trainer. I was going to the gym regularly, was I not? I was on it. Then we had some family issues that came up, where we ended up having to take in my great-niece and that completely threw everything off, because I went from having a schedule where I had the time to be at the gym.
Speaker 2:I had the accent and I wasn't working Right, Exactly so right.
Speaker 1:So it's like a lot of life happened. You know what I mean. And so, like this time round, when certain things come up, it's like, yes, I can be, I can be of service to this extent, but I can't be of service to where it causes me to have to completely neglect what it is that I'm trying to do. You know, like, if I can, if I can fit this in around me, accomplishing my goals that I want to do, also, perfect, I can do it. I can be a team player, let me know, let me know what you need. But if it's going to put me in a situation where I'm going to be neglectful to myself not just putting myself on the back burner, but neglectful to myself then I have to set a boundary somewhere around that. And this is what I can do, like I can let you know what I can do and then you can tell me if that fits into.
Speaker 2:You know what the help you need or not, because it says this, says this, it says my needs don't't, don't compete with hers. They accomplish a company. They compliment them. Oh, compliment, right. And I think what you're talking about, I think that I think that goes hand in hand. We both had it. We both had this, this drive to get healthier, to get fit.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Right. So we both had the same goal, so we both started working towards this goal together, and now it's become a thing to where it's like. Since we're both like so heavily invested, we understand.
Speaker 1:Right, we understand. We have an understanding of each other Now.
Speaker 2:I don't understand why it take you three hours some days because you be talking. You be in there talking. I'm a social butterfly. But we know that, like okay, if we go to the gym, it's going to be at least two hours. Yeah, yeah, yeah, because it's going to be an hour, hour and a half to get through the workout, right, and we're going to throw some cardio in there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And Lord, if you ain't got nothing to do, you're going to hit the sun in the massage chairs and everything else.
Speaker 1:I do everything. I try to take advantage of all of the things that I pay for each month.
Speaker 2:But I do think that what you're saying, that all that is important, and I feel like we've done a good job, especially over the course of this last year, of complementing each other in pursuit of our own individual goals. Like I said, you're on your power lifting arc.
Speaker 1:That's what you're doing you big swole, you big swole big swole, what a pinchy hip right now and I, and, like I told overalls, I just don't want to be fat, no more, I just got tired of being fat but yeah, so, and that kind of goes into being able to celebrate each other's wins without feeling threatened, right, and we've talked about it before, where you could have one partner who's on a journey that the other partner is not on, and how it can make them feel left out, right, and that again ties back into balancing the we and the me, back into balancing the we and the me, right. So how do you? How do you, because how do you stay connected to a partner that is on an independent journey? Well, I mean, without feeling like you're being neglected and without you being defensive but it's like we're on the same journey, we're just taking different paths.
Speaker 1:But that's what I'm saying, that in that aspect of, like the fitness, that is where that works, because we're both on the same journey but taking different paths.
Speaker 2:But here's my thing, here's my thing. Me personally, I've always been the kind of person or I've always tried to be the kind of part of, the kind of husband that would just celebrate anything that you're into, right? Unless I just thought it was like mad, crazy, like skydiving, I would celebrate it so like if you had an interest into it, I would back you a hundred percent, lord knows regardless of how you feel about it, though, okay do you not see all the craft supplies?
Speaker 1:I've bought all the machines. They were just no, I'm talking about in the aspect of um hat, if you felt left out or if you felt the thing is is that I don't feel left out.
Speaker 2:I never feel left out. Even when you pursue something that I'm not interested in, I don't feel left out.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:Because I always feel as if I get to view something through your eyes. Ok, I feel like I don't feel left out, because I'm included through your happiness, because your happiness then turn and makes our relationship better, which makes you more inclined to do the things I want to do.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, you know he just winked.
