Life After I Do Podcast
Marriage and relationships can be tough. You may feel like youâre the only one struggling but youâre not. Life After I do is a weekly podcast where Morice and Kynesha, a black married millennial couple, share their experiences and advice on everything from kids and family to intimacy and connection. Noting is off limits.
In their 21 years together and 7 years of marriage, Morice and Kynesha have learned a lot about what it takes to make a relationship work. They know the importance of communication, trust and commitment. They also know itâs okay to not have it all figured out.
Join them every Wednesday as they talk about their own journey of âLife After I doâ.
Life After I Do Podcast
Couple's Roast
Ever roasted your partner so well they laughed and looked personally attacked? đ Then this episode is for you. On this weekâs Life After I Do, Nesha G and Moelethal dive into the hilarious, unfiltered world of marital one-linersâthose spicy, sarcastic jabs that only make sense inside the bubble of a long-term relationship.
đŹ From âI married you for better or worse, not for background noise,â to âYour selective hearing is Olympic-level impressive,â these loving insults reveal just how unique (and funny) couple communication can be.
đŞ But itâs not all laughsâthis episode also features a playful gym debate about whoâs really stronger. Squats, deadlifts, egos⌠nothing is off-limits as they explore how healthy competition can actually strengthen your bond (as long as no one skips leg day đ ).
âď¸ Our 2 Cents:
We go beyond jokes to unpack two serious relationship dilemmas:
đ Is asking for a prenup before marriage shadyâor just smart?
đˇ What do you do when your partner or family repeatedly puts your health at risk (like ignoring a severe allergy)?
These stories highlight the importance of boundaries, accountability, and protecting your peaceâespecially when love is involved.
⨠Through it all, Nesha G and Moelethal show that the key to lasting love isnât perfectionâitâs the ability to laugh, reflect, and grow together, even when things get tense (or hilarious).
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Speaker 2:They talking to you Other men are talking to me there's a difference, but you're entertaining your cheating?
Speaker 1:No, I'm not.
Speaker 2:By your standards, you're cheating. I'm not Go ahead and read one.
Speaker 1:By your standards. I'm not because I didn't use tongue. Hey, everybody, and welcome back to your weekly episode of the life after I do podcast. Yes, thanks for joining us today. Okay, you guys know the drill. Hello everybody and welcome back to another weekly episode of the Life of the New Podcast.
Speaker 2:You're here with your host today, kynesha and Maureen. Wow, it's corny as hell, but you can see, as my health gets better, I'm able to hold that a little longer.
Speaker 1:You try to say uh.
Speaker 2:My breath control.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay. Your respiratory game is.
Speaker 2:I might be up there ushering Chris Brown next year. You might be what Up there ushering Chris Brown next year.
Speaker 1:Up where you gonna buy tickets.
Speaker 2:I'm not buying you Chris Brown tickets.
Speaker 1:I didn't ask for the Chris Brown tickets or usher tickets, I don't need to see.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I don't need to see Chris Brown.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I don't mind seeing.
Speaker 1:You're not seeing Raymond either H You're not seeing Raymond either H-E-R-R-A-Y-M-O-N-D.
Speaker 2:Now, baby, tell me what you want to do with me. The funny thing is If you turn on your Apple TV Every time that you roll with me Holding me Trying to keep control of me, nice and slowly.
Speaker 1:You know, never let me go, never messing up the flow. That's how the hood gonna go.
Speaker 2:If you turn on your Apple TV, they have all his music videos. You can see no one likes you watch this.
Speaker 1:No, watch this. These are my confessions. Are you done? Are you done? Are you done? I'm surprised you didn't.
Speaker 2:Uh, I forgot I was gonna say you forgot which button it was how you doing bo Booskies.
Speaker 1:I am, I'm great.
Speaker 2:That's good. I'm great. That's good, because your weekly performance review does not reflect that. How was your week?
Speaker 1:My week was great. I did all the things I wanted to do.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, yeah, let's get into it. You did all the things that you wanted. Let's talk about the things you wanted to do. Oh, okay, yeah, let's get into it. You did all the things that you wanted. Let's talk about the things you wanted to do. Tell the folks at home what you accomplished this week.
Speaker 1:What do you mean? What'd you do? Your week was great. What?
Speaker 2:made it so great? My week was great. What made it?
Speaker 1:so great. Let's see, I got to have lunch with a friend oh okay, I was working too. I was on lunch break. I went to lunch, oh okay, I went on a lunch break. Don't you get a lunch break at work Barely? But you get one right, barely. You get one right, yes or no? Yes or no, do you?
Speaker 2:get a lunch.
Speaker 1:I'm coming for you, you don't get to come for me oh, no, no no you're constantly coming for me, but I don't want to have to come for you because we all know. Can you stop rubbing my leg, okay? We all know how easily your feelings get hurt, oh my god. But anywho, I had a great week, okay, um, I had a great week. I hit new pr.
Speaker 2:That's good oh my god.
Speaker 1:Every week you come here and tell us about the gym really you are so, wow, I'm not sharing anything else with you. I'm not sharing anything else.
Speaker 2:I'm just playing, I'm not sharing nothing.
Speaker 1:My week was fine. How was your week? You don't care about my week, so how was your week?
Speaker 2:ask me again.
Speaker 1:I don't know what okay, let's hold on, let's prepare. Let's prepare ourselves for our depressive state. Guys Ready, how was your week, maurice?
Speaker 2:I had a good week though.
Speaker 1:Such a lame. I had a good week, you did.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:What made it good?
Speaker 2:I had a good week mentally. Oh, that's good Until the end. Oh that uh well last couple days kind of dream, you know we can, that we can never have a 10 for 10 but it's all right, I understand. I gave it 100, it was just it was just. It was just 10 at the end of the week. The week got 100 oh, okay the effort was different. Okay, how was your week?
