Transactional Ties

We unpack the balance of humor and vulnerability in relationships. From family dynamics and evolving gender roles to financial power struggles, we take a deep dive into real-life stories. Inspired by Corey Holcomb's provocative insights, we explore how trust, infidelity, and societal expectations impact modern love. Join us for an honest discussion on love, growth, and the lessons learned after saying "I do."

Transcript

Life After Saying "I Do"

Speaker 1 0:00

I mean it wouldn't matter to me if we're not together anymore. Oh wow, what you do with your body if we're not together has no bearing on my life.

Speaker 2 0:11

And she's a 304 for sure I mean.

Speaker 1 0:15

why would I care about who you sleep with if we ain't together?

Speaker 2 0:17

anymore 304 for sure.

Speaker 1 0:21

If we ain't together, no more like. Do you boo-boo?

Speaker 2 0:24

If we're not together, it's because you left me whatever the case is ours because I left you, because I caught you doing something you weren't supposed to oh, you caught me using tongue when we kissed okay, we're going back to this, huh we're gonna always welcome back to another episode of Life After I Do.

Speaker 1 1:00

I'm your host, Denisha G, and I'm here with my husband.

Speaker 2 1:06

Maliko, I'm your host, Denisha G, and I'm here with my husband.

Speaker 1 1:09

Molito, molito. Okay, I'm not doing this with you today. Hey Booskis, hi, hey.

Speaker 2 1:15

Hey, hey, hey, how's your?

Speaker 1 1:15

week. Good how you doing. Great, how you been Living All right In living color's your week.

Speaker 2 1:22

Good how you doing, great how you been Living.

Speaker 1 1:26

All right, In living color you can do what you want.

Speaker 2 1:30

I thought we were going to go in living single row.

Speaker 1 1:33

Oh no, In living color.

Speaker 2 1:35

So we were not on the same page?

Speaker 1 1:36

We were not. We weren't even in the same book. Okay, you're right. How was your week?

Speaker 2 1:41

It was rough. It was a rough week for me, it was rough. Yeah, I had a man cold so I gave up this week.

Speaker 1 1:46

Oh my gosh, I can't.

Speaker 2 1:50

You know when you get a man cold.

Speaker 1 1:51

I don't know. I don't know when you get a man cold.

Speaker 2 1:55

And then I thought I was having another bladder gallbladder attack, but it wasn't it turns out, it was just gas. It was really bad gas, so it was a troublesome week.

Speaker 1 2:10

I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 2:11

The evils of Lucy are all around me.

Speaker 1 2:13

The what.

Speaker 2 2:14

The evils of Lucy.

Speaker 1 2:15

What do you mean? The evils of Lucy? No, the.

Speaker 2 2:17

K-Dot. You know what I mean, because you're more afraid to get that.

Speaker 1 2:20

Oh my gosh, don't, I can't. The evils of lucy. Yeah, so you thought? I don't even think you had a man cold, it was just like allergies no, it was a man cold because I had.

Speaker 2 2:31

I got the chills and all that the man cold. I gave birth this week. Good, you don't understand. Goodbye, you don't understand, goodbye I. I showed you the proof today no, there was.

Speaker 1 2:43

There was not enough, it was a study. So he finds this little bitty article about how man flu and man colds is like a thing and it always in the article it talks about like men overreacting or women thinking that men are overreacting when they get sick and it's like, oh, it's because their immunities are so much lower than women and so they're feeling the effects a little bit worse than a woman would when they have a cold. Miss me with the BS.

Speaker 2 3:14

It said. Naturally, men have immune systems. That's why their sickness is so unbearable. I can't tell you man sickness, it's rough.

Speaker 1 3:24

It is rough out here for us I think y'all just be y'all just be wanting y'all just be wanting the, the motherly care, because that's, that's literally how you get you be like like you've got a wife, but I want, I want the mother stuff can you take?

Speaker 2 3:39

I set out to get a wife, not a mother you could have fooled me.

Speaker 1 3:43

when you don't feel good, I won't.

Speaker 2 3:45

I mean, I need you to take care of me. I need you to take care of me. You are my wife.

Speaker 1 3:52

Yeah, I can take care of you, but you want me to mother you when you're sick. I mean that's part of your duties.

Speaker 2 3:58

This is love honor and cherish to death. Do us part in sickness and in health.

Speaker 1 4:03

Yes, I know.

Speaker 2 4:05

So don't act like when you have your little sickness that you should be used to, because you experience every 28 to 30 days.

Speaker 1 4:11

Oh my gosh, that's not a sickness, you should be used to it by now. It's not a sickness though, but I cater to you. That's a part of life.

Speaker 2 4:18

I get you your tea and your heating pad, and then you're going to want some ice cream, then you're going to want some red vines, then you're going to want some type of chocolate.

Speaker 1 4:27

But you didn't get me red vines this month.

Speaker 2 4:29

I didn't because you told me not to. You told me to hold you accountable to the gym. You can't have it be both ways.

Speaker 1 4:35

I can actually.

Speaker 2 4:38

So then it can be my fault why you lost. You didn't lose no weight.

Speaker 1 4:41

No, because lost you didn't gain. No, lose no weight.

Speaker 2 4:43

No, I, because you know they're fat free, and they're fat free if you eat a couple and then what I do is I cut them in half so it makes me feel like, you cut them in half and you don't no, I don't.

Speaker 1 4:52

Don't try to play my life, my gosh, you don't know what it's like okay anyway, you're also not anemic, so you don't know what it's like, okay anyway, my, my week was rough.

Speaker 2 5:01

It's very rough week.

Speaker 1 5:02

Because he had some allergies. He was battling, it was not allergies.

Speaker 2 5:05

The evil of Lucy was all around me.

Speaker 1 5:07

Uh-huh, lucy was evil and all around him this week.

Speaker 2 5:09

So I went running back to the city. For answers Shout out to K-Doc.

Speaker 1 5:16

I love you babe.

Speaker 2 5:17

I love you too.

Speaker 1 5:18

I enjoy taking care of you sometimes. You know, loving you is complicated. Maurice, we're not going to sit here and talk and we're in song titles. That's also I know. I know You're not about to sit here and talk to me in song titles. You're not doing it. Why, Maurice I?

Speaker 2 5:39

guess you have one wish, huh.

Speaker 1 5:40

You know, okay, next time you do it, I'm gonna pinch you. I'm going to pinch you. Why do I have to get pinched? Because Love don't hear no more. Huh, okay, you thought I was joking. If you think you're lonely now, okay. How else was your week this week?

Speaker 2 5:56

I mean, overall, I think I had a good week. Mm-hmm, I'm not going to be out here in hoochie daddy shorts.

Speaker 1 6:09

You're going to be in hoochie daddy shorts and you guys mark my words. I will get photographs, they will be on social media and I'm going to make sure to get my baby in the best angle so y'all can see his hoochie daddy shorts in the gym, you want?

Speaker 2 6:21

you want my testicles on the internet, so bad no, I don't you can get. You can get the ones that cover.