Speaker 2:In case you guys missed that so, even when I'm not necessarily involved or going down the same path as you, as long as I, I understand, as long as I champion you, as long as you're not hurting yourself, if I champion you and you're you're, you're thriving over there and you're happy, that energy is going to come back to me tenfold Right. So I never feel like I'm left out, I feel like I'm investing in future endeavors.
Speaker 1:Okay. But if okay, that's us. But if you are in a situation where you have a partner who is on an independent path, that's hard.
Speaker 2:That's hard, right, and that's why I understand like I don't know why, but I keep getting like like when I come across the TikToks and stuff where it's like I can't be with somebody who don't go to the gym, because it is one of those things where you have to actually be active in the gym to understand why does it take you so long at the gym?
Speaker 1:Right and that's. But that's fine, it's one of those things, right, that's a person who's already been like in that journey.
Speaker 1:But let's say we have, if there, if there is a couple who, for the most part, the first five years of a relationship, everything has been great because it felt as though we have been moving in the right direction, right.
Speaker 1:But, like I continue to say, as you grow, as you experience life, as you have certain situations that come up in life that change your perspective, that change about how you move, that changes your thought process, and then just your thought process through the decades will change, right.
Speaker 1:So will your needs, your interests, your hobbies all of those things change. So when you have couples who have been together for, you know, a decade or even longer, and then you have someone who decides to pick up a new hobby, or you have somebody who decides to want to go on, you know, on a self-healing journey, right. And now they're doing all of these things that don't necessarily include their partner, because the whole purpose of the journey is for me to discover myself, is for me to get back to a baseline of where I can feel joy, of where I can feel a little bit more complete, where I can feel like I have mental clarity, and so now they're going to therapy or they're working out or they're, you know, experiencing their hobbies or hanging out with their friends or doing all the things that they didn't necessarily do in the past decade, and now you have a partner who sees their partner doing all these things. But it doesn't include them.
Speaker 2:Okay, that can go one or two ways in my mind. You can either motivate your partner to join along, because a lot of times you have some like I say. Like, when it comes to healing and growth, all paths are different. Nothing's linear Right. So I may be on this trajectory here where I'm steady climbing, but my partner is content where they are Right, and so it's. Either you're going to run into the thing where, even if I'm growing and I make attempts to reach back and bring my partner with me, if they're not receptive to that because they're just, they're happy where they are, that's going to cause some type of tension, because they can feel like, oh, you're not, we don't. Well, we used to do this.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't want that anymore.
Speaker 2:I want something better now.
Speaker 1:Like we used to go for ice cream after dinner all the time. Okay, well, that's not in my testimony anymore, because I'm trying to do better.
Speaker 2:Right, right, so, but it's like and so like for me, personally, I think, with things like that, like, okay, like there's been times when we've gone to yoga land, like, oh, we always go yoga land. Okay, I don't want yoga land, yeah, but I'll still take you, yeah, and I just, I just won't get anything, yeah, but I know for some people they would be like you know well, why are you not?
Speaker 1:yeah, now you're leaving me out to look like the fat ass sitting there eating ice cream by myself because you don't want to eat the ice cream anymore.
Speaker 2:But that's not my at all. My intentions is to maintain the status quo that's been there, but at the same time, be, true to your goals.
Speaker 1:I think, I think okay, yes.
Speaker 2:But also I would tell them that you know that the ambition is not a threat.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me bettering myself is not me trying to say I'm better than you, because I think that's what it comes off as it's like now.
Speaker 2:you think you're better than me because you're trying to better yourself. That's not even like just relationship, that's also friendships. Yeah, it's like I'm not trying to say I'm better than you. I'm just saying that I'm not happy where I was Right right and. I'm trying to get to where I see myself, yeah.
Speaker 1:But you were comfortable with where I was because it didn't threaten anything about yourself and it didn't threaten you.
Speaker 1:It didn't threaten any of your own insecurities and that's the only reason why it comes up.
