Life After I Do Podcast
Marriage and relationships can be tough. You may feel like youâre the only one struggling but youâre not. Life After I do is a weekly podcast where Morice and Kynesha, a black married millennial couple, share their experiences and advice on everything from kids and family to intimacy and connection. Noting is off limits.
In their 24 years together and 10 years of marriage, Morice and Kynesha have learned a lot about what it takes to make a relationship work. They know the importance of communication, trust and commitment. They also know itâs okay to not have it all figured out.
Join them every Wednesday as they talk about their own journey of âLife After I doâ.
Life After I Do Podcast
Couple's Roast
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Ever roasted your partner so well they laughed and looked personally attacked? đ Then this episode is for you. On this weekâs Life After I Do, Nesha G and Moelethal dive into the hilarious, unfiltered world of marital one-linersâthose spicy, sarcastic jabs that only make sense inside the bubble of a long-term relationship.
đŹ From âI married you for better or worse, not for background noise,â to âYour selective hearing is Olympic-level impressive,â these loving insults reveal just how unique (and funny) couple communication can be.
đŞ But itâs not all laughsâthis episode also features a playful gym debate about whoâs really stronger. Squats, deadlifts, egos⌠nothing is off-limits as they explore how healthy competition can actually strengthen your bond (as long as no one skips leg day đ ).
âď¸ Our 2 Cents:
We go beyond jokes to unpack two serious relationship dilemmas:
đ Is asking for a prenup before marriage shadyâor just smart?
đˇ What do you do when your partner or family repeatedly puts your health at risk (like ignoring a severe allergy)?
These stories highlight the importance of boundaries, accountability, and protecting your peaceâespecially when love is involved.
⨠Through it all, Nesha G and Moelethal show that the key to lasting love isnât perfectionâitâs the ability to laugh, reflect, and grow together, even when things get tense (or hilarious).
Thanks for rocking with us! Donât forget to follow Life After I Do so you never miss an episode. Got a relationship situation you want us to weigh in on? Hit us at https://beacons.ai/laidpodcast â we just might talk about it in a future episode.
Playful Bickering and Weekly Updates
Speaker 1This is the same one that's been. Oh so you talking to other men at the gym? No, I'm not talking to other men at the gym.
Speaker 2They talking to you Other men are talking to me there's a difference, but you're entertaining your cheating?
Speaker 1No, I'm not.
Speaker 2By your standards, you're cheating. I'm not Go ahead and read one.
Speaker 1By your standards. I'm not because I didn't use tongue. Hey, everybody, and welcome back to your weekly episode of the life after I do podcast. Yes, thanks for joining us today. Okay, you guys know the drill. Hello everybody and welcome back to another weekly episode of the Life of the New Podcast.
Speaker 2You're here with your host today, kynesha and Maureen. Wow, it's corny as hell, but you can see, as my health gets better, I'm able to hold that a little longer.
Speaker 1You try to say uh.
Speaker 2My breath control.
Speaker 1Oh, okay. Your respiratory game is.
Speaker 2I might be up there ushering Chris Brown next year. You might be what Up there ushering Chris Brown next year.
Speaker 1Up where you gonna buy tickets.
Speaker 2I'm not buying you Chris Brown tickets.
Speaker 1I didn't ask for the Chris Brown tickets or usher tickets, I don't need to see.
Speaker 2No.
Speaker 1I don't need to see Chris Brown.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, I don't mind seeing.
Speaker 1You're not seeing Raymond either H You're not seeing Raymond either H-E-R-R-A-Y-M-O-N-D.
Speaker 2Now, baby, tell me what you want to do with me. The funny thing is If you turn on your Apple TV Every time that you roll with me Holding me Trying to keep control of me, nice and slowly.
Speaker 1You know, never let me go, never messing up the flow. That's how the hood gonna go.
Speaker 2If you turn on your Apple TV, they have all his music videos. You can see no one likes you watch this.
Speaker 1No, watch this. These are my confessions. Are you done? Are you done? Are you done? I'm surprised you didn't.
Speaker 2Uh, I forgot I was gonna say you forgot which button it was how you doing bo Booskies.
Speaker 1I am, I'm great.
Speaker 2That's good. I'm great. That's good, because your weekly performance review does not reflect that. How was your week?
Speaker 1My week was great. I did all the things I wanted to do.
Speaker 2Oh, okay, yeah, let's get into it. You did all the things that you wanted. Let's talk about the things you wanted to do. Oh, okay, yeah, let's get into it. You did all the things that you wanted. Let's talk about the things you wanted to do. Tell the folks at home what you accomplished this week.
Speaker 1What do you mean? What'd you do? Your week was great. What?
Speaker 2made it so great? My week was great. What made it?
Speaker 1so great. Let's see, I got to have lunch with a friend oh okay, I was working too. I was on lunch break. I went to lunch, oh okay, I went on a lunch break. Don't you get a lunch break at work Barely? But you get one right, barely. You get one right, yes or no? Yes or no, do you?
Speaker 2get a lunch.
Speaker 1I'm coming for you, you don't get to come for me oh, no, no no you're constantly coming for me, but I don't want to have to come for you because we all know. Can you stop rubbing my leg, okay? We all know how easily your feelings get hurt, oh my god. But anywho, I had a great week, okay, um, I had a great week. I hit new pr.
Speaker 2That's good oh my god.
Speaker 1Every week you come here and tell us about the gym really you are so, wow, I'm not sharing anything else with you. I'm not sharing anything else.
Speaker 2I'm just playing, I'm not sharing nothing.
Speaker 1My week was fine. How was your week? You don't care about my week, so how was your week?
Speaker 2ask me again.
Relationship Dynamics and Workout Routines
Speaker 1I don't know what okay, let's hold on, let's prepare. Let's prepare ourselves for our depressive state. Guys Ready, how was your week, maurice?
Speaker 2I had a good week though.
Speaker 1Such a lame. I had a good week, you did.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1What made it good?