Speaker 1 6:27

You can get the ones that cover when you do a squat I'm an old man you're not an old man, you're not, you know.

Speaker 2 6:32

So I mean I had the highlights of you know, at least my health is on the right. Oh my, my weight loss journey is on the right track. My health was not. My health was. My body was working against me. This, I really think it was from. I'm telling y'all I really think it was from the activities. I think it probably started. Now that I think about it, it probably started the night we went to the pumpkin patch.

Speaker 1 6:52

Well, yeah, you were around a ton of people. A lot of children and a lot of animals, and then your own kid came home and she had like a little bit of a cough Right.

Speaker 2 7:00

So she brings us home all the gifts that she gets, I think it was the goats, or it could have been the one cow I was talking shit to.

Speaker 1 7:07

Maybe I don't pet the animals at the petting zoo.

Speaker 2 7:10

Oh, I did pet the horse. He was so adorable, though.

Speaker 1 7:13

He kept trying to eat my shirt. It was the funniest thing. What was his name? I got a video of him, but every time I went up to him and I was talking to him, he would look at me and then he started nibbling on my shirt and then he licked my, my, um, my shoulder and I was like, okay, now you're doing too much. And then I turned around to look at the pigs who were sleeping and when I turned back around, the horse was basically eating Phoenix's hair and I was like buddy slow down.

Speaker 2 7:39

He want him some black girl magic.

Speaker 1 7:40

I said you're gonna, you are eating edge booster, please. He wanted some black girl magic. I said you're gonna, you are eating edge booster, please. He wanted some black girl magic, bye. I said her whole hair bow was in his mouth he wanted some black girl no magic.

Family Dynamics and Appreciation

Speaker 1 7:53

But, um, you have such a great memory because I completely forgot about that. I wasn't even gonna talk about that in my week and I forgot I did it. But yeah, the pumpkin patch, because you're weak, you were dead. I'm alive now. I can run circles around this bitch you was dead. I was dead. I was like don't talk to me, I just needed a day to just like. And then you kept asking me questions and I was really trying to be like nice in my responses to you, like you were mean.

Speaker 2 8:23

Okay, you don't understand, you are a mean minstrel.

Speaker 1 8:26

No, you don't understand, especially as I've gotten older. I don't know what it is. I feel like my hormones are a little stronger now. I don't know what that is Stronger, how, I don't know. It's just like sometimes I be trying with you and I know you come from a really positive space and you just be asking questions, but sometimes I just don't be in the mood for your questions. And you kept yelling questions from your office. Stop touching me. And you kept yelling questions from your office and I just wanted to lay in bed with my heating pad and finish my tv show and you just wanted to watch and you just kept saying, like random stuff.

Speaker 1 9:02

You'd'd be like oh babe, what season are you on? What's what's happening right now? Hey babe, you hungry, hold on. Hey babe, you want some? I'm just like, if you don't.

Speaker 2 9:13

Well, for one. I was looking out for you to try to see if you needed some food. Ok, that's number one. And I appreciate that I was trying to let you know that I'm still thinking about you, Babe.

Speaker 1 9:24

you were playing your video games.

Speaker 2 9:26

Look, it don't matter what I was doing. I was thinking about you, okay, I mean, and that's why I say I really I try to step back.

Speaker 1 9:33

I breathe because I'm like my babe is coming from a good place, you know, and I don't want to rip his head off. I'm just not appreciating around here, but if you don't leave, me alone right now is probably not.

Speaker 2 9:46

I am just not appreciated around here you are definitely appreciated around here.

Speaker 1 9:50

You want me to leave you alone.

Speaker 2 9:51

My daughter feels like I don't do nothing around here and she believes I don't, I mean per your own words. You said you don't, but I don't even get credit for the stuff I should get credit for, like what, like purchasing her body wash oh, and she gave that to me. She knows, mommy, don't work okay but mommy get credit when it went in with her social goodbye. Mommy get credit when the groceries are in here. I don't get credit, but not she did.

Speaker 1 10:13

Coming out, she was like oh, mommy went grocery shopping, thank you for getting my favorite snacks oh, thank you, mom, for my body wash, thank you for my mouthwash and I'm standing right behind her like I guess I ain't shit. I mean, she knows that you play a role.

Speaker 2 10:29

I'm nothing to y'all. We definitely appreciate. I'm nothing to y'all but a paycheck. I'm a paycheck and I'm the person y'all call to kill an insect and to lift something heavy.

Speaker 1 10:41

You know what she got that from me, though, because before she had no problem killing spiders she was killing spiders she was killing spiders, all that stuff and now that she sees, like if I see a spider and she sees me and I'll be, and I'll say okay, make it, make it make sense what you won't kill a spider, but you'll try to re-home a roly-poly to my house oh, phoenix, yes, yes, lead the roly-poly where you found them.

Speaker 2 11:06

Phoenix, gotta come home with us we were what, where were we?

Speaker 1 11:09

oh, we went to breakfast and she I don't know how she even spotted that roly-poly. But she spotted a roly-poly like 10 feet away from us on a curb and she was like, oh my gosh, the roly-poly. And I was like, really, how did you see the roly poly?

Speaker 3 11:22

And nonetheless.

Speaker 1 11:23

We went over to the curb, we picked the roly poly up, we let him crawl around on our fingers until it was time to go into the restaurant.

Speaker 2 11:31

We played with the roly poly. Y'all didn't even wash your hands.

Speaker 1 11:33

We did wash our hands I had hand sanitizer and then, when it was time to go into the restaurant, we put him in the little mud, bush.

Speaker 2 11:40

And then the other day, also last week, she was completely sad when the snail had died in the driveway.

Speaker 1 11:45

Oh was she.

Speaker 2 11:46

She was like dad is it dead? I said yeah it's dead.

Speaker 1 11:49

Yeah, he's dead, he's gone.

Fitness Challenge and Motivation

Speaker 2 11:51

His shell is gone and he's not moving. He's there, yeah, yeah, she's like. What are we going to do? I said we're going to let the crows get them.

Speaker 1 12:04

We were watching the news, so, like every morning, we watched the news and I had right. So the news was going and they were talking about a shooting and so she was standing in the bedroom and she was looking at the news and they were like a man was shot and killed last night, like at this robbery or whatever, and she goes. Oh no, not another one. What I said, girl, if you don't go, get ready right go get ready for school.

Speaker 1 12:35

I was like Fifi. She was like mom, another one I was like I know baby. I said, we just gotta pray about it.

Speaker 2 12:40

I used to be like I don't want her watching this and I was like you know what? She not at her grandma's house to get Days of Our Lives, Bioburys, or to get what's the other one?

Speaker 1 12:49

No, because when she's with my mom, all she watches is court shows Court TV. Court TV yeah.

Speaker 2 12:54

She know about Judge Judy.

Speaker 1 12:55

Yeah, she know about Judge Judy, judge Mathis, yeah, she know about that she knows about granny. Gonna make sure my mom watches nothing but court tv.