Speaker 1:But to go back to um, like the the whole partner situation, I think it could also be like you could also maybe reframe that. So, instead of saying like, if I'm reaching back to try to pull you up, what if the partner is like they're comfortable with where they are, they're comfortable with the hobbies that they enjoy, like there's nothing that they feel that they need to change drastically, right, you can be inclusive. Or you can be accommodating and saying like, look, because I'm'm doing this, I still like a little bit of reassurance. I'm doing this, but I need you to know that I'm doing this for me, for us, right, I'm doing this so that I can be a better version of myself for you, and what I'm going to encourage you to do, I'm going to encourage you to do the same for yourself. So, like how you feel, like sometimes you didn't have enough time to go out and hang out with your friends, I want you to schedule time with your friends, I want you to go to the movies and see the things that you like.
Speaker 2:Sometimes I want you to have friends.
Speaker 1:That too, that too, yeah, like I want. But I think it's just that reassurance part, because nobody wants to feel like they're being left behind.
Speaker 2:That's it. So that's what it is. Yeah, I don't yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I've signed. I've signed up for this type of structure of relationship, for the security purpose that I will have a lifetime partner until death. Do us part Right. So if any other little minor things come in or like major life happenings, that causes you to go off onto a course that doesn't include me, like just you reassuring me to to say I am still here, it is still us. This is something I just need to do so that I can be better for us, and this is what I'm going to encourage you to do. I think we'll go a long way.
Speaker 1:But if you're just the type where it's like I'm just going to go off on my thing and like what, I'm sitting here, progressing, I'm hitting the gym, I'm doing this, I'm doing that and you still ain't doing nothing, then yeah, like that's how you grow apart. There is a way to grow together. You know what I'm saying? Like a relationship has its ebbs and its flows and I feel like each decade brings something different. But that's where the communication comes from, that's where the reassurance comes from, that's where you have to actively and be intentful on how you're choosing to move on, how you're choosing to like live your life not only independently, but live your life, as you know, as a couple. That's how you distinguish the me and the we. You can still have a little bit of me, but knowing that at the end of the day we are one. You know what I'm saying. Like we are we are together.
Speaker 1:So just reassuring your partner that they are not being left behind, reassuring your partner that this is something that I need to do for myself, because I'm tired of. I'm tired of listening to my own complaints Like you know what I'm saying, like that, that that was me. Like I'm just tired of listening to myself complain about the things that I don't like, and if I'm not going to change them, then what's the point?
Speaker 2:And the thing is like a lot of times, you know, I do feel like that once, once one partner starts to grow, it kind of trickles down, it kind of like inspires and motivates the other one, right, it can, it can or it can do the complete opposite. Okay, I'm some more healthy relationships. Bye. It can do the opposite because, like well, like it can do the opposite because if you're with someone and you know that's just be honest about the situation. Babe, some people have no desire to change, that's true, and they're completely comfortable.
Speaker 2:That's true, and they just feel like you should love me as I am and deal with who I am, regardless of the effects that it's taking on you, right?
Speaker 1:Okay. Do you think that's bad?
Speaker 2:It's not bad because that's how they feel. Okay, but then what? My issue is that if they say that and their partner now sets boundaries, now they feel like they're being no, it's like, but I think that's natural. I think it's natural for everyone to have boundaries. Okay, you know what. I'm saying so it's like. It's like you can't. I'm not making you out to be any less of a person by expecting you to do something, by requiring you to do something.
Speaker 1:The requiring is Okay. Hold on Requiring.
Speaker 2:It's not wild, it's not wild. Especially if I'm requiring you to do something that will benefit you and then us collectively as a whole right. If I'm just saying, I'm not saying like, let's just say but I think maybe requiring is a different. I mean, I'm not saying like, let's just say but I think maybe requiring is a different. I mean, I'm going to say because on the opposite end of hearing, that if you tell me like oh, I'm requiring you to do this.