Speaker 2I had a good week mentally. Oh, that's good Until the end. Oh that uh well last couple days kind of dream, you know we can, that we can never have a 10 for 10 but it's all right, I understand. I gave it 100, it was just it was just. It was just 10 at the end of the week. The week got 100 oh, okay the effort was different. Okay, how was your week?
Speaker 1any highlights. I think that's what we should start doing. The highlights that's what we'll start doing. What was the highlight of your week and the bullshitness of your week? So tell me about the highlight of your week and then tell me the bullshitness of your week, or the thing that that brought you like the most angst I think the highlight of the week is when we got your car back god praise, lord praise, so thank you.
Speaker 2We went back to somewhat of normal, because yeah, me pulling triple duty man, this is my turn goodbye, um, we're gonna go back to my week no, you with the new structure. We have a new structure now okay, we just started it just now. What?
Speaker 1was um. What was your highlight besides that? The car? Okay, what was the? What was your bullshitness? Your ink the car.
Speaker 2No, it can't be both yeah, it can, because I was happy you got your car back so you could. You was complaining about how ghetto my car is.
Speaker 1Oh, my god, you don't have a said your car was ghetto. You don't have a back. Oh my god, you don't have push to start, okay, but you don't have a backup camera.
Speaker 2Oh my God, you don't have push to start.
Speaker 1Okay, wait, let me tell y'all no, it's my week. It's my turn. Okay, go, go ahead. I'm just saying backup cameras are important.
Speaker 2Right. And then the car is also my low point, because I was rather enjoying getting dropped off. I know you you were enjoying.
Speaker 1You were enjoying your limousine service every day.
Speaker 2I said man, I can get to work a little later, I ain't gotta worry about parking, cause I just pull up hop out. Hop out 16.
Speaker 1I was doing my big one. Yeah, you were, it was so, you were so sad. You get up that morning and you realize damn, I gotta go, I gotta go gotta find parking.
Speaker 2it's crazy how much you get used to it in a short period of time, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1I wasn't trying to get used to it because I didn't enjoy the double-dutiness I mean look here Of the driving.
Speaker 2You don't do nothing around here.
Speaker 1I don't want to strangle you, don't make me strangle you. We're me strangle you, we're, we're recording and then that would be like evidence. So people know you're violent I'm not violent.
Speaker 2I double blink. I love aggressively. I double blink every week. No one comes to my help because, first of all, maybe because you're blinking like a lunatic huh maybe because you're blinking like a lunatic I mean the week was cool, I mean doesn't, it was just a normal, it was somewhat a normal. It was somewhat a normal week.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I know it was the first time I actually worked 40 hours in a while. Oh, it was rough.
Speaker 1It kind of was it was rough, it was rough.
Speaker 2Rough.
Speaker 1Kind of.
Speaker 2No, it was rough.
Speaker 1It was rough, yeah, but at least you were like super disciplined Throughout the week. Like you came home, you put your crap away, you showered and you went straight to bed. I didn't have no choice. I was tired and then you got up every day.
Speaker 2At 3.30 One day, 2 o'clock, go to the gym In the gym with just hopes and dreams. You know what?
Speaker 1Sometimes that's all you need. Hopes and dreams Dreams visualization that's all you need. Hopes and dreams it's hopes, dreams, visualization that's all you need.
Speaker 2No one tells you that the amount of libido stimuli working out produces. Because after my workout I'll be on the treadmill and I'll be like I should not be feeling this way right now, but I'm like I need to go home and take care of this right now ask me if he comes home early to take care of that. I gotta go to work. He doesn't. I gotta get my workout done.
Speaker 1He doesn't, so it's not. It's not that annoying, adam, is it? It's not that bad. You don't know what I'll be doing when you leave. We leave at the same time.
Speaker 2What do you?
Speaker 1do Double back.
Speaker 2No, we don't leave at the same time.
Speaker 1We have, literally we've been leaving at the same time this week.
Speaker 2Go ahead. Go ahead and tell us about your week again. I'm done. That's how she treat me people. This is why I be double blinking and no one comes to rescue me.
Speaker 1And no one, because look how you blink, you don't even blink properly what we got today, Booski. You don't even blink properly.
Speaker 2I swear y'all, she loved me and I love her.
Speaker 1What's today, 23 years. What's today?
Speaker 2Yeah, I think today is a love day. Today is a love day 23 years I've been with this woman.
Speaker 1Today is Friday yeah, today is a love day. I love you on Fridays 23, which day it was, you know.
Speaker 2When I tell y'all that, teenage Kanye, she was so much nicer.
Speaker 1And this is what you've turned me into Early early 20s, Kanye.
Speaker 2she was so much nicer Life experiences have turned me into this.
Speaker 1Doing life with you has turned me into this, so I don't know what that says about you.
Speaker 2She'd be faking for the camera, because off camera she'd be like oh babe, I love you so much.
Speaker 1Can you hold my hand? Can we cuddle? Oh my gosh, you're such an asshole. Why do you try to make it seem like my name is Mo Lethal. Why do you try to make it seem like I'm so needy? I asked you to hold my hand one time last night, at two in the morning, because I wanted to be close to you and I couldn't get close to you because somebody decided to sneak into my bed. I told you to lock the door At.
Speaker 2Somebody decided to sneak into my bed at 1am I told you to lock the door.
Speaker 1I told you to lock the door and I was like I was cuddling with my husband. So I was like, oh my gosh, can you hold my hand? And now you're trying to make it seem like I'm hella needy.
Speaker 2Okay, you're not.
Speaker 1I don't want to hold your hand tonight.
Speaker 2That's fine. I'm asleep to say I don't want to hold your hand tonight, that's fine, I'm asleep to say I don't want to hold your hand.
Speaker 1I was going to let you be the little spoon, but now, now you can be the big spoon around your pillow. What?
Speaker 2we got today. I think this little back and forth goes perfectly with what we got today.