Speaker 2 13:09

It's either court tv or very high drama movies yeah, and then she commentating the whole time.

Speaker 1 13:12

Yeah, I know damn well, she know better than I'd be like ma, just watch the movie, just watch the movie. But yeah, so I mean the week was good. Yes, pumpkin patch was good, hanging out with friends, you know, that's always, that's always a plus, because we don't have a lot of I mean, do we? I'm trying to think, like on my hand.

Speaker 2 13:36

I guess I can count my circle so small, the one we consider a dot. Shout out to K-Dot.

Speaker 1 13:45

Damel Damel, what's up? Did you listen to Kendrick before we started recording? No, I did not, okay, so why is he on your brain?

Speaker 2 13:55

because he, because Kendrick got me through my workout today okay, that's what I was gonna say.

Speaker 1 13:59

That must have been who you were listening to, because my daughter's favorite part came on.

Speaker 2 14:02

It was just baby oh and oh.

Speaker 1 14:05

That's why you felt like you could go toe-to-toe with me.

Speaker 2 14:07

Yeah, ah okay, I didn't you did I'm proud of you.

Speaker 1 14:11

High five, I'm proud of you, I'm good. No, high five, don't rub my thigh. No, I'm really no, for for real. For real, all jokes aside, I'm really proud of you because last year you literally one repped it and this year you did all 10 reps on uh, 14 plates. So I'm really proud of you because last year you literally one-repped it and this year you did all 10 reps on 14 plates. So I'm really proud of you.

Speaker 2 14:31

I didn't want to do it last year. Last year I wanted to let you have your thing.

Speaker 1 14:34

Oh, is that what it was? Or you just didn't have the? No, I wanted you to have your thing, oh, okay.

Speaker 2 14:40

As the great poet Kung Fu Kenny says, sometimes you got to pop out and show them Okay. So today I said okay, I'm going to pop out. That's why that was my plan from the jump. That's why I had you go first. Oh okay.

Speaker 1 14:55

I said, because what she's not going to do Is end on a high note and then you have no more reps left. Is try to go heavy on the last set while I'm already done with mine. Because as soon as we finished the warm up, you were like you said, let's put four plates on. Yeah, and I was like, okay, let's do four plates, because we were only doing two working sets. Yeah, and I was like, okay, let's do four plates.

Speaker 2 15:12

And you put your four on.

Speaker 1 15:19

So then I put the four on, I went straight to five. I started at five. Oh, okay, so, yeah, I did the. Well, then I did the eight plates and then you went up and you did the 10 and I was like, okay, so now let's up the ante and let's get to these 14s. And he was like really. And I was like, yeah, like, but put the 14 plates on there. He did, he put the 14 plates on there. I did my 10 reps and then he was like I can do it and you, cause you had no more reps left. I didn't have reps left, I know you went first.

Speaker 2 15:49

Well first of all, you messed up in the warmup.

Speaker 1 15:51

Yeah, one time, yeah. So then he goes and he was like he had that look on his face like you not finna, walk away. No, you not finna. You not finna, walk away. You not finna mic. You think you're gonna mic drop me? My husband always says that he does not want me to be able to outlift him in the gym. So I'm not trying to outlift you, babe, you're not gonna mic drop me. You really passionate about that? Huh.

Speaker 1 16:20

I will train legs seven days a week just so that you can make sure that you can at least keep up.

Speaker 2 16:28

On any machine. I could do that, you could. I'm done Now. Granted, there's some exercises. I have a bad knee Right. I have no cartilage.

Speaker 1 16:35

I blew my knee out Like our individual yeah.

Speaker 2 16:38

I blew my knee out wrestling in high school. So, I have a bad knee, so I have one.

Speaker 1 16:45

I have a bad knee, so I have one knee. I have bad knees too. By the way, I didn't have surgery on my knees, but I have no cartilage but go ahead. I've had my surge-pedic knee correct, correct that I've had surgery on yeah, and that's why I said.

Speaker 2 16:52

I haven't had surgery.

Speaker 1 16:53

That's been scraped yeah, I have no cartilage, but yeah, go ahead that knee, that knee I.

Speaker 2 17:02

So I can't do everything because of that knee, I know. But the things I can't do because I'm gonna show you, I'm gonna show you.

Speaker 1 17:08

That's why you, that's why you so amped to try to hurry and get to that. 225 on a bench press. I'm gonna, I'm the 225 because he was like he said, when I got to the 45 plate he messaged his friend and was like yeah, she get too close, we close. We got to hurry up and get to that two 25. She getting too close? I don't want to, I don't want to outdo you, babe, you're not going to, I know I'm not going to you.

Speaker 2 17:30

You will never be stronger than me. You'll never be faster than me, okay, and you will definitely never be taller than me.

Speaker 1 17:38

I'll never be taller than me. I'll never be taller than you, never. But you do know I like a challenge. Don't let me. You just challenged me to never being stronger than you. Okay, in what capacity? All capacities. How are we going to measure this All capacity? How are we?

Speaker 2 17:54

going to measure this All capacities.

Speaker 1 17:56

Okay, you know what? Stay tuned y'all, because what we're going to do is we're going to come up with a set of exercises, a set of weightlifting exercises. Don't let them pick it. We can let them pick it, that's fine, and we'll post the videos.

Speaker 2 18:10

And we'll post the videos Of how I'm stronger than you every day.

Speaker 1 18:13

Babe, I don't doubt that you are, but now that you have given, me the challenge, because your one little rep is my warm up. You have given me the challenge to at least do my very very best to keep up with you.

Speaker 2 18:25

Oh, now you're motivated.

Speaker 1 18:27

I've been motivated, just like today. I didn't take that extra 10 pounds off of the 90 when we were doing calf raises. Yes, and then I also outweighed you in calf raises last week. Yes, I did, I'm sorry, okay, see, when I outlift him in any area or if I'm lifting heavier, he always says it's because I had a bad week.

Speaker 2 18:48

It's because, I was tired.

Speaker 1 18:50

It's because I could so, just like today, when we were doing isolated, oh no, my bad, my bad.

Speaker 2 18:56

I told you when we're doing the isolated leg extensions.

Speaker 1 18:59

Uh-huh, because I had you on those, because you were doing it at 40. Then you went up to 45. I put it down to 50. So I was doing 55. And I really could have went heavier. But I was doing more reps and, like I told you, because of my bad knee.

Speaker 2 19:12

But once I get this bad knee strong, whatever ground you can gain now, you better gain it now, because once I get this knee strong again, problem out these streets. I might take a side job as a bouncer.

Speaker 1 19:25

And I'm going to challenge you to more farmer carries too, because the look on your face look like you'd be kind of struggling on farmer carries Bad money.

Speaker 2 19:34

We doing the hundreds tomorrow.

Speaker 1 19:37

Really.

Speaker 2 19:37

We doing the hundreds tomorrow, we'll see who's struggling and I'm going to record you.