Speaker 1:any highlights. I think that's what we should start doing. The highlights that's what we'll start doing. What was the highlight of your week and the bullshitness of your week? So tell me about the highlight of your week and then tell me the bullshitness of your week, or the thing that that brought you like the most angst I think the highlight of the week is when we got your car back god praise, lord praise, so thank you.
Speaker 2:We went back to somewhat of normal, because yeah, me pulling triple duty man, this is my turn goodbye, um, we're gonna go back to my week no, you with the new structure. We have a new structure now okay, we just started it just now. What?
Speaker 1:was um. What was your highlight besides that? The car? Okay, what was the? What was your bullshitness? Your ink the car.
Speaker 2:No, it can't be both yeah, it can, because I was happy you got your car back so you could. You was complaining about how ghetto my car is.
Speaker 1:Oh, my god, you don't have a said your car was ghetto. You don't have a back. Oh my god, you don't have push to start, okay, but you don't have a backup camera.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, you don't have push to start.
Speaker 1:Okay, wait, let me tell y'all no, it's my week. It's my turn. Okay, go, go ahead. I'm just saying backup cameras are important.
Speaker 2:Right. And then the car is also my low point, because I was rather enjoying getting dropped off. I know you you were enjoying.
Speaker 1:You were enjoying your limousine service every day.
Speaker 2:I said man, I can get to work a little later, I ain't gotta worry about parking, cause I just pull up hop out. Hop out 16.
Speaker 1:I was doing my big one. Yeah, you were, it was so, you were so sad. You get up that morning and you realize damn, I gotta go, I gotta go gotta find parking.
Speaker 2:it's crazy how much you get used to it in a short period of time, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:I wasn't trying to get used to it because I didn't enjoy the double-dutiness I mean look here Of the driving.
Speaker 2:You don't do nothing around here.
Speaker 1:I don't want to strangle you, don't make me strangle you. We're me strangle you, we're, we're recording and then that would be like evidence. So people know you're violent I'm not violent.
Speaker 2:I double blink. I love aggressively. I double blink every week. No one comes to my help because, first of all, maybe because you're blinking like a lunatic huh maybe because you're blinking like a lunatic I mean the week was cool, I mean doesn't, it was just a normal, it was somewhat a normal. It was somewhat a normal week.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I know it was the first time I actually worked 40 hours in a while. Oh, it was rough.
Speaker 1:It kind of was it was rough, it was rough.
Speaker 2:Rough.
Speaker 1:Kind of.
Speaker 2:No, it was rough.
Speaker 1:It was rough, yeah, but at least you were like super disciplined Throughout the week. Like you came home, you put your crap away, you showered and you went straight to bed. I didn't have no choice. I was tired and then you got up every day.
Speaker 2:At 3.30 One day, 2 o'clock, go to the gym In the gym with just hopes and dreams. You know what?
Speaker 1:Sometimes that's all you need. Hopes and dreams Dreams visualization that's all you need. Hopes and dreams it's hopes, dreams, visualization that's all you need.
Speaker 2:No one tells you that the amount of libido stimuli working out produces. Because after my workout I'll be on the treadmill and I'll be like I should not be feeling this way right now, but I'm like I need to go home and take care of this right now ask me if he comes home early to take care of that. I gotta go to work. He doesn't. I gotta get my workout done.
Speaker 1:He doesn't, so it's not. It's not that annoying, adam, is it? It's not that bad. You don't know what I'll be doing when you leave. We leave at the same time.
Speaker 2:What do you?
Speaker 1:do Double back.
Speaker 2:No, we don't leave at the same time.
Speaker 1:We have, literally we've been leaving at the same time this week.
Speaker 2:Go ahead. Go ahead and tell us about your week again. I'm done. That's how she treat me people. This is why I be double blinking and no one comes to rescue me.
Speaker 1:And no one, because look how you blink, you don't even blink properly what we got today, Booski. You don't even blink properly.
Speaker 2:I swear y'all, she loved me and I love her.
Speaker 1:What's today, 23 years. What's today?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think today is a love day. Today is a love day 23 years I've been with this woman.
Speaker 1:Today is Friday yeah, today is a love day. I love you on Fridays 23, which day it was, you know.
Speaker 2:When I tell y'all that, teenage Kanye, she was so much nicer.
Speaker 1:And this is what you've turned me into Early early 20s, Kanye.
Speaker 2:she was so much nicer Life experiences have turned me into this.
Speaker 1:Doing life with you has turned me into this, so I don't know what that says about you.
Speaker 2:She'd be faking for the camera, because off camera she'd be like oh babe, I love you so much.
Speaker 1:Can you hold my hand? Can we cuddle? Oh my gosh, you're such an asshole. Why do you try to make it seem like my name is Mo Lethal. Why do you try to make it seem like I'm so needy? I asked you to hold my hand one time last night, at two in the morning, because I wanted to be close to you and I couldn't get close to you because somebody decided to sneak into my bed. I told you to lock the door At.
Speaker 2:Somebody decided to sneak into my bed at 1am I told you to lock the door.
Speaker 1:I told you to lock the door and I was like I was cuddling with my husband. So I was like, oh my gosh, can you hold my hand? And now you're trying to make it seem like I'm hella needy.
Speaker 2:Okay, you're not.
Speaker 1:I don't want to hold your hand tonight.
Speaker 2:That's fine. I'm asleep to say I don't want to hold your hand tonight, that's fine, I'm asleep to say I don't want to hold your hand.
Speaker 1:I was going to let you be the little spoon, but now, now you can be the big spoon around your pillow. What?
Speaker 2:we got today. I think this little back and forth goes perfectly with what we got today.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because you're rude, I'm rude, you're rude, you're rude, I'm rude, you're rude, you're rude. I love you.
Speaker 2:I'm rubber and you're glue.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, whatever you say to me, bounce off me and sticks to you. Maurice. Okay, what are you? Seven?
Speaker 2:Eight, thank you.
Speaker 1:Oh gosh, that little girl lover. I can't Thank you.
Speaker 2:What we got today Booskies.