Speaker 1Yeah, because you're rude, I'm rude, you're rude, you're rude, I'm rude, you're rude, you're rude. I love you.
Speaker 2I'm rubber and you're glue.
Speaker 1Oh my gosh, whatever you say to me, bounce off me and sticks to you. Maurice. Okay, what are you? Seven?
Speaker 2Eight, thank you.
Speaker 1Oh gosh, that little girl lover. I can't Thank you.
Speaker 2What we got today Booskies.
Speaker 1Well, in theme of you being rude to me all the time, I'm nothing but nice to you.
Speaker 2I am nothing but nice to you.
Speaker 1Well, can you change your definition of nice? Oh my God, If you just know the conversation I've had with my brother to you. Well, can you change your definition of nice?
Speaker 2Oh my God, If you just know the conversation I'd have with my brother about you.
Speaker 1Well, and you talk shit about me to other people. My bill Of all people.
Speaker 2I never said I was talking shit. You just assume it was bad, see, see, I see how she treat.
Battle of Strengths: Gym Competition
Speaker 1I'm blinking again for the people listening, because I'm blinking again for the people listening, because you probably are calling my bill and telling him some untruths about his favorite sister-in-law. His only sister-in-law Trying to paint me in a bad picture. Trying to paint me in a bad picture. Don't do that, you in my business.
Speaker 2You in my business.
Speaker 1Don't do that.
Speaker 2I'm going to have Izzy come here and put you in your place, right?
Speaker 1So what we?
Speaker 2got today.
Speaker 1Okay, so In the In the Era of banter Between couples, some of the sayings that couples say to each other, that could be like Insulting but funny, it's just black couples.
Speaker 2But you know, black people, we, we look different.
Speaker 1It's just like a compilation. Some of them I've never said to you before. You probably thought them, I probably thought them, but I mean they're funny. I probably said most of them to you. No, you haven't, they're funny, but I'll read one and then you read one, because I'm going to see which ones I want to keep in my arsenal.
Speaker 2Okay, so we just going to go back and forth and then discuss them. Sure, Okay, go ahead. I guess this is y'all. Look here. Like I told y'all, I be raw dog in these episodes. I just show up.
Speaker 1This one I'm going to keep for me for you next time. Your selective hearing is Olympic level impressive.
Speaker 2That's funny because I literally said that to you in my head on thursday the way I, literally I said your selective hearing like oh my god, hold on. Let me tell the people let me.
Speaker 1Tell the people what.
Speaker 2Tell the people what I know for fact and that's how you know he's wrong. That I said something to you. No, and because I've been Shout out to my therapist.
Speaker 1You already see how he prefaced this about in his head. That's how our conversations go. Shout out to my therapist.
Speaker 2I've been intentional with my words, especially with you, and I said and I know I said this I said do such and such, so I could do such and such on this day.
Speaker 1On Saturday, right, yes, when did you do such and such, though I did it today. On what day? Friday, friday, okay, why?
Speaker 2Okay, why? Because I had extra time today Okay.
Speaker 1Whatever you got to tell yourself sir. Time today. Okay, Whatever, you gotta tell yourself sir.
Speaker 2Whatever you gotta tell yourself. Now I'm gonna say this this is something I've never said to you. I've said it to you, but just not in this way. What is it Reese? I love you, but your taste in TV is actually garbage.
Speaker 1You have said that, not in those exact words, but yes, you have said that to me.
Speaker 2What exact words. But yes, you have said that to me.
Speaker 1Watching is wild okay, first of all, I'm pretty consistent with what I watch I like what I like and you think everything I watch is depressing. I think it's informative. It's not. It's it's based on truth. I watched true crime. It's in the title true crime. It is crime that is true. That has actually happened. It's informative because it's things that we could learn from okay so like walking home from parties by yourself after midnight, after you've been intoxicated you don don't walk in a mailbox.
Speaker 1Listen, but I'm just saying for future. I know that I shouldn't be intoxicated walking on a road by myself after midnight.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1Because we know what the possibilities are.
Speaker 2This is the same woman who asked me this is coming from the man who watches adult cartoons on Kohl's caption. Look here, you're not going to come for my anime, okay.
Speaker 1You came for me first. You see how easily butthurt, he gets.
Speaker 2First of all, my anime is more story driven, have better meanings, better morals.
Speaker 1I literally just watched 30 minutes of the anime with you when we got home from the gym, anime with you when we got home from the gym, and the whole 30 minutes. Whatever had happened before. All I know is that there was crying between a bunch of high school boys for 30 minutes High school boys crying in their school uniforms hugging each other.
Speaker 2First of all, they were not in school uniforms.
Speaker 1They were in school uniforms. It was a gang. Their gang uniforms look like school uniforms.
Speaker 2And first of all I was watching Windbreaker.
Speaker 1Okay, there was a lot of crying involved and you didn't have all the contacts. Okay, you don't have all the contacts in my shows either.
Speaker 2I can just read one. Yes, sbu, you got the contacts.
Speaker 1Excuse me, trash-ass movie.
Speaker 2Really Excuse me, trash ass movie.
Speaker 1Really You're not going to speak on Mariska Haragody like that, okay, oh, she's very beautiful, so she's very beautiful. Listen here this one. I married you for better or worse, not for background noise.
Speaker 2What the hell that supposed to mean.
Speaker 1What the hell that supposed supposed to mean. Oh, when I saw that, when I said, oh, I can't wait, I can't wait, what the hell, I can't wait to use that one in some type of text, some type of context. I married you for better or worse not background.
Speaker 2So what's the background noise you're hearing? Tell me d-man, d-man, go ahead. Tell me go on, or worse, not background noise. So what's the background?
Speaker 1noise you're hearing. Tell me D-man, D-man, Go ahead. Tell me Come on. Well, you're not background noise, babe.
Speaker 2Okay, I mean like there's times where I mean Go ahead and try and clean it up, because I'm getting petty. I'll let you know now that you are unlocking the petty version of your husband, okay, he is about to show up.