Speaker 1 19:41

I can do 'm, I'm confident 200 that I could probably do 100 each hand on the farmer carries probably not right now at this moment, but I'm already doing. What is it? I do the 62 in each hand right now. Is that what we do? The 62s? Those are the orange, right? So I do that. I do the 62 pounds in each hand on the farmer carries now. So what's the next one? That they have up?

Speaker 2 20:11

75, 75, so I'll do but we jumping straight to 100, since you talking crap.

Speaker 1 20:15

No, we can do. We'll do 75s, let's tomorrow we'll do 70 or not. Tomorrow, thursday, we'll do 75s in each hand farmer carries, but we're going to do from end to end instead of halfway. I got you. We're going to do, end to end 75 pounds each hand.

Speaker 2 20:33

Do you think, just because you're stockier than me, that you can out walk?

Speaker 1 20:36

No, I always tell you it's because the advantage that I have is that I'm closer to the ground.

Speaker 2 20:41

Your gravitational pull is shorter yeah, but that don't scare me I didn't see it should what we got today was because I'm not on people tired of hearing us at this point, they probably.

Speaker 1 20:52

But honestly, like I, I would say, you know, we've always kind of liked working out together um yeah, we do goodbye it. It really is a good, like I've already said, like doing the podcast together gives us time to like spend together and bond, but working out with your partner is really really something that could be like bonding. You know what I mean, because I think we're both competitively competitive people by nature, so I'm not that competitive, you're very competitive.

Speaker 2 21:22

Only when it comes to you because you got a big head. Only when it comes to you Because you got a big head.

Speaker 1 21:28

I don't get a big head, I'm not an ego lifter, and then I have to like I don't think so.

Speaker 2 21:32

I didn't say you ego lift.

Speaker 1 21:33

I don't think I am.

Speaker 2 21:35

I just know that if there ever comes a time than me, you're not gonna let me live it down. So I have to stay stronger than you and all other aspects of my life. I don't care if I win or lose. Unless it's like life dangerous, I don't care. Okay, I don't care if I lose a video game. All that, those days, are long gone.

Speaker 2 21:54

Okay, but you just don't want me stronger than I don't want your ego thinking you around here can handle somebody no, I I've always told him, I I've always said I don't think that I could beat you.

Speaker 1 22:04

Like we would always say, like if I could beat him or beat him up or anything, and I always say I don't think that I could like beat you up or take you on, but I do think that it wouldn't be an easy fight for you. Like it's not, like I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna make it easy for you. That's because you got a good base Right. I'm not gonna make it easy for you, but I am very much aware that I'm not as strong as you are. I can take you down one punch. What we got to do, lucy, yeah, sucker punch. No, no, all I gotta do you in the thigh hit you in the boob.

Speaker 2 22:41

If I want to be mean, I hit your ass in the throat.

Speaker 1 22:42

You know how strong my legs are. One kick, one smooth kick to the growing.

Speaker 2 22:47

But you have to flex it and you are done what do we got today? You're doing too much All this violence. I'm a lover.

Speaker 1 22:55

I'm a lover too, no, you're not a fighter okay, whatever, um, I got a reaction video for you, so it's a video that's uh kind of viral right now and I wanted to hear your perspective about it. And I want to kind of hear your perspective about it in terms of how this type of thinking affects dating these days. Okay, um, and towards the decline of marriage like this way of thinking. Okay, ready, and I think you'll be surprised by what I'll say too, but I want to get your reaction first, okay, All right here we go.

Speaker 2 23:32

Let's see.

Power Dynamics in Relationships

Speaker 3 23:33

All right, women in poverty I can control them better. A girl who can't afford to say, fuck you, corey, I'm gone. She just can't afford to do it, so I take advantage of that. Now that might be wrong, but her poverty and my needs most of the time it even out. I don't really need a lot of their time and they don't tell me to fuck off, because they know when I come over their children can get some outlet Jordans, outlet Gucci yeah, Outlet Gucci.

Speaker 3 24:15

But how you speak of women, right where you want control, is there ever? I don't want control that is taken by force. I want control because I'm the one who is the leader of the pack, naturally. So could you see yourself in a situation where a woman makes as much as you or more than you? I like women who make money. Just, I can't do nothing with you other than sleep with you. If you could take care of yourself, you're gonna think you could talk to me. I don't like you talking to me a lot. I know you got your own money and all like that. So if you want to, we can hook up, hang out, do that for a minute. But I'm saying girls in poverty because they have a deficiency Poverty is a deficiency out here in America.

Speaker 3 25:08

I can fix your little deficiency if you do what I want you to do. I think it's an even exchange. Yeah, but that. Do you see how that comes off as no, no, do you see how that comes off as no, how does it come off? Look, we're exchanging services, okay, but that's not prostitution. It's all prostitution. What's not prostitution? The only woman who not prostituting? Not a woman that's married to their husband, everything else you'll're a hoe Okay, oh, wow A lot.

Speaker 1 25:48

Well, I mean for one. He's a comedian. Let's start there. That's Corey Holcomb he is a comedian, so I do take that into consideration. And also, this is just a clip of an entire interview.

Speaker 2 26:00

We don't have all the context, I will say that the last thing you said, it's facts.

Speaker 1 26:04

It is not facts, but okay, it's facts, it's okay, it's not facts, but it's, that's okay. Unless you're married you are no, that's not, that's not a thing, it's not a thing. But okay, y'all hear. Hoey. No, it's not a thing. Sorry.

Speaker 2 26:21

And in some way it could all be prostitution, because it is services for services. I mean, I guess it's a barter system at the very least. But if you now his whole take on women in poverty, to me it's wild, it's wild. I understand what he's saying. He's basically saying that a woman that has that lacks resources.

Speaker 2 26:44

Right that has a need or deficiency. As he says right is they're more susceptible to putting up with my likely to allow me to move how I want to move, because I can provide them with they with things that they cannot get themselves.

Speaker 2 26:58

That's why he said that all he can really do with a woman that makes money is sleep with her because he can't, essentially because he because she'll feel like that she can have a say, and while and while I see what he's trying to say, I also see his opinions as coming from a standpoint of someone who is weak internally, because he also because I saw another part of this clip also in the clip he makes a statement of wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all communicate the way you want to communicate, right?

Speaker 2 27:43

And be understood right so, but in this clip, in pertaining to this clip, he sounds like someone, or he's describing someone, who is not mentally capable of leading in a situation where they have to provide more than just finances. He sounds like someone where, even when he says that I don't want to be controlling physically, you do Because you're physically controlling the situation with your money. You're not going in there and over overbearing her with like, with your strength and you're not pushing around, but it's almost like the dangling carrot.

Speaker 2 28:27

Right, you're basically saying, hey, if you tolerate me and when I come over, you do what I need.

Speaker 1 28:31

You ain't got to worry about nothing, you ain't got to worry about nothing.

Transactional Relationships and Money Dynamics

Speaker 2 28:34

Yeah, so you're, you, and that's.

Speaker 1 28:39

I think that's what he was by definition. He was like isn't that prostitution?