Speaker 1:Well, in theme of you being rude to me all the time, I'm nothing but nice to you.
Speaker 2:I am nothing but nice to you.
Speaker 1:Well, can you change your definition of nice? Oh my God, If you just know the conversation I've had with my brother to you. Well, can you change your definition of nice?
Speaker 2:Oh my God, If you just know the conversation I'd have with my brother about you.
Speaker 1:Well, and you talk shit about me to other people. My bill Of all people.
Speaker 2:I never said I was talking shit. You just assume it was bad, see, see, I see how she treat.
Speaker 1:I'm blinking again for the people listening, because I'm blinking again for the people listening, because you probably are calling my bill and telling him some untruths about his favorite sister-in-law. His only sister-in-law Trying to paint me in a bad picture. Trying to paint me in a bad picture. Don't do that, you in my business.
Speaker 2:You in my business.
Speaker 1:Don't do that.
Speaker 2:I'm going to have Izzy come here and put you in your place, right?
Speaker 1:So what we?
Speaker 2:got today.
Speaker 1:Okay, so In the In the Era of banter Between couples, some of the sayings that couples say to each other, that could be like Insulting but funny, it's just black couples.
Speaker 2:But you know, black people, we, we look different.
Speaker 1:It's just like a compilation. Some of them I've never said to you before. You probably thought them, I probably thought them, but I mean they're funny. I probably said most of them to you. No, you haven't, they're funny, but I'll read one and then you read one, because I'm going to see which ones I want to keep in my arsenal.
Speaker 2:Okay, so we just going to go back and forth and then discuss them. Sure, Okay, go ahead. I guess this is y'all. Look here. Like I told y'all, I be raw dog in these episodes. I just show up.
Speaker 1:This one I'm going to keep for me for you next time. Your selective hearing is Olympic level impressive.
Speaker 2:That's funny because I literally said that to you in my head on thursday the way I, literally I said your selective hearing like oh my god, hold on. Let me tell the people let me.
Speaker 1:Tell the people what.
Speaker 2:Tell the people what I know for fact and that's how you know he's wrong. That I said something to you. No, and because I've been Shout out to my therapist.
Speaker 1:You already see how he prefaced this about in his head. That's how our conversations go. Shout out to my therapist.
Speaker 2:I've been intentional with my words, especially with you, and I said and I know I said this I said do such and such, so I could do such and such on this day.
Speaker 1:On Saturday, right, yes, when did you do such and such, though I did it today. On what day? Friday, friday, okay, why?
Speaker 2:Okay, why? Because I had extra time today Okay.
Speaker 1:Whatever you got to tell yourself sir. Time today. Okay, Whatever, you gotta tell yourself sir.
Speaker 2:Whatever you gotta tell yourself. Now I'm gonna say this this is something I've never said to you. I've said it to you, but just not in this way. What is it Reese? I love you, but your taste in TV is actually garbage.
Speaker 1:You have said that, not in those exact words, but yes, you have said that to me.
Speaker 2:What exact words. But yes, you have said that to me.
Speaker 1:Watching is wild okay, first of all, I'm pretty consistent with what I watch I like what I like and you think everything I watch is depressing. I think it's informative. It's not. It's it's based on truth. I watched true crime. It's in the title true crime. It is crime that is true. That has actually happened. It's informative because it's things that we could learn from okay so like walking home from parties by yourself after midnight, after you've been intoxicated you don don't walk in a mailbox.
Speaker 1:Listen, but I'm just saying for future. I know that I shouldn't be intoxicated walking on a road by myself after midnight.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Because we know what the possibilities are.
Speaker 2:This is the same woman who asked me this is coming from the man who watches adult cartoons on Kohl's caption. Look here, you're not going to come for my anime, okay.
Speaker 1:You came for me first. You see how easily butthurt, he gets.
Speaker 2:First of all, my anime is more story driven, have better meanings, better morals.
Speaker 1:I literally just watched 30 minutes of the anime with you when we got home from the gym, anime with you when we got home from the gym, and the whole 30 minutes. Whatever had happened before. All I know is that there was crying between a bunch of high school boys for 30 minutes High school boys crying in their school uniforms hugging each other.
Speaker 2:First of all, they were not in school uniforms.
Speaker 1:They were in school uniforms. It was a gang. Their gang uniforms look like school uniforms.
Speaker 2:And first of all I was watching Windbreaker.
Speaker 1:Okay, there was a lot of crying involved and you didn't have all the contacts. Okay, you don't have all the contacts in my shows either.
Speaker 2:I can just read one. Yes, sbu, you got the contacts.
Speaker 1:Excuse me, trash-ass movie.
Speaker 2:Really Excuse me, trash ass movie.
Speaker 1:Really You're not going to speak on Mariska Haragody like that, okay, oh, she's very beautiful, so she's very beautiful. Listen here this one. I married you for better or worse, not for background noise.
Speaker 2:What the hell that supposed to mean.
Speaker 1:What the hell that supposed supposed to mean. Oh, when I saw that, when I said, oh, I can't wait, I can't wait, what the hell, I can't wait to use that one in some type of text, some type of context. I married you for better or worse not background.
Speaker 2:So what's the background noise you're hearing? Tell me d-man, d-man, go ahead. Tell me go on, or worse, not background noise. So what's the background?
Speaker 1:noise you're hearing. Tell me D-man, D-man, Go ahead. Tell me Come on. Well, you're not background noise, babe.
Speaker 2:Okay, I mean like there's times where I mean Go ahead and try and clean it up, because I'm getting petty. I'll let you know now that you are unlocking the petty version of your husband, okay, he is about to show up.
Speaker 1:Okay, let's see him.
Speaker 2:And I try not to do this to you because you're my wife and I love you.
Speaker 1:And I'm blinking again for the people listening and for the people who will not save you, who will not come to your rescue, okay.
Speaker 2:So, since we taking shots, I married a snack, but I got leftovers.