Speaker 1Okay, let's see him.
Speaker 2And I try not to do this to you because you're my wife and I love you.
Speaker 1And I'm blinking again for the people listening and for the people who will not save you, who will not come to your rescue, okay.
Speaker 2So, since we taking shots, I married a snack, but I got leftovers.
Funny Insults Couples Say to Each Other
Speaker 1I knew you were going to say that one, but you eat leftovers five days a week. So jokes on you, jokes on you. Leftovers are your favorite Meal prep. Boo. I mean when a meal is good, boom, exactly Boom. You tried it with that one.
Speaker 2But don't worry, because I'm used to disappointment oh so you're fighting.
Speaker 1Don't worry.
Speaker 2I'm used to disappointment I have built up a muscle to deal with disappointment.
Speaker 1It doesn't even penetrate anymore.
Speaker 2So I disappoint you all the time. Is that what you're?
Speaker 1saying I'm just, I was just letting you know. Okay, like don't even worry. So this is what we do. I'm just.
Speaker 2I was just letting you know, like don't even worry. So this is what we do, don't worry. I'm like impenetrable at this point Because my muscle, my disappointed muscle is strong Bam. Bam. So so you structured a whole episode so we can go back and forth with each other. That's fine. Is this what you want to do? This is what we're doing. This is what we're doing. What that's what we're doing.
Speaker 1That's what we're doing. What Well? I didn't know it was possible to load a dishwasher wrong. I know that you are not trying to come at me. You don't even load the dishwasher.
Speaker 2I don't have to. Okay, I pay the bill.
Speaker 1And I load it correctly. No, you don't. Yes, I bet you don't even know how to clean the dishwasher. Did you know that?
Speaker 2you had to clean the dishwasher oh, you do.
Speaker 1You sit in the video like three times. How do you clean the dishwasher?
Speaker 2it's not my job, it's your job. It's not my job, it's your job, yeah uh-huh, don't try to backpedal now how I clean it as I get up. I get up out of my bed, which I was comfortable. I walk over to my wife and say hey, don't forget to clean dishwasher today. That's how I do it now now okay, now, now.
Speaker 1Okay, I love how you know.
Speaker 1Okay, here we go Just the way it start. I love how you pretend like you know what you're talking about. I have said that to you so many times, because sometimes I think this is what I think happens. I think when I ask my husband certain questions and he wants to be like he wants to be my resource. So when I come to him with certain things that he really doesn't have an answer to, he will come up with the craziest answer, like out of his ass but to try to make it sound like there's some truth to it. And when I'm sitting there and I'm listening, I'm like I'm gonna be respectful and I'm going to like listen to him. And then I'll be like, babe, you that didn't even like make sense, like it didn't even make sense, but you still. But you, you stick with it and I, I'm sorry, that's bullshit, that's not bullshit. You've given me bullshit answers before. Okay.
Speaker 2I'm not even going to respond. You know what? I don't give you bad advice, and if I don't know something, I tell you I don't know. That's not true, don't?
Speaker 1come for me.
Speaker 2You know what? It don't matter. Okay, it don't even matter. When you said I'll be ready in five minutes, did you mean earth time? Because this has been, this has been a theme the duration of our relationship that's not true. You ain't never ready. That's not true. I really I have.
Speaker 1I now lie to you and I'm on time because I lied to you. But I'm on time, okay, am I? Am I not? If you say we need to leave by 530, I'm usually done by 527.
Speaker 2This is the same woman that wears the same mom outfit with interchangeable parts, that struggles to get dressed on time.
Speaker 1I'm like you know we're going somewhere. I don't wear my mom uniform.
Speaker 2OK, OK.
Speaker 1In case you guys are wondering what my mom uniform is, my mom uniform is what she got on right now Black leggings or black sweats and a zip up, a hoodie or a crew neck sweatshirt, that's it. I mean it's, first of all, listen, first of all, it's comfortable, ok, ok. Second of all, it's like after being in spandex and rayon and everything else for five hours and sweating in it, but you don't have to be there for five hours.
Speaker 2You take five hours. That's different.
Speaker 1Okay, I don't take. Listen, my rest periods are longer than yours. You take one minute to a minute and a half rest period. I take two minutes, I have to take five minutes to six minutes in between my bigger lifts. Okay, you and I are not the same. Wow, wow, okay, we're not the same. Right now I'm better. Let me see you squat 300. Lightweight Deadlift 305. Easily, okay, easily, uh-huh. Show me proof. Okay, I'll do it.
Speaker 2Because I, because that's because the bar was at my damn nipple line.
Speaker 1First of all excuses, and that made it better for liftoff for you. Just get under it, pick it up on your on your track.
Speaker 2Let's go, go ahead and rewind. You tried it, you tried it. You keep talking and one day it'll be useful. Ok, you know what? Ok.
Speaker 1Keep talking and one day, all that talking you talk will be useful. Okay, it'll be useful one day, not today, not today, but one day it's going to be useful.
Speaker 2Okay, Because at this point you arguing with me is just my cardio.
Speaker 1Really, I don't argue yeah, you do. No, I don't. You don't Shut up. I don't argue yeah you do don't argue.
Speaker 2Yeah, you do. No, I don't. You don't shut up, I don't argue. Yeah, you do, you don't argue. You always come for me, you you're. You're trying to convince the people that it's me coming for you. No, when is you coming for me?
Speaker 1no, I don't, I don't try to convince anybody of anything all right I first of all listen. You always try to like slide little sayings and little things in on me, or you try to like pick at me and say little things and then, when I retaliate, Give me three examples. What like today? Okay, for instance, I was, my bra had came unsnapped. Right, my bra came unsnapped. Yeah, what did you say? What did you say? What did you say? So my, my bra, my bra is a little bit bigger now because, I've lost weight.
Speaker 1Right, I'm down almost 60 pounds, so like things have gotten smaller okay and my bra had unsnapped, I have one that snaps in the front, my bra and then listen to what he said to me.