Speaker 2 28:59

And so if, by definition, you're tricking, that means you're out here talking to women who lack substance to provide you with a role of proper leadership. That would actually require that would actually require you to challenge and push yourself. Think outside of a financial barrier in order to achieve growth. So in that part, yeah, like it sounds like a weak mind state for me Now. Granted, now I'm not in no way, shape or form, Do I have the kind of money to choreograph.

Speaker 1 29:19

Exactly, and that was going to be my next point, because we've talked about that before.

Speaker 2 29:19

I had the kind of money to choreograph your house, exactly, and that was going to be my next point, because we've talked about that before, and so I can also understand that when you have access to money that Eddie does it's a lot easier to operate like this, in areas like this, because he's going to have women who approach him with that mind state, like I don't really care what he does, as long as when I come around he can help me.

Speaker 1 29:40

Yeah, I was going to say I don't really care what he does, as long as when I come around he can help me. Yeah, I was going to say I don't think he's going to have a problem I wouldn't say women approaching him. But it's easier to kind of cut through that red tape of when he approaches a certain type of woman like you said, poverty stricken women and it's just easier for us to have that understanding that when I'm with you, don't worry about it, got you, but in turn, this is what you're gonna do for me and you're not gonna complain about the part.

Speaker 2 30:02

The only part that really caught my attention is the part that when he said a woman who makes money, he can't do nothing with a woman who makes money, because right, because now, a woman who makes money, they're not if, if, if it's a woman, a woman of substance, that actually is trying to build something with you.

Speaker 2 30:19

she's not talking to you. She's trying to build you up. You, she's not talking to you, she's trying to build you up, but because your ego is so inflated and you think, because of who you are and because you're this public figure and you're well-known, you're not able to receive criticism or suggestions from a person or a source in which you don't deem qualified for.

Speaker 1 30:39

But I think also women who make money. It's not the. I think also women who make money is not the.

Speaker 3 30:44

It's not the same mindset that men who make money right.

Speaker 1 30:47

Because that's why a lot of men who get involved with women who are top earners, they always say your money don't matter to me, cause that's not what a man's not. Most of the time, a man isn't looking for a woman who was a high earner, but, on the flip side, women are looking for a woman who is a high earner, but, on the flip side, women are looking for men who are high earners, because that's how we set things up society for society.

Speaker 2 31:07

But but in his take he was saying, like you said, because you can, you got your money. You know you want, right. So when he's dealing with a woman with money, you have to, you have to work, you can't, you can't feed her financially, you have to write her emotion, right. So that's the part he don't want to deal with. He don't want to have to be vulnerable emotionally to actually sustain or build something of substance with a woman, that is an earner.

Speaker 1 31:31

Yeah.

Speaker 2 31:32

Right, yeah, because I mean it doesn't, really, it doesn't matter what your tax bracket is. Right, because I think the numbers are like less than 100, less one percent of americans making a thousand dollars a year.

Speaker 1 31:42

Right so if you're a man making six figures well, especially for black men, it's a little less if you're a man making six figures, I can.

Speaker 2 31:48

I can easily go out here and find a black woman making 35 40 thousand dollars a year and be fine and and be able to, and be able to come around, give her a couple extra dollars a month and do what I want and walk off and have the same type of arrangement.

Speaker 1 32:00

Right.

Speaker 2 32:00

Yeah, it's just that there's there's different, there's different levels to the same, to the same conundrum. Yeah Right, but the but. I think that part of what he's saying goes towards, like I said before. It's like I think you have. You have some men who are intentional on finding a wife and a and a lifetime partner and you have men who are okay with just being with who's next.

Speaker 1 32:26

Yeah, and I think that's when we've talked about this before when you get to a certain tax bracket as a man, and now your, your- your income. Your income allows you to have access to certain type of women, to a certain level of woman right.

Speaker 2 32:43

Again from a man's point of view. It's not just access to the women, it's trust.

Speaker 1 32:49

Yeah, I can see that too.

Speaker 2 32:51

When you look at celebrities, when you look at celebrities, the ones that have long-term marriages and relationships.

Speaker 1 32:58

These are all people that were together before the money was there Before the money was there.

Speaker 2 33:01

I've said this to you before marriages and relationships, these are all people that were together before, before the money was there, before the money was there Right Cause, even like I've said this to you before, if something was to happen to us, I don't, I couldn't remarry because I don't the trust wouldn't be there.

Speaker 1 33:09

Yeah.

Speaker 2 33:09

I don't think I could walk up and just trust, um, that another woman would do right by me because of of, uh, because of my earnings, right, yeah, because I understand that I could be looked at as a market. Oh, if you get them for this, and then you take half of this right and so that is. That's the actual excuse me. That is an actual fear that men have.

Speaker 1 33:32

Oh, I can understand that because society places such a big emphasis on your value being associated to how much money you make.

Speaker 2 33:39

And in today's time? Yeah, in today's time. In today's time, it is not as easy as it seems to weed out the woman who's actually here for you.

Speaker 1 33:48

Okay. So how do you think and I think this goes for both sides of the table because you have women who are okay with that type of arrangement, right, and from his words, it's easier to manipulate or seek those women out because they have a deficiency of financial resources. So how do you think that plays a part in how relationships are being shaped today?

Speaker 2 34:16

I think it plays a big part in our relationship. I think it's you, you's you find, like he said now you mentioned. He said that he found a woman with income, with kids, and he buy it right. So, at a certain point. They're just trying to get whatever they can to help them maintain and provide some or keep them afloat Right and provide some type of help to their situation who every month, around a certain time of the month, a certain gentleman will come over for a weekend or two.

Speaker 1 34:54

You had noticed that at first I didn't, I didn't.

Speaker 2 34:56

I didn't see it, but once I pointed it out. You're right, yeah, and I said every time rents due, so-and-so show up.

Speaker 1 35:02

Yeah.

Speaker 2 35:03

And she down there earning that rent, yeah Right, so you have women who are okay with these type of relationships yeah, but that's.

Speaker 1 35:11

But the thing is, is that a relationship or is it like he said?

Speaker 2 35:14

prostitution. Well, hey, some people say relationship, some people say it's transactional. What it is, it doesn't matter. The truth of the matter is, is that he's he's, he's tricking. You're a mart, he's tricking. So, just like old boy was tricking old girl, how old girl was tricking old boy? For the?

Speaker 1 35:29

rent money everyone and it's like it's a mutual understanding, like you know you know why I'm here. We know what it is, we both know what it is what it is but I just think, when you.

Speaker 2 35:37

I'm here for a good time, not a long time, right I?

Speaker 1 35:40

but and here's the thing this type of situation has been going on forever. It's not new like we know. That it's not. It's just like. It's just that it's for the world to see now and I think that's where the danger comes in Is because you have younger generations who have access to social media and they look at things like this and it's like, ok, well, yeah, I don't, I don't have to strive to want to be in a relationship, a committed relationship.

Speaker 1 36:04

I can take care of myself as long as as long as I got what I got between my legs, there's always going to be a man that's out there willing to pay my way, but this is where upbringing and morals and examples come into play.