Speaker 1:I knew you were going to say that one, but you eat leftovers five days a week. So jokes on you, jokes on you. Leftovers are your favorite Meal prep. Boo. I mean when a meal is good, boom, exactly Boom. You tried it with that one.
Speaker 2:But don't worry, because I'm used to disappointment oh so you're fighting.
Speaker 1:Don't worry.
Speaker 2:I'm used to disappointment I have built up a muscle to deal with disappointment.
Speaker 1:It doesn't even penetrate anymore.
Speaker 2:So I disappoint you all the time. Is that what you're?
Speaker 1:saying I'm just, I was just letting you know. Okay, like don't even worry. So this is what we do. I'm just.
Speaker 2:I was just letting you know, like don't even worry. So this is what we do, don't worry. I'm like impenetrable at this point Because my muscle, my disappointed muscle is strong Bam. Bam. So so you structured a whole episode so we can go back and forth with each other. That's fine. Is this what you want to do? This is what we're doing. This is what we're doing. What that's what we're doing.
Speaker 1:That's what we're doing. What Well? I didn't know it was possible to load a dishwasher wrong. I know that you are not trying to come at me. You don't even load the dishwasher.
Speaker 2:I don't have to. Okay, I pay the bill.
Speaker 1:And I load it correctly. No, you don't. Yes, I bet you don't even know how to clean the dishwasher. Did you know that?
Speaker 2:you had to clean the dishwasher oh, you do.
Speaker 1:You sit in the video like three times. How do you clean the dishwasher?
Speaker 2:it's not my job, it's your job. It's not my job, it's your job, yeah uh-huh, don't try to backpedal now how I clean it as I get up. I get up out of my bed, which I was comfortable. I walk over to my wife and say hey, don't forget to clean dishwasher today. That's how I do it now now okay, now, now.
Speaker 1:Okay, I love how you know.
Speaker 1:Okay, here we go Just the way it start. I love how you pretend like you know what you're talking about. I have said that to you so many times, because sometimes I think this is what I think happens. I think when I ask my husband certain questions and he wants to be like he wants to be my resource. So when I come to him with certain things that he really doesn't have an answer to, he will come up with the craziest answer, like out of his ass but to try to make it sound like there's some truth to it. And when I'm sitting there and I'm listening, I'm like I'm gonna be respectful and I'm going to like listen to him. And then I'll be like, babe, you that didn't even like make sense, like it didn't even make sense, but you still. But you, you stick with it and I, I'm sorry, that's bullshit, that's not bullshit. You've given me bullshit answers before. Okay.
Speaker 2:I'm not even going to respond. You know what? I don't give you bad advice, and if I don't know something, I tell you I don't know. That's not true, don't?
Speaker 1:come for me.
Speaker 2:You know what? It don't matter. Okay, it don't even matter. When you said I'll be ready in five minutes, did you mean earth time? Because this has been, this has been a theme the duration of our relationship that's not true. You ain't never ready. That's not true. I really I have.
Speaker 1:I now lie to you and I'm on time because I lied to you. But I'm on time, okay, am I? Am I not? If you say we need to leave by 530, I'm usually done by 527.
Speaker 2:This is the same woman that wears the same mom outfit with interchangeable parts, that struggles to get dressed on time.
Speaker 1:I'm like you know we're going somewhere. I don't wear my mom uniform.
Speaker 2:OK, OK.
Speaker 1:In case you guys are wondering what my mom uniform is, my mom uniform is what she got on right now Black leggings or black sweats and a zip up, a hoodie or a crew neck sweatshirt, that's it. I mean it's, first of all, listen, first of all, it's comfortable, ok, ok. Second of all, it's like after being in spandex and rayon and everything else for five hours and sweating in it, but you don't have to be there for five hours.
Speaker 2:You take five hours. That's different.
Speaker 1:Okay, I don't take. Listen, my rest periods are longer than yours. You take one minute to a minute and a half rest period. I take two minutes, I have to take five minutes to six minutes in between my bigger lifts. Okay, you and I are not the same. Wow, wow, okay, we're not the same. Right now I'm better. Let me see you squat 300. Lightweight Deadlift 305. Easily, okay, easily, uh-huh. Show me proof. Okay, I'll do it.
Speaker 2:Because I, because that's because the bar was at my damn nipple line.
Speaker 1:First of all excuses, and that made it better for liftoff for you. Just get under it, pick it up on your on your track.
Speaker 2:Let's go, go ahead and rewind. You tried it, you tried it. You keep talking and one day it'll be useful. Ok, you know what? Ok.
Speaker 1:Keep talking and one day, all that talking you talk will be useful. Okay, it'll be useful one day, not today, not today, but one day it's going to be useful.
Speaker 2:Okay, Because at this point you arguing with me is just my cardio.
Speaker 1:Really, I don't argue yeah, you do. No, I don't. You don't Shut up. I don't argue yeah you do don't argue.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you do. No, I don't. You don't shut up, I don't argue. Yeah, you do, you don't argue. You always come for me, you you're. You're trying to convince the people that it's me coming for you. No, when is you coming for me?
Speaker 1:no, I don't, I don't try to convince anybody of anything all right I first of all listen. You always try to like slide little sayings and little things in on me, or you try to like pick at me and say little things and then, when I retaliate, Give me three examples. What like today? Okay, for instance, I was, my bra had came unsnapped. Right, my bra came unsnapped. Yeah, what did you say? What did you say? What did you say? So my, my bra, my bra is a little bit bigger now because, I've lost weight.
Speaker 1:Right, I'm down almost 60 pounds, so like things have gotten smaller okay and my bra had unsnapped, I have one that snaps in the front, my bra and then listen to what he said to me.
Speaker 2:I said babe, it's okay, just buy another bra. Your chest is. Let me tell the people what I said and then listen to what he said to me. I said babe, it's okay, just buy another bra, your chest is deflated.