Speaker 2I said babe, it's okay, just buy another bra. Your chest is. Let me tell the people what I said and then listen to what he said to me. I said babe, it's okay, just buy another bra, your chest is deflated.
Speaker 1No, that's not what you said. You said well, that's because your titties are deflated. Yeah, that's your titties, it's deflated. And I was like, what? Well, your titties are flat. Then you, I was like, and I literally said to him, I said, can we use a better choice of words? And he was like, oh well, because you, little sweet babe, but you, you, you followed the deflated up with flat.
Speaker 2But I wasn't coming for you, I was just saying what it was.
Speaker 1DeMille, demille.
Speaker 2Sade.
Speaker 1DeMille Sade, demille Sade. And then when I come for you, or when I, when I, make a slide, but I wasn't.
Speaker 2I wasn't coming for you. I literally just said I gave you a reason why okay, well, you know, you could have worded it better see, you don't. This is just how, like the comedian ryan davis said, you just want me to lie to you.
Speaker 1You want me to lie to? You in the way you want to be lying to you when you said oh babe, like you know, it's because you lost weight and, like I've even said to you before, like you go, you lose your butt and your boobs because it's all fat. But you know what? Whatever, whatever, if you were a flavor, you'd be playing with a twist of chaos.
Speaker 2That's? That's that's MFI? I don't think so, because I'm the only flavor in the house If you count vanilla flavor. Vanilla is a flavor.
Speaker 1I don't think vanilla is. I'm not vanilla. Yeah, and you can fight me on it. I don't care what anybody says.
Speaker 2I see you've reached your daily limit of doing the bare minimum.
Speaker 1Really, really.
Speaker 2Because there's a lot of things right here where you do bare minimum yeah, if, and if I'm the only person that's gonna do it then it'll get.
Speaker 1It'll get done how I say it'll get done. You're the point blank and all of the periods, but you're more than welcome to do it yourself.
Speaker 2You're the only person doing it, because it's part of your responsibilities here and does and then answer yes or no. Then answer yes or no. Then answer yes or no.
Speaker 1Answer yes or no, because that question goes both ways Answer yes or no, but does it get done?
Speaker 2It does get done, it does yes or no Okay.
Speaker 1But here's what I find so like I tell you it will get done how I find interesting. What's interesting About this dynamic?
Speaker 2This dynamic, tell me. My wife will tell me hey, I'm overwhelmed. I would appreciate it if you would help me out. You know, clean the kitchen, mop the floor.
Speaker 1I don't think I've ever used that word, but okay.
Speaker 2Okay, you said I appreciate you helping me out, but you wash the dishes, cook clean.
Speaker 1I never word it that way.
Speaker 2You ask me to do something domestic. Right, I don't ask you. But you don't want to ask me.
Speaker 1You want me to just take initiative, Because if you see a dish but you never go to work for me.
Speaker 2You never say, babe, I got the light builder's money, babe, don't worry.
Speaker 1I went to work this week, so don't worry about the mortgage. Really, you never. I've done that before, though With her fees. With her fees, that's what you Look here. Does it or does it not help you, though? No, it helps her, it don't help me, it does help you because you're responsible for paying them.
Speaker 2No, I'm not.
Speaker 1So when I say no, I'm not when, when I say like oh, you know what, I'm going to just go ahead and be generous and I'm going to use my bank account I'm going to use my bank account and I'm going to take care of it.
Speaker 2That you've been hoarding money.
Speaker 1I don't hoard money. If you know about it, it's not hoarding, you just don't know the amount. Okay, if you really want to, if you cared about the amount, then you would calculate.
Speaker 2Don't start unless you brought snacks in the solution.
Speaker 1I always have snacks on deck.
Speaker 2Clearly.
Speaker 1What the fuck is that supposed to mean?
Speaker 2You always got snacks on deck.
Speaker 1What is that supposed to mean? You always got snacks on deck. Wow Okay, A-Cup. All right. I see, A-Cup came with his A-game. A-cup came with his A-game. Wow yeah. I got the cup you lost. Okay, now that's okay, though I don't mind losing that cup. Okay, I don't mind losing that cup, because I can lose it a lot quicker than you. I don't mind losing that cup. That's not even that's cool.
Speaker 2I'm okay.
Speaker 1Because you already see what the new tops is attracting and you're already in your feelings about me making new friends, girl, do you?
Speaker 2Save me the trouble.
Speaker 1Girl, do you Save me the trouble? Yeah, this is the same one. That's been Elsa. You talking to other men at the gym? No, I'm not talking to other men at the gym.
Speaker 2They talking to you.
Speaker 1Other men are talking to me.
Speaker 2There's a difference, but you're entertaining your cheating?
Speaker 1No, I'm not.
Speaker 2By your standards, you're cheating. I'm not Go ahead and read one.
AITA: Prenups Before Marriage
Speaker 1By your standards, I I'm not sure I'm sending it to Mike. I think we're going to read most of them. You know what? Go ahead and fix it your way. I'll fix it later. If that's not the story of my life with you, go ahead and fix it, I'll fix it later, because that's what I have to do. That's what big mama got to come in and do.
Speaker 2First of all, don't ever refer yourself as big mama.
Speaker 1In this house. I'm a big mama, I'm a mama and I'm big.
Speaker 2I'm a mama and I'm big Never what. You sure you need another snack or are you just emotionally attached to chewing? Emotionally attached to chewing is crazy work.
Speaker 1It's crazy work, but what do I have to do? Every day I go to the gym. You got you that's crazy I have to chew. I gotta chew, guys, and I don't know. That's why I was like maybe it's like it.
Speaker 2Well, I know why I do it Like it helps me to focus, but I would think that, with all the air you're doing on your b-ball, With all the what the air, because you're doing gum. You're doing on air.
Speaker 1Well, they used to say it puts air on your stomach, but I mean I do it because it helps me focus.
Speaker 2Clearly not today. Didn't hit that 270.