Speaker 2:I'll say requesting, okay. So, and it's like if I'm just requesting you, if I'm going to take care of A, b, and I'm just requesting you, dan will see, Okay, right, I don't think that that's Asking too much. Asking too much.
Speaker 1:Okay, Unless it's something outside Right their wheelhouse maybe.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not talking about asking them to bring somebody else in.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:But I do feel like that, for the most part, the growth of one inspires growth in the other one. Yeah, and then you get into a situation where you can now both share joy in each other's wins. It's kind of like when you're like, hey, babe, I had a new PR today and I'm like that's my girl, and they're getting it. Yeah, buddy. And I'm like, hey, babe, look at me Asking fat.
Speaker 1:Every day you try to get me to confirm before he gets in the shower. He he's like babe, my ass is fat. And I tell him it's getting there, babe, it's getting there.
Speaker 2:It's getting there. But I feel like, but also like when both parties are are are fulfilled, are are fulfilled, it's fewer resentments, right, yeah, because if we're both, if we're both on our journeys, whether together or separately, and we're both hitting our markers and we're both seceding, it's like we're both, we're both winning in our own way. Yeah, right, so now I'm not looking back like, oh man, I can't be like, oh well, man, I'm out here by myself, I'm not doing it. Now I have something to celebrate, you have something to celebrate. Now we can celebrate together and that's also like. I think that also makes the relationship strong, because now, when we get together, at the end of the day, now we have something to discuss.
Speaker 2:Right, and I think that's a big thing too, because Lord knows like when you've been together for as long as we have, is like we don't hurt every story. We not sit two or three, four times Bye. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:I got my five that I keep in rotation.
Speaker 2:Every tale has been told. You know what I'm saying. And now most of the new stories involve both of us, so it's not like we can talk about because we both experience it at the same time.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, having these different paths and experience these different things, it allows us to socialize more and actually have something to talk about and enjoy, and enjoy. Yeah, outside of the normal, normal. How was work? How was?
Speaker 1:the kid the she needs such and such for school.
Speaker 2:We gotta do this we don't have to do the mundane depressive talks yeah, I mean they still happen, but yeah, because they have to, because they have to and I do think that, like, once you start, once each person starts to down their path and on their journey and they're starting to really identify who they are again and find their passions and all that stuff, they become stronger, they become more self-aware and I think for us personally I think this is very, very true the problem solving becomes a lot easier, because now that, once you become more self-aware like I know for me personally, now that I'm more self-aware, I can, I, I see where I was wrong a lot easier, because now that, once you become more self-aware like I know for me personally, now that I'm more self-aware I can I, I see where I was wrong a lot easier now than I did before that's a good self-revelation.
Speaker 1:That's it. That's a good self-revelation. I'm, I didn't come for you, I'm just right. You know, I'm just surprised by that statement, that's all.
Speaker 2:That was a good self-revelation and I also I feel like and another, I think another like sub-benefit to what we're doing, like, the more I see it in both of us, like the more we continue down our health journey, the more we like, the more the LBs are dropping off. I see like, I see our confidence and I see us like evolving, like I feel like we're getting like I don't want to say we're getting our groove back, because I ain't never lost it.
Speaker 1:He's no Stella. He don't got to get it back, right.
Speaker 2:Never so. But I do feel like I don't know, like I I know for me, I don't know if it's the same for you, but I know like every day, like I can say, like there hasn't been a day in the last, like I would say the last four or five months, where I didn't like actually like the person I saw in the mirror right, and I think that by discovering myself, it has led me to that situation and I do think that the family as a whole has benefited, because I do think I'm a little bit more pleasant to be around now than I was like okay.
Speaker 1:I'm just teasing, no, it's, it's been. It's been a joy to watch you, um, feel yourself again, cause it's I mean every day, like I mean it might be a little bit too much at this point. Cause the first.
Speaker 2:So it's cool when you do it.