Speaker 1:No, that's not what you said. You said well, that's because your titties are deflated. Yeah, that's your titties, it's deflated. And I was like, what? Well, your titties are flat. Then you, I was like, and I literally said to him, I said, can we use a better choice of words? And he was like, oh well, because you, little sweet babe, but you, you, you followed the deflated up with flat.
Speaker 2:But I wasn't coming for you, I was just saying what it was.
Speaker 1:DeMille, demille.
Speaker 2:Sade.
Speaker 1:DeMille Sade, demille Sade. And then when I come for you, or when I, when I, make a slide, but I wasn't.
Speaker 2:I wasn't coming for you. I literally just said I gave you a reason why okay, well, you know, you could have worded it better see, you don't. This is just how, like the comedian ryan davis said, you just want me to lie to you.
Speaker 1:You want me to lie to? You in the way you want to be lying to you when you said oh babe, like you know, it's because you lost weight and, like I've even said to you before, like you go, you lose your butt and your boobs because it's all fat. But you know what? Whatever, whatever, if you were a flavor, you'd be playing with a twist of chaos.
Speaker 2:That's? That's that's MFI? I don't think so, because I'm the only flavor in the house If you count vanilla flavor. Vanilla is a flavor.
Speaker 1:I don't think vanilla is. I'm not vanilla. Yeah, and you can fight me on it. I don't care what anybody says.
Speaker 2:I see you've reached your daily limit of doing the bare minimum.
Speaker 1:Really, really.
Speaker 2:Because there's a lot of things right here where you do bare minimum yeah, if, and if I'm the only person that's gonna do it then it'll get.
Speaker 1:It'll get done how I say it'll get done. You're the point blank and all of the periods, but you're more than welcome to do it yourself.
Speaker 2:You're the only person doing it, because it's part of your responsibilities here and does and then answer yes or no. Then answer yes or no. Then answer yes or no.
Speaker 1:Answer yes or no, because that question goes both ways Answer yes or no, but does it get done?
Speaker 2:It does get done, it does yes or no Okay.
Speaker 1:But here's what I find so like I tell you it will get done how I find interesting. What's interesting About this dynamic?
Speaker 2:This dynamic, tell me. My wife will tell me hey, I'm overwhelmed. I would appreciate it if you would help me out. You know, clean the kitchen, mop the floor.
Speaker 1:I don't think I've ever used that word, but okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, you said I appreciate you helping me out, but you wash the dishes, cook clean.
Speaker 1:I never word it that way.
Speaker 2:You ask me to do something domestic. Right, I don't ask you. But you don't want to ask me.
Speaker 1:You want me to just take initiative, Because if you see a dish but you never go to work for me.
Speaker 2:You never say, babe, I got the light builder's money, babe, don't worry.
Speaker 1:I went to work this week, so don't worry about the mortgage. Really, you never. I've done that before, though With her fees. With her fees, that's what you Look here. Does it or does it not help you, though? No, it helps her, it don't help me, it does help you because you're responsible for paying them.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not.
Speaker 1:So when I say no, I'm not when, when I say like oh, you know what, I'm going to just go ahead and be generous and I'm going to use my bank account I'm going to use my bank account and I'm going to take care of it.
Speaker 2:That you've been hoarding money.
Speaker 1:I don't hoard money. If you know about it, it's not hoarding, you just don't know the amount. Okay, if you really want to, if you cared about the amount, then you would calculate.
Speaker 2:Don't start unless you brought snacks in the solution.
Speaker 1:I always have snacks on deck.
Speaker 2:Clearly.
Speaker 1:What the fuck is that supposed to mean?
Speaker 2:You always got snacks on deck.
Speaker 1:What is that supposed to mean? You always got snacks on deck. Wow Okay, A-Cup. All right. I see, A-Cup came with his A-game. A-cup came with his A-game. Wow yeah. I got the cup you lost. Okay, now that's okay, though I don't mind losing that cup. Okay, I don't mind losing that cup, because I can lose it a lot quicker than you. I don't mind losing that cup. That's not even that's cool.
Speaker 2:I'm okay.
Speaker 1:Because you already see what the new tops is attracting and you're already in your feelings about me making new friends, girl, do you?
Speaker 2:Save me the trouble.
Speaker 1:Girl, do you Save me the trouble? Yeah, this is the same one. That's been Elsa. You talking to other men at the gym? No, I'm not talking to other men at the gym.
Speaker 2:They talking to you.
Speaker 1:Other men are talking to me.
Speaker 2:There's a difference, but you're entertaining your cheating?
Speaker 1:No, I'm not.
Speaker 2:By your standards, you're cheating. I'm not Go ahead and read one.
Speaker 1:By your standards, I I'm not sure I'm sending it to Mike. I think we're going to read most of them. You know what? Go ahead and fix it your way. I'll fix it later. If that's not the story of my life with you, go ahead and fix it, I'll fix it later, because that's what I have to do. That's what big mama got to come in and do.
Speaker 2:First of all, don't ever refer yourself as big mama.
Speaker 1:In this house. I'm a big mama, I'm a mama and I'm big.
Speaker 2:I'm a mama and I'm big Never what. You sure you need another snack or are you just emotionally attached to chewing? Emotionally attached to chewing is crazy work.
Speaker 1:It's crazy work, but what do I have to do? Every day I go to the gym. You got you that's crazy I have to chew. I gotta chew, guys, and I don't know. That's why I was like maybe it's like it.
Speaker 2:Well, I know why I do it Like it helps me to focus, but I would think that, with all the air you're doing on your b-ball, With all the what the air, because you're doing gum. You're doing on air.
Speaker 1:Well, they used to say it puts air on your stomach, but I mean I do it because it helps me focus.
Speaker 2:Clearly not today. Didn't hit that 270.
Speaker 1:I hit it twice. What are you talking about? I got it recorded. This is coming from a guy who can't even squat a 135. That's wild. That's really what's really baffling is that he's trying to come for me and thought he ate by saying that I couldn't squat 270 when I've literally squatted 300 and I hit 270 for like almost three reps today. That's, that's diabolical work. I'm going to let you live and what he can squat is my warmup, that's that's wild.