Speaker 1I hit it twice. What are you talking about? I got it recorded. This is coming from a guy who can't even squat a 135. That's wild. That's really what's really baffling is that he's trying to come for me and thought he ate by saying that I couldn't squat 270 when I've literally squatted 300 and I hit 270 for like almost three reps today. That's, that's diabolical work. I'm going to let you live and what he can squat is my warmup, that's that's wild.
Speaker 2I'm going to let you live in this world. That's wild. I'm going to let you live in this world. That's crazy.
Speaker 1what did you say that you already do on overhead triceps. What'd you say you do? You said you do 60 120, you don't. You said you do 60 120 because your feelings was hurt when you asked me what I did for my three sets and I was like, oh, I did it at 60. And he was like, are you serious? And I was like yeah. I'm very serious your form is probably trash it. It wasn't. Now do you see how he gets? Look now he buttered. Look now he buttered.
Speaker 2I know I'm stronger than you.
Speaker 1In some things. In other things, I'm stronger than you. That's how the relationship works.
Speaker 2You're stronger than me doing this and this and this Cooking and cleaning and this.
Speaker 1And sweeping.
Speaker 2And this yeah you got it.
Speaker 1I'm stronger than you in a lot more ways. Oh look here.
Speaker 2We can have a liftoff and report it. We should and report it. Let's do it.
Speaker 1Because I think the only thing right now that you would have me beat in is bench. But I'm getting there, I'm getting there.
Speaker 2I'm getting there Because I'm hitting 170 next week?
Speaker 1I haven't bench pressed in months but I'm sure that's probably where you would get me as bench but you cannot you don't hold a match to me in squat and deadlift. You don't, and you know you don't, you don't, you're not even close, if that's what you believe. I've seen your stiff legged deadlift with 225 and you struggle. You struggle, babe, but it's okay.
Speaker 2I mean I can help you okay you're trying to comfort me, but it's not working.
Speaker 1I'm not trying to comfort you, you started it you are, what are? You talking about you started it.
Speaker 2You about to turn this whole episode into. Am I the asshole situation? I'm not an asshole, always. I'm a delight you about to turn this whole episode into.
Speaker 1Am I the asshole situation? I'm not an asshole. Always Rewind, I'm a delight.
Speaker 2Yeah, you told that story three times today.
Speaker 1I am a delight. I choose to be a delight. I like your choice and what you wore.
Speaker 2Okay, okay, okay, okay, all right.
Speaker 1Was that a fart or your personality leaving?
Speaker 2the room. I'm done for the day. This has been another episode.
Speaker 1I'm cutting it hella short this week. Why, what's?
Speaker 2wrong. I have nothing else to say.
Speaker 1Why? What's wrong? What's the?
Speaker 2problem. I have nothing else to say.
Speaker 1Are your feelings hurt? My feelings are not hurt, okay.
Speaker 2So what's the problem? I am secure in who I am. Okay, and what about it? I know that I am stronger.
Speaker 1You're worthy.
Speaker 2I'm stronger than you, uh-huh.
Speaker 1What about? What else?
Speaker 2And the gym Uh-huh and functional strength.
Speaker 1Uh-huh, now listen, everyday strength.
Speaker 2I'm not saying Everyday strength you got me. I'm not saying that you're not strong, I'm just saying that you ain't messing with me, baby, I know, I know in general, are you done?
Speaker 1No, In general you are stronger than me, are you done?
Speaker 2Are you done Are?
Speaker 1you done. This is what he does when his feelings get hurt guys, my feelings are not hurt. I know that in general, guys hurt guys. I know that in general guys I'm blinking for help again that you are stronger than me, babe. There's like there's no doubt about that, I know that okay, okay, but there are some things you know, just like in life.
Speaker 1You know that I'm more equipped, that's all yeah, you're more equipped to fold these clothes which is crazy, because I haven't folded your clothes in like three weeks because I'm trying to be a good husband. You ain't trying to be no damn good husband, I'm trying to be a good what I do is I've been waiting until you take the day off and then I be like you ain't got shit else to do, so you should do your laundry this week if you your life around to where it just like so it looks like it's your idea.
Speaker 2So it sounds like what you're saying is that you've been purposely not fulfilling your duties. Call it what you want, and this is why your performance review is trash.
Speaker 1That's fine. You didn't fulfill your duties either. You didn't buy me those two sweatshirts that I wanted, so I bought you a whole freaking outfit today. That doesn't count. I wanted the sweatshirts too. You pick those out. I want a few other sweatshirts too, but whatever.
Speaker 2Girl, my damn lats hurt.
Speaker 1Don't worry, I'll go back and get them myself. This is why I just, you know, I just got to do it myself. I just got to do it myself.
Speaker 2That's what Russ said.
Speaker 1That's what who said Russ.
Speaker 2Russ yeah, Multi Grammy. I'm going to do it myself.
Speaker 1How does the song go? Because clearly I don't know what you're talking about.
Speaker 2His latest TikTok moment was a brief. Was a? What Brief Was a brief? Now you keep it in my house. I'm trying to in the middle of the night, I'm trying to brief, oh. I don't know how the words go.
Speaker 1Okay, because see what I mean. See how you just be saying yeah, Go back to my point. See how he just say shit and you don't know what he's talking about.
Speaker 2No, I know what I'm talking about. I don't know the words to the song Same idea.
Speaker 1It's along the same thing. Anywho, let's hop into.
Speaker 2Nah, fuck this, I'm going home.
Speaker 1You are home. Oh damn, I can't even get away you are home, don't worry, we're gonna spend time together after this, so stop oh, we're not what you don't want. To spend time with me now, even if I do that little thing you like I'll be there you're so freaking easy. He's so easy like okay side note.
AITA: Severe Allergy and Boundaries
Speaker 1So sometimes, like when we're um having a little like disagreement or spat or something, and you know you're wrong like whether I'm wrong or not, like if I know I can just prolong it, so I can just like have a little break or whatever, and then, like when I'm ready to re-engage, I know what to do. Like that little thing you like, and then you just come right back on around.