Speaker 1:It's a problem when I do it. It's a problem when you do it. Yeah, no, it's been really good to watch you be confident in yourself. It's been really nice to. I'm going to take this shirt off.
Speaker 2:You're going to see these titties, my C's are A's.
Speaker 1:You don't see these cities, my C's are A's, and then, like your morning abs. Your morning abs has been a joy for the both of us.
Speaker 2:Your morning abs. I have abs for all of you.
Speaker 1:He has abs, like the first part of the morning, and then you know, after that, the second, I drink something or eat something. They're gone. We got to wait until tomorrow morning, that's it. But no, I really I really enjoyed seeing that confidence in you. I really enjoyed watching you when we get ready to go out or something and you like putting on your clothes and you like how you see, how you see yourself in the mirror and I can feel the confidence radiating off of you. I can see the smile.
Speaker 2:I can see I might start recording in tank tops if you like, babe they might get a little side.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna have. I'm gonna have to record with my back to the camera.
Speaker 2:So my back. See your chat. That's not gonna work at all.
Speaker 1:They gotta be a face um, but yeah, so that and that has been beneficial, that's been beneficial for everybody, yeah I mean that aspect. That aspect has not changed. If anything, it's gotten better. What, oh my God.
Speaker 2:Because I'm trying to be out. I was like, yes, I mean like oh my goodness.
Speaker 1:I can't even walk past my husband in shorts anymore.
Speaker 2:Quick, quick story y'all. So we was out at some friend's, some friends house the other day and my wife was sitting down. I looked over, I said look at them and I just started taking pictures of her and I was.
Speaker 1:I turned inside. I was like why are you taking pictures of me? And then I look at his phone and it's like all thigh shots, yes yes, I said I said big or small. You like a thigh? Huh, I can't I can't.
Speaker 2:Um, I'm to end it with this quote Okay, okay. The quote says the quote God damn, I can't talk today. The quote says a healthy me makes a stronger we we.
Speaker 1:I like that. I like that.
Speaker 2:Do you, I do Okay.
Speaker 1:A stronger me makes a stronger we yeah, a healthy me. Oh, a stronger me makes a stronger we yeah a healthy me. Oh, a healthy me makes a stronger we. Oh, that actually is really good. It's very to the point. You can understand it. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2:Let's jump into our two cents.
Speaker 1:I agree that was good. Huh, I'm about to put that on a shirt.
Speaker 2:I'm going to charge you for it. Bye, okay, huh, I'm about to put that on a shirt.
Speaker 1:I'm going to charge you for it. Bye, okay. So let's head on into our two cents. Our two cents, our two cents. I'm going to start with this one.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord, she already chuckling. Let's go.
Speaker 1:Am I the asshole for wanting to end a six year relationship because I am sick of smelling my fiance? Hold on.
Speaker 2:Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:I'm a 35 year old female and I've been with my fiance, who's 47, for six years and most of that time I have been dealing with a constant barrage of bodily functions. I get that everyone farts and poops and in long term relationships you get more comfortable with each other, but this is beyond that.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:He will deliberately get up while we're relaxing in bed and let out the largest and loudest, stinkiest fart while heading out of our bedroom to the bathroom to poop. I've told him repeatedly that it grosses me out and that to at least hold it until he's out of the bedroom door. He ignores this and keeps doing it In public. He will fart in grocery store aisles where there are other people around and then walk away, leaving me to stand in the stink cloud looking like I was the one who did it. He thinks it's funny, I think it's humiliating, leaving me to stand in the stink cloud looking like I was the one who did it. He thinks it's funny. I think it's humiliating.
Speaker 1:We live in a house with one bedroom that's upstairs, with one bathroom that's upstairs. He poops with the door open and the smell drifts all the way down to the main living area. It's constant. I'm tired of smelling this man all the time. It's disgusting and honestly it's killed my sexual attraction to him altogether. I've told him so many times that it bothers me, but he either laughs it off or says it's natural, just get over it, just deal with it. And honestly I'm repulsed, I can't. But it's not about nature, it's about respect. I don't know how I'm supposed to want to be intimate with someone when I'm constantly grossed out. Everyone forts. Other one says he's being gross and childish. Am I the asshole for wanting to break things off?