Speaker 2:I'm going to let you live in this world. That's wild. I'm going to let you live in this world. That's crazy.
Speaker 1:what did you say that you already do on overhead triceps. What'd you say you do? You said you do 60 120, you don't. You said you do 60 120 because your feelings was hurt when you asked me what I did for my three sets and I was like, oh, I did it at 60. And he was like, are you serious? And I was like yeah. I'm very serious your form is probably trash it. It wasn't. Now do you see how he gets? Look now he buttered. Look now he buttered.
Speaker 2:I know I'm stronger than you.
Speaker 1:In some things. In other things, I'm stronger than you. That's how the relationship works.
Speaker 2:You're stronger than me doing this and this and this Cooking and cleaning and this.
Speaker 1:And sweeping.
Speaker 2:And this yeah you got it.
Speaker 1:I'm stronger than you in a lot more ways. Oh look here.
Speaker 2:We can have a liftoff and report it. We should and report it. Let's do it.
Speaker 1:Because I think the only thing right now that you would have me beat in is bench. But I'm getting there, I'm getting there.
Speaker 2:I'm getting there Because I'm hitting 170 next week?
Speaker 1:I haven't bench pressed in months but I'm sure that's probably where you would get me as bench but you cannot you don't hold a match to me in squat and deadlift. You don't, and you know you don't, you don't, you're not even close, if that's what you believe. I've seen your stiff legged deadlift with 225 and you struggle. You struggle, babe, but it's okay.
Speaker 2:I mean I can help you okay you're trying to comfort me, but it's not working.
Speaker 1:I'm not trying to comfort you, you started it you are, what are? You talking about you started it.
Speaker 2:You about to turn this whole episode into. Am I the asshole situation? I'm not an asshole, always. I'm a delight you about to turn this whole episode into.
Speaker 1:Am I the asshole situation? I'm not an asshole. Always Rewind, I'm a delight.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you told that story three times today.
Speaker 1:I am a delight. I choose to be a delight. I like your choice and what you wore.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, okay, okay, all right.
Speaker 1:Was that a fart or your personality leaving?
Speaker 2:the room. I'm done for the day. This has been another episode.
Speaker 1:I'm cutting it hella short this week. Why, what's?
Speaker 2:wrong. I have nothing else to say.
Speaker 1:Why? What's wrong? What's the?
Speaker 2:problem. I have nothing else to say.
Speaker 1:Are your feelings hurt? My feelings are not hurt, okay.
Speaker 2:So what's the problem? I am secure in who I am. Okay, and what about it? I know that I am stronger.
Speaker 1:You're worthy.
Speaker 2:I'm stronger than you, uh-huh.
Speaker 1:What about? What else?
Speaker 2:And the gym Uh-huh and functional strength.
Speaker 1:Uh-huh, now listen, everyday strength.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying Everyday strength you got me. I'm not saying that you're not strong, I'm just saying that you ain't messing with me, baby, I know, I know in general, are you done?
Speaker 1:No, In general you are stronger than me, are you done?
Speaker 2:Are you done Are?
Speaker 1:you done. This is what he does when his feelings get hurt guys, my feelings are not hurt. I know that in general, guys hurt guys. I know that in general guys I'm blinking for help again that you are stronger than me, babe. There's like there's no doubt about that, I know that okay, okay, but there are some things you know, just like in life.
Speaker 1:You know that I'm more equipped, that's all yeah, you're more equipped to fold these clothes which is crazy, because I haven't folded your clothes in like three weeks because I'm trying to be a good husband. You ain't trying to be no damn good husband, I'm trying to be a good what I do is I've been waiting until you take the day off and then I be like you ain't got shit else to do, so you should do your laundry this week if you your life around to where it just like so it looks like it's your idea.
Speaker 2:So it sounds like what you're saying is that you've been purposely not fulfilling your duties. Call it what you want, and this is why your performance review is trash.
Speaker 1:That's fine. You didn't fulfill your duties either. You didn't buy me those two sweatshirts that I wanted, so I bought you a whole freaking outfit today. That doesn't count. I wanted the sweatshirts too. You pick those out. I want a few other sweatshirts too, but whatever.
Speaker 2:Girl, my damn lats hurt.
Speaker 1:Don't worry, I'll go back and get them myself. This is why I just, you know, I just got to do it myself. I just got to do it myself.
Speaker 2:That's what Russ said.
Speaker 1:That's what who said Russ.
Speaker 2:Russ yeah, Multi Grammy. I'm going to do it myself.
Speaker 1:How does the song go? Because clearly I don't know what you're talking about.
Speaker 2:His latest TikTok moment was a brief. Was a? What Brief Was a brief? Now you keep it in my house. I'm trying to in the middle of the night, I'm trying to brief, oh. I don't know how the words go.
Speaker 1:Okay, because see what I mean. See how you just be saying yeah, Go back to my point. See how he just say shit and you don't know what he's talking about.
Speaker 2:No, I know what I'm talking about. I don't know the words to the song Same idea.
Speaker 1:It's along the same thing. Anywho, let's hop into.
Speaker 2:Nah, fuck this, I'm going home.
Speaker 1:You are home. Oh damn, I can't even get away you are home, don't worry, we're gonna spend time together after this, so stop oh, we're not what you don't want. To spend time with me now, even if I do that little thing you like I'll be there you're so freaking easy. He's so easy like okay side note.
Speaker 1:So sometimes, like when we're um having a little like disagreement or spat or something, and you know you're wrong like whether I'm wrong or not, like if I know I can just prolong it, so I can just like have a little break or whatever, and then, like when I'm ready to re-engage, I know what to do. Like that little thing you like, and then you just come right back on around.
Speaker 2:You don't even believe the shit you saying yourself. Go ahead and read the article. You don't even believe the shit you saying yourself.