Speaker 2You don't even believe the shit you saying yourself. Go ahead and read the article. You don't even believe the shit you saying yourself.
Speaker 1Oh gosh, okay, oh, I can't see.
Speaker 2Crazy work with glasses on.
Speaker 1It really is. I don't know if I can see my right eye, oh.
Speaker 2I think I got makeup on my lens.
Speaker 1I don't hate anything or anybody. Okay, here we go, r2-zero. Am I the asshole for wanting a prenup before marriage? No, probably not. I'm a 31-year-old male Recently got engaged to. Am I the asshole for wanting a prenup before marriage? No, probably not. I'm a 31 year old male recently got engaged to my girlfriend, who's 28. And we've been on cloud nine until I brought up the idea of a prenup. I run my own business and have a good amount of savings, plus a house I bought a few years ago. She's doing fine too, but doesn't have as much financially, which is totally okay by me.
Speaker 1The prenup isn't about not trusting her. It's just something I've always felt made sense. It's about protecting both of us if things ever go sideways. I even told her that I'd want her to have the same security if the rules were reversed, but she took it hard. She said it made her feel like I was expecting a divorce and that it killed the romance of everything. We haven't had a full on fight, but the mood shifted and she's been kind of distant since I brought it up. I feel a bit blindsided because I didn't think this would be such a deal breaker. Now I'm stuck wondering if I'm being cold and overly logical, or if this is just a hard conversation that we need to work through. But am I an asshole for even asking her? No, you're not.
Speaker 2It's a hard conversation, but do what you got to do to protect yourself Because, like I said last week, don't give these just nothing. Wow, they don't deserve to be sent.
Speaker 1Goodbye Now what they don't deserve two red cent Goodbye.
Speaker 2Now what? They don't deserve it. What are you talking about? They don't deserve it. Who are they, these hoes?
Speaker 1She's not a hoe, she's his fiance. This is the woman he has told. Let's back up, let's back up. She's a hoe until it's official In the majority of situations. I really need y'all to understand. In the majority of situations, like I have said to you before, you asked me to be here. I didn't ask you to marry. You asked me, sir.
Speaker 2Oh okay, not the other way around and I'm gonna do what I gotta do. So, please, and it's my right to protect my future interest and I agree with you, and so you may love me right now.
Speaker 1I agree with you.
Speaker 2You may love me right now, but that's not a guarantee you're going to love me in five, six, seven, eight, nine years.
Speaker 1I don't disagree, so let me have something in place now.
Speaker 2But I'm just saying Just hold on, I'm talking. Are you covering my mic?
Speaker 1I was, let me have something in place now, just in case your feelings, because we know how women are with their feelings and their emotions.
Speaker 2Don't do that. We know how y'all get it. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that.
Speaker 1No, no, don't do that.
Speaker 2In case the tide come a little short of the shore. Don't do that. Let me be prepared. No, or let me be prepared for the wrath of what you're going to bring.
Speaker 1So, sir, you're not an asshole at all? No, I don't think that you're an asshole, it is a tough conversation and let her feel the way she feel.
Speaker 2And you know I mean perfectly like I feel like that's the right thing to do. I mean I mean, unless you're in my situation she was making one money at the time. I thought I would get over it. Now she got it. She don't flip the screen. I don't know how she flipped it, but she flipped it. Damn Damn Cheaper to keep her.
Speaker 1When you look up and you got got.
Speaker 2Cheaper to keep her.
Speaker 1It's crazy how life works out. Crazy work, crazy work. But no, I don't think you're. I can understand from both perspectives. I can understand how, from her perspective, that she might think that it's you expecting a divorce and it's not you expecting a divorce. It's like he said, it's not just for me, but it's for the both of us too. You know what I mean, because you will have a say in the prenup. You can put your stipulations in the prenup too. It's not just him saying like, oh, you're not going to get what I have. You know what I mean, because once you're married, anyway he's going to be sharing what he has with you. But my thing, is.
Speaker 1And that's what I don't understand. Like, unless you plan on being like an asshole in your marriage, I'm still going to be sharing whatever you bring anyway, but it's like just how you want to be protected and make sure that you have something In case things go awry.
Speaker 2Why can't he want to be protected In case things go awry, right?
Speaker 1It's like life insurance.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1Would you be having that conversation With him? If he was like, oh, you know what, we don't need life insurance, then you would be like what do you mean? We don't need life? What happens if something Happens to you? You're just gonna like, I'm just supposed to figure it out, it's the same thing. Gotta breathe bye, I think I, I me personally I look at it. I can look at it like.
Speaker 1But wait now, it depends on how he trying to set the prenup up. If it's a simple prenup, like we walk away with what we come into, like come in together with, okay, that's like, that's different. But if he got like some crazy stipulations, I think then that might be a different conversation. You know what I mean. Like that might be, that might be a different, a different conversation. But if it's just like a simple, it's the same one, it's the what. It's the same one. No, if it's just like a simple, something simple, then, like you know, just protecting what he already has built, that's I don't, I don't crazy word, I don't mind that. Um, let's see. Am I the asshole asshole for demanding to go through my brother-in-law and his girlfriend's bags if they are staying with us? Okay?
Speaker 2let me get the context okay it.
Speaker 1It says background. He's going to give us some background. I have a pretty severe dairy allergy. I break out in hives, I struggle to breathe and have to carry two EpiPens with me everywhere. If I get any dairy in my system I'll end up in the ER. My in-laws know this and have been extremely accommodating since my fiance and I started dating five years ago. When we moved in together two years ago, we set strict rules for our home because of my allergy. The big one is that no one is allowed to bring anything that contains dairy into our home, ever, no matter what. So that's the backstory.