Speaker 2 36:16

I know, but Because for as long as the stands of time, as long as history goes back, there has been women being perfectly content with being the king's mistress.

Speaker 1 36:26

Oh, absolutely.

Speaker 2 36:26

Because it put them at a certain level Right.

Speaker 1 36:29

They never had to worry about anything, and I also don't have to take you on full time. I don't have to worry about your vulnerabilities. I don't have to hear about how you feel I don't like. You come to me, and every time you come to me it's a good time. That's it. So our relationship is stress free.

Speaker 2 36:43

I cannot stress the fact that this comes down to upbringing Morals, upbringing morals and teaching.

Speaker 1 36:52

I don't necessarily agree with the upbringing, and here's why because it goes back.

Speaker 2 36:57

I'm not saying that the upbringing is the most significant part of it.

Speaker 1 37:03

You can come up in a great household that's what I'm saying, because some people are like you weren't raised that way.

Speaker 2 37:08

Miss Rainer said she was raised in a loving house and she is one of the well-known internet 304s.

Speaker 1 37:15

I don't know what that is oh, okay, turn it upside down, Okay, jesus.

Speaker 2 37:23

But it's like at a certain time things can happen. I understand that people have passed and things can happen in a young lady's life in which she make a couple of decisions that don't lead down a road where she thought it would right and she can be typecast or thrown into a category of and then now placed in these type of positions or you might never know what you got to do right to to take care of your babies.

Speaker 1 37:47

Like, yeah, there's a. That's why. That's why I always say I never, say never.

Speaker 2 37:52

I always say I don't see myself doing that oh you know and you out there for real, you big 304 no, I'm not you big 304, you hold down that's so rude.

Speaker 1 38:08

How's it rude? You my home, goodbye, but anywho, yeah, so I I think I think my biggest thing is it's like the um whole thing of the stripper, right when the strippers were having their moment on tiktok and I would go to the comments and everyone's talking about, like why go to college when I can just make five bands in a night?

Speaker 2 38:30

because Because you make those five bands in a night to put yourself through college.

Speaker 1 38:34

Right, but that's what I'm saying. It creates like this unrealistic sustainable lifestyle for the kids and the younger generation coming up. Like it's cool. It's cool Now. It may be cool and trendy now that you got your little apartment, you got multiple booze paying for stuff, you look good, you go out, they give you money, you got money in your pocket this, that and the third. But all that has to slow down and stop at some point.

Speaker 2 39:00

Right, that's what I was going to say. Father time and mother nature are undefeated, right, you're not going not keep that money right, and so I think it's just. It's honestly to be real about it. The dynamic is is that men are more appealing the older we get, because typically we earn more the older we get right, women are more appealing, look better as I age. Okay women are generally more appealing the younger they are, because they have the young, youthful bodies right and it's.

Speaker 2 39:34

It's a weird dynamic, but that's just, that's just the case. But I equate like the stripper life, like to the game life. It's like the fast money is fast money, it's gonna, it's gonna come to a fast end yeah like this is not something you're going to be able to maintain a long time without risking something great, and a lot of people don't get out of that life without losing something great, whether it be internally or externally.

Speaker 2 40:00

You know what I mean. So it's like there's always more cons to the fast money than there are pros, but the fact that the money comes fast and it comes in large quantities yeah that is, it's just like. It's like, it's just like. To me it's no different from when you hear um about um uh, athletes losing money, music artists losing money, and like they were this big thing, had this big contract and then now they're. Then they didn't play the cards right now they're in their early thirties and they flat broke.

Speaker 2 40:31

You know, what I'm saying. So it's about navigating and moving to not necessarily put yourself in a situation to where you have to become a 304 to maintain.

Intimacy, Gender Roles, and Transactions

Speaker 1 40:42

Oh my gosh, even this 304 nonsense. I can't, I can't Even the 304 nonsense. It's too much. But what kind of popped out to me is that he's very strategic in sourcing out these types of women.

Speaker 2 40:59

Manipulators know who they can manipulate.

Speaker 1 41:01

Right, and that's what it is. It's like him putting on display and here's the thing. I don't even know if it's manipulation. If she understands what's happening, too Okay. Is that too Okay? Is that manipulation, okay? Is he making it? Is he making it? Known that this is the situation, because if he's not making it known, then I feel like that's predatory as hell.

Speaker 2 41:20

Let me say it this way Predators know who will pray. That's true too Right, and he said himself that he knows that. A woman with a deficiency, poverty, and here he's big money walking into the ghetto.

Speaker 1 41:36

But what I thought was interesting too is him saying that when he, when he responded to the question of is there any situation in which, like a woman can lead, or whatever, and he's basically saying he doesn't see in a relationship how a woman can lead, when, essentially, men are the natural leaders. But if you are a natural leader, I don't understand how this thought process aligns with with with leadership I don't, I don't, I don't see anything.

Speaker 2 42:04

He said. I mean leadership. I see I. What I see is a man taking the easier role because he doesn't want to put the work in or because he can or he's taking the easy role because he doesn't want to put the work in, or because he can't, or he's taking the easy role because he doesn't want to put the he doesn't want to put the work in, or because he can, or because it's just a way for him to satisfy his ego ego and and fetishes or needs that he needs, without actually having to build something up from the ground.

Speaker 2 42:29

Because I'm pretty sure, I'm pretty sure and again, there may have been a time in his life where he attempted a traditional, more like traditional, type role.

Speaker 1 42:36

And that's how he ended up here.

Speaker 2 42:37

And that's how he ended up here, because a lot of times I do feel like a lot of times men don't go off the roads until they've been hurt.

Speaker 1 42:44

Yeah, and it's like you tried it and it.

Speaker 2 42:46

It didn't work Because, lord knows, if you hurt me, the next 20 ain't getting nothing but penis.

Speaker 1 42:53

Oh my gosh, I didn't even need to hear that. You could have just kept it. Don't hurt me, Don't hurt me. You could have just kept it in your head. I mean, it wouldn't matter to me if we're not together anymore. Oh wow, what you do with your body if we're together has no bearing on my life.

Speaker 2 43:13

And she's a 304 for sure.

Speaker 1 43:16

I mean, why would I care about who you sleep with if we ain't together?

Speaker 2 43:19

anymore 304 for sure.

Speaker 1 43:23

If we ain't together, no more like. Do you boo-boo?

Speaker 2 43:26

If we're not together, it's because you left me. Whatever the case is, or it's because I left you, because I caught you doing something you weren't supposed to.

Speaker 1 43:32

Oh, you caught me using tongue when we kissed.

Speaker 2 43:35

Okay, we're going back to this, huh.

Speaker 1 43:37

We're going to always go back to that.

Speaker 2 43:40

I'm done. This is another episode. We're going to always go back to that this is another episode of Life After I Do.

Speaker 1 43:54

I'm your host, host, bye, no, but yeah, I want, I wanted to really hear your perspective about it. I I just don't like it because and here's the thing.