Speaker 1:Oh gosh, okay, oh, I can't see.
Speaker 2:Crazy work with glasses on.
Speaker 1:It really is. I don't know if I can see my right eye, oh.
Speaker 2:I think I got makeup on my lens.
Speaker 1:I don't hate anything or anybody. Okay, here we go, r2-zero. Am I the asshole for wanting a prenup before marriage? No, probably not. I'm a 31-year-old male Recently got engaged to. Am I the asshole for wanting a prenup before marriage? No, probably not. I'm a 31 year old male recently got engaged to my girlfriend, who's 28. And we've been on cloud nine until I brought up the idea of a prenup. I run my own business and have a good amount of savings, plus a house I bought a few years ago. She's doing fine too, but doesn't have as much financially, which is totally okay by me.
Speaker 1:The prenup isn't about not trusting her. It's just something I've always felt made sense. It's about protecting both of us if things ever go sideways. I even told her that I'd want her to have the same security if the rules were reversed, but she took it hard. She said it made her feel like I was expecting a divorce and that it killed the romance of everything. We haven't had a full on fight, but the mood shifted and she's been kind of distant since I brought it up. I feel a bit blindsided because I didn't think this would be such a deal breaker. Now I'm stuck wondering if I'm being cold and overly logical, or if this is just a hard conversation that we need to work through. But am I an asshole for even asking her? No, you're not.
Speaker 2:It's a hard conversation, but do what you got to do to protect yourself Because, like I said last week, don't give these just nothing. Wow, they don't deserve to be sent.
Speaker 1:Goodbye Now what they don't deserve two red cent Goodbye.
Speaker 2:Now what? They don't deserve it. What are you talking about? They don't deserve it. Who are they, these hoes?
Speaker 1:She's not a hoe, she's his fiance. This is the woman he has told. Let's back up, let's back up. She's a hoe until it's official In the majority of situations. I really need y'all to understand. In the majority of situations, like I have said to you before, you asked me to be here. I didn't ask you to marry. You asked me, sir.
Speaker 2:Oh okay, not the other way around and I'm gonna do what I gotta do. So, please, and it's my right to protect my future interest and I agree with you, and so you may love me right now.
Speaker 1:I agree with you.
Speaker 2:You may love me right now, but that's not a guarantee you're going to love me in five, six, seven, eight, nine years.
Speaker 1:I don't disagree, so let me have something in place now.
Speaker 2:But I'm just saying Just hold on, I'm talking. Are you covering my mic?
Speaker 1:I was, let me have something in place now, just in case your feelings, because we know how women are with their feelings and their emotions.
Speaker 2:Don't do that. We know how y'all get it. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that.
Speaker 1:No, no, don't do that.
Speaker 2:In case the tide come a little short of the shore. Don't do that. Let me be prepared. No, or let me be prepared for the wrath of what you're going to bring.
Speaker 1:So, sir, you're not an asshole at all? No, I don't think that you're an asshole, it is a tough conversation and let her feel the way she feel.
Speaker 2:And you know I mean perfectly like I feel like that's the right thing to do. I mean I mean, unless you're in my situation she was making one money at the time. I thought I would get over it. Now she got it. She don't flip the screen. I don't know how she flipped it, but she flipped it. Damn Damn Cheaper to keep her.
Speaker 1:When you look up and you got got.
Speaker 2:Cheaper to keep her.
Speaker 1:It's crazy how life works out. Crazy work, crazy work. But no, I don't think you're. I can understand from both perspectives. I can understand how, from her perspective, that she might think that it's you expecting a divorce and it's not you expecting a divorce. It's like he said, it's not just for me, but it's for the both of us too. You know what I mean, because you will have a say in the prenup. You can put your stipulations in the prenup too. It's not just him saying like, oh, you're not going to get what I have. You know what I mean, because once you're married, anyway he's going to be sharing what he has with you. But my thing, is.
Speaker 1:And that's what I don't understand. Like, unless you plan on being like an asshole in your marriage, I'm still going to be sharing whatever you bring anyway, but it's like just how you want to be protected and make sure that you have something In case things go awry.
Speaker 2:Why can't he want to be protected In case things go awry, right?
Speaker 1:It's like life insurance.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Would you be having that conversation With him? If he was like, oh, you know what, we don't need life insurance, then you would be like what do you mean? We don't need life? What happens if something Happens to you? You're just gonna like, I'm just supposed to figure it out, it's the same thing. Gotta breathe bye, I think I, I me personally I look at it. I can look at it like.
Speaker 1:But wait now, it depends on how he trying to set the prenup up. If it's a simple prenup, like we walk away with what we come into, like come in together with, okay, that's like, that's different. But if he got like some crazy stipulations, I think then that might be a different conversation. You know what I mean. Like that might be, that might be a different, a different conversation. But if it's just like a simple, it's the same one, it's the what. It's the same one. No, if it's just like a simple, something simple, then, like you know, just protecting what he already has built, that's I don't, I don't crazy word, I don't mind that. Um, let's see. Am I the asshole asshole for demanding to go through my brother-in-law and his girlfriend's bags if they are staying with us? Okay?
Speaker 2:let me get the context okay it.
Speaker 1:It says background. He's going to give us some background. I have a pretty severe dairy allergy. I break out in hives, I struggle to breathe and have to carry two EpiPens with me everywhere. If I get any dairy in my system I'll end up in the ER. My in-laws know this and have been extremely accommodating since my fiance and I started dating five years ago. When we moved in together two years ago, we set strict rules for our home because of my allergy. The big one is that no one is allowed to bring anything that contains dairy into our home, ever, no matter what. So that's the backstory.
Speaker 1:Now onto the story. My brother-in-law started dating his girlfriend a year and a half ago. They came to visit us together for the first time a year ago. My fiance made sure my brother-in-law explained my allergy to his girlfriend and our no dairy rule. Two days into their stay she bought dairy products and cooked lunch for herself. When we weren't home, I ended up in the ER because of the cross-contamination. She apologized and explained she hadn't understood how serious my allergy was. We managed to put the situation behind us, since both my fiance and I currently have, and want to keep, a good relationship with my brother-in-law.