Speaker 1Now onto the story. My brother-in-law started dating his girlfriend a year and a half ago. They came to visit us together for the first time a year ago. My fiance made sure my brother-in-law explained my allergy to his girlfriend and our no dairy rule. Two days into their stay she bought dairy products and cooked lunch for herself. When we weren't home, I ended up in the ER because of the cross-contamination. She apologized and explained she hadn't understood how serious my allergy was. We managed to put the situation behind us, since both my fiance and I currently have, and want to keep, a good relationship with my brother-in-law.
Speaker 1The two of them came for a second visit nine months ago. We had a video call with my brother-in-law and his girlfriend before the trip to make sure she understood the severity of my allergy and how serious we are about the no dairy rule in the house. During their second trip I was taking out the trash and found a candy bar wrapper and an empty milkshake container in the guest trash, the room that she was staying in. Even after she saw how serious my allergy is and how I ended up in the ER, she still brought Derry into my home. I confronted her when they got back. She and my brother-in-law had a huge fight. My brother-in-law went through her stuff and threw out everything she had with Derry. We kicked out his girlfriend. My brother-in-law stayed for the rest of the planned trip. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend worked out their relationship after the trip and are still together.
Speaker 1Since their second trip, my brother-in-law has come alone, since I don't trust his girlfriend in my house. Well, brother-in-law is planning a new trip to visit us and his girlfriend wants to come too. At first we just said, no, we don't trust her. But since we know that this is important to my brother-in-law, we came up with what we believe is a good compromise. She can come and stay at our house, but we will look through her bags every single time she comes back into the house. And if she doesn't accept that, then she can't stay at the house or she has to stay at a hotel. Now I'm being called an asshole for treating her like a criminal and that checking her bag is an invasion of privacy. So am I the asshole for demanding to go through her bags if she is staying at my house? Not at all, for this context.
Speaker 2No, the bitch tried to kill you twice Because she done it twice.
Speaker 1She tried to kill him twice. She done it twice Like what the hell? Because it's just like the last one that we had read about the allergy with the mother-in-law bringing the auntie. If people like there are some people who quite literally have life and death severity allergies Like if they're around it it is it could be like a high probability that they will die if they do not get medical attention in time.
Speaker 2He's nicer than me.
Speaker 1That's crazy work After the first time.
Speaker 2What I would have did the first time is since we know it was her that did it when I got out the hospital, I would have sued her and pressed charges.
Speaker 1Okay, that's a little far.
Speaker 2I told you I had this extreme allergy. You still bring it into my presence, into my home where I live. Yeah, and it's my house.
Speaker 1That's attempted murder. Call Olivia up. She works in special victims. He's not a special victim, I am.
Speaker 2I'm a special victim.
Speaker 1No, it's not that type of special victim. I'm a special victim.
Speaker 2She tried to kill me not once, but twice. She needed to be locked up. No, you're not an asshole, sir.
Speaker 1No, you're not an asshole at all. I wouldn't let her on the block I wouldn't let her on the block. He must can't even go to like grocery stores. That's crazy. He ain't never had an egg, a dairy allergy.
Speaker 2That's like everything. Why are you?
Speaker 1Stop it.
Speaker 2I had to stop. Stop it how are you living?
Speaker 1Stop it. I had to stop, stop it. How are you living? Tell me how you're living. What?
Speaker 2How you living. But no, you're not an asshole. No, you're not an asshole at all.
Speaker 1She's out of pocket, and here's the thing. Here's the thing.
Speaker 2So I take it that the brother-in-law is his wife's brother? Probably yeah, and she just some broad. That ain't really that important. No, she's his girlfriend, because they've been together for a while she just, I mean, they're on their third visit. She just sucking the fucking. She ain't married.
Speaker 1We don't know that to be true. Let's start there. I would hope so.
Speaker 2They made up somehow.
Speaker 1They did make up. They did make up, but no, sir, I do not think that you're the asshole. No, I think it's highly rude and disrespectful that when you tell people that you have an allergy, especially a life-threatening allergy that could land you in the emergency room, that they behave like this and they still are selfish enough to choose whatever is going to satiate them in their comfort, and they do it at the expense of your health.
Speaker 2And not only that, they do it in your home Right. And, with all that being said, you are in the next bedroom, fool. And I'm going to have me a protein shake after this.
Speaker 1Like that's crazy. Like my mom is allergic to shellfish and I remember her telling me one time her husband had eaten shellfish right. No, he didn't, but I guess he didn't wipe it all off his mouth like before he came to bed, and so you know, your mouth touches your pillow and she had laid on his pillow.
Speaker 2Oh diabolical.
Speaker 1The shellfish Like.
Speaker 2The shellfish was shellfish, that's bye.
Speaker 1Like that's crazy.
Speaker 2Crazy word.
Speaker 1Some people really are like. Some people really have serious allergies Serious, and you really need to respect that because you would feel. Here's the thing, how would you feel? You brought the dairy into the house and you thought you were being like slick, and then the fact that she had bought a whole fucking milkshake when he threw away the trash. That's crazy work. You were in the room drinking a milkshake but the thing is, is that?
Speaker 2here's the thing, but what here?
Speaker 1this is what I'm saying. The thing is what?
Speaker 2if god forbid, hold on the trash in there right. God forbid he died oh yeah, oh, then she'd be so sorry then what then?
Speaker 1what then? What would you? Was that milkshake worth it?
Speaker 2then it's no longer attempted murder, it's murder press the charges because we had previous.
Speaker 1It's premeditation.
Speaker 2Yes, that's premeditation I told you like how would you feel if he died Call Olivia, call.
Speaker 1Carisi. Carisi works for the DA now Perfect.
Speaker 2You put the charges through.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's. That's crazy work. Y'all can't be that damn selfish, you can't, you can't. Anywho, guys, this has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. If you are not doing so already, please like, comment and share the podcast. We are on all major platforms and life after I do podcast on Instagram, tick tock, facebook, youtube and shout out to all of our new followers on tick tock we just hit 17k on TikTok. Thank you, guys so much we love, love, love to see you guys interacting in the comments.
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Speaker 2My glasses are dirty now.
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