Speaker 2:No, you're not, I don't.
Speaker 1:I don't think you are, because if you're accepting it now and even after telling him it's going to get worse. Once you get married it's going to get worse, and if you feel like this is behavior that you cannot put up with for a lifetime, then obviously this might be a deal breaker. It's like the last one where she said he wasn't brushing his teeth. If you can't put up with him brushing his teeth and he ain't brushed his teeth in the past three years, y'all been dated babe, he's not gonna brush his teeth.
Speaker 1:He'll probably brush his teeth for the wedding, but he's not gonna brush his teeth anymore after that. If he is behaving like this already and he is 47, he's 47, he's definitely not gonna change he's definitely not gonna change.
Speaker 2:I think I'm gonna say it's better off than in. I always say goodbye goodbye, he's.
Speaker 1:He's definitely not going to change and and listen, that's. That could be okay, and in the morning that I'm making waffles, that could be okay. All right, I think this is hilarious why?
Speaker 2:because I'm like nobody want to smell your growing ass all day but in his way of thinking, like a lot of people, it's it's just for it's no well, but it's, it's normal.
Speaker 1:It's like okay, like you're getting upset with me for passing gas, that's crazy, because I can't control me passing gas. You can't control you passing gas, but you can be a little bit more respectful on how to do it, because I I mean, you know, I would say, if she turned around and did the same thing oh, it'd be different.
Speaker 1:It would be different, but I I kind of feel like he would be like oh, you didn't join the party. She did, she should. No, he'll be like oh you, you've joined the party. So like that's. That's cool. You know, I don't think so at all. I can't. Okay, here we go. Am I the asshole for calling out my girlfriend for spending our rent money on vacation?
Speaker 2:Yep, you're not the asshole for this at all. Come on.
Speaker 1:So my 27-year-old girlfriend, I'm sorry. So I'm a 27-year-old male and I have a 25-year-old girlfriend and we've been living together for about a year. We split everything 50-50 and have a joint account where we put the rent money in each month. I topped it up with recently thanks to a stake bet. That went well, so he put some extra in there. Last week I checked out our account and saw that it was completely drained. When I confronted her, she casually mentioned that she used it for a girl's trip to Miami. Oh hell no.
Speaker 1:She said that she'd pay it back before rent was due. But rent was due literally the following day. Note she did indeed pay it back before it was due, but only just. She only put like Just rent, yeah, just in there, I lost it. I told her that she was being completely irresponsible and that she should have discussed this with me before taking our rent money. She got defensive and said that I was overreacting and that her friend's birthday was a once in a lifetime opportunity. It was her 26th birthday. It's not exactly a milestone. She's now staying at her sister's place and has been blowing up my phone saying that I'm controlling and that the money will be there tomorrow. But like that's not the point. The point is she took our rent money without telling me. My buddy thinks that I'm justified, but her sister is calling me a controlling asshole who doesn't understand girl culture, whatever the fuck that means.
Speaker 1:Girl culture so am I the asshole for calling her out for edit. Rent is eighteen hundred dollars, so she took 900 of my money too, not just hers you're not the asshole, and I'm gonna say it right now I mean, but she did, but she did pay it back.
Speaker 2:No, no, she paid back what she spent. She had the extra.
Speaker 1:Oh, you mean the tapped off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she took that too. She didn't put that back in there, she put just the back in there. Enough to cover the rent.
Speaker 1:Because she was like my man, my man, my man, he covered that for me.
Speaker 2:He understand girl culture. Oh, yeah, okay. And what girl culture is not going to say that she? I am officially not putting nothing in that account. You can go and take my name off of it.