Speaker 1:The two of them came for a second visit nine months ago. We had a video call with my brother-in-law and his girlfriend before the trip to make sure she understood the severity of my allergy and how serious we are about the no dairy rule in the house. During their second trip I was taking out the trash and found a candy bar wrapper and an empty milkshake container in the guest trash, the room that she was staying in. Even after she saw how serious my allergy is and how I ended up in the ER, she still brought Derry into my home. I confronted her when they got back. She and my brother-in-law had a huge fight. My brother-in-law went through her stuff and threw out everything she had with Derry. We kicked out his girlfriend. My brother-in-law stayed for the rest of the planned trip. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend worked out their relationship after the trip and are still together.
Speaker 1:Since their second trip, my brother-in-law has come alone, since I don't trust his girlfriend in my house. Well, brother-in-law is planning a new trip to visit us and his girlfriend wants to come too. At first we just said, no, we don't trust her. But since we know that this is important to my brother-in-law, we came up with what we believe is a good compromise. She can come and stay at our house, but we will look through her bags every single time she comes back into the house. And if she doesn't accept that, then she can't stay at the house or she has to stay at a hotel. Now I'm being called an asshole for treating her like a criminal and that checking her bag is an invasion of privacy. So am I the asshole for demanding to go through her bags if she is staying at my house? Not at all, for this context.
Speaker 2:No, the bitch tried to kill you twice Because she done it twice.
Speaker 1:She tried to kill him twice. She done it twice Like what the hell? Because it's just like the last one that we had read about the allergy with the mother-in-law bringing the auntie. If people like there are some people who quite literally have life and death severity allergies Like if they're around it it is it could be like a high probability that they will die if they do not get medical attention in time.
Speaker 2:He's nicer than me.
Speaker 1:That's crazy work After the first time.
Speaker 2:What I would have did the first time is since we know it was her that did it when I got out the hospital, I would have sued her and pressed charges.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's a little far.
Speaker 2:I told you I had this extreme allergy. You still bring it into my presence, into my home where I live. Yeah, and it's my house.
Speaker 1:That's attempted murder. Call Olivia up. She works in special victims. He's not a special victim, I am.
Speaker 2:I'm a special victim.
Speaker 1:No, it's not that type of special victim. I'm a special victim.
Speaker 2:She tried to kill me not once, but twice. She needed to be locked up. No, you're not an asshole, sir.
Speaker 1:No, you're not an asshole at all. I wouldn't let her on the block I wouldn't let her on the block. He must can't even go to like grocery stores. That's crazy. He ain't never had an egg, a dairy allergy.
Speaker 2:That's like everything. Why are you?
Speaker 1:Stop it.
Speaker 2:I had to stop. Stop it how are you living?
Speaker 1:Stop it. I had to stop, stop it. How are you living? Tell me how you're living. What?
Speaker 2:How you living. But no, you're not an asshole. No, you're not an asshole at all.
Speaker 1:She's out of pocket, and here's the thing. Here's the thing.
Speaker 2:So I take it that the brother-in-law is his wife's brother? Probably yeah, and she just some broad. That ain't really that important. No, she's his girlfriend, because they've been together for a while she just, I mean, they're on their third visit. She just sucking the fucking. She ain't married.
Speaker 1:We don't know that to be true. Let's start there. I would hope so.
Speaker 2:They made up somehow.
Speaker 1:They did make up. They did make up, but no, sir, I do not think that you're the asshole. No, I think it's highly rude and disrespectful that when you tell people that you have an allergy, especially a life-threatening allergy that could land you in the emergency room, that they behave like this and they still are selfish enough to choose whatever is going to satiate them in their comfort, and they do it at the expense of your health.
Speaker 2:And not only that, they do it in your home Right. And, with all that being said, you are in the next bedroom, fool. And I'm going to have me a protein shake after this.
Speaker 1:Like that's crazy. Like my mom is allergic to shellfish and I remember her telling me one time her husband had eaten shellfish right. No, he didn't, but I guess he didn't wipe it all off his mouth like before he came to bed, and so you know, your mouth touches your pillow and she had laid on his pillow.
Speaker 2:Oh diabolical.
Speaker 1:The shellfish Like.
Speaker 2:The shellfish was shellfish, that's bye.
Speaker 1:Like that's crazy.
Speaker 2:Crazy word.
Speaker 1:Some people really are like. Some people really have serious allergies Serious, and you really need to respect that because you would feel. Here's the thing, how would you feel? You brought the dairy into the house and you thought you were being like slick, and then the fact that she had bought a whole fucking milkshake when he threw away the trash. That's crazy work. You were in the room drinking a milkshake but the thing is, is that?
Speaker 2:here's the thing, but what here?
Speaker 1:this is what I'm saying. The thing is what?
Speaker 2:if god forbid, hold on the trash in there right. God forbid he died oh yeah, oh, then she'd be so sorry then what then?
Speaker 1:what then? What would you? Was that milkshake worth it?
Speaker 2:then it's no longer attempted murder, it's murder press the charges because we had previous.
Speaker 1:It's premeditation.
Speaker 2:Yes, that's premeditation I told you like how would you feel if he died Call Olivia, call.
Speaker 1:Carisi. Carisi works for the DA now Perfect.
Speaker 2:You put the charges through.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's. That's crazy work. Y'all can't be that damn selfish, you can't, you can't. Anywho, guys, this has been another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. If you are not doing so already, please like, comment and share the podcast. We are on all major platforms and life after I do podcast on Instagram, tick tock, facebook, youtube and shout out to all of our new followers on tick tock we just hit 17k on TikTok. Thank you, guys so much we love, love, love to see you guys interacting in the comments.
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Speaker 2:My glasses are dirty now.
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