Speaker 2 43:57

Let me just say this you don't like it because you're no. Hold on, because your side of the story don't have the power.

Speaker 1 44:00

No, hold on, I'm gonna say this. Actually, my side of the story kind of does. But, um, if you take, if you take just what he's saying, like just what it is right, or just the words, just everything he's describing it's, it's a transaction yes, as long as life is transact right.

Speaker 1 44:20

As long as both parties agree that it's a transaction and both parties can agree that what they're getting out of the transaction is um beneficial to each of the party, then then, in a nutshell, I would say that there's probably not much wrong with what he said. My biggest problems with what he said is about-.

Speaker 2 44:41

He's speaking a particular title.

Speaker 1 44:43

Yes, and that for me makes it feel a little predatory. And then the fact that he said that a woman who essentially makes her own money he can't do nothing with but sleep but sleep with. So for me that makes me feel like either you're avoiding a deeper or intimate relationship with somebody or like, how you said before, you just don't have the capacity, outside of what you can bring to the table financially, to invest in and sustain a relationship that's long-term To me it sounds like a man who doesn't want to be challenged.

Speaker 1 45:17

He doesn't want to deal with the headaches. Because when a woman is damn near neck and neck with you financially level-wise, I feel like that would be the best because you guys could get into things.

Speaker 2 45:29

But now that challenges you to be more than a dollar.

Speaker 1 45:32

Right, exactly, and that's why I'm saying I feel like that could potentially be the best intimate relationship, not in a physical sense, but the best intimate relationship that you can be, because the one thing that couples also talk about a lot is the finances, is about the resources. If we know that all of our needs that utilize money is taken care of, all we have now is time to focus on each other and really getting to know each other at the basics of who we are, and I feel like that would be sexy as hell but that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 46:05

That requires doing the work but that requires work. That's what I'm saying yes, he don't want to do the work because that's being challenged right.

Speaker 1 46:11

so so that's so, is it? It's basically like he just don't want to, he don't want to deal with it. And that's okay. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it.

Exposing Affair at Family Barbecue

Speaker 1 46:19

Why challenge myself when I have this ready to go, when it's easy, yeah, and as long as I got some green in my the gym. The other day, I kid you not. We were walking out of the, we were walking into the gym and two older gentlemen were walking out of the gym and he would. They were having a conversation and one older man who probably looked like he was in his late fifties, probably early sixties, literally said to the other gentleman as we're walking in, in passing, he was like he was like you, all you need to do is get some money in your pocket. You can get any broad. And then, as I'm passing by him, he was like and I mean any broad? And I was like oh, oh. And marisa was like are you okay?

Speaker 1 47:00

and I was like well, he's not, he may not be wrong the dollar amount may vary right, he's not wrong, but it kind of it just depends on that, like what level money you got depends on the level of broad you get.

Speaker 2 47:18

So yeah, there it is there, it is, y'all there it is there, you have it there.

Speaker 1 47:23

Shut up, babe. There, you have it all right. Good discussion, babe. I like that All right. So let's go ahead and move it on into our two cents. Our two cents, our two cents. Okay, you ready for this one babe?

Speaker 2 47:39

No, but go ahead.

Speaker 1 47:40

Okay, okay. Am I the asshole for exposing my husband's affair with his quote unquote girl best friend at a family barbecue after his father told me to just get over it?

Speaker 2 47:53

Oh, that's good. Daddy used to think around too, huh.

Speaker 1 47:56

Right. I've been married to my husband for five years. We have a good relationship overall, but there's always been one issue. His quote unquote girl best friend Megan, who's 30. She's been in his life since childhood and while I've always felt a bit uneasy about their closeness, I trusted my husband and I tried to be cool with it. Megan is always around, she's at our house constantly, they text all the time and she even comes on family vacations with this Hell. No, every time I brought up how their relationship made me uncomfortable, my husband would just brush it off, saying she's practically my sister and that I was overreacting. To make matters more complicated, my mother-in-law, who's 58, who's also amazing she's always had my back and has told me multiple times that if Megan made me uncomfortable, that I should talk to my husband about setting boundaries. On the other hand, my father-in-law has a very different attitude. He adores Megan and has always said that she's a part of their family and that I just need to deal with it. That's it. He thinks my discomfort with their friendship is just quote-unquote jealousy.

Speaker 1 49:05

Fast forward to two months ago. My husband started acting distant, coming home late, being secretive with his phone and just off I had a gut feeling something was wrong. So one night I went through his phone while he was in the shower. That's when I found out he and Megan had been having an affair for months, and I was crushed. I confronted him and he admitted everything. He swore it was a mistake, said he loved me and begged me not to leave him. I didn't know what to do, so I stayed for quite a bit trying to process everything. A couple of weeks later, my in-laws hosted a big family barbecue. I was still reeling from the affair, but my husband convinced me to come, saying that we needed to keep up appearances while we worked things out.

Speaker 1 49:50

I went, but I was a wreck inside, especially knowing that Megan would be there. Sure enough, Megan showed up like nothing ever happened, acting all friendly with everyone, including me. I was boiling inside, but I kept it together. During dinner, my father-in-law made some offhand comments about how Megan would quote unquote always be a part of this family and that I needed to quote unquote get over my insecurities. He said this in front of everyone, and that was my breaking point. I stood up, look straight at him and said you know what I would get over it if she wasn't sleeping with my husband.

Speaker 1 50:30

The entire table went silent, Megan's face turned white, and my husband tried to calm me down, but I wasn't having it. I told everyone exactly what had been going on the sneaking around, the lies and the betrayal. My mother-in-law was furious, but not at me. She laid into my husband and Megan, saying they destroyed our marriage and she disrespected me. My father in law, though, had the audacity to say I was quote unquote overreacting and that quote unquote affairs happen, but I shouldn't have, but I shouldn't have aired it out in front of the family. He even defended Megan, saying that she made a quote unquote mistake and that we should all just move on.

Speaker 1 51:18

I left the barbecue and have been staying at my mom's ever since. My husband keeps begging me to come home and my mother-in-law has been very supportive, but my father-in-law is still telling the whole family that I'm the one that's causing drama and blowing things out of proportion. Am I the asshole for exposing their affair in front of everybody at the barbecue, or should I have just kept it private? Or was I right to call them out on everything?

Speaker 2 51:41

No, you ain't wrong at all. You ain't wrong at all. First of all, you knew what the fuck was going on.

Speaker 1 51:51

Childhood friend or not. It doesn't matter if was going on childhood friend or not. It doesn't matter if she's a childhood friend. It doesn't matter if she was there before I was. It doesn't matter if she's like a sister. It doesn't matter if she's like a daughter to your father. It doesn't matter when you got married. There should have been a boundary set because unless she was your actual biological sister or adopted sister or anything like that, she's still not your sister. She's she's. She's still not your sister. She's no kin to you.

Speaker 2 52:15

What pissed me off right. Was not him cheating and then asking her?

Speaker 1 52:22

to still come to the family function to keep up appearances for him while we work.