Speaker 1:We can go down to the office every month and pay together, side by side. Matter of fact, I'm gonna send my 900, you send your 900 going forward that's what I would do going forward.
Speaker 2:This, see, my thing is that what I've experienced in my experience, or just have her give you the money. You go get the money order in my experience when it comes to money.
Speaker 1:These are things that need to be talked about when it happens and it needs to be rectified you mean before right before that, right before, and it needs to be rectified in the moment he did as soon as he logged into the account and realized that there was no money to pay the rent.
Speaker 2:But see, the thing is, my issue was that she did it, and this is probably his issue as well, that she did that without even consulting him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what he said.
Speaker 2:Without even saying, hey, is this okay? Because she knew damn well he would say no. He would say no, You're not going to spend the rent to go have fun. But also her way of thinking. Also, her way of thinking was I'll have it back. Yeah, I know I.
Speaker 1:I agree with you, I agree with you, because now what if you don't get it back? Yeah, and you're cutting it really close because rent was due the the following day we don't look here, men.
Speaker 2:Men deal with, we deal with certainties. We need to be, you need to be certain that it's going to be here. If there's a chance that it may not, you don't touch it, because that's how I run Now. If I know, hey, look here.
Speaker 1:I mean they said my check was supposed to be here on Wednesday.
Speaker 2:In my mind I'd be like, hey, you know what, okay, rent due on Friday, I get paid on Wednesday. If I dip into the mortgage a little bit, I do that sometimes, but I know for a fact that what I take out I'ma have before it's due. She out here. And for a trip to Miami, that's a red flag by itself. What to go to Miami, a girl's trip to Miami, shit. Come on now, too much, I said what I said no, I completely agree, your ass ain't gonna be on no girl's trip to Miami why?
Speaker 1:what if me and my girls Listen? We just talked about, okay, you and your girls can go to brunch.
Speaker 2:In Miami, A day trip no down the street why I can't go to Miami. What's in Miami?
Speaker 1:I've never been the hoes. Oh, I want to see what the hoes look like. Look, at you ain't gonna talk about my friends jerk why?
Speaker 2:did you hit me?
Speaker 1:You ain't gonna talk about my friends. My friends are not hoes, they are respectable women. Thank you very much. Some of them are. I hang around with nothing but respectable women.
Speaker 2:Don't have. You say some names.
Speaker 1:All of my friends are respectable women. Okay, alright, respectable women.
Speaker 2:This has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. If you're not following us, what are you doing?
Speaker 1:Like for?
Speaker 2:real. Stop shacking up. What else are you doing?
Speaker 1:Go hit that follow Just.
Speaker 2:Subscribe.
Speaker 1:Yes, did you say stop shacking up.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Stop it. Stop it. You can follow us. Stop looking at the reels and not liking and following. It's weird. You can follow us on Instagram, tiktok, you can follow us.
Speaker 2:Stop looking at the reels and not liking and following.
Speaker 1:It's weird. You can follow us on Instagram, tiktok, facebook.
Speaker 2:YouTube Only Pans, only Pans. Once again, I want to say thank you all. We want to say thank you all. We have now reached 20K on Instagram. Woo-hoo, we appreciate all the love and support. Hold on, let me get some claps for that. Woo, we appreciate y'all for you guys are amazing, amazing. Amazing, amazing. And first of all, I would like to also say that the more you guys follow, the more it stresses our daughter out.
Speaker 1:Bye.
Speaker 2:You guys are stealing my followers, baby, they don't know you.
Speaker 1:Bye, y'all go follow my baby, but like always, we appreciate you guys again for rocking with us PhoenixRain2035 on Instagram.
Speaker 2:For 99 episodes 99 episodes.
Speaker 1:99 episodes, that's crazy. What's this? Two years?
Speaker 2:99 episodes Crazy work, Like always. A new episode every Wednesday and until then, Peace.
Speaker 1:Peace, booskies Peace.