Speaker 2 52:26

So he would have to answer questions. Why is she around?

Speaker 1 52:29

absolutely absolutely he did. And then not stank ass, heifer, megan, megan aka cousin faith showing her ass up back like ain't nothing and smiled at her, greeted her, tried to break conversation with her. Like you not sleeping with my husband behind my back? How big of a fool you think. You think I gotta feel like, knowing that the two of you is screwing behind my back, but we're sitting here at the family table.

Speaker 2 52:54

I don't understand how people don't understand that, like um, when you're with someone, I don't care if you've been together a year or two, whatever right, if you've been with someone more than a year, when your behavior switches up, it's going to be noticed yes yeah, and at that point yeah, if you start switching up anything like anything, it don't matter.

Speaker 1 53:16

Like if you switch up the way you shave and I'm questioning why? Why are you shaving like that?

Speaker 2 53:19

I don't switch, I'm trying to change three or four times why are you shaving like that? I need to know um, I think I got different razors. Uh, no, ma'am, you're not the asshole. No, you're not the asshole at all.

Speaker 1 53:30

They're the assholes and shout out to your mother-in-law for having your back and speaking up and telling megan that she was in the wrong and also going in on her son because what an embarrassment and I would say for me personally.

Speaker 2 53:43

Now I don't want to say get, I would, I'm not gonna say divorce them yeah but I would say it's clear that if megan's not embarrassed now and she's still coming around, this is something that you're going to constantly be reminded of.

Speaker 1 53:57

Yeah.

Speaker 2 53:57

So that's what you have to take that into account. I don't think mentally you're going to be able to get over what happened.

Speaker 1 54:03

No, especially because of how close they are. Because here's the thing. This is what I would say For me personally, if I chose Hold on. I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 54:13

And also to me it also sounded like the father-in-law wanted him to marry megan to start with, either that or he didn't sleep with megan, oh right that part right, what's that? Was it the brother um?

Speaker 1 54:22

here's the thing. This is what I would say if, if I were to stay after, knowing that he has slept with his quote-unquote best friend who's also like his sister, and if that's like your sister, that's disgusting.

Speaker 3 54:32

Why would you be sleeping with your sister?

Speaker 1 54:35

Um, but if I were to stay, the first thing that I would say is, in order for this to work and in order for you to basically get back in my good graces and in order for us to work on what we need to work on, you can have zero contact with Megan. Hmm, it can't even go down to y'all not talking to her. Literally the only thing that's going to work is if the relationship is cut off. Now it's completely removed, like I'm not doing it at all. I'm not doing it. If your family still wants to hold Megan around, we don't go to family functions when Megan is there. We don't go on family vacations if Megan has to be there. So if you're really ready to risk it all and not be around your parents, not go to family functions, not be a willing participant in family vacations to really put in the effort that you have that you're trying to tell me you want to put into our marriage to make it work, that's, that's, that's the first requirement.

Speaker 2 55:36

And if you're not willing to do that, then I'm out. Can I say something else? It's also some sucker shit to me for you to sit there. He should have. He should have defended her when his father said something right but no but the but.

Speaker 1 55:45

He was made to feel like like how his father said affairs happened okay but if the she was on another foot? Oh, and she had the affair. She'd be a whore. She'd be a whore, it would be. How could you dare go outside your marriage? How dare you put my son through that? What kind of wife are you? What kind of woman are you to step outside your marriage when you have a husband who does X, Y and Z? You know?

Speaker 2 56:12

what probably?

Speaker 1 56:13

happened. He watched his daddy have affairs growing up.

Speaker 2 56:16

That's all that happened. That probably happened, and then also Megan was probably in a poverty situation.

Speaker 1 56:23

Bye, maurice, shut up, Shut up. You're so silly. And she got Corey Holcomb. That's what we should call Coreyory holcomb. Shout out to cory holcomb, love you. Oh, shut up, babe. But yeah, I mean, for me, the only, the only way that this starts, the only way we start recovering from this, is if you cut all communication.

Speaker 1 56:49

No, they didn't have kids. She put that in the it's. It's in like the little edit part. She said that they, um, her soon-to-be ex-husband um they do not have children. Yeah, and then, um, there's also an edit and it says after seeing some of the comments about my father-in-law, people wanted to know maybe if the father-in-law has slept with uh, megan, or that the father-in-law probably had affairs on the mother-in-law, and that's why I said he definitely did he definitely did, and his son grew up watching him have affairs and it was just like how he said affairs happen, it's how a man manages to get through decades of marriage by releasing a little bit on the side to keep

Speaker 2 57:29

himself interested in his wife.

Speaker 1 57:31

No, I'm saying that's how the father-in-law is behaving.

Speaker 2 57:34

It's just funny to me that it's always the men with that kind of mind state that can't tolerate being cheated on.

Speaker 1 57:40

Oh, absolutely not. But that's a thing. It's like men can cheat but men cannot handle when women cheat on them.

Speaker 2 57:47

So when mama's not emotionally satisfied and she's not getting the connection she got if she go out there-.

Speaker 1 57:53

And even gets an emotional connection with somebody.

Speaker 2 57:55

If she just get a male personal trainer.

Speaker 1 57:57

Bye, maurice, and she smiles at him too much and she's too excited to go for her training session for the morning, and now she getting dressed up when she go train.

Speaker 2 58:06

What's going on?

Speaker 1 58:06

here Because that was the first thing you said. You're like no male personal trainers. No, hell, no. That was the first thing he told me when I got my trainer last year. The first thing he said was no male personal trainers. And I was like why not? I know, I was like why not? I was like babe, it's his job. He was like I don't care, no male personal trainers.

Speaker 2 58:25

I'm a man.

Speaker 1 58:32

I know how men, just like you, said no male massage therapist Nope, but their hands are bigger.

Speaker 2 58:35

And stronger.

Speaker 1 58:36

I know, I know and that's what I need for my neck. No, you don't, yeah, girl. So unless he's ready to cut all ties with Megan and possibly family interactions, it's going to be.

Speaker 2 58:51

You are not an asshole. Leave your life.

Speaker 1 58:52

Go find somebody that deserves you. It's going to be a no for me.

Speaker 2 58:54

If I was single I might shoot you a holler, but I'm not, I'm taken. So you seem like everybody loved you, but Megan, megan didn't give a fuck about you.

Speaker 1 59:05

No, megan loved her. She loved the life she had, so that's why she tried to come in and do what she had to. Because here's the thing now I would wonder before you were married, did you and Megan ever sleep together? Probably because if you and Megan never slept together until after you were married, that lets me know that Megan is also Megan's also sending subliminal shots. She's sending a signal that guess what? He will always be mine babe. Megan was probably his first. Probably that's probably why he's so damn attached to her. It's crazy. Well, guys, this has been another episode of Life After I Do the podcast, if you are not doing so already. You already know the usual Follow us on all of our social media platforms. We have Instagram, facebook, tiktok what's one that I'm missing? Youtube. Yes, don't forget to follow us on those platforms.

Speaker 2 59:59